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CONSCIOUSNESS QUOTIENT INVENTORYFace Validity Research

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My perspectiveTo be conscious = to have a high degree of witnesssing awareness and a high degree of freedom of choice in mind-emotions-bodyMore conscious = Higher degree of witnessing awarenessMore conscious = Higher degree of choice when thinking, feeling and initiating a behaviorMore conscious = less automatic in thinking-feeling-sensingMax level of CQ = Witnessing + Balanced Mind + Balanced Emotions + Balanced body

Face validity is the extent to which a test is subjectively viewed as covering the concept it purports to measure. It refers to the transparency or relevance of a test as they appear to test participants. In other words, a test can be said to have face validity if it "looks like" it is going to measure what it is supposed to measure

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1. COGNITIVE CQ Self-evaluation #5 When I examine my past, I know exactly what choices I would have made differently.

Eg. OK

2. COGNITIVE CQ Awareness of mind wandering

#10 I realize when this happens that my mind is somewhere else other than on what I am actually doing at that moment.

Not ok, I see that ....

3. COGNITIVE CQ Detection of #17 I realize when I have wrongly

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cognitive errors judged someone due to preconceived ideas.

4. COGNITIVE CQ Cognitive Meta-analysis

#21 I usually analyse the reasons for being in relationships with various people.

5. COGNITIVE CQ Acceptance of dependence on others

#22 I realize when I cannot solve by myself my personal issues.

6. COGNITIVE CQ #24 I have moments when I ask myself if my principles in life are wrong.

7. COGNITIVE CQ #37 When I make important decisions, I usually analyse my emotions or feelings that influence that decision.

8. COGNITIVE CQ #46 I realize quickly if I have taken on more then I can actually do.

9. COGNITIVE CQ #60 Every day I have moments when I reflect on what I do or feel at that very moment.

10. COGNITIVE CQ Lie scale, pair with #22

#57 I realize when I need to ask for help because I cannot handle things alone.

11. COGNITIVE CQ Noticing rumination

I notice when I think too much on the same topic

12. Internal Dialogue I have moments of internal dialogues, imagining discussions with various people

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13. COGNITIVE CQ Cognitive allowance - flexibility

I notice and allow myself to have contradictory thoughts on the same topic

14. COGNITIVE CQ Attention - catch the thought when creating negative emotions

I notice when I have a thought that is creating a negative emotion.

15. COGNITIVE CQ allow thinking to let go!!!

I am able to empty my mind of most of my thoughts and just be in the present moment, when I choose to do so

??

16. COGNITIVE CQ listen to deeper intuitive thoughts

Sometimes I find an answer to a question without being able to fully tell how I arrived to that answer.

17. COGNITIVE CQ Ease to learning from wisdom (people’s wisdom, teachings etc.), by inspiration

It is easy for me to learn and change my own ideas after reading or watching how other people think.

18. COGNITIVE CQ I like to play with words Creativity & language awareness - a habit of people who are conscious of the present moment?

19. COGNITIVE CQ intuitive versus reflective cognitive styles

When I analyse something, I pause to critically examine what my intuition is saying, and then I take the choice to be intuitive, less-intuitive or counterintuitive.

Reflective judgments correlate with a higher cognitive CQ? – belief in God is correlated with intuitive thinking.intuitive versus reflective cognitive styles. By

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intuitive judgments we mean judgments made with little effort based on automatic processes, and by reflective judgments we mean judgments in which the judge pauses to critically examine the dictates of her intuition(s), thus allowing for the possibility of a less-intuitive or counterintuitive conclusion

20. COGNITIVE CQ Dreams awareness

During dreaming I have experienced moments when I was aware that I was dreaming

21. COGNITIVE CQ Dreams awareness

I remember my dreams with most of the details

22. COGNITIVE CQ openness When discussing I listen to a new idea by being completely receptive, giving my full attention, exploring this idea by relating to it from my own way of interpreting, but also from the interpretation of others.

CarloAnd listening by emptying my mind, re-interpreting, filtering... is NOT objective listening, but it's good to have it in there.

23. COGNITIVE CQ Construct-aware persons

I am aware of the pseudo-reality created by words

24. COGNITIVE CQ Construct-aware Aware of the limits of language

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persons when describing a situation

25. COGNITIVE CQ Construct-aware persons

Whenever I speak I choose my words with great care and think a bit about which words will express better my thoughts.

26. COGNITIVE CQ MINDFULNESS

Describing with words

CAMS 8: It’s easy for me to keep track of my thoughts and feelings


nonjudging of inner experience

KIMS 8: I tend to evaluate whether my perceptions are right or wrong

E pe negativ, de reformulat??



*KIMS 16: I believe some of my thoughts are abnormal or bad and I shouldn’t think that way.

E pe negativ, de reformulat!! Sau de lasat asa?

29. COGNITIVE CQ COGNITIVE BIASES- jumping to conclusions - self

It happens to me that I jump to concusions, without analysing to much the available data

Se repeta, e sus relfective style sau intuitive style

pair with the next?

For self-others see Social Awareness Inventory 1996- Sheldon

30. COGNITIVE CQ COGNITIVE BIASES- jumping to conclusions - others

When talking to someone, I notice when my argumentation of the person I talk to is jumping to conclusions, without much analyse.

Jumping to conclusions RICKThis is a mechanism that takes whatever

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information is available and makes the best possible story out of the information currently available, and tells you very little about information it doesn’t have. So what you get are people jumping to conclusions. I call this a “machine for jumping to conclusions.”

31. COGNITIVE CQ COGNITIVE BIASESthe mechanism of substitution - self

When discussing a topic, I notice when I act with total confidence as if I were an expert, even if I don’t know too much about that topic.

the mechanism of substitution – I act as I know the answer with complete confidence, even if I don’t knowrick hanson - What’s interesting is that many a time people have intuitions that they’re equally confident about except they’re wrong. That happens through the mechanism I call “the mechanism of substitution.” You have been asked a question, and instead you answer another question, but that answer comes by itself with complete confidence, and you’re not aware that

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you’re doing something that you’re not an expert on because you have one answer. Subjectively, whether it’s right or wrong, it feels exactly the same. Whether it’s based on a lot of information, or a little information, this is something that you may step back and have a look at. But the subjective sense of confidence can be the same for intuition that arrives from expertise, and for intuitions that arise from heuristics. . . .

32. COGNITIVE CQ COGNITIVE BIASESthe mechanism of substitution - others

When discussing a topic, I notice when the person I talk to I act with total confidence as if they were an expert, even if they don’t know too much about that topic.

??

33. COGNITIVE CQ Multi-perspectives in analyzing

I use to consider alternatives and different perspectives when making a decision

34. COGNITIVE CQ ACTING WITH CHOICE

When I discuss, l listen carefully, and than wait and think for a few moments, before replying back

35. COGNITIVE CQ Awareness of ??? ----Usually when I listen to

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filters a new idea – I am voluntarily emptying my mind AND THEN re-interpret everything and filter it through my ownBut that is not the end of the road; a similar dynamic happens in regards to what I am talking about. You can continue to re-interpret everything I'm saying through the paradigm/filter of mind and identity, and in doing so it will always appear that you are right. But getting to what I'm talking about requires a willingness to put the mind aside, because that is how you create enough space in which to notice your more fundamental essence. You have to stop interpreting everything through the mind and its need for certainty, and investigate your own nature for yourself

36. COGNITIVE CQ Openess toward outcomes of mind – (no head feeling

When I talk I let my thoughts in the flow and I am feel like when I am in this flow I am choosing the right

It was so funny when I first experienced this no head feeling :-) <<Then,

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in nonduality) words without imposing my mind what direction to follow???

when we talk, it´s surprising, as we really do not know what we are going to say next>>

this is also looks like an automatic thinking...but is more like a trust in own mind...

37. COGNITIVE CQ COGNITIVE BIAS –Projection - self

When talking to people, I pay attention to what I recommend to people because I know it may be my own projections onto people

38. COGNITIVE CQ COGNITIVE BIAS –Projection - others

When talking to people, I pay attention to what they recommend to me because I know it may be their own projections onto me

39. COGNITIVE CQ When discussing with people I listen to them totally open and I question if how their view of reality is more accurate than my perspective

40. COGNITIVE CQ AUTONOMOUS EGO

Multiple perspectives / truths

When talking to people, I am aware/realize that any perspective, no matter how well informed, is partial, context-dependent and culturally conditioned

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Multiple perspectives / truths

I realize that each person has its limited perspective of a situation, and there is no truth, but multiple truths.


I notice when people I talk point to more subtle nuances of an event than I do

43. COGNITIVE CQ POST-AUTONOMOUS EGOConstruct-aware

Limits of words / language as object

When I talk to people I notice their system of thinking and I am able to observe how they think

182When talking to people, I am able to see and reflect back their own patterns/schemes of thinking183When discussing with people I am able to help them by intervening at in just the right moment and with appropriate words.184When talking to a person I am able to adjust my words and language to their framework so that I can communicate properly with them.

44. COGNITIVE CQ POST-AUTONOMOUS EGOConstruct-


When talking to people I am able to notice how their language limits their perspective on a specific event or situation fact.

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When talking to someone I am aware if I use or not verbal stereotypes



When I talk about a situation I realize that my language / the word I used are just interpretations of this reality and do not capture the reality of that event


People say about me that I notice subtle distinctions of a situation

??


Big picture – panoramic view

I often sense that I have a panoramic view on the topic discussed, that include many of the perspectives fo the people I talk to.

49. COGNITIVE CQ Self reflectiveness – big picture

When I reflect on what an event, I deliberately pay attention to include it in a big picture.

50. COGNITIVE CQ Automatic patterns I am able to notice the automatic patterns of my mind.

51. COGNITIVE CQ Automatic patterns I am able to notice the automatic Pus si la emotional si la

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patterns of my language. cognitive

52. COGNITIVE CQ When discussing a situation I notice the ambiguities in the language of the people I talk to

53. COGNITIVE CQ authenticity When speaking to someone I prefer mainly my own words, based on my personal experience, and not use many citation from others

54. COGNITIVE CQ Autonoetic consciousness

I am able to analyze my past thoughts with many details when I remember a situation from the past.

Episodic memory - Awareness of personal engagement in remembered events and experiences. Autonoetic consciousness is important in our formation of our “self” identity. What we have done in the past becomes a part of our “self” and the ability to reflect on this influences our behavior in the now.Autonoetic consciousness is the human ability to mentally place ourselves in the past, in the future, or in counterfactual situations, and to analyze our own thoughts.Our sense of self affects our behavior, in the present, past and future.

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It relates to how we reflect on our own past behavior, how we feel about it, and this in turn determines if we do it again

55. EMOTIONAL CQ

Familiarity with emotions, Emotional Sensitivity

#11 I am able to become intensely involved when I watch emotional scenes in movies.

#11 I feel intensely involved when I watch emotional scenes in movies.

Felicia- Isn’t this item referring to a personality type (emotive)?I am able to be conscious of the emotions transmitted by the movie, however the degree of the involvement in the scene is a matter of my own choice. I would rephrase it: I am able to become intensely involved...Yes- to be tested

56. EMOTIONAL CQ

Self-Emotional reflexivity (observer – inner focus)

#14 I realize immediately when I behave impulsively under some emotional influence.

Related to emotional hijacks

57. EMOTIONAL CQ

Emotional reflexivity (observer – outer focus)

#31 I find it easy to assess when somebody around me behaves differently to their usual self, due to their momentary emotional state.

58. EMOTIONAL CQ

Emotional discrimination

When I am in a bad mood, I can easily identify/track its source, wheter it is a physical discomfort, a

Felicia - The item seems a little too “harsh” to me: is whether I have a

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situation or a psychological issue?

#32 When I am in a bad mood, I can easily identify if my mood is generated by a physical discomfort or by lack of fulfilment with my life.

physical discomfort or I am not fulfilled in my life. It can happen that I am in a bad mood when facing a stressful situation; however I am generally satisfied with my own life.

59. EMOTIONAL CQ

#48 I usually analyse my emotions in order to solve my personal issues.

60. EMOTIONAL CQ

Lie scale, pair with #31

#15 I can see when someone is acting impulsively but they are not so in general, it's just an emotion of the moment.

61. EMOTIONAL CQ

accurately recognize one’s emotions. identify verbal, physical, and situational cues indicating how others feel.

When talking to someone, I am able to identify even the smallest behaviorals signs/clues indicating how they feel.

62. EMOTIONAL CQ

Automatic patterns I am able to notice the automatic patterns of my emotional life.

63. EMOTIONAL CQ

Affective empathy I am able to mirror the emotions of the people I talk to

One item to rule them all :-) Affective ampathy is the base trait for emotional CQ

64. EMOTIONAL CQ

SAME AS ABOVE I am able to accurately recognize the emotions of the person I am

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talking to.

65. EMOTIONAL CQ

I can empathize with people whose opinions or actions I disapprove of.

66. EMOTIONAL CQ

Detection of automatic emotional responses to stimuli. Educating choice.

I notice when some events trigger the same emotional responses in me.

67. EMOTIONAL CQ

I let myself to experience fully on what is taking place, without paying attention to what I expect

Not sure if emotional or mindfulness

68. EMOTIONAL CQ

MINDFULNESS

observing FMI 7: I remain present with sensations and feelings even when they are unpleasant or painful.

69. EMOTIONAL CQ

MINDFULNESS

observing *KIMS 37: I pay attention to how my emotions affect my thoughts and behavior.

70. EMOTIONAL CQ

MINDFULNESS


*KIMS 26: Even when I’m feeling terribly upset, I can find a way to put it into words

71. EMOTIONAL CQ

MINDFULNESS


*CAMS 5: I can usually describe how I feel at the moment in considerable detail.

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72. EMOTIONAL CQ

MINDFULNESS


I consider that all my emotions are appropriate

73. EMOTIONAL CQ

MINDFULNESS


*KIMS 12: I tell myself that I shouldn’t be feeling the way I’m feeling

E pe negativ, de reformulat!!

74. EMOTIONAL CQ

MINDFULNESS

nonreactivity to inner experience

*FMI 18 ref: I can perceive my feelings and emotions without having to react to them

75. EMOTIONAL CQ

MINDFULNESS


*FMI 25 ref : I can watch my feelings without getting lost in them.

76. EMOTIONAL CQ

ACCEPTANCE I can feel balanced when experiencing either postive emotions or negative emotions.

77. EMOTIONAL CQ

1. When talking to people I maintain eye contact while I am talking about unpleasant emotion.

-- did they look away when telling me something that was difficult or emotional to them?

78. EMOTIONAL CQ

2. When talking to people I maintain eye contact when I am experiencing an unpleasant emotion.

79. EMOTIONAL CQ

INTERCONNECTEDNESS

I have moments when I feel I love everything and I am at one with everything.

80. EMOTIONAL It happens to me that I feel many

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CQ different emotions in the same moment or around the same event.

81. EMOTIONAL CQ

ACCEPTANCE I allow myself to consciously live negative emotions.

82. EMOTIONAL CQ

I am able to observe my emotions when they come, when I experience them, and when the emotions are gone.

83. INNER GROWTH CQ

Mindful living ACCEPTANCE

I notice when I become resistant to things that annoy me and do not accept them as they are.

84. INNER GROWTH CQ

#3 I lived through important moments in life after which I changed my values and priorities.

(moved from Self CQ)

85. INNER GROWTH CQ

#45 When I examine the past, I realize exactly when and how I have changed.


86. INNER GROWTH CQ

Peak experiences- reinventing yourself (by pain or not)

#41 During my life I have lived through significant events that changed my concepts about the world and life in general.


87. INNER GROWTH CQ

I am investing time and effort for developing personal strengths or talents

88. INNER GROWTH CQ

I notice when repetitive events happen in my life in order to learn from it

??

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89. INNER GROWTH CQ

Flexibility in learning

I learn very quickly from a situation, it don’t have to happen twice or more times to learn from it

Dezirabil...

90. INNER GROWTH CQ

COGNITIVE BIAS – Conformation bias

When I search for information on a topic I like to explore also data that do not support my perspective on that topic.

Confirmation bias The tendency to

search for or interpret information in a way that confirms one's preconceptions. In addition, individuals may discredit information that does not support their views.[26] The confirmation bias is related to the concept of cognitive dissonance. Whereby, individuals may reduce inconsistency by searching for information which re-confirms their views (Jermias, 2001, p. 146).

91. INNER GROWTH CQ

Learning ?? Capacity to learn from mistakes. Learning thru pain (dramatic moments) or by being open

92. INNER GROWTH CQ

How you react when confronting criticism toward you.Listen, analyze

When someone criticises me I listen very carefully and I ask for more details.

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and evaluate, of just react – no-no style.

93. INNER GROWTH CQ

How many times have you changed your life perspective (ego)

During my life I have changed my life perspective

94. INNER GROWTH CQ

???? Being open and vulnerable

95. INNER GROWTH CQ

Internal resiliency - When encountering difficult situations in life, I use to convert misfortune into good fortune.

96. INNER GROWTH CQ

Detecting patterns of the mind / emotional patterns

I notice the cognitive and emotional patters that restrict me from changing into a better and balanced person.

97. INNER GROWTH CQ

Awareness of improving self-knowledge

At the end of each day I use to explore what I have learned from that day

98. INNER GROWTH CQ

Everyday I ask myself the question - What is the real objective world or Who am I?

99. INNER GROWTH CQ

During my life I have experienced paradigm shifts and updated my identity.

During my life I have experience paradigm shfts – reinventing myselfConsciously changed my identityIn my personal experience, everything

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http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Self-knowledge_(psychology)

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Self-knowledge_(psychology)




that I ever thought of as "me" has shown itself to be either a piece of conditioning or a self-sustaining identity. When you let go of some piece of identity or conditioning, yet you don't actually die, something inside says, "Huh. I really thought that was me but I guess I'm not that." Then it happens again, and again, and again. The more it happens, the more "ripe" the person becomes for a more monumental shift in which the whole house of cards falls apart -- where not only are the various pieces of identity seen as being "not-me" but the very basis for identity itself -- the "I" -- is seen as "not-me". When that happens, nothing comes in to replace that sense of false identity. All that is left is emptiness, and life goes on.

100. INNER GROWTH CQ

POST-AUTONOMOUS EGO

Ego as object / construct

When encountering a new important information, I am able to perceive how that information is

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Construct-aware

changing my identity


Re-framing I notice when my beliefs change and when I see a familiar situation with a new perspective.


It happens that I see familiar situations with different meanings.

Letting in new experiences – find new meanings in the same facts / situation.


I question my perspectives when I discover new or contradictory evidence.

Conservatism (Bayesian) The tendency to

insufficiently revise one's belief when presented with new evidenceSemmelweis reflex

The tendency to reject new evidence that contradicts a paradigm


When I discuss with people I realize If I have a bigger or a smaller picture/perspective than that of the person I am talking to.

Awareness of you own level of development – not just perspective, but levels – if possible?


I can easily change my view when I encounter a new perspective that is larger than mine, when I talk to friends or read a book see a movie ??

106. PHYSICAL CQ Body / Interoceptive

#19 I realize beforehand that I am going to get hungry.

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Awareness

107. PHYSICAL CQ Body / Interoceptive Awareness

#29 I notice the first signs of a cold straight away, even before the physical symptoms show up.


#34 I can easily assess which types of food my body needs.


#44 I know exactly the ingredients used in the food I eat.

FELICIA EPURAN I am a little reluctant about these items: isn’t this actually referring to acquired skills through experience and education and therefore this is not a general human trait. If a person is exposed to different types of ingredients and spices during his life, he will become educated and will be able to “detect” them. My reluctance is higher for the item referring to spices. As an example I cannot detect different spices as I do not know how many of them should taste; usually I avoid spices in the food I eat.YES- skilled people or senzorial people will score more, still, this is a good detection. We are

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just measuring the level they are at, not the reason why they are there.

110. PHYSICAL CQ #58 When I am in a group of people, I can easily ascertain the source of the smells I perceive.

The smell is related to muladhara chakraSmells spread easily around the source and “contaminate” other objects in the environment. Felicia - I am not sure if humans in general can ascertain sources of smells.

111. PHYSICAL CQ I easily notice if there are any changes in the smells around me.

112. PHYSICAL CQ Lie scale, pair with #44

#4 When I eat I can detect which spices are used in the food.

Felicia - See above (comment to item 44)

113. PHYSICAL CQ Psychosomatic connections

I notice when my body tells me when my mind is in conflict with reality (eg. it feels contracted, tensioned, burning, heavy)

??

114. PHYSICAL CQ EMOTIONAL AWARENESS IN THE BODY

When something is wrong in my life I can feel it in my body

From MAIA, 2012

115. PHYSICAL CQ NOTICE When I am tense I notice where the tension is located in my body

From MAIA, 2012

116. COGNITIVE CQ Automatic patterns I am able to notice the automatic

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patterns and gestures of my body.

117. PHYSICAL CQ I can easily detect most of the sounds around me, even if I am focused on a specific task

118. PHYSICAL CQ I can easily detect the source of the sounds around me;

for the second subscale I would add some items referring to seeing and hearing as well. I.e.

119. PHYSICAL CQ NOTICE I notice easily changes in my breathing, such as whether it slows down or speeds up

suitable items from The Multidimensional Assessment of Interoceptive Awareness (MAIA), 2012

120. PHYSICAL CQ ATTENTION REGULATION

When I am in conversation with someone, I can pay attention to my posture

From MAIA, 2012

121. PHYSICAL CQ ATTENTION REGULATION

When I am tense I notice where the tension is located in my body

From MAIA, 2012

122. PHYSICAL CQ I notice how my body changes when I I feel happy or joyful

ORI notice how my body changes when I I feel sad.

I notice how my body changes when I I feel rejected.

From MAIA, 2012

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123. PHYSICAL CQ I can detect the smallest change in the intensity or nuance of a colour.

124. PHYSICAL CQ I am able to really enjoy the taste of food and drinks and not eating automatically

125. PHYSICAL CQ When watching a wonderful landscape I feel very connected, as if I am becoming part of it

Also I suggest items referring to being able to become intensely involved in different sensorial experiences--this is flow –narrowing of the perspective—Absorption??

126. PHYSICAL CQ MINDFULNESS

observing FMI 6: I notice how my emotions express themselves through my body.

127. PHYSICAL CQ MINDFULNESS

observing *KIMS 17: I notice how foods and drinks affect my thoughts, bodily sensations, and emotions

128. PHYSICAL CQ AUTONOMOUS EGO

Aware of energy I realize when some people are somehow, draining or influencing my energy in my body (I feel low or feel enthusiastic when meeting some people).

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129. PHYSICAL CQ I notice when my voice becomes louder or my body language is like aggresive

130. PHYSICAL CQ When I am having a strong emotion, I notice where in my body this emotion is located / what parts of my body feels hot/contracted/cool??

131. SELF CQ #12 I realize that my emotional changes are influenced by my thinking.

132. SELF CQ When I meet my friends, I prefer to discuss about how we think and how we experience life, instead of just describing the events that happened in our lives.

#23 When I meet my friends, I prefer to analyse the significance of an event, not the specific details of the event.

Not describe events, but their impact in me

133. SELF CQ #33 I know what I would be really good at, even though I do not do that right now.

??

134. SELF CQ #35 I have moments when I analyse myself through the eyes of others.

135. SELF CQ Self reflectiveness I like to have moments of self-analysis, by myself or in discussions with my friends.

Similar comment to items 25 and 50:I actually associate this with pathology

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#36 I like to spend most of my time doing self-analysis, by myself or in discussions with my friends.

(narcissism, OCD). If we have a healthy, stable individual, who is not currently in therapy or self analysis with a psychotherapist, I do not see why he/she would spent most of the time thinking about him/herself (and not work, friends, family, free time, plans for the future). Self-analysis is important, if it is done frequently it is ok, however “most of my time” I think it is too much.

136. SELF CQ #54 In my personal relationships I realize which of my emotional patterns influence my behaviour.

If we have an uneducated target, the meaning of “emotional patterns” might be difficult to understand. Although this might not be relevant as CQ inventory is rather for a niche target.

137. SELF CQ #56 I have moments when I imagine how I would like to act in certain situations.

138. SELF CQ Lie scale, pair with #50

#26 I prepare before saying something and I assess how to say it, even if it relates to discussions on everyday topics.

Same comment as item 50 regarding spontaneity.

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139. SELF CQ I enjoy making jokes about the way I am

Make jokes about my ego

140. SELF CQ I easily adapt (/calibrate?) my emotional reactions and behaviour to different situations

Self-management: The ability to regulate one’s emotions, thoughts, and behaviors effectively in different situations

141. SELF CQ I can easily like something without wanting it

Can you like without wanting?Vezi la rick habnson diverse chestii de mindful living!! Aspiration is about liking, while attachment is about wanting - and these involve separate systems in your brain. Liking what is pleasant and disliking what is unpleasant are normal and not a problem. Trouble comes when we tip into the craving and strain inherent in wanting, wanting, wanting what's pleasant to continue and what's unpleasant to end. So learn to recognize the differences between liking and wanting in your body, emotions, attitudes, and thoughts. I think you'll find that liking feels open, relaxed, and flexible while wanting feels tight,

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pressed, contracted, and fixated.

142. SELF CQ Mindful living ACCEPTANCE

I am ok when experiencing a discomfort

143. SELF CQ Mindful living ACCEPTANCE

When I have a bad day I have compassion for myself and accept this without judging me hardly

144. SELF CQ Flow mind-emotions connection

When I wish, I can recreate an emotion from my memory and I am able to turn this memory into an actual feeling

- <<first I needed to remind myself of the feeling (as a memory) and then it turned into the feeling.>>

145. SELF CQ Sense of realness When talking to people I prefer to offer myself as I am in that particular moment, and not telling about my story/ego

Mask?

146. SELF CQ Goal in life- autonomous

I sense that my main goal in life is to just being

147. SELF CQ Goal in life- ego aware

I sense that my main goal in life is to just be aware

148. SELF CQ Goal in life- unitive I sense that my main goal in life is to be the most I can be

149. SELF CQ AUTONOMOU Notice of I notice the various From a certain point there

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S EGO Subpersonalities subpersonalities that are in me and I can

is only one personality, and no roles...

150. SELF CQ AUTONOMOUS EGO

Notice of Subpersonalities

I can detect which subpersonality acts in relations to diferent people.

151. SELF CQ AUTONOMOUS EGO

Need to be authentic

I am aware of both my negative and positive aspects of my personality

152. SELF CQ POST-AUTONOMOUS EGOConstruct-aware

Ego as object / construct

I realize that my identity is just a system of patterns that was developed through my life.

my personality / my ego / my identity ???construct/ system of patterns ???

153. SELF CQ I realize that my personality has some parts that are more balanced than other parts.

154. SOCIAL-RELATIONAL CQ

Emotional Intuition (awareness), non-verbal observation and connecting non-verbally

#13 When I meet a person, after some minutes I know whether or not I am going to like them, even before talking directly to them.

#13 When I meet a person, I know in advance whether or not I am going to like them, even before talking directly to them.

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POST-AUTONOMOUS EGOConstruct-aware

Witnessing / non-attachment

When talking to people I feel like I am able to connect with them profoundly on a non-rational level.


#1 When I am asked I find it easy to describe my friends and my relationships with them.


#2 I know when I have to put on an act to create a different image other than my usual self in front of some people.


Reality check in social interactions

#20 I know the moments when my life partner is momentarily focused on priorities other than our relationship, even if they are not telling me.


#38 I notice immediately when a friend has changed their attitude towards me, even if their behaviour is the same.


Detecting social deception

#49 I realize when somebody is trying to be someone other than the person they truly are.


#51 I realize when I have to refuse the help of my family so I can succeed on my own.

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Detecting social deception

#52 I notice when the people I am talking with try to conceal what they truly think.

not buying the story of others -


Detecting the hidden agenda

#53 I identify what people want from me, even if they do not say it directly.


I know when I do not get back as much as I give in a relationship.

#55 I know when to give up on some of my friends, because I do not get back as much as I give.


Lie scale, pair with #53

#18 When talking to someone I look very closely at his behaviour and ascertain whether or not what they are saying is really what they are thinking


Presence When people talk to me, I listen to them with my full attention and not thinking about what I am to say next, while they talk.


It is easy for me to detect if the behavior of the person I am talking to is not their regular behavior, and they act like this due to the momentary situation or external factors.

In social psychology, the fundamental attribution error, also known as the correspondence bias or attribution effect, is people's tendency to place an undue emphasis

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on internal characteristics to explain someone else's behavior in a given situation, rather than considering external factors


When I listen to people, I use to complete their sentences, to show them that I understand what they say.

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When I talk to people, I use to complete or continue their stories, without acknowledging what they just said


I try to shape my own opinion of people regardless of their culture or religion.

The ability to take the perspective of and empathize with others from diverse backgrounds and cultures. Role-taking. Ability to willingly switch from one identity to the other, inside the self-personality


Cognitive empathy – Perspective taking

It is easy for me to take the perspective of another person and recognize their perspective as their truth

Step into somebody else’s world


openess When talking to someone I am totally open to understanding their world view without labeling

Their world = their beliefs, their fears, their experiences, how they

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look at the world, how they look at themselves


I notice when the group of people I am in is highly empathic or has low empathy.


I notice when the people I talk to is highly empathic or has low empathy


Outrospection I get to know myself by developing relationships and empathetic thinking with others

Roman KrznaricOutrospection is a way to get to know oneself by developing relationships and empathetic thinking with others. Krznaric does not see empathy as a soft social concept used to connect with those who are dis-empowered, but rather as a discovery of oneself by “stepping outside ourselves and exploring the lives of other people and cultures”. In this way empathetic thinking is a pathway to expand your social influence, overcome stereotypes and barriers about those who are different and engage individuals in collective empathetic movements

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that can make change.


Outrospection I find great value in stepping outside of myself by discovering other people’s life, not just being self reflective


COGNITIVE BIAS Labeling - self

When meeting a person, I notice if my mind tend to label them with one characteristic, ignoring their complex personality.

177. COGNITIVE BIAS Labeling - others

When meeting a person, I notice if they tend to label me with one characteristic, ignoring my complex personality.


When interactiong with people, I notice when we don’t find a way to really connect and we just exchange some superficial ideas.

Ability to consider and coordinate the interests of self and others from a detached perspective


Feelings vs. value judgments. In a conflict situation.

When interacting with people I notice when my analysis of the situation is based on my momentary feelings and not considering the big picture.

Does it in any way occur that I let my negative feelings about a particular person lead to moral value judgments in the present conflict? If you make negative judgments about your counterpart: What is the basis of these judgments: spontaneous feelings, concrete experiences made,

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judgments made by others?


In-out group stereotypes

I use to see people that not belong to my groups (friends, social groups, cultural groups etc.) as individuals, and not put the group labels onto them.

Persons as individuals and as group members. Can I perceive persons who are members of the "other side" as unique individuals with different traits and orientations, or do I tend to see them as pretty much similar because of the group membership or their being attributed to some specific category (men/women, foreigners, wealthy/poor, etc.)?


Connection in present moment

When discussing with people, I can detect immediately when someone else is mindfully in the present moment or they are in their mind, without being really present to what we are talking


AUTONOMOUS EGO


When meeting with people, I pay attention to create deeper and authentic relationships


AUTONOMOUS EGO


When meeting with people I am consciously trying to be open and reduce my projections onto them and see them as they are, not filtered through my own

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perspective.




When I talk to people I deliberately think before speaking, and I choose my words with very much attention to what words I use so / I choose my words carefully –so that I would be understood be the person I am talking to.



Capacity - Mirroring

When talking to people, I am able to see and reflect back their own patterns/schemes of thinking

Effecting transformation change in others



Serving as catalyst –

When discussing with people I am able to help them by intervening at in just the right moment and with appropriate words.



Serving as catalyst –

When talking to a person I am able to adjust my words and language to their framework so that I can communicate properly with them.



Vehicle flowing through me

When talking to people I feel like I am an instrument and that there is a knowledge that is transmitted through me / flows through me -

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to the people I am talking to.



Serving others - I find appropriate situations to do little acts of kindness to strangers.

190. SPIRITUAL CQ gratitude #6 I have moments when I am grateful for what I am and what I have.

GratitudeGratitude has been defined as “the willingness to recognize the unearned increments of value in one’s experience” (Bertocci & Millard, 1963, p. 389), and “an estimate of gain coupled with the judgment that someone else is responsible for that gain” (Solomon,xx)

191. SPIRITUAL CQ Spiritual Daily practice

#7 I find time every day to do exercises that help me improve myself or change for the better (reading, prayer, meditation, diary, etc.).

192. SPIRITUAL CQ connectedness #8 I have moments when I feel that all human beings belong to a big family, even though we do not know each other.

Version - fell the unity of all life?I think that this item might have a cultural bias. I think that oriental cultures

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are more oriented towards concepts such as “unity of all life”, whereas western cultures tend to be more “individualist”. Is individualism a sign of “unconsciousness”.

193. SPIRITUAL CQ #16 I realize when I meet important people and when I am in important situations that can help me to improve or change myself for the better.

194. SPIRITUAL CQ #27 I try to understand other people’s ideas about spirituality.

195. SPIRITUAL CQ #40 I use to think about how I can contribute to the progress of humankind

#40 I regularlyE FRECVENTA think about how I can contribute to the progress of humankind

This may also be included

196. SPIRITUAL CQ #43 I make efforts to change the habits which I know are bad for me.

197. SPIRITUAL CQ Delayed gratification

It happens to do things in the present that I do not like because I know it will be better for me in the future.

#47 I do things in the present that I do not like because I know it will be better for me in the future.

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198. SPIRITUAL CQ #61 It is easy for me to talk with my close friends about the meaning of life and my role on the Earth.

199. SPIRITUAL CQ Lie scale, pair with #27

#59 When I meet someone with a view about spirituality that is different than mine, I'm curious and I ask questions to learn more.

200. SPIRITUAL CQ WITNESSING Witnessing awareness,mindfulness

I sometimes feel sad and I am the viewer of my sadness

Witnessing awareness. The emergence ofthe witness self means a shift of the self-sense and the construction of and identificationwith a new platform for awareness, outside of the busy ego processes.

201. SPIRITUAL CQ Witnessing awareness,mindfulness

I sometimes feel needy and I am the viewer of my needs

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I sometimes feel peaceful and the viewer of my peace

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I sometimes angry and I am the viewer of my anger

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204. SPIRITUAL CQ Identification of cognitive stories - past, future, about me, about others.

I can see how my mind is creating stories around my needs

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205. SPIRITUAL CQ Post-autonomous ego

When discussing with people, I realize that everyone is logically true inside their story.

206. SPIRITUAL CQ Total allowance – accepting each new experience as the right experience for you. Everything is correct.

I accept each new experience as the right experience for me, even if they don’t depend on me directly

Causality and global causality

accepts what's given vs. ignores, rejects what's given (the effects of your actions and effects that do not depend on you directly)

207. SPIRITUAL CQ When a meet a person I understand that they are as important to humanity as I am.

Attitude of highly respecting the other person / the person I am interacting with (they are as important to the Universe as I am)?

208. SPIRITUAL CQ Every day I am very eager and curious to learn more about me and my life

Eager to learn more about yourself – life! Eager to learn new perspectives!

209. SPIRITUAL CQ Everyday I pay attention to the present moment???

In every moment I pay attention to the present moment and to what is really here now in me and around me.

210. SPIRITUAL CQ MINDFULNESS


*MQ 1: Usually when I have distressing thoughts or images, I am able just to notice them without reacting immediately

211. SPIRITUAL CQ MINDFULNES nonreactivity to *FMI 26 modificat: In difficult

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S inner experience situations, I can pause to reflect without immediately reacting.

212. SPIRITUAL CQ Balanced allowance

I am comfortable with neutral experience and I am not focused on looking for pleasant experiences.

213. SPIRITUAL CQ When I analyze my perspective of life, I see that my story is a part of a larger story, that involves all the humanity

214. SPIRITUAL CQ I feel the world around me as friendly and full of meaning

Light or heavy touchHow serious were they? Did they feel the universe was a friendly or unfriendly place? Full of meaning or without meaning?

215. SPIRITUAL CQ AUTONOMOUS EGO

Misuse of Power (principled anger)

I feel principled anger and righteous indignation when I see injustices of the world / around me


Now awareness / present centered awarenessCapacity to be present –

I have moments when I feel that I am something deeper than my mental activity


Now awareness / present centered awarenessCapacity to be present –

I have moments when I am out of my head I am able to appreciate just being where I am, in the present moment

Out of the head

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218. SPIRITUAL CQ POST-AUTONOMOUS EGOConstruct-aware

Witnessing / non-attachment

I am able to witness / observe my own thoughts an emotions as they come and go, and I like watching the show and having a good time

219. SPIRITUAL CQ POST-AUTONOMOUS EGOUnitive

Life as mystery I feel a sense of wonder for small things that happen in my life


Life as mystery Every day I see my life as a wonderful and mysterious


Life as mystery When I wake up in the morning I feel like life is a full mystery


Life as precious I feel like almost every moment in my life is wonderful


Shifting near and far

When I do usual stuff, such as cooking, this is very spiritual to me, full of wonderful meanings.

All the small things are very luminous to me ? DE TESTAT

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Shifting near and far

I can easily include God and other religious figures when I am joking, in a kind way.

Dane- shifting near and far effortlesslybetween the near and far, mundane and sublime, temporal and eternal, serious and transcendent self as well as fluid transitions between different states of consciousness” (1999, p. 117)


Compassion for self

I have compassion for myself, even when I have some bad days I treat me with kindness and love.

Dane- Perhaps the key breakthrough in my entire life was a vision of compassion for myself. The moment my mind let me literally see a picture of myself at one of the points of my worst abuse. From that point on I was given the gift of seeing from the outside what I really looked like in that place. Just like someone was reenacting it in a movie. The moment I saw that and really had empathy and true compassion for that little boy and what he had been through. That was the beginning of a major part of my healing. And I don’t know

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how that happened to occur but it was an incredible window . . . Because when I began having compassion for myself than I couldbegin having interest and true compassion for another person.


Compassion for self

I am gentle with myself and I don’t judge my self too hard when I am having a bad day

227. SPIRITUAL CQ POST-AUTONOMOUS EGO

I have moments of coincidences (synchronicities) in my life, when it seems that the people or situations are giving me exactly what I am looking for.

For the following sections please add your comments in the right side of the questions, thanks

SECTION 2These answers all indicate a person who is awake and aware to what is.

Without referring to the past or imagining a future possibility, please answer how you are feeling now – as you read the questions – answering yes or no. There´s no right or wrong.

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1) Do You feel relaxed, at ease, fulfilled, peaceful, and satisified ? YES / NO2) Or, do You feel tense, uncomfortable, anxious, or unhappy? YES / NO--1 YES, 2 NO

3) Are you fantasizing about what you want or dream about having? --NO

4) Is there a sense of worry or fear about what may, or may not, occur? --NO

5) Do You feel easy going, confident, grateful, satisfied and/or fulfilled? 6) Or, are there things you hope to get that will make you happier?--5 YES, 6 NO

7) Is your mind relatively silent and supportive of just being how you are ?8) Or, is your mind, complaining and/or criticizing yourself and others? --7 YES, 8 NO

9) Are you happy being who you experience yourself to be most of the time? 10) Or, would you rather be some other way or be someone else ? --9 YES, 10 NO

11) Are you intensely concentrated on answering these questions ? 12) Or, are you receptively listening for the answers to come to you?--11 NO, 12 YES

13) Do you enjoy not-thinking - by dwelling on all that you feel as a whole?14) Or, are there many thoughts, one thought after the next, sequentially?--13 YES, 14 NO

15) Do you think you would be happier if you could silence your mind? 16) Or, would it be scary for your mind to be still and silent most of the time?

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--15 NO, 16 NO

17) Do You feel ambitious and/or driven to achieve what you think you want ? 18) Or, do you feel fulfilled just existing as you are, confident that all is well?--17 NO, 18 YES

19) Are you aware this moment of the quality and presence of your awareness ?-- YES

SECTION 3

I use the expression “The Truth Is”-- NO

I use the expression “You are wrong”-- NO

I know the mind is not an instrument of knowledge but an organizer of knowledge-- YES

When I am sick I am relating with my body and I am deliberately activating the inner healing process --YES

I lived moments when I felt like I had no ego and I was one with the entire world (peak experience, transpersonal expriences)Y/N

It happens that when someone is looking at me, from distance, I automatically look in his direction--Yes

I have a strong commitment to act according to universal ethical principles.

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-- Yes

I realize that people are at different levels of development (psychological, emotional, spiritual etc.)--YES

I am aware of my own level of personal develompent and I can position myself in relation with other people--yes

Spirituality is for me helping people and taking care of them--yesSpirituality. In short, the spirituality of persons is developed and revealed primarily in the spirituality of their relations with other persons. If you regard spirituality primarily as the fruit of individual meditative attainment, then you can have the gross anomaly of a "spiritual" person who is an interpersonal oppressor, and the possibility of "spiritual" traditions that are oppression-prone (Heron, 1998; Kramer and Alstad, 1993; Trimondi and Trimondi, 2003) .

I do not have a fear of death--yes

I could live happily even without having anything I owe right now?? - yesI' would also add in your list of Spiritual CQ your attitude and fears towards death and survival (unless it was there and I missed it?). The latter is the key to understanding consciousness and cosmic consciousness

I remember my dreams o Every morning / A few times a week / A few times a month / A few times a year / Never

I have experienced moments of telepathy-- yes

During regular activities, I have experienced moments when I felt that my bioenergy is connected to the bioenergy of another person.-- yes

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I have selected my own values based on my own analysis, not just taking the values of the groups I am in - family, friends, education etc--yes

Just-world hypothesis - COGNITIVE BIAS- The tendency for people to want to believe that the world is fundamentally just, causing them to rationalize an otherwise inexplicable injustice as deserved by the victim(s).I think the world is just for everyone--no

I have designed my own cosmology – perspective of life on earth and my position here on earth??----------------------------

DELETED#9 I realize how much I complicate my own life.

New item? More choice = Act on self-endorsed values and tend to consider events as sources of information rather than as sources of pressure (Choice vs reaction)

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THANK YOU!My perspective

To be conscious = to have a high degree of witnesssing awareness and a high degree of freedom of choice in mind-emotions-bodyMore conscious = Higher degree of witnessing awarenessMore conscious = Higher degree of choice when thinking, feeling and initiating a behaviorMore conscious = less automatic in thinking-feeling-sensingMax level of CQ = Witnessing + Balanced Mind + Balanced Emotions + Balanced body

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1. PHYSICAL CQ (body & basic physical perceptions & sensations)?? are we considering the physical universe? Let us consider the physical world and universe at once, intertwined. ?? subscales: one referring to body/ interoceptive awareness and the other to perception and contact with the outside

2. EMOTIONAL CQ (emotions, feelings)13

3. COGNITIVE CQ (related to thinking, reflection, judgement, patterns or understandings, way of making meaning)Cognitive biases have two sides – self and others: Jumping to conclusions, substitution, labeling, projection

4. SOCIAL-RELATIONAL CQ (parental, close relations, work relation, any interaction with others)

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5. SELF CQ (identity, image of life, ego, self-awareness, post-autonomous) The purpose of the self-system is to integrate a number of different psychological components to create a coherent whole

6. SELF DEVELOPMENT / INNER GROWTH CQ

7. SPIRITUAL CQ (connecting with humans and nature, meta-awareness, not manipulating the experiences – accepting them) The mystical experience does not end with unity; it begins there, and then must be integrated into the equal reality of individuated daily lifeSpirituality - In short, the spirituality of persons is developed and revealed primarily in the spirituality of their relations with other persons. If you regard spirituality primarily as the fruit of individual meditative attainment, then you can have the gross anomaly of a "spiritual" person who is an interpersonal oppressor, and the possibility of "spiritual" traditions that are oppression-prone (Heron, 1998; Kramer and Alstad, 1993; Trimondi and Trimondi, 2003) .

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