Download - It’s about Respect
It’s about RespectIt’s about Respect
Michelle K. Brackin
Respect in the WorkplaceRespect in the Workplace
Culture of RespectWhat is RespectDiversityHarassment/DiscriminationWhat to do about it?
Culture Culture
Learned conscious and unconsciously behaviors for daily living– Use of silverware– Use of chopsticks– Wearing hats indoors – Wear to talk on your cell phone– Please /Thank you
Culture of RespectCulture of Respect
Respect – to show regard for others– Show – behaviors and words– Regard – recognizing– Others – human beings
ASC Culture of RespectASC Culture of Respect
We agree to show respect for all with our words and actions that reflect that we recognize other people as human beings
How do we do that?How do we do that?
Golden rule
Treat others as you want to be treated
The Golden Rule The Golden Rule Buddhism – Hurt not other in ways that
you yourself would find hurtful Udana-Varga 5:18
Christianity – So in everything, do to others what you would have them do to you, for this sums up the Law and the Prophets. MT 7:12
Islam – No one of you is a believer until he desires for his brother that which he desires for himself Sunnah
The Golden Rule The Golden Rule
Judaism – What is hateful to you, do not to your fellowman. That is the entire law; the rest is commentary. Shabbat 31a
Taoism – Regard your neighbor’s gain as your own gain and your neighbors loss as your own loss T’ai Shang Kan Ying P’ien
The Golden RuleThe Golden Rule
Treat human beings as you want to be treated as a human being
We are all the sameWe are all the sameHuman Beings
– Feelings/emotions– We all feel pain, we all bleed in we are cut – Work to provide for ourselves and our families– We expect to be treated with respect
At work In a restaurant At the bank At the doctor’s office
Respect Respect
Was there a culture of respect in the video?
DiversityDiversityBlack
White
Asian
City
Farm
Tall
ShortParent
Girlfriend
Husband
MaleFemale
Disabled
Native American
High School Graduate
Twenty
Fifty
American Citizen
Immigrant
Question?Question?
Is there anyone who wants to be treated with disrespect?
Culture of DisrespectCulture of Disrespect
Consciously or unconsciously learned behaviors that show we do not care that other people are human beings
We do not treat others as human beings that may be different
…… but all human beings want respect
In the News In the News
Syrian Ambassador killed and rioting in Pakistan, Egypt, Syria, and Iran
Video insulting the Prophet MohammadWere you offended by the video? Would you be offended by an insult to
something you hold sacred?
What happens when we do not…What happens when we do not…
….treat other human beings with respect Hurts others causing pain and suffering Devalues the person and their ideas Trivializes individuals’ accomplishments Causes us not to listen to them Excludes them from the team Wastes talent and time Energy spent earning the respect back Creates low morale for the subject and bystanders 10
Culture of Disrespect Culture of Disrespect
DiscriminationStereotypingHarassmentBullying
DiscriminationDiscrimination
Discrimination – with our words or actions we treat certain individuals or groups differently – ASC Services– ASC Workplace
In the News In the News Where is discrimination based on age
generally accepted?Premium increase 50% to 100% if you add
teenager to your car insurance.
StereotypesStereotypes*We give everyone
in a certain group the same attributes
*We are all different, even within groups
* We put others in boxes
StereotypesStereotypes
What ideas will not be heard because of stereotypes?
Harassment Harassment
Harassment – with our words or actions we make the workplace uncomfortable and hostile for individuals or groups
Harassment -Hostile EnvironmentHarassment -Hostile Environment
Unwanted and uncomfortablePhysicalVerbalVisual Request for sexual favors – Quid pro Quo
Harassment Harassment
Some harassment is simply not understanding what is disrespectful to others who are different
And some harassment is willful
Bullying Bullying
A form of harassment - the willful, conscious desire to hurt another and put him/her under stress – Social alienation - Jokes– Gossiping - Name calling– Embarrassing others - Physical violence– Rumors– Threats– Taking personal items 20
BullyingBullying Victims are often weaker or in
a position of subordination Acts out only when others are
not around Hiding their own inadequacies Research has shown are often
abusers of family members
In the News In the News
What are some bullying events in the news today?
Culture of Disrespect Culture of Disrespect
Illegal Behavior (stereotyping, discriminating,
harassment, bullying) that is based on race, gender, religion, national origin, age, sexual orientation, disability or martial status is illegal under state or federal law in the workplace
ASC - it is all disrespect Does not need to be based on protected class
Illegal Harassment Illegal Harassment
Asking for sexual favors in return for work privileges
So severe or numerous that it has the effect of altering terms and conditions of the workplace
Victims Perspective/ Reasonable person Unwelcomed
What is unacceptable at ASC?What is unacceptable at ASC?
ASCDisrespectful
Illegal
Unwelcomed
Change work conditions
Based on protected criteria
Severe/multiple occasions
Disrespect in the workplaceDisrespect in the workplace
“.. Harassment which creates a hostile or offensive environment for members of one group ….a requirement that a man or woman run a gauntlet of abuse in return for the privilege of being allowed to work and make a living can be demeaning and disconcerting …..”
Culture of respectCulture of respect
We agree to show respect for all with our words and actions that reflect that we recognize other people as human beings
Because we are diverse, respect may mean different things to different people
How do we learn about How do we learn about differences?differences?
Understand that differences existTalking with your coworkers and really
listening Being flexible to new ideas and ways of
doing thingsRead articles or watch television programs
that highlight other cultures
How to prevent disrespecting How to prevent disrespecting others others
Think before you speak – “Will this offend someone?” G-rated workplace Not everyone shares your attitudes and comfort levels Avoid negative comments about others
– She is really stupid– He is strange
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How to prevent disrespecting How to prevent disrespecting othersothers
Avoid spreading rumors and gossipJokes – fun or play is never at the expense
of someone elseNicknames should not be given
How to prevent disrespecting How to prevent disrespecting othersothers
Socialization in the workplace is normal; others are not:– Excessive displays of affection are not
professional– Asking someone out ?– Discussing bedroom activities or personal
hygiene at work
How to prevent disrespecting How to prevent disrespecting othersothers
Respect personal space; small work spaces Never assume touching is welcomeBeware of offensive gestures
– Remember other cultures interpret them differently
How to prevent disrespecting How to prevent disrespecting othersothers
Social Media as it affects the workplacePictures
– Defiling someone’s photo– Suggestive cartoons, calendars and other– Threats
What to do with disrespect?What to do with disrespect?
Disrespect based on the protect factors: race, gender, religion, national origin, age, sexual orientation, disability or martial status should be reported immediately to a manager, the Human Resources Manager or the Executive Director according the Non Discrimination Non Harassment Policy
Other DisrespectOther Disrespect
Address the person who is committing the disrespect because of non-protected factors– Pick a good time– Eliminate emotions – Be specific– Ask them to stop– Listen to the harasser’s response
DisrespectDisrespect
Don’t wait to say somethingIt does not go away; your reaction
reinforcesGreen light to keep on
Other disrespect Other disrespect
If the behavior continues or retaliation occurs when you confront non-protected disrespect please notify your manager, the Assistant Executive Director and the Executive Director.
I did not mean to disrespect youI did not mean to disrespect you
Accept their feelingsApologize for not understanding their point
of viewAgree not to do it again Do not repeat that behavior in the
workplace
ResponsibilityResponsibility
We are all responsible for the reasonable perceptions of our own behavior
Responsibilities Responsibilities
We are all responsible for establishing and maintaining respectful working relationships with coworkers and customers
Culture of Respect Culture of Respect
We agree to show respect for all with our words and actions that reflect that we recognize other people as human beings
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