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Getting Unstuck: Strategies for Repairing Trust in Groups
2016 Washington State Lean Conference
Dr. Wendy Fraser, Fraser Consulting, LLC
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Trust matters because…
Our entire system of daily living – the social order depends on trust – buying groceries, educating children, going to the doctor, paying taxes – almost all decisions involve trusting someone else.
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Source: Rotter (1971)
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Research: 8 Most Common Trust Violations
1. Disrespectful behaviors 89%
2. Communication issues 75%
3. Unmet expectations 61%
4. Ineffective leadership 61%
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5. Did not acknowledge part 50%
6. Performance issues 36%
7. Incongruence 18%
8. Structural issues 18%
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Reflect
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• What just happened?
• Why am I feeling this way?
• What bothers me the most about the situation?
• Can I see the situation from another angle?
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People have a tendency to talk about what other’s do.
But, we need to look at ourselves first.
Jones, 2015
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If your stuck…
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Bluma Zeigarnik, 1921
The Zeigarnik Effect states that people remember uncompleted or interrupted tasks better than completed tasks
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What does this mean for trust?
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Bluma Zeigarnik, 1921
We replay in our minds moments when we experienced trust violations.
It takes energy, time, and erodes our ability to focus on other things.
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Reflect
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• What did I do to contribute?
• What did others contribute?
• What is happening in the group or organization that is affecting us?
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B = f (p,e)
Kurt Lewin, 1936
BehaviorIs a function of the people in their environment
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The quality and productivity of any particular system is directly proportional to the quality of the connectedness within that system.
Broom & Seashore, 2013
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“What Google Learned From Its Quest to Build the Perfect Team” By CHARLES DUHIGGNew York Times, February 25, 2016
Critical: Psychological Safety
Critical: Understanding and being able to influence team normsTwo Behaviors surfaced: Turn taking and social sensitivity
Critical: Sharing a bit about yourself with each other
Important: Clear goals and a culture of dependability
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Understand
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Acknowledge your part and apologize as needed.
Work on getting clear about what happened.
Give each person a chance to share their perspective.
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We dance around a ring and suppose, while the truth sits in the middle and knows.
Robert Frost
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Celeste Headlee: 10 Ways to Have a Better Conversation
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TED talk filmed May 2015
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Kathryn Schultz “On Being Wrong”
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TED talk filmed March 2011
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Trusting too much in the feeling of being on the correct side of anything, can be very dangerous.
Schultz, 2011
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When we stop entertaining the possibility that we could be wrong, we wind up doing things like…torpedoing the global economy.
Schultz, 2011
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Repair
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Repairing trust takes courage And a mindset that human beings can evolve and change…
The question becomes: Who do I want to be today?
Be intentional... Make new agreements. How does it serve me to hold onto the past? What do I need to move forward?
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Train people for understanding rather than agreement.
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Johari Window
Joseph Luft & Harrington Ingham (1955)
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Describe an important experience in your lift and explain how that experience affects your values and behavior today.
2-3 minutes per person
In pairs…
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Research: Timing of the Violation(s) and Impact on Repair…
If the trust violation occurs later in the relationship
The greater opportunity for repair.
Why? Because trust gets stronger over time and it may be able to withstand challenges as it matures.
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Research: Timing of the Violation(s) and Impact on Repair…
How long does it take to repair trust?
6-36 monthsAverage Based on 2010 Trust Repair Study
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Research: The Art of the Apology (Lewicki, Polin, & Lount, 2016)
1. An expression of regret for the offense… “I’m sorry”
2. An explanation of why the offense occurred
3. An acknowledgement of responsibility for causing the offense
4. A declaration of “repentance” that the violator will not repeat the offense
5. An offer to repair whatever damage may have been caused by the offense
6. A request for forgiveness for having committed the offense
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Durable Resolution
Satisfaction Triangle
Substantive Satisfaction
(Right Stuff)
Psychological Satisfaction
(Feels Right)
Procedural Satisfaction
(Right Steps)
Forgive Me© Fraser, 2016
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Durable Resolution
Satisfaction Triangle
Substantive Satisfaction
(Right Stuff)
Psychological Satisfaction
(Feels Right)
Procedural Satisfaction
(Right Steps)DeclarationForgive Me
© Fraser, 2016
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Evolve
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