dg marriageprep ebook 2012-10 final

7/29/2019 DG MarriagePrep eBook 2012-10 Final

1/46

MarriagePreParing orhelP or

christian couPles

r m J Pp


2/46

2012 D gd d

Pbd by D gd

P of Bx 2901

Mp, Mn 55402

www.dgd.

Pem:

Y pmd d d pd d db

m y m pvdd y d wd

y wy d d byd pd.

wb p, k dm wb pd.

ay xp bv m b ppvd by D gd.

P d w m y dbd py:

D gd d. Wb: dgd.

Ce e: ty D Wk

Tpeett: ty D Wk

E- ce: M P, glh Pb, llc

sp q m esV Bb (The Holy Bible,

English Standard Version

), py 2001 by cwy. udby pm. a vd.

a mp sp q v b ddd by

d.


3/46

TablE o ConTEnTs

01 Eit Pc

04 Quti t Ak Wh Ppig Mig

09 T Supig Gl: MigLi th Gly G

21

Sxul Rlti i Mig

33 Mig, Sigl, thChiti Vitu Hpitlity


4/46

Preparing

forMarriageResourcesfr

omJohnPiper

1

EdiTors PrEaCE

Ppig wll mig m kig ch th ll thh quti.

Gttig t kw tht pcil m iclu ligut mily i chlig thltic, it

ptim, k, mi, li t mmt wt, th

ightt plc i u ckgu th kt.But wht ut thlgy? E thik t k ut tht?At Diig G, u mt cc pg li i

t quti Jh Pip put tgth cupl pp-ig mig (chpt 1 i thi Bk). T i m thtypicl tulik i ttimt lityl chilut my h u tht Jh wy puttig th

quti hlp gt ight t m ptty p tu.A th th th quti ut thlg y, whip

ti, th l hu wiquti tht t my cupl t thik t k. Wh ppig mig, i jut giig t ci it, it i im-m hlp t h th ppcti t ly hu-

40 y, ut l pt thlgi.


5/46

Preparing


omJohnPiper

2

Ti i ht Bk. Ou ii it i huml. Ou hpi tht w cupl, whth tig ciig mig,

gg ppig mig, wul m -t h, gt t kw ch th tt i m li mtigict mtt, m t t ic G lig thi li.

W pckg th itil uc with th migquti hpig t ich yu ppti. Chpt 2 i p-hp Jh Pip igl mt imptt mg mig.

T h g m mc th my u h tg i thikig ut wht mig i, wht G igit . Ti i up imptt chpt.

Sxul lti i mig i th tpic chpt 3. (Wkw m yu my ippig tight t tht , wtht yu kw it th. Tt ky. D cm ck t th chp-t 1 2, wh yu c.) H th i much pttil

plu, much pttil pi. Dt hy wy mgiig th tpic x g citi ht icu-i uig ggmt.

Filly, chpt 4 i ut mii tgth. Mig i mii t. I pticul, th cu h i hpitlity. It m m th i tht cm th k Tis Momen-tary Marriage: A Parable o Permanence, which i wh w

yu t l m ut mig llwig thi Bk.F Chiti, tlkig ut miity tgth, icluig h-pitlity (litlly, i th Nw tmt, l tg) itil ppti.

Mig i ig. Wht yu ciig ppig h i ti. Dt thik yu c jut mig -

th ly t ly uy li. Mig m ull


6/46

Preparing


omJohnPiper

3

tt. Rlut yu cmmitmt, chck yu piiti,thik yu ml. Hpully thi Bk th uc-

lik it will hlp. It wll wth th itmt iuquti cul thught. F yu jy, th g th, th gly th chuch Gm.

David Mathis

Executive Editor

iigG.g
http://www.desiringgod.org/http://www.desiringgod.org/


7/46

Preparing


omJohnPiper

4

1QuEsTions To ask WhEn

PrEParing or MarriagE

I ch th cti, itm cul tht I ht lit, mly, Hw yu hl li with i-c? Hw yu ci wht c mi ic with-ut jpizig th ltihip? S yu l with ch u-

hig, iclu tht i th icui.

Te

Wht yu li ut...ythig?

Php thugh th Diig G Amti Fitht wh ch th i iu ilicl cti.

Dic hw yu m yu iw. Wht i th ig--liig pc? Hw yu hl th Bil?

Wp det

Hw imptt i cpt whip? Wht ut th ki

pticipti i chuch li?
http://www.desiringgod.org/about/our-distinctives/affirmation-of-faithhttp://www.desiringgod.org/about/our-distinctives/affirmation-of-faith


8/46

Preparing


omJohnPiper

5

Hw imptt i it t pt mllccutility/uppt gup?

Wht i th imptc muic i li whip?

Wht yu ily pl til pctic?(py, ig, mitti, mmizti)

Wht wul u mily ti lk lik? Wh l i thi?

A w ig thi w i pppit wy (pyig tgth

ut u li utu, ig th Bil tgth)?

h We

Wht i th mig hhip umii i th Bil i u mig?

Wht xpctti ut ituti wh yu might

l with m th ppit x?

Hw tk h i th hm (c, clig, ckig,whig ih, y wk, c upkp, pi, hppig , huhl tu )?

Wht th xpctti tgth?

Wht i il -pcil ig?Hw yu ut wh iitit x hw f?

Wh th chckk th tw?


9/46

Preparing


omJohnPiper

6

Ce

I wh, hul w h chil? Why?

Hw my?

Hw pt?

Wul w ci pti?

Wht th t hi?

Wht th pppit wy t icipli thm? Hw mytik thy wht?

Wht th xpctti tim pt with thm whthy g t ?

Wht ig cti will yu hw thm?

Wht ut chl? Hm chl? Chiti chl?Pulic chl?

lete

Ow hm t? Why?

Wht ki ighh? Why?

Hw my c? Nw? U?

Viw my i gl? Hw much t th chuch?

Hw yu mk my cii?

Wh will yu uy clth? Dptmt t? Tif t?I tw? Why?


10/46

Preparing


omJohnPiper

7

Etetmet

Hw much my hul w p ttimt?

Hw f hul w t ut? Wh?

Wht ki cti pppit hlpul u?

Hw my ty? Swmil, t, ci?

Shul w h tlii? Wh? Wht i ttig t wtch?Hw much?

Wht th citi mi tht? Wht will uguili th ki?

Cct

Wht mk yu gy?

Hw yu hl yu utti g?

Wh hul ig up iu tht i thm?

Wht i w ig th ut wht hul whth it i iu?

Will w g t gy t ch th?

Wht i u iw gttig hlp m i cul?

W

Wh i th mi wi?

Shul th wi wk uti th hm? B ki? With

ki t hm? Af ki?


11/46

Preparing


omJohnPiper

8

Wht yu iw yc chil?

Wht tmi wh yu will lct? J? Wh j?

Chuch? Fmily?

e

I it g t thig with i ut withut pu?

Wht will yu i yu lly lik t hg ut withm th th t?

het sce

D yu h, h yu h y, ick phyicl p-lm tht cul ct u ltihip? (llgi, cc, t-ig i, l i, tc.)

D yu li i ii hlig, hw wul py ltt micl ttti?

Hw yu thik ut xci hlthy tig?

D yu h y hit tht ly ct hlth?


12/46

Preparing


omJohnPiper

9

2ThE surPassing goal:

MarriagE livEd or ThEglory o god

My tpic thi chpt i Mig li th gly G.T cii w i tht tpic i th w . Mig li

or th gly G. T tpic i t: T gly Gor

th liig mig. A t: Mig li by th gly G. But: Mig li th gly G.

Ti littl w m tht th i pi-ity. T i ultimcy. A th i pli: Gi ultimt, mig i t. G i th mt impttRlity; mig i l imptt l imptt, i-itly l imptt.

Mig xit t mgiy th tuth wth u-ty gt G; G t xit t mgiy m-ig. Util thi i ii luutil it i mig will t xpic lti G gly ut il G gly.

I tk my titl, Mig li th gly G, t


13/46

Preparing


omJohnPiper

10

w t th quti: Why marriage?Why i th m-ig? Why mig xit? Why w li i mig?

Ti m tht my tpic i pt lg quti: Why ythig xit? Why yu xit? Why x xit?Why th u m t xit? Why i-ml plt c muti tm gl-xi xit?

T w t ll th quti, icluig th utmig i: All thm xit t th gly G. Tt i,

thy xit t mgiy th tuth wth uty gt- G. Nt th wy microscope mgi, ut th wy telescope mgi.

Miccp mgiy y mkig tiy thig lk iggth thy . lcp mgiy y mkig uimgily igthig lk lik wht thy lly . Miccp m th p-

pc iz wy m lity. lcp m th pp-

c iz tw lity.Wh I y tht ll thig xit t mgiy th tuth

wth uty gt G, I m tht ll thig mig i pticulxit t m th ppc G i ppl mi tw Rlity.

G i uimgily gt iitly lul uup i uty. Gt i th Lord, gtly t

pi, hi gt i uchl (P. 145:3, esv).Eythig tht xit i mt t mgiy tht Rlity. Gci ut thugh th ppht Iih (43:67, esv), Big my m my ught m th th th, -y wh i cll y my m, whm I ctor my glory(mphi ). W h ct t iply th gly

G. Pul cclu th t l chpt hi gt


14/46

Preparing


omJohnPiper

11

ltt t th Rm with th xltti G th uc ll thig: F m him thugh him t

him l l thig. him gly . Am (11:36, esv,mphi ). H mk it cl i Cli 1:16,wh h y, By [Chit] ll thig w ct, i h th ll thig w ct thugh him him (mphi ).

A w t u i w thik tht Him m Hi, Hi t, Hi impmt. Pul

m it cytl cl i Act 17:25 tht G i t yhum h, thugh h ythig, ic h himlgi t ll mki li th ythig (esv). N,th tm Hi gly Him m, th iply Hi gly, th hwig Hi gly, th mg-iyig Hi gly.

W t lt thi ik i. Oc th w G, ly

G. T ui i Hi cti. It i t ctl with G.It i t G. I th giig w th W, th Ww with G, th W w G . All thig w mthugh him (Jh 1:1, 3, esv). All thig. All tht i t G

w m y G. S c th w ly G.T G i lut Rlity. W t. T ui

i t. Mig i t. W iti. T ui i c-

y imptc, t pimy. T hum c i t th ul-timt lity, th ultimt lu, th ultimt mu-ig wht i g wht i tu wht i utiul. Gi. G i th ultimt lut i xitc. Eythig li m Him thugh Him Him.

Tt i th ttig plc utig mig. I

w gt thi wg, ythig g wg. A i w gt it


15/46

Preparing


omJohnPiper

12

ightlly ight, i u h i u htth m-ig will tm y it. Mig will cm wht it

w ct y G t iply th tuth wth uty gt G.Ti l t y impl cclui impl yt

-chig. I w wt t mig h th plc i thwl i th chuch tht it i upp t htht i, iw wt mig t gliy th tuth wth uty gt Gw mut tch pch l ut m-

ig m ut G.Mt yug ppl ty t ig t thi cuthip

mig gt ii Gwh H i, wht H ilik, hw H ct. I th wl th i lmt ii G. H i t th lit t iit. H i imply thtkigly mitt. A i th chuch th iw Gtht yug cupl ig t thi ltihip i mll i-

t hug, mgil it ctl, guit cl, imptt it ll-tmiig, uipiig it ihig, tht wh thy my,th thught liig mig t th gly G i withutmig withut ctt.

Wht wul th gly G m t yug wi hu wh gi lmt tim thught t kwig

th gly G, th gly Ju Chit, Hi ii S

th gly Hi tlity tht mk th mi wt t x-pl with th iit thught tht G h gi-ig, ut imply lwy w;

th gly Hi kwlg tht mk th Liy


16/46

Preparing


omJohnPiper

13

Cg lk lik mtchx qutum phyic lik t g ;

th gly Hi wim tht h c cul y m;

th gly Hi uthity h th hll,withut wh pmii m m cm ich;

th gly Hi pic withut which t i

ll t th gu igl hi tu gy;

th gly Hi w tht uphl th ui kpll th tm mlcul tgth;

th gly Hi pw t wlk wt, cl lp, hlth lm, p th y th li, cu th t h,

till tm with w, i th ; th gly Hi puity t i, t h tw-c

ttitu il thught;

th gly Hi tutwthi t k Hi w lt pmi ll t th gu;

th gly Hi jutic t ll ml ccut i th

ui ttl ith th c i hll;

th gly Hi ptic t u u ull cf c;

th gly Hi ig, l-lik ic t mcth xcucitig pi th c willigly;


17/46

Preparing


omJohnPiper

14

th gly Hi wth tht will y cu ppl t cllut th ck th muti t ll thm;

th gly Hi gc tht juti th ugly;

th gly Hi l tht i u whil w wi.

Hw ppl gig t li thi li tht thi migiply th tuth wth uty gt thigly, wh thy t lmt gy tim t kwig

chihig thi gly?Php yu c why th lt thity y ptl

miity I h cm t my li-mii th mii u chuch i m y ic tm: mly, I xitw x-itt p pi th upmcy G i ll thig th jy ll ppl. Tt u mt th . U-

til th i pi th upmcy th gly G ith ht mi ppl, mig will t li thgly G.

A th will t pi th upmcy thgly G i th ht mi ppl util G Himl,i Hi mil gli, i kw. A H will t kwi Hi mil gli util pt tch pk Him

tilly cttly ply iliclly ithully itictly thughly pitly. Mig li th gly G will th uit chuch pmt

with th gly G.S I y gi, i w wt mig t gliy th tuth

wth uty gt G, w mut tch pch l ut mig m ut G. Nt tht w


18/46

Preparing


omJohnPiper

15

pch t much mig, ut tht w pch t littl G. G i imply t mgictly ctl i th li

mt u ppl. H i t th u u which ll th pl-t u ily li hl i it thi pp, G-ppit plc. H i m lik th m, which wx

w, yu c g ight thik ut Him.

F mt u ppl, G i mgil hu gthig uup Hi plc. thik tht thi mig cul

li Hi gly y tchig th ymic ltihip,wh th gly G i piphl, i lik xpctig th hu-m y t gliy th t wh w t t t th ight ky h ught tlcp.

S kwig G chihig G luig th gly G ll thig, icluig yu pu, i th ky t li-ig mig t th gly G. It tu i mig, i -

y th ltihip: God is most glorifed in us when we aremost satisfed in Him.

H i ky tht ulck thu . Supi ti-cti i G ll thly thig, icluig yu pu yu hlth yu w li (Plm 63:3, esv, yu t-t l i tt th li) i th uc gt lg-uig

withut which hu ct l lik Chit, wi c-

t llw lik th i Chit, th chuch. Ephi 5:2225 mk pli tht hu tk thi cu lhip l m Chit, wi tk thi cu umii l m th ti th chuch whm H i. Ath th cmplmty ct lt l, t u-mit uutil th gly G withut upi

ticti i ll tht G i u i Chit.


19/46

Preparing


omJohnPiper

16

Lt m y it th wy. T tw ll t which thgly G my hi th m Chiti mig: O

i t th tuctul ll wh th pu ulll th l Git thmth m l lik Chit, th wi ct llw tht lhip. Wh th l li ut, th gly G l wim i Chit i i-

ply t th wl.But th i th p, m util ll wh

th gly G mut hi i th l t uti

G ig. T pw impul t cy thugh th l-il ily, mthly, yly yig tht will qui ilig impct wi pctig impct humut cm m hp-giig, ul-utiig, upi ti-cti i G. I t thik tht u l u wi thi u will gliy G util it w m ht tht light iG m th mig.

Mig will p th gly G hp th gly G wh th gly G i m pciu tu th mig. Wh w c y with th ptl Pul (iPhilippi 3:8), I cut ll thig t l i iw th u-pig lu kwig Chit Ju my L (nasb)whw c y tht ut migut u hu with tht mig will li t th gly G.

I cl y tyig t y thi m wy, mly, with pm tht I wt my hi wig y.


20/46

Preparing


omJohnPiper

17

le he Me le he le

For Karsten Luke Piper

At His Wedding toRochelle Ann Orvis

May 29, 1995

Te God whom we have loved, and in

Whom we have lived, and who has been

Our Rock these twenty-two good years

With you, now bids us, with sweet tears,o let you go: A man shall leave

His ather and his mother, cleave

Henceorth unto his wie, and be

One unashamd esh and ree.

Tis is the word o God today,

And we are happy to obey.

For God has given you a brideWho answers every prayer weve cried

For over twenty years, our claim

For you, beore we knew her name.

And now you ask that I should write

A poema risky thing, in light

O what you know: that I am moreTe preacher than the poet or

Te artist. I am honored by

Your bravery, and I comply.

I do not grudge these sweet connes

O rhyming pairs and metered lines.

Tey are old riends. Tey like it when


21/46

Preparing


omJohnPiper

18

I bid them help me once again

o gather eelings into orm

And keep them durable and warm.

And so we met in recent days,

And made the ood o love and praise

And counsel rom a athers heart

o ow within the banks o art.

Here is a portion o the stream,

My son: a sermon poem. Its theme:

A double rule o love that shocks;A doctrine in a paradox:

I you now aim your wie to bless,

Ten love her more and love her less.

I in the coming years, by some

Strange providence o God, you come

o have the riches o this age,And, painless, stride across the stage

Beside your wie, be sure in health

o love her, love her more than wealth.

And i your lie is woven in

A hundred riendships, and you spin

A estal abric out o allYour sweet afections, great and small,

Be sure, no matter how it rends,

o love her, love her more than riends.

And i there comes a point when you

Are tired, and pity whispers, Do


22/46

Preparing


omJohnPiper

19

Yoursel a avor. Come, be ree;

Embrace the comorts here with me.

Know this! Your wie surpasses these:

So love her, love her more than ease.

And when your marriage bed is pure,

And there is not the slightest lure

O lust or any but your wie,

And all is ecstasy in lie,

A secret all o this protects:

Go love her, love her more than sex.

And i your taste becomes rened,

And you are moved by what the mind

O man can make, and dazzled by

His crat, remember that the why

O all this work is in the heart;

So love her, love her more than art.And i your own should someday be

Te crat that critics all agree

Is worthy o a great esteem,

And sales exceed your wildest dream,

Beware the dangers o a name.

And love her, love her more than ame.

And i, to your surprise, not mine,

God calls you by some strange design

o risk your lie or some great cause,

Let neither ear nor love give pause,

And when you ace the gate o death,

Ten love her, love her more than breath.


23/46

Preparing


omJohnPiper

20

Yes, love her, love her, more than lie;

Oh, love the woman called your wie.

Go love her as your earthly best.

Beyond this venture not. But, lestYour love become a ools acade,

Be sure to love her less than God.

It is not wise or kind to call

An idol by sweet names, and all,

As in humility, beore

A likeness o your God. AdoreAbove your best beloved on earth

Te God alone who gives her worth.

And she will know in second place

Tat your great love is also grace,

And that your high afections now

Are owing reely rom a vowBeneath these promises, rst made

o you by God. Nor will they ade

For being rooted by the stream

O Heavens Joy, which you esteem

And cherish more than breath and lie,

Tat you may give it to your wie.

Te greatest git you give your wie

Is loving God above her lie.

And thus I bid you now to bless:

Go love her more by loving less.


24/46

Preparing


omJohnPiper

21

3sExual rElaTions

in MarriagE

l m b d m , d m-

bd b dfd, gd w jd mm d

d. Kp y m v my d b

w w y v; d, i w v

y k y! hbw 13:45

It i ittig tht Hw put my th mig i y i. I ut tht i cicic, ic mt cul- ty wul put my xul lti th tp thi lit tul pt i mig. Agmt i mymtt hmy i th mig t m t cm

ily. Ou cu thi chpt i gig t xul ltii mig, t my.

Lt mig hl i h mg ll, lt th m-ig ul. Tt i, lt xul lti i mig kpt pu, cl, m lmih. All th tm lik u-l, pu, cl, withut lmih imply iul tgil mtph moral m, mly, t i i


25/46

Preparing


omJohnPiper

22

yu xul lti i mig. But wht i i? Si i y ct ttitu tht ipl G. But I it y hlpul t -

cu th til tu i it lt t th gt pitic i Chiti li, mly, ith. Hw 11:6 y, With-ut ith it i impil t pl G. Ti impli tw thig:

1. Sic i i ythig tht ipl G ic with-ut ith yu ct pl G, th, i yu t hith, ythig yu i i, cu ythig yu ipl G.

2. Ti uggt y tgly tht th mut y cl,php cul, ccti tw th c ith i. A Rm 14:23 cm uch ccti. Ity, Wht i t m ith i i. I th w, thtil tu th cti ttitu which w clli i tht thy t pmpt mtit y ht

ith. T thig tht mk ttitu ct iplig tG i tht it t gw m ith i G. Si i ilpcily i it ilu t th puct ith.

t, s, se ret Me

W t cliy hw it i tht u cti cm m ith

t m ith. Fit ll, wht i thi ith tht puc t-titu cti which t i? Hw 11:1 y, Fithi th uc thig hp , th cicti thigt . I th w, ith i th cc w l ith g thig tht G h pmi t u tmw t tity. W ct thm, ut ith h th uctht th pmi i which w hp will cm tu. Hw


26/46

Preparing


omJohnPiper

23

11:6, mti li, y, Withut ith it i impil tpl G. F wh wul w t G mut li

tht h xit tht h w th wh k him.I th w, th ith which pl G i u cmigt him with cc tht, php cty t ll ppc-, h will w u with ll th g thig h h pmi.

Nw, hw uch ith puc ttitu ct which t i? G ck with m t Hw 13:5. Kp yu li m th l my ctt with wht yu h.

T l my i i tht ipl G; it i i. Fitimthy 6:10 y, T l my i th t ll il.Nw th tit t thi iul l ll th il tht gwm it i cttmt: B ctt with wht yu h. Butth wit t l u th y ul t mhw ckup cttmt. But h g t gi i cttmt:

F G h i, I will il yu k yu. T

i cttmt i th pmi G uilig hlp llwhip. T pmi i tk m Dutmy 31:6,

B tg g cug; t i thm, it i th L yu G wh g with yu; h willt il yu k yu.

S th wit t th Hw i yig thi: G h much cmtig, uig, hp-ipiig pmi i hi

W tht, i w h ith i th pmi, w will c-tt. A cttmt i th tit t th l my

which i th t ll t il.Nw w c m clly hw it i tht cti tti-

tu cm m ith t. I w t h ith, i w t tut th pmi G, I will il yu k

yu, th w will l xiu icu, th cpti


27/46

Preparing


omJohnPiper

24

pw my t uy cuity pc will ttc-ti, tht it will tt t puc th il i u. W will

icli t tl, li u icm tx tu, tilizwhy w hult giig guly t th chuch, c-itly gt ut t w w i, u t py my t mk u tl ppty m lil, tc., tc.T il tht cm m th l my l. A th th il i i tht thy t cm m ith.

I w h ith i th pmi, I will il yu -

k yu, th w will m th xity icuitytht c m my, w will h icty th itht ult m th l my. I yu ctt i Chit,tig i th pmi G lwy t hlp yu ty -i yu, th th cmpuli t tl li yu tx -tu, kimp yu giig, glct yu t, p-

p p t will g. It th will ht

y wk, cmplt ccucy th tx tu, gity tth chuch, ithul i tiig t, ig ut yut yu wul h thm t yu. A ll thi w -hi will t i ut ightu, cu it cm mith i th hp-giig pmi G.

Nw, jut i c yu my h lt th ccti twll thi xul lti i mig, lt g ck pick

up th th. Hw 13:4 y, Lt mig hl ih mg ll, lt th mig ul. Ttm, Lt th mig withut i; t i i yuxul lti. Nw w h tht i i wht i tm ith. Si i wht yu l thik wh yu t tkig G t hi w tig i hi pmi. S th

cmm Hw 13:4 c tt lik thi: Lt yu


28/46

Preparing


omJohnPiper

25

xul lti m y ct ttitu tht tcm m ith i G W. O t put it pitily: H

th ttitu th ct i yu mitl xul l-ti which gw ut th cttmt tht cm m c-c i G pmi.

W see se gtfct Me?

But w immitly plm mg. Sm my k,I I m ctt thugh ith i G pmi, why hul

I k xul gticti t ll? Tt i g qu-ti. A th t w t it i, My yu hult ky xul gticti; my yu hul ty igl. Ti i

wht Pul w ugig i 1 Cithi 7:67. H y, By m m I cmmig y t gt mi gtiyxul i. All Im yig i tht xul i i ky,

i p h cmpllig i, mig i th plc t t-iy it. But ( 7), I wih tht ll w (igl) I mylm. But ch h hi w pcil gif m G, ki th. Ti i l ly mkl . Pulcul wih tht y w igl lik him: m th -tglmt mily li m th tg ug t m-i. But h kw tht t G will: Ech h hi w gif

m G. G will m ppl t mi m t igl. H t w y lik Pul; m h -w lik Pt, wh tk hi wi with him hi miiytl (1 Cithi 9:5). S th t w t th quti,

I I h cttmt thugh ith i G pmi, whyhul I k xul gticti? i, Php yu hult.G my wt yu igl.


29/46

Preparing


omJohnPiper

26

But th i c w t thi quti, mly, thcttmt tht G pmi t gi t m th

ll i, pcilly ily i. E Ju, wh ithw pct, gt hugy i gt ti -i t. Sxul pptit i i thi m ctgy. T ctt-mt ith t tk it wy y m th it tk wyhug wi. Wht, th, cttmt m ilti t gig xul i? I thik it m tw thig.

1. I gticti tht i i i thugh igl,

th tht il will cmpt y ut p-ti G hlp llwhip thugh ith. I Philippi- 4:1113 Pul i, Nt tht I cmpli wt, I hl i wht tt I m t ctt I h lth ct cig plty hug, uc wt.I c ll thig thugh him wh tgth m. I Pul

cul l t ctt i hug, th w c l t ctt i G ch t t gi u xul gticti.

2. T th thig cttmt m i lti t g-ig xul i i thi: i gticti i t i u ut t u i mig, w will k it jy it lyi wy tht ct u ith. put it th wy, whilth cttmt ith t put t u hu-

g, wi, xul pptit, it tm th wyw g ut tiyig th i. Fith t tp um tig, ut it tp glutty; it t tp lp, utit kp u m ig lugg. It t tp xul p-

ptit ut But wht? Tt wht w wt t p tht thi chpt tyig t w, thugh pc h ly

llw y ptil w.


30/46

Preparing


omJohnPiper

27

t beee Tt se i g gt g

Fit ll, wh th ith h th w m 1 imthy

4:4 tht ythig ct y G i g thig i t jct i it i ci with thkgiig, th it i c-ct y th w G pywh th ithh tht, it li. A ith h th y it p-

ptit G g gif. Fith will t llw mi cuplt li i y t thml, Wht w ig i ity;it wht thy i th pgphic mi. It, ith

y, G ct thi ct, it i g, it i th whli kw th tuth (1 imthy 4:3). It i th wl

which h plu G gif cupt thm y miu.But thy lg ightully t th chil G, ithwill t lt u iw thm wlly l. Lt th mig hl i honory ll th mig ul.

t ee m te gt te Pt

Scly, ith ic th jy xul lti i migcu it m th guilt th pt. I h i iw, mily,u wh mi ut h t lk ck ct ic-ti, ulty, ict, hmxul ig, y hitul mtuti, pccupti with pgphy,

pmicuu pttig, ic. A wht I h t y t ui thi: I it guily li withi yu, y th gc G, tthw yul th mcy G gi, th h

will yu m th guilt th pt.

T i w cmti t th wh i ChitJu (Rm 8:1).


31/46

Preparing


omJohnPiper

28

th wh t wk ut tut him wh ju-ti th ugly, hi ith i ck ightu

(Rm 4:5).Bl th wh iiquiti gi whi c; l i th m git whm th L

will t ck hi i (Plm 32:12).

H t l with u ccig t u i quitu ccig t u iiquiti. F th h high

th th, gt i hi tt l tw thwh him; th t i m th wt, h m u tgi m u (Plm 103:1012).

I w c u i, h i ithul jut t gi ui t cl u m ll uightu (1 Jh 1:9).

T i chil G t cy y guilt it th

mig . But tht tk li ith cu St lt mk u l ugi th tt u m li.

Rit him, m i yu ith (1 Pt 5:9). Quch hi m-ig t with th hil ith (Ephi 6:16)ith i thS G wh l yu g himl yu (Glti2:20), wh yu k w m t i tht yu might -cm th ightu G (2 Cithi 5:21), wh

yu i i hi y th c (1 Pt 2:24). Ly hl yugi, tk it with yu t th mig .

Chit i yu i tht i him yu might h guilt- xul lti i mig.

Nw lt m cliy mthig I i , mly, tht thugh th guilt u i c wh wy, m

th c mi. I c imgi cupl jut thi


32/46

Preparing


omJohnPiper

29

ggmt ittig tgth i pk. H tu t h y,T i mthig tht I gt t y. w y g I h x-

ul lti with th gil. I w wy m th L, itw jut ight. I wpt tht ight my tim. Ili G h gi m I hp yu c. I th wktht llw, t withut t, h gi him, thy my.A thi t hym ight thy li tgth, hlk t h, th t wll up i h y h y, Whtth mtt? A h y, I jut ct hlp ut thik tht

th gil, tht h ly ight h wh I m. A y lt-, wh th lty hi wi y h w , h himl ittly ifig ck i hi imgiti t ththill tht -ight ig. Tt wht I m y c. All u h uch c. All u h cmmitt i which,thugh gi, mk u pt li m plmtic thi w ht cmmitt thm.

But I t wt t gi th impi tht Chit i pw-l git uch c. H my t m ll th plmtht th c cu u, ut h h pmi t wk ill th plm u g i w l him cll c-cig t hi pup.

k u imgiy cupl I jut t. I p tthik tht th w hppy ig. Ty cm tully t

tiyig xul ltihip cu thy wk t it plyi ctt py lic th gc G. Ty tlk- ut ll thi lig. Ty kpt thig ttl up. Tytut ch th hlp ch th, thy u thi

wy t pc xul hmy , ll, w im-i G gc.

Chit i t ly tht i him w might h guilt-


33/46

Preparing


omJohnPiper

30

xul lti i mig, ut l tht h might th, thugh u c, cy t u m piitul g.

t ue se Wep at st

T thi thig w tht w c y ut ith xul l-ti i mig i tht ith u x git St. Lk t 1Cithi 7:35.

T hu hul gi t hi wi h cjugl ight

likwi th wi t h hu. F th wi tul h w y, ut th hu ; likwi thhu t ul hi w y, ut th wi .D t u th, xcpt php y gmt , tht yu my t yul t py; utth cm tgth gi, lt St tmpt yu thughlck l-ctl.

I Ephi 6:16, Pul y w hul w St with thhil ith. H h y t mi ppl, W St

with ucit xul itcu. Dt ti t lg, utcm tgth , tht St wil l gi thl. Wll,which i it? D w gu ul m St with th hil ith th hil x?

T w mi ppl i tht ith mk u x-ul itcu m gc. F th ppl G lit mig, xul lti G-i m cmig tmptti t i (th i ulty, th i xul tizig, th i pgphic ig, tc.). Fithhumly ccpt uch gif thk.

Nw tic mthig l i 1 Cithi 7:35. Ti i


34/46

Preparing


omJohnPiper

31

y imptt. I 4 Pul y tht th m th wm- h ight ch th y. Wh th tw cm

h, thi i t ch th ipl. Ech hth ight t ly clim t th th y xul gtic-ti. But wht w lly t i wht Pul cmm i

3 5 i iw th mutul ight. H t y,T tk yu clim! k yu ight! H y, Hu-

, gi h h ight! Wi, gi him hi ight! (. 3). Ai 4, D t u th. I th w, h

t cug th hu wi wh wt xul gtic-ti t iz it withut cc th th . Ith ug th hu wi t lwy y t gi thiy wh th th wt it.

I i m thi m Ju tchig i gl ththppy ulllig xul lti i mig p ch pt imig t gi ticti t th th. I it i th

jy ch t mk th th hppy, hu plm will l.

Hu, i it i yu jy t ig h ticti, yu will iti t wht h wt. Yu will l tht th

ppti ticty xul itcu t 10 p.m. giwith t w t 7 .m. ctiu thugh th y ki pct. A wh th tim cm, yu will t

cm lik Shm tk, ut will kw h pc igh killully lg. Ul h gi yu th igl, yu will y,

H climx, t mi, i th gl. A yu will i th lgu tht it i m l t gi th t ci.

Wi, it i t lwy th c, ut f, tht yu hu- wt xul lti m f th yu . Mti

Luth i h u twic wk t mpl ptcti m


35/46

Preparing


omJohnPiper

32

th tmpt. I t kw i Kti w up it y tim t. But i yu t, gi it ywy. I t y t yu hu-

, k it ywy. I ct, h k yu my g with-ut. T gl i t ut th i giig wht th thwt. Bth yu, mk it yu im t tiy ch th ully pil.

Lt mig hl i h mg ll, lt th m-ig ul. Tt i, t i i yu xul l-ti. A tht m, h ly th ttitu ly

th ct which cm m ith i G hp-giig pm-i. W hul ll gully k ul: D wht I mlig ig h it t i th cttmt ith ith xiu icuity uli? Tt will gi yu hlp ihu littl ig thicl cii.

I imply ti t hw th impct ith th -pct xul lti i mig. Fit, ith li G

wh h y tht xul lti i mig g cl hul ci with thkgiig y th whli kw th tuth. Sc, ith ic th jy xul lti i mig cu it m th guilt th pt. Fith li th pmi tht Chit i llu i, tht i him w might h guilt- xul ltii mig. A lly, ith wil th wp xul i-

tcu git St. A mi cupl gi lwt th h tht cit pt wh thy im t gi much xul ticti t ch th pil. It mk mjut wt t pi th L wh I thik tht tp ll thjy tht th xul i mig ig, it l p t m wp git u cit .


36/46

Preparing


omJohnPiper

33

4MarriagE, singlEnEss, and ThE

ChrisTian virTuE o hosPiTaliTy

t d d; b -d

d b-mdd k y py. abv ,

kp v y, v v m-

d . sw py w m-

b. a vd , v , d wd gd vd : wv pk,

w pk gd; wv v, w

v by gd pp d

vy gd my b fd J c. t

m b y d dm v d v. am.

1 P 4:711

Wht iig thi chpt i i Chit t mgi- i th wy mi ppl igl ppl hw hpitl-ity t ch th. O, t put it th wy, i it tuwhichI li it itht G mily, tht cm it ig yw ith y ith i Chit, i m ctl m

ltig th mili tht cm it ig y mig


37/46

Preparing


omJohnPiper

34

pcti pti, th hw tht piitul, tl m-ily (th chuch) lt t ch th (mi igl) i

cucil wit t th wl tht u li it thupmcy Chit tht u ltihip tjut y tu, ut y Chit. I lg t Chit mgithugh mi ppl lig igl ppl it thi li, igl ppl lig mi ppl it thi li thk Chit th gpl.

bece he i dcpe

Ju i, Wh gi th littl cup cl wt because he is a disciple, tuly, I y t yu, h will y m l hi w (Mtthw 10:42). O cu, Jul i tht w hul l u enemy (Mtthw 5:44), Pul i t gi cup wt t u enemy (Rm 12:20).

Tt ki l will ci it w. Buthere

Ju y,Shw impl ki t ppl pcily because they are ol-lowers o Jesus. A tht t will ci it w.

I th w, wh yu lk it th y igl p- mi p yu th c llw

Ju th it yu w tl milythtltihip with Ju tht yu hul w ut yu ht

i pcticl kilik hpitlity Ju k. Jui th cu h. H y, thi because he is my disciple. Iwill h i pcil wy i yu gi my icipl ik tht . I yu h him it yu hm, thi myk. Tt i wht I m wh I y, I lg t Christmg-i thugh mi ppl lig igl ppl it thili, igl ppl lig mi ppl it thi li.


38/46

Preparing


omJohnPiper

35

Te Mte W te g g

Jut w m w itucti w lk t th txt

i 1 Pt. H yu k, Why i G gi u i mk mtil ui? A why h i u -i m th mk thm w th lit thith tht it i w th tht w c li i uw i? I G mt t h gt pi (Gt i thL gtly t pi, Plm 96:4), why t jut c-t gl with i ut gt ht wh c ly pk

t G t t ch th? Why ll th i whyhul p l t cmmuict t ch th? A

why t gu wt wi li lm lili i wi?

T l p wul w t th qu-ti. But th I wt t mti i thi: G m -

i mtil thig cu wh thy ightly ightly u, G gly i m ully kw iply.T h tllig th gly G (Plm 19:1). Cith i th i th lili th l yu will kwm G g c (Mtthw 6:2628). S ith thig h h m hi iiil ttiuthi tl

pw ii tu (Rm 1:20). Lk t mig

Chit th chuch (Ephi 5:2325). A f yut thi ik thi cup, yu cl th L thutil h cm (1 Cithi 11:26). Whth yu t ik wht yu , ll t th gly G (1 Cithi10:31). T mtil wl i t i itl; it i igt iply G gly wk u ht t kw him

lu him m.


39/46

Preparing


omJohnPiper

36

M se h

Phyicl lity i g. G m it lti hi gl-

y. A h it u t ctiy it whip him withittht i, t it i lti t him t u it i wytht mk much him i ig gi u jy. All thth ict ig mig igl. It ptct um ilizig x g. Ty t g; thy m y G t h G. A it ptct u m -ig x il. Ty t il; thy itumt

whipthy wy t mk much Chit. H thky txt: 1 imthy 4:15. It i th mt imptt txti th Bil th mig phyicl pptit x.

Nw th Spiit xply y tht i lt tim m willpt m th ith y tig thml t citul pi-it tchig m, thugh th iicity li

wh ccic , wh i mig quitic m tht G ct t ci withthkgiig y th wh li kw th tuth. F -ythig ct y G i g, thig i t jct iit i ci with thkgiig, it i m hly y th w G py.

Sx tw gt il i t-ctuy Ai Mi-

twty-t-ctuy Amic. A G pt th wh l th plm th ilty x y mly ucig iig thm i t y th tch- mictchig m (. 1). Wht i Gluti? Eythig ct y G i g; thig i t jct i it i ci with thkgiig m hlyy th w G py. Yu mk hly y uig


40/46

Preparing


omJohnPiper

37

it ccig t th w G i Chit-pt py.Yu mk x hly y uig it ccig t th w G i

Chit-pt py.

M Mc Ctse Me

All tht i imply itucti t mk cl tht i thuty mig phyicl pl th ct ltw Chit th chuch, th uty igl phyicl pl th piitul tu G m-

ily tht gw y gti ith, t pcti xt mk cl i ll th thig tht ith mig igl i iliz . Mig and clicy c iltu. Spu c whip ch th whip x whip thi chil whip ul-icm--ki uy-ig pw. Sigl c whip utmy ipc.

Sigl c lk mig c-cl Chiti cm-pmi with xul i. Mi ppl c lk up i-gl mk immtuity ipiility icmp-tc hmxulity.

But wht I m tyig t cliy i tht th Chit-xlt-ig wy t mi th Chit xltig wy t igl. T wy t u u i, u pptit i m-

ig i igl tht mk much Chit.

Tt im setece 1 Ct 7:9

A I thik I hul mk jut i cmmt ut tht i-mu tc i 1 Cithi 7:9: I thy ct xcil-ctl, thy hul my. F it i tt t my th t

u with pi. Rmm, thi i xplicitly t


41/46

Preparing


omJohnPiper

38

mandwm (. 8). A h i th thig I wt t yut it: Wh p k t mi, kwig tht

igl h h wul u with pi, it t h tm tht mig cm m chl th x i.Pul wul m tht i iw Ephi 5.

It wh p milt m imply u th m xmplh tk hi xul i, h th mthig with it tht w mut all with ll u phyicl ii w wul mk thm m whip1) h ig it it

cmity t G w; 2) h uit it t high pt-t l c; 3) h tp th muic phyicl pl-u it th muic piitul whip, 4) h lit thch G g i y ; 5) h k t ulhi plu y mkig h jy hi jy; 6) h gi thkt G m th ttm hi ht cu h kw hl tht h miut thi plu.

M Ct sw hptt

Nw t th txt, 1 Pt 4:711, wht iig thi chpt,mly, i Chit t mgi i th wy mi

ppl igl ppl hw hpitlity t ch th. Wwill wlk thugh th txt quickly with i cmmt

th w ut impl iu implicti py thtG wul u thi w pwully t chg u hi gly u jy.

Te E i ne

V 7: T ll thig i t h. Pt kw tht

with th cmig th Mih th th g h i


42/46

Preparing


omJohnPiper

39

(1 Cithi 10:12; Hw 12:2). T kigm G hcm (Luk 17:21). A th th cummti ll

thig cul wp th wl i y ht tim.T, jut Ju tught u t igilt u li t wtch, Pt y (. 7), T l-ctll -mi th k yu py. Tt i, cultit

y pl ltihip with th yu hp t c tc t hi cmig. Dt umili with Chit. Yu t

wt t mt him tg. A k i py ll th hlp

yu will i th lt y tht yu my t i thy gt t (Luk 21:36). A t p yuptity t ig yu t py. B l-ctll --mi th k yu py.

le i Pmt

T 8: A ll, kp lig th tly,ic l c multitu i. L i pmut, it will ll th m th w . Why? B-cu th pu t tiulti th lt ywill put ltihip u tmu t. But i thy w will ch th, th wl will wtchig t i w l: By thi l l ppl will kw tht yu my

icipl, i yu h l th (Jh 13:35). Willw c u ch th ult il, will g ul u ht?

hptt wtt gm

V 9 gi m tht l, i it tllig tht h m-

ti ig it withut gumlig? Shw hpitlity t


43/46

Preparing


omJohnPiper

40

th withut gumlig. I w lig tly li cig multitu i, th w will t guml -

ily will w? L c much wht mk u guml. S h-pitlity withut gumlig i th cllig Chiti i th lty. I th y y wh yu t i high, th itht cig, t guml ui th

y y, Pt y, wht w t i pctic hpitlity.Ou hm t p. Bcu u ht p.

A u ht p cu G ht i p t u. D

yu cll hw Jh th ptl cct th l G withu l ch th i lti t hpitlity? H wt i 1

Jh 3:16-17, By thi w kw l, tht [ Ju] li w hili u, w ught t ly w u li th th.But i y h th wl g hi th i [igl mi!], yt cl hi ht git him, hw G l i i him?

stew g ve gce

Tt w h pc t g i thi txt. Excpt t im-ply pit t wht hpp wh w gt tgth i u hm.V 10: A ch h ci gif, u it t -th, g tw G i gc. Stw

G i gc! I l tht ph. Ey Chiti i tw cuti, mg, w, itiut, -

t G i gc. Wht gt t li!Ey Chiti li gc. G i l t mk ll graceu t yu, tht hig ll ucicy i ll thig t lltim, yu my u i y g wk (2 Cithi9:8). I yu i hpitlitytht yu t h much


44/46

Preparing


omJohnPiper

41

pl tgth pl wlthg. T yu wtitimit yy. Yu will p ll th m G

gc. Yu will lk ll th m t th wk Chit tyu w wk. A O wht lig ppl will gt i yuimpl hm. Yu littl ptmt.

Wecme oe ate a Ct h Wecme y

S th it i: th Chiti itu hpitlity Chit-x-ltig ttgy l i th lt y.

Nw m clig pplicti: Fit, t y. I yulg t Chit, i yu h y ith ci hi ig hpi-tlity, which h pi with hi w l, th xt thihpitlity t th. Rm 15:7: Wlcm th Chit h wlcm yu, th gly G. Yu li gc yy. B g tw it i hpitlity.

Sc, t mi cupl. Pl tht yu hpitlity i-clu igl pplmll gup, Suy i, picic,hliy clti. A t mk ig l ut it. Jut tul. A t gt tht th ight-y-l igl ixty-y-l igl fy- ty- thity- twty-y-l igl, ml ml, mly mi mi, ic wiw. Tik lik Chi-

ti. Ti i yu mily, m ply m tlly thyu kilk.

Ti, t igl ppl. Shw hpitlity t th iglppl and t mi cupl. Php it m . Buthul it? Wul it t mk uuul mtuity t-ility? Wul it t mk G gc i yu li?

I py tht th L wul thi utiul wk mg


45/46

Preparing


omJohnPiper

42

ull u. T ll thig i t h. Lt u u py. Lt u l ch th. Lt u g tw

th i gc G, lt u hw hpitlity withutgumlig. Wlcm th Chit h wlcm yu.


46/46

dg marriageprep ebook 2012-10 final

Documents