Self Care for You and Your Loved One
It’s not being selfish
The Shores Mission Statement
To provide a safe, nurturing and loving
environment for our clients to heal from
addiction. We will treat all phases of the
disease using the most current medical,
physiological, psychological holistic and
spiritual approaches available to a team
of licensed and board certified
professionals.
The Shores Philosophy Is based upon the theory that addiction to alcohol
and other substances is a multi-fold disease:
physical, emotional, spiritual and psychological.
We believe that the recovery of every aspect of
the affected persons’ lives, as well as the lives of
their loved ones. We also realize that healing can
be a very difficult and painful process-much the
same as recovery from any other illness.
What is SelfishnessYOU
Causing further damage to oneself, others and relationships
Playing the Blame Game
Not making changes in old patterns
Not avoiding people, places, and things that are unhealthy
Doing for others and not yourself
YOUR LOVED ONE
It’s continuing in their addiction
Why is Your Self Care Important
During our loved one’s addiction we become estranged from healthy ways, and let fear and uncertainty in
We suffered from loneliness, guilt, resentment, stress, lack of sleep, and/or other health problems
We felt responsible for holding it all together and we may have felt victimized, angry and full of blame
Our health will be restored when you learn to take care of yourself
How to Care for YourselfTake responsibility for making yourself happy
Make time for yourself and do things that bring you pleasure and enjoyment
Community service where you have no expectations of getting anything in return
Set long term goals
Accept the imperfections you have and those of others
Don’t take things personally
Realize that it doesn’t matter what others think of you and what you are doing
Pay attention to your instincts and feelings
Take a long-hot bath, walk in nature, pray, meditate, listen to the ocean, pet a dog
Join mutual help groups
Stay away from drama and negativity as much as possible
Let go of what you cannot control
Learn how to communicate what you need
Learn to communicate what you want to say
Learn how to set limits
Learn how to take action
LET IT GO!
How Your Loved One Will Practice Self-Care
For our loved ones, their recovery must be the priority in their lives
Regular attendance at mutual care meetings
Regular meetings with their sponsor
Seeking out appropriate, sober, positive people, places, and things
Change what they must
Make amends
Be patient with themselves
Develop healthy habits- sleeping, eating, exercising, meditating, praying
Get regular medical checkups
Set realistic limits and goals
Practice stress reduction
Use their plan for dealing with cravings
Have a realistic relapse plan in place
Use the tools they have learned in treatment
