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Developing Healthy Relationships

Objective: I will examine qualities of a healthy relationship.I will identify 5 personal values and dating expectations.

BELLWORK

1. Watch the video clip: Developing the Best Relationship

2. Read: Dear Boy/Girl

3. Bellwork: Write your own Dear Boy/Girl

What qualities are you looking for in a boyfriend/girlfriend?

ON THE BOARD: What are you looking for?

Girls: List the top 5 qualities that you want in a guy

Guys: List the top 5 qualities that you want in a girl

CLASS DISCUSSIONWhat are some teenage dating mistakes?

Dating mistakes...thoughts?

1. Do you attach or mold yourself to the other person?

2. Can you “stand on your own two feet” without the other person?

3. Do you jeopardize important relationships with friends and family members to be with your boyfriend/girlfriend?

4. Do you have low expectations for your relationship? Do you “hope” that things will get better?

5. Do you only date “bad boys?”

6. Later on... Do you set time or age limits?

Qualities of a Healthy relationship

RespectAllowing for individualityBring out the best qualities in each otherAccepting each other for who you areHaving individual high self-esteemExpressing feeling spontaneouslyFeeling secure and comfortableEnjoying the time you send togetherTaking interest in each other’s livesHaving more good times than badPeople in your life being happy about your relationshipEncouraging other friendshipsHaving good communicationBeing supportiveTrusting each otherEncouraging independenceFinding comfort in each otherUsing words to build each other upAccepting of self and other’s faultsUse compromise to resolve conflicts

With a partner.....

Create a special Saturday day or night “healthy”date.

What will make the date memorable?

You will share this with the class.

Qualities of an unhealthy relationship

Trying to control the person Making one feel bad about himself/herself Using words to inflict emotional pain Being obsessive and allowing little or no privacy Pushing, hitting, grabbing, or harming the other or objects with

personal value Having more bad times than good Having received advice to leave the relationship Forcing one to cut ties with other friends and family members Afraid or frightened by the other’s actions Condescending treatment Constantly creating excuses or defending behavior

Dating Bill of Rights1. Be treated with respect2. Share common experiences3. Ask for what they want4. Give and receive expressions of affection5. Be accepted for who they are6. Clearly communicate their needs7. Feel safe with their date8. Say “No” and not feel guilty9. Have fun10. Make decisions11. Express their own thoughts and feels

12. Never be forced to do anything13. Make mistakes and be

forgiven 14. Be treated as an

equal

Go Out, Have Fun, Date and Be Safe......

Beforehand: 1. Know your values and boundaries. 2. Arrange date plans. Go somewhere public or group date with friends 3. Make sure you have an alternative plan and a ride home if something goes wrong

On the Date: 1. Don’t drink alcohol or use drugs 2. Be able to state your boundaries 3. Stay with a group of people. 4. Watch your body language. Make sure you are clearly saying

what you want 5. Be aware of the situation. If you start to feel uncomfortable,

leave!

Quick Write

1. What are five qualities of a healthy relationship?

2. What are five qualities of an unhealthy relationship?

What are three qualities that you want in a relationship?