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Introduction to Pastoral Care
October 15, 2012
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Shadowlands
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Human Suffering
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Why?
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Psalms 46: 1-3 & 8-11Isaiah 43: 1-3Mark 4:35--40
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Stay Calm
Help People Manage Their Fears & Anxiety
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Regressive Society
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Regressive Society
• Reactivity• Herding• Blaming• Quick Fix• Lack of Well-Differentiated Leadership
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When the anxiety of a community goes up.
• We don’t listen well & we aren’t interested in the concerns of others.
• We focus on what we think are the problems other people have rather than focusing on our own issues.
• We try to change “them” rather than focusing on changing “us”.
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When the anxiety of a community goes up.
• We aren’t open about what our real concerns are.
• We don’t think reasonably or objectively.• We become less flexible.• We get defensive and determine to win at all
costs.• We make monsters out of those with an
opposing opinion.
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When the anxiety of a community goes up.
We don’t look for common ground and we refuse to work together toward a solution to
the situation.
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“When one member of a family can calmly state his own
convictions and beliefs, and take action on his convictions without criticism of the beliefs of others &
without becoming involved in emotional debate,
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Then other family members will start the same process of
becoming more sure of self and more accepting of others.”
Murray Bowen
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Goals
1. Achieve an inner calmness – become less anxious.
2. Quit reacting to everything & everyone.3. Think through your own principles, beliefs
and convictions.4. State your own convictions & beliefs
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Goals
5. Take action on your beliefs & convictions.6. Refuse to criticize the beliefs of others.7. Refuse to get involved in emotional debate
with others who object to your beliefs.8. Stay connected and interested.
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Hospitals
• Don’t stay too long.• Don’t touch the bed.• Do pray.• Do listen.• Do care.
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Emergency Room
• Ask the nurse• Be courageous• Be considerate• Be calm
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Intensive Care
• Be considerate of the family regarding time limits or the number of people who can visit at one time.
• Talk to the nurse & follow hospital protocol.• Be perceptive regarding the needs of the
family.
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The Dying
Be a caring presence Reflect God
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Six Stages of Grief
• Denial• Anger• Bargaining• Depression• Acceptance• Christian Hope
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Funerals