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Pass the Mic:
Managing your response in challenging situations
Dy’an Marinos, EdD, NCC, CDP
Assistant Director
Division of Equity, Inclusion & Community Impact
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Inside Out(Pixar, 2015)
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Characters/Emotions
Joy
Sadness
Anger
Fear
Disgust
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Character Development
Dacher Keltner, PhD.
Prof. of Psychology at UC Berkley
Founder/Director of Greater Good Science Center
Study on power
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• How would you define “power?”
– Power is simply the ability to influence others(French & Raven, 1959).
• How would you define power in the workplace?
– Bestowed power – given by position or title
– Power earned when demonstrating expertise(Lister, 2019)
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How to Find Your Power (Keltner, 2016)
Not taken through force
Given by groups
Based on trust
Willingness to be influenced
This power provides ability to make lives better or worse
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It’s been said,
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The Voices/Emotions on the Board
Patience Anger Hurt
Wisdom
Kindness
Fear Apathy
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Time to Practice
Pass the Mic
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Patience Anger Hurt
Wisdom
Kindness
Fear Apathy
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SCENARIOS(RIVAS, 2019)
How would each board member respond? Who actually gets the mic?
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Scenario 1
A co-worker has an annoying habit and you can’t
stand it anymore.
Drama potential: Obsessively clicking pens. Playing music
too loudly. Chewing gum like a cow munching on grass. They
may seem like small habits, but they become unnerving when
you have to put up with it all for eight hours or more on a daily
basis. If you keep it all in, you may just lose it.
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Scenario 2
You suspect someone at work is working against you or talking about you behind your back.
Drama potential: Your paranoia gets the better of you. You’re put in defensive mode, and you begin actively working against the purported offender.
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Scenario 3
A co-worker or superior makes an inappropriate physical advance.
Drama potential: Similar to the broken office romance--but with potentially more nasty consequences--the unwanted pass can spawn gossip, discomfort, or even personal danger.
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Scenario 4
You’re asked to work on a collaborative project with co-workers with whom you don’t see eye-to-eye.
Drama potential: Group projects can be trying because in order for a group to work effectively, there needs to be a good mix of leadership, people willing to take direction, and so on. Most of the time, groups aren’t formed on such a basis, so there will always be group members butting heads. Sometimes group disagreement can escalate to extreme levels.
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Scenario 5
Work is tough, and you have a desire to vent.
Drama potential: What starts out as innocent venting about the trials of work can turn into full-blown complaining. A constant whiner will not only get a bad reputation at work, but he will also foster a very negative work environment. This slows productivity. And people will eventually have only you to complain about.
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When faced
with a
challenging
situation, think:
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Breathe Acknowledge Respond