Download - Balance Your Conflict
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Dr. Jody Janati
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Common Disclosure Pattern
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• Pursue your best interests w/o denying another’s • Separate the person from the problem• Focus on shared interests, “what do we both…”• Generate options to solve problems • Choose “I” statements before “You” statements,
“I feel uncomfortable when you use language…”• Stick to the facts• Express little to no emotion during an interaction• Face difficult interactions squarely and
authentically
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LANGUAGE OF COLLABORATION
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FIGHT FLEE
or
FLOW
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RESPOND “stop signals”
• Respond
• Controlled
• Choice
• Allow
• Still
• STOPS CONFLICT
REACT “MOVEMENT MESSAGES”
• React
• Uncontrolled
• No Choice
• Resist
• Movement
• PERPETUATES CONFLICT
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Create little to no resistance“Ask; Don’t Tell; Offer Choices”
Be consistent “Consistency Over Time = Trust”
Awareness = ChangeCommit to making other’s aware“I noticed…I see you are…”
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• Step 1 Tell them what they did [fact]
• Step 2 Tell them how it made you feel -or-
State a consequence of their behavior
• Step 3 Good time to point it out, Bring it up, Put it on your radar, Thought you should know, Aware, etc.”
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• Step 1 - A Ask them to meet with you [give them at least 10 min.]
• Step 2 - C Clear concise statement [10 -12 words]
• Step 3 - T Transfer responsibility [repeat about 10 times]
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May You Find Your “Conversation Peace!”
Dr. Jody Janati www.communicationinnovation.vpweb.com
BOOKS$10 Each
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