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Conflict Management
Conrad L. Tatnall, Esq.SCAO Approved Facilitative Mediator
Tatnall PLLC(517) 324-4223
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What is Worksite Conflict?
A condition between workers who are:Interdependent in some wayActing in ways that create a business problem
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The Costs of Unresolved ConflictLost work time and productivityLost employees / high turnoverDamage to organization reputationSabotage, theft from site, injuriesLowered job motivationHealth costs due to stressLegal costs due to litigation
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Is Conflict always a bad thing?Can be opportunity for growth or learningInspires creativityCan bring up alternative ways of thinking and behaving we had not considered beforeCan challenge us to value differencesSometimes people need to seek job fulfillment elsewhereCan improve communication
“Two heads are better than one only if they contain different opinions”
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The Ingredients of ConflictDifferences in perceptionsDifferences in valuesDifferences in powerDifferences in opinionsPersonality clashRule breakingNeed for attention
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Conflict Prevention – Mediation without an event
Effective decision-making and problem-solving toolsStress Management techniquesEffective management
Be sensitive to the relationships among your employeesEncourage employees to come talk to youBe proactive and role model effective approaches to conflict
How do people want to be treated?
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Benefits of Conflict Resolution
If worksite conflict is managed and resolved, team members’ commitment to the organization increases
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Approaches to Resolving ConflictCONQUEST – power play, win/lose, adversarial, autocratic, demand/threatenAVOIDANCE – conflict will go away if I ignore it, time will heal all woundsBARGAINING – a game where demands are traded and success relates to how much each party concedes, hagglingBANDAID – a quick fix, only dealing with surface issuesACQUIESCE – go along to keep the peace, may lead to passive aggression
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The Win/Win Approach
Cooperative approachGo back to underlying needsRecognize individual differencesOpenness to adapting positionEmpowers participantsGains commitment and increases motivationHelps people learn to work together
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Interpersonal ConflictCommon source of worksite conflictRelating well to people is a critical factor success in most jobsFlexibility to other’s style (not manipulation or conformity)
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Emotions During ConflictAngerFearHopelessnessFrustrationDisappointmentParanoia / suspicionJealousyShame
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Human Needs Affecting Conflict
PowerApprovalInclusionJusticeIdentity
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Dealing with Interpersonal Conflicts
Be aware of “fight or flight” responseOpenly address conflictBe sensitive to potential damageUse a problem-solving approach – look for SHARED GOALSListenBe Flexible
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The Art of Active ListeningMany interpersonal conflicts would not arise if we treated our co-workers with the same basic courtesies we extend to customers
No interruptingReflect back understanding of viewsAsk clarifying questionsReally listen, don’t prepare your rebuttal until you have HEARD the other personUse of “I” statements
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Clearing the A-I-RAppreciateExplicitly tell others you want to hear their point of view“I appreciate the opportunity to discuss this problem with you”
InquireThe other person has the floor – be an active listener“Let me make sure I understand your position:…”
RespondNow you have the floor“Now that I have a sense of your point of view, let me explain where I’m coming from”
From worksite Wars
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Questions to Take You Below the SurfaceCan you tell me what bothered you about what I did?What is the most important thing to you in solving this problem?Would you be willing to start again right now and do it differently?What would it take for you to let go of this conflict and feel that the issue has been completely resolved?
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Timing: When Do You Mediate a Construction Dispute?a. Pre-litigation?b. Post-petition?c. Pre-discovery?d. Post-discovery?e. Pre-trial?f. Post-verdict? (appeal)?
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Introduction to Mediation
Usually a process involving a neutral third party who helps disputing parties find solutions to contested issuesMediation is an emerging field of professional practiceSteps in mediation
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Mediation Process
Dialogue is directly between the disputants, about the specific issue to be resolvedCardinal rules:
Stay in the process (no walk-aways)No one-sided solutions (no power plays)
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Mediation StepsHold preliminary meetings with disputants
Hear each person’s side of the storyDefine the problemExplain the rulesAssess each party’s willingness to resolve the conflict
Hold three way meetingEncourage concilliation
Be quietDon’t give advice or opinionsDon’t propose solutions
“Let’s Make a Deal”Follow Up
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Team Conflict Mediation
Prevent problems in mediation meetingPersonalization – don’t allow people to use person insults and derogatory languageWithdrawal – don’t allow any one person to remain passiveScapegoating – don’t allow subgroups to “gang up” on others
Brainstorming OptionsSilent, individual generation of ideasRound robinVoting and ranking options
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Good Mediation Agreement
BalancedBehaviorally specificWritten
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Sample ADR clause (mediation)“In the event of a dispute or controversy arising out of the
interpretation or performance of this Agreement, the parties hereto agree to submit any and all disputes to mediation before a mutually agreed upon neutral third-party mediator prior to either party filing a demand for arbitration or a lawsuit in a court of competent jurisdiction. The fees and expenses of the mediator will be borne equally by the parties, and the mediationwill be conducted in Houston, Texas. If the parties cannot mutually agree upon a mediator, any sitting Civil District CourtJudge in Harris County may appoint one. If a party refuses to mediate within thirty (30) days of a written request to mediate by any party to this Agreement, then the non-participating party at mediation may not later recover its contractual or statutory attorney fees in a cause of action seeking relief or legal remedies for the matter giving rise to the mediation request.”
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Sample Court Order
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Rules for Mediation
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Helpful References
Conflict Resolution (2001) by Daniel DanaPeople Styles at Work (1996) by Robert Bolton & Dorothy Grover BoltonResolving Conflicts at Work (2005) by Kenneth Cloke & Joan Goldsmithworksite Wars and How to End Them (1994) by Kenneth Kaye
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Conflict Management
Conrad L. Tatnall, Esq.SCAO Approved Facilitative Mediator
Tatnall PLLC(517) 324-4223