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Decision Making and Refusal Skills

Learning Log

Think of a time that you had trouble making a decision. What made it hard to make that decision?

Think of a time when the decision was easy to make. What made it easy?

DECIDE

D-define the problem

E-explore the alternatives

C-consider the consequences

I-identify your values

D-decide and act

E-evaluate the results

You found the perfect after school job. It is near home, and will allow you to pay for the things you really want to get. That same day you found out that you made the basketball team. Practice is during the hours that you would need to work. What do you do?

Define the Problem

State problem clearly

Write it down if necessary

Do I even need to use DECIDE?

You found the perfect after school job. It is near home, and will allow you to pay for the things you really want to get. That same day you found out that you made the basketball team. Practice is during the hours that you would need to work. What do you do?

Explore the Alternatives

Make a list

If more info is needed do research

If alternatives are unrealistic remove them

You found the perfect after school job. It is near home, and will allow you to pay for the things you really want to get. That same day you found out that you made the basketball team. Practice is during the hours that you would need to work. What do you do?

Consider the Consequences

Look at each alternative and write Possible positive and negative

consequences

Consider what would happen, not what you hope would happen

Ask yourself

How risky is each alternative?

How would it affect my future?

How will my decision effect other people?

• You found the perfect after school job. It is near home, and will allow you to pay for the things you really want to get. That same day you found out that you made the basketball team. Practice is during the hours that you would need to work. What do you do?

Identify Your Values

Overlook because you want something Usually uncomfortable with decision later

Consider Goals

Family/culture

Health of you and others

Choice that matches values

You found the perfect after school job. It is near home, and will allow you to pay for the things you really want to get. That same day you found out that you made the basketball team. Practice is during the hours that you would need to work. What do you do?

Decide and Act

Use knowledge to choose what is right for you Sometimes more than one right answer

Make a plan Break into smaller steps

Follow through with plan

You found the perfect after school job. It is near home, and will allow you to pay for the things you really want to get. That same day you found out that you made the basketball team. Practice is during the hours that you would need to work. What do you do?

Evaluate Consequences

How did it work out?

How has it affected your life?

How has it affected others?

If you could do it over, what would you change? Do it if possible

You found the perfect after school job. It is near home, and will allow you to pay for the things you really want to get. That same day you found out that you made the basketball team. Practice is during the hours that you would need to work. What do you do?

Learning Log

Use DECIDE to figure out what you should eat for lunch.

Decision Making Skills

15 Item game Get correct information

Know how to use this information

Square Activity Choice may look obvious at first

There may be more options than we see

Gut Check Does your decision feel right?

Forgotten Aspects

Values

Emotions

Other’s feelings

Habits

Pressure

Risks

Learning Log

Advice I was at a friend’s house and we were just hanging out. We were

getting bored and one of the people pulled out a bottle of liquor. They asked if I wanted any, and I said, “No I have a game tonight.” The real reason was that I have decided not to drink. Was it wrong to give an excuse? What happens if they ask me again when I don’t have a game?

Offer a response to this person and give them advice on how to handle future situations

Refusal Skills

NICE principle

N-say No firmly

I-use I statements I’m not old enough to…

No thank you, I don’t…

I want to stay in control of myself

C-change the subject, change who you are talking to, change rooms

E-exit the situation

Do’s and Don’ts of NICE

Do Make eye contact

Stand tall

Use a firm voice

Don’t Look at the ground

Show you are nervous

Speak softly

Say ”I guess not” or “Maybe”