dating: the protection of purity (1) if you love me, you will follow me

Dating:Dating: The Protection of Purity The Protection of Purity (1)(1)

If you love If you love MEME, you will follow , you will follow MEME

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The Request The Request • ““It would be nice to have a It would be nice to have a

lesson on self-control and lesson on self-control and discuss lust and appropriate discuss lust and appropriate relationship affection for pre-relationship affection for pre-marital couples.”marital couples.”

• Bible topic, Bible topic, 2 Peter 1:2-32 Peter 1:2-3

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The Need The Need • Young Christians are affectedYoung Christians are affected

– Teen pregnancies, abortion, STDsTeen pregnancies, abortion, STDs– Marriage is discardedMarriage is discarded

• Be teachers:Be teachers:– Fathers & mothers,Fathers & mothers, Eph. 6:4Eph. 6:4– Older men & women,Older men & women, Tit. 2:3-4Tit. 2:3-4

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The NeedThe Need • Young people: Listen, learn & Young people: Listen, learn &

respect God’s will, respect God’s will, Prov. 7:1-5Prov. 7:1-5• Young people: This kind of Young people: This kind of

teaching is designed to help teaching is designed to help protect your heart! protect your heart! Psa. 119:9; Psa. 119:9; Prov. 4:23; 1 Pet. 5:8Prov. 4:23; 1 Pet. 5:8

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Who goes on a date?Who goes on a date? • YouYou• Your dateYour date• GodGod

2 Cor. 5:9; Rom. 12:1; Col. 3:12 Cor. 5:9; Rom. 12:1; Col. 3:1

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What are the results?WORLD’S VIEWWORLD’S VIEW

• Sin & regretSin & regret• Selfishness… Selfishness…

reproachreproach• Bitterness… Bitterness…

damage to damage to godly godly relationshipsrelationships

GOD’S VIEWGOD’S VIEW• Purity, holinessPurity, holiness• Self-respectSelf-respect• Safety, security Safety, security

and godly and godly relationships relationships (Psa. 127:1)(Psa. 127:1)

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What are the results?WORLD’S VIEWWORLD’S VIEW

• Temporary Temporary pleasure but no pleasure but no lasting lasting satisfaction satisfaction (Heb. (Heb. 11:25)11:25)

• ““Let nature take Let nature take its course” its course”

GOD’S VIEWGOD’S VIEW• Solid foundation Solid foundation

for the future for the future (happiness in (happiness in marriage)marriage)

• Honor body; Honor body; a living sacrifice a living sacrifice

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DatingWORLD SAYSWORLD SAYS

• ““If it feels If it feels good, do it!” good, do it!” (1 Cor. 15:32)(1 Cor. 15:32)

GOD SAYSGOD SAYS

• ““Flee also Flee also youthful lusts” youthful lusts” & protect your & protect your purity! purity! (2 Tim. 2:22)(2 Tim. 2:22)

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God’s Warnings God’s Warnings and Encouragementsand Encouragements

• Enjoy new experiences of Enjoy new experiences of your life in purity,your life in purity, Eccl. Eccl. 11:9-10; 1 Jno. 3:311:9-10; 1 Jno. 3:3

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Love or Lust: Do you Love or Lust: Do you know the difference?know the difference?

• Self-controlSelf-control, , Gal. 5:23Gal. 5:23– ““the virtue of one who masters the virtue of one who masters

his desires and passions, esp. his desires and passions, esp. his sensual appetites”his sensual appetites”

– Pursue righteousness, faith, love Pursue righteousness, faith, love & peace, & peace, 2 Tim. 2:222 Tim. 2:22

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• LustLust, , Col. 3:5Col. 3:5 – Evil Evil desire: “desire, craving, desire: “desire, craving,

longing, desire for what is longing, desire for what is forbidden” forbidden” (1 Jno. 2:15-17)(1 Jno. 2:15-17)

– What are you thinking? Looking What are you thinking? Looking at? Why? For how long?at? Why? For how long? (Job 31:1; Matt. 5:28)(Job 31:1; Matt. 5:28)


• LewdnessLewdness (lasciviousness) (lasciviousness) Rom. 13:13; Gal. 5:19; Mk. 7:21-23; Rom. 13:13; Gal. 5:19; Mk. 7:21-23; 1 Pet. 4:3 1 Pet. 4:3– ““Unbridled lust, excess, licentious-ness…Unbridled lust, excess, licentious-ness…

shamelessness… wanton (acts or) shamelessness… wanton (acts or) manners, as filthy words, indecent bodily manners, as filthy words, indecent bodily movements, unchaste handling of males movements, unchaste handling of males & females, etc.”& females, etc.” ((ThayerThayer, 79-80), 79-80)


• LewdnessLewdness (lasciviousness) (lasciviousness) Rom. 13:13; Gal. 5:19; Mk. 7:21-23; Rom. 13:13; Gal. 5:19; Mk. 7:21-23; 1 Pet. 4:3 1 Pet. 4:3– Music videos, dancing, SNL…Music videos, dancing, SNL…– Internet pornography, etc.Internet pornography, etc.– Caressing, fondling… Caressing, fondling… (Gen. 26:8)(Gen. 26:8)– Does your clothing encourage this?Does your clothing encourage this?

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• FornicationFornication, , 1 Cor. 6:18; Gal. 5:191 Cor. 6:18; Gal. 5:19– Outside of marriage, the defilement of Outside of marriage, the defilement of

sex, sex, Heb. 13:4 (1 Cor. 7:1-2)Heb. 13:4 (1 Cor. 7:1-2)– Fondling, etc. is the Fondling, etc. is the prelude to prelude to

fornicationfornication…prepares the mind and the …prepares the mind and the body for intercourse body for intercourse

– Homosexual behaviorHomosexual behavior

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• Lust is selfishLust is selfish & pleases self at & pleases self at the expense of the othersthe expense of the others

• Love is unselfishLove is unselfish; it pleases God ; it pleases God & the other person before self& the other person before self

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The DifferenceLUSTLUST

• Based on Based on whatwhat he/she is,he/she is, 1 Jno. 1 Jno. 2:16; Mt. 5:28; 2:16; Mt. 5:28; Prov. 6:25Prov. 6:25 –Outward Outward 1 Pet. 3:3-4; 1 Pet. 3:3-4; SS 7:1-9SS 7:1-9

LOVELOVE• Based on Based on whowho

he/she is,he/she is, Prov. Prov. 31:30 (10-12); 31:30 (10-12); SS 5:8-16 SS 5:8-16 – Inward Inward

(the person)(the person)

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The DifferenceLUSTLUST

• Pre-marital sex Pre-marital sex is not love, it is not love, it dishonors your dishonors your body in sinful body in sinful lusts, lusts, Rom. 1: Rom. 1: 24; 1 Cor. 6:1324; 1 Cor. 6:13

LOVELOVE• In marriage, sex In marriage, sex

is pure & an is pure & an intimate intimate expression of expression of love, love, 1 Co. 7:2; 1 Co. 7:2; Heb. 13:4Heb. 13:4

- 1 Cor. 13:4-8 -- 1 Cor. 13:4-8 -

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What Will These Sins Cost What Will These Sins Cost Me?Me?

• Your soul, Your soul, Matt. 16:26Matt. 16:26• Your innocence, reputation, Your innocence, reputation,

peace of mind & self-respect peace of mind & self-respect (Acts 23:1; 24:16)(Acts 23:1; 24:16)– Burden & bondage of sinBurden & bondage of sin– You can be forgiven! You can be forgiven!

(1 Cor. 6:9-10; 1 Jno. 1:9)(1 Cor. 6:9-10; 1 Jno. 1:9)

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• Your life, Your life, Rom. 1:27Rom. 1:27– STDs are rampant STDs are rampant

(Ages 15-24: ~9 mil. annually)(Ages 15-24: ~9 mil. annually)– Are you ready to be a mother? Are you ready to be a mother?

A father?A father?– Life will never be the sameLife will never be the same

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• Can you live with the Can you live with the consequences? consequences? Heb. 12:15-16Heb. 12:15-16– Some do, but are you willing Some do, but are you willing

to pay the price?to pay the price?– Sow to the flesh and reap Sow to the flesh and reap

corruption! corruption! Gal. 6:7-8Gal. 6:7-8

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Righteousness, Self-Control & Righteousness, Self-Control & Judgment Judgment (Acts 24:25)(Acts 24:25)

• Nobody can live with God while Nobody can live with God while fulfilling the lusts of the flesh, fulfilling the lusts of the flesh, Gal. 5:16-17, 24-25 (Ro. 8:5-8)Gal. 5:16-17, 24-25 (Ro. 8:5-8)

• Put it all to death, Put it all to death, Col. 3:5-6Col. 3:5-6 • Are you the answer to a parent’s Are you the answer to a parent’s

prayer for their child?prayer for their child?

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