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Jayne Hardy
The SELF-CARE
Project
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First published in Great Britain in 2017 by Orion Spring an imprint of The Orion Publishing Group Ltd Carmelite House, 50 Victoria Embankment London EC4Y 0DZ
An Hachette UK Company
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Copyright © Jayne Hardy, 2017
The moral right of Jayne Hardy to be identified as the author of this work has been asserted in accordance with the Copyright, Designs and Patents Act of 1988.
All rights reserved. No part of this publication may be reproduced, stored in a retrieval system, or transmitted in any form or by any means, electronic, mechanical, photocopying, recording, or otherwise, without the prior permission of both the copyright owner and the above publisher of this book.
Illustrations by Dominic Hardy
A CIP catalogue record for this book is available from the British Library.
ISBN: 978 1 4091 7758 6
Printed in Italy
Every effort has been made to ensure that the information in the book is accurate. The information in this book may not be applicable in each individual case so it is advised that professional medical advice is obtained for specific health matters and before changing any medication or dosage. Neither the publisher nor author accepts any legal responsibility for any personal injury or other damage or loss arising from the use of the information in this book. In addition if you are concerned about your diet or exercise regime and wish to change them, you should consult a health practitioner first.
www.orionbooks.co.uk
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Times I've sucked at self-care
What it taught me
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Describe 10 interesting facts about YOU
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What balls are you juggling?
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We're rarely at the top of the pecking order, where we belong. Where do you feel you're currently at?
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Use the gauge below to mark how full, or un-full, your tank is right now.
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This is a monthly mood tracker. Decide on differing moods for your colour-coded key and
fill in an area of the fish a day, to represent the mood which summed up the day for you.
Mood key
eg. calm
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I want to do, be, have and feel
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Make a playlist of songs which inspire, uplift and make you smile
mix tape
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Pop your favourite quote/mantra in here
Then the things which calm, comfort and reassure in these:
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Take time to write down all the negative things you have been told:
Now scribble over them – they're NOt your truth. Pinky promise.
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What baggage are you carrying?
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What, or who, keeps getting in your way?
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counter-arguments for play.
‘Play’ encompasses any activities we do for no reason other
than we just want to. Playful activities rejuvenate us, bringing
joy and fun. Because we’re out of the ‘play’ loop, we don’t always
know where to start in reclaiming that playful nature of ours.
The answers lurk in our childhood shenanigans: blanket-fort
building, Lego, colouring in, hop scotch, painting, reading,
day-dreaming, noughts and crosses, Buckaroo, tree climbing,
blowing bubbles, writing stories, reading . . . whatever brings back
nostalgic, meaningful memories of play for you. Start there.
Find an image, or draw an image which respresents how you feel right now
Do the same for how you'd like to feel
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's favourite things
[your name here]
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Use the boxes below to describe yourself in 10 positive words
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We all have fears, use the signposts to name yours
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Name your acts of bravery
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The micro steps
Your goal
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What 'self-care' acts are taking your fancy?12345
How will you make time for them?12345
Quick! Pop them into your calendar/schedule.
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Plan your ideal 'self-care' day –each ray represents
an hour
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To do
D A Y P L A N
The best bit:
Self-care shenanigans:
OVERALL FEELING
The worst bit:
Drinks
Sleep
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Who lifts you up?
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Who holds you back?
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What's missing? What support do you need?
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Consider this: what advice would your elder-self give you right now? Pop it in the box below.
That older self of yours is a wise 'ol owl
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Make a list of the things that comfort you on lemon-pelting days
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My self-care declaration
I promise to:
I will remember to:
At all times, particularly in times of stress or uncertainty, I will:
I will try my absolute hardest to:
I will choose kindness. Always.
Signed:
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Reflect on the things you enjoyed as a child
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What's worrying you? Brain-dump in the space below.
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Consider your bedtime routine. How could it be tweaked to promote shuteye?
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Self-care toolkit. What tools are in yours?
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Your Emergency Self-Care Plan
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Headspace: www.headspace.com
I find their blog articles incredibly insightful and they aid reflection.
Living Life: www.llttf.com
I’ve used the CBT modules many a time, and will continue to do so.
Samaritans: www.samaritans.org
I’m not ashamed to admit that I have called the Samaritans before and
wouldn’t hesitate to do so again – for a dose of empathy and advice in
the darkest of times. Lifesavers.
I’m Alive: www.imalive.org
7 Cups of Tea: www.7cups.com
For the times anxiety has made using the telephone a really scary
thing to do, I’ve used these sources of online support and they’ve been
incredible. Lifesavers.
Self-Compassion: www.self-compassion.org
I am getting much better at practising self-compassion and find that
reading this website helps me strive to be better at it. Always a work in
progress, right?!
Thrive Global: www.thriveglobal.com
Don’t we all want to thrive? I dip in and out of this website a lot as
I love learning and reading other people’s perspectives on some of
the problems I face.
Quiet Revolution: www.quietrev.com
It took me years to realise that one of the reasons I didn’t feel as though
I fitted in was because I was an introvert with lots of extroverted friends.
It’s been liberating to learn about introversion and how schools, etc are
biased towards extroversion.
Calm: www.calm.com
My go-to meditation and mindfulness app. I love that the recordings
address the difficulties that we may have when we begin meditating –
I don’t find it easy at all and Tamara totally lets me off the hook for that
which means I embrace the quiet and solitude with very little beating
myself up going on.