WELCOME PARENTS, FAMILIES AND FRIENDS
WELCOME PARENTS, FAMILIES AND FRIENDS
Presentation byWilliam A. Erb
DirectorStudent Health Services
Presentation byWilliam A. Erb
DirectorStudent Health Services
Transition To and Through University
Transition To and Through University
Beginning at a University is a time of transition
Transition to a university setting can be viewed as a process in which physical, spiritual, mental, emotional, social and career/occupational changes occur
There are two types of change that face young adults: Rights of Passage and Campus Passages
Beginning at a University is a time of transition
Transition to a university setting can be viewed as a process in which physical, spiritual, mental, emotional, social and career/occupational changes occur
There are two types of change that face young adults: Rights of Passage and Campus Passages
Rights of Passage Rights of Passage
1. Leaving Home 2. Establishing Autonomy and Self-sufficiency 3. Achieving Emotional Independence 4. Handling Personal Freedom 5. Developing An Independent Value System 6. Developing Relationship Skills 7. Establishing a Personal Identity 8. Preparing to Enter the Work World
1. Leaving Home 2. Establishing Autonomy and Self-sufficiency 3. Achieving Emotional Independence 4. Handling Personal Freedom 5. Developing An Independent Value System 6. Developing Relationship Skills 7. Establishing a Personal Identity 8. Preparing to Enter the Work World
Campus PassagesCampus Passages
1. Separating From Home 2. Competing In a New Environment 3. Managing Academic Demands 4. Adjusting To Free Time 5. Developing Healthy Social Relationships 6. Selecting A Major Field Of Study 7. Choosing A Healthy Lifestyle
1. Separating From Home 2. Competing In a New Environment 3. Managing Academic Demands 4. Adjusting To Free Time 5. Developing Healthy Social Relationships 6. Selecting A Major Field Of Study 7. Choosing A Healthy Lifestyle
Parenting 101:Parenting 101:
The fine art of Letting GoThe fine art of Letting Go
REMEMBER THIS IS A TRANSITION FOR BOTH YOU AND YOUR CHILD
REMEMBER THIS IS A TRANSITION FOR BOTH YOU AND YOUR CHILD
Adjusting to ChangesAdjusting to Changes
Things to realize…You’re on a new path, tooYour child needs different things
from you nowThe key is keeping communication
going
Things to realize…You’re on a new path, tooYour child needs different things
from you nowThe key is keeping communication
going
What Families Might Experience
What Families Might Experience
Profound Sense of Loss Extraordinary Sense of Pride Redefined Roles Fear of Failure Joy Trepidation and Worry Resentment Confusion Surprise
Profound Sense of Loss Extraordinary Sense of Pride Redefined Roles Fear of Failure Joy Trepidation and Worry Resentment Confusion Surprise
Conversations You Have to Have
Conversations You Have to Have
Preventing sexual assault Intimacy and self-respect Drinking and drugs Your expectations – academic & otherwise Facebook and MySpace Money Express Unconditional love
Preventing sexual assault Intimacy and self-respect Drinking and drugs Your expectations – academic & otherwise Facebook and MySpace Money Express Unconditional love
MAINTAIN A SUPPORTIVE
RELATIONSHIP WITH YOUR CHILD
MAINTAIN A SUPPORTIVE
RELATIONSHIP WITH YOUR CHILD
Let your child make mistakes and stay calm
Listen when the complaints come Instead of trying to fix it convey
confidence in their ability
Let your child make mistakes and stay calm
Listen when the complaints come Instead of trying to fix it convey
confidence in their ability
MAINTAIN REGULAR CONTACT WITH YOUR
CHILD BUT ALSO ALLOW SPACE FOR YOUR CHILD
TO APPROACH YOU
MAINTAIN REGULAR CONTACT WITH YOUR
CHILD BUT ALSO ALLOW SPACE FOR YOUR CHILD
TO APPROACH YOU
AVOID “INQUISITOR” MODE QUESTIONS
AVOID “INQUISITOR” MODE QUESTIONS
BE REALISTIC AND SPECIFIC WITH YOUR
CHILD ABOUT FINANCIAL ISSUES
BE REALISTIC AND SPECIFIC WITH YOUR
CHILD ABOUT FINANCIAL ISSUES
BE REALISTIC ABOUT YOUR CHILD’S ACADEMIC
PERFORMANCE
BE REALISTIC ABOUT YOUR CHILD’S ACADEMIC
PERFORMANCE
REFRAIN FROM BURDENING YOUR CHILD WITH PROBLEMS FROM
HOME OVER WHICH THEY HAVE NO CONTROL
REFRAIN FROM BURDENING YOUR CHILD WITH PROBLEMS FROM
HOME OVER WHICH THEY HAVE NO CONTROL
ENCOURAGE YOUR CHILD TO USE THE RESOURCES OF THE UNIVERSITY TO
SOLVE HIS/HER PROBLEMS
ENCOURAGE YOUR CHILD TO USE THE RESOURCES OF THE UNIVERSITY TO
SOLVE HIS/HER PROBLEMS
TRY TO AVOID MAKING MAJOR CHANGES IN THE
HOME ENVIRONMENT DURING THE FIRST YEAR
TRY TO AVOID MAKING MAJOR CHANGES IN THE
HOME ENVIRONMENT DURING THE FIRST YEAR
ENCOURAGE YOUR CHILD TO GET INVOLVED
ENCOURAGE YOUR CHILD TO GET INVOLVED
TRUST YOUR CHILDTRUST YOUR CHILD
MAKING MISTAKES IS
PART OF THE PROCESS
MAKING MISTAKES IS
PART OF THE PROCESS
DO YOUR BEST TO DEVELOP AND MAINTAIN
YOUR OWN SOCIAL SUPPORT
DO YOUR BEST TO DEVELOP AND MAINTAIN
YOUR OWN SOCIAL SUPPORT
Keep On Laughing!Keep On Laughing!
A sense of humor is essentialKeep problems in perspectiveUse humor to defuse conflict and
tensionLaugh with, not at
A sense of humor is essentialKeep problems in perspectiveUse humor to defuse conflict and
tensionLaugh with, not at
Remember:Remember:
These are good problems!Seek support for yourselfGive “just enough” to your childKeep laughing!
These are good problems!Seek support for yourselfGive “just enough” to your childKeep laughing!