here are 10 little changes that can make a big impact on reigniting that smolderingspark and each one delivers a special message that won’t be forgotten.
There are challenges involved inmaintaining any relationship, but none
requires more attention than a marriage.
Greet Your MateIt’s trite to say it, but oneof the simplest ways tofan the flames of your
marriage is to say “goodbye” when you part and“hello” when you come
together again. In reality,how much time does it
actually take to stop whatyou’re doing, offer a quickpeck and greet your mate.
The message: I miss youwhen we’re apart.
Be PresentFor those of you who are constantly engaged with your smart phone, PUT IT DOWN. Being present is how youlet your mate know that who they are, what they think and how they feel matters to you. When your matehas something to tell you, listen with all of your attention, not just part of it. The message: I respect you.
Say Thank youProper manners, in public,
dictate the use of “please”and “thank you” as you dobusiness and interact withothers. Do you use those
same manners at home? Doyou thank your mate forthe meal they prepared,
putting the dishes away ortaking out the trash? Do it,
and you’ll see a bigdifference. The message: I’m
grateful for you.
Say I'm Sorry
Nothing is more damaging toa relationship than to never
admit it when you arewrong. You might not “owe”your mate an apology, but
offering one, wheneveryou’re wrong, will prove
that you’re partneredequally. Keeping the
balance of equality willhead off a lot of future
disagreements. The message:We’re in this together.
Offer PositiveComments
This one can be as easy or ashard as you want to make it.The best way to apply it, is tomake a commitment to lookfor one positive thing thatyour mate has done or has
said each day, and then drawtheir attention to it. The more
you practice this, the moreresults you’ll see. The
Message: You’re valuable.
Swallow CritiquesOn the other side of the coin,is holding back those snide
critiques that serve nopurpose, but to tear down
your mate and, consequently,your marriage as well. Ninety
nine percent of thoseannoying things never need
to be pointed out. Catch moreflies with honey and just
swallow those critiques. Youwon’t deliver that negative
message.
Smile TogetherYou and your mate had plentyof things to smile about whenyou first fell head over heelsfor each other. Those things
are probably still there.Relive those moments
together and do things tocreate new ones. Or, just takea risk, look across the room
at your mate, bare thoseteeth and smile. The message:
I’m happy with you.
Forgive and ForgetThe two go hand in hand.
If you have reallyforgiven someone, then
you will forget the wrongthat they’ve done to you.
Conversely, if youcontinue to dwell on andharbor that wrong, then
you haven’t truly forgiventhem. If you want to see a
big impact on yourmarriage, do both. Themessage: I love you.
When you first fell in love with your mate, you couldn’t wait to get your paws on them. So,put your paws together and enjoy that simple little touch as you walk down the streettogether, when you’re shopping together or wherever you happen to be. There’s nothing
warmer than the hand of your mate. The message: I’m with you.
Hold Hands
Speak Well of Your MateAll too often, we run ourmates down in front of
other people. Whether yourmate is present when you do
it is immaterial. Weeventually begin to believewhat we say about them toothers. Speak well of themin the presence of others.
The message: You’re amazing.