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Expand Her Orgasm Tonight! The 21‐Day Program for Partners Expanded Orgasm Report
Report 1: How Expanded Orgasm Can Take Your Love Life to the Next Level—and Beyond!
With “Dr. Patti” (Patricia Taylor, PhD)Author of Expanded Orgasm
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What is Expanded Orgasm and How Will I Benefit from Learning It?
I’m very glad you asked! Expanded Orgasm has changed my life, and I’ve
delighted in watching it change the lives of many, many individuals and
couples—for the (way) better.
I’d like to give you a sense of how Expanded Orgasm can change your life
for the better, too. As you might expect, Expanded Orgasm can
supercharge your erotic (sexual energy) experience. In fact, Expanded
Orgasm has the potential to infuse your erotic life with a level of pleasure
and passion that you may only have dreamed of, or perhaps that you have
found only for fleeting moments.
But Expanded Orgasm can infuse all aspects of your life with energy and
delight. Imagine what having pleasurable energy and delight “on tap”
could do for your love‐relationship, your health and well‐being, and even
your work!
In this three‐part series of Expanded Orgasm Reports, I’ll share with you
just what Expanded Orgasm is, how it relates to (yet is different from)
other kinds of orgasm (yes, there are several kinds of orgasm—how
wonderful!) and a bit of how you can get a taste of Expanded Orgasm
yourself.
In your first Report, How Expanded Orgasm Can Take Your Love Life to
the Next Level—and Beyond, you’ll learn that there are many
(wonderful!) kinds of orgasms, and what makes each special. That will
prepare you to learn about Expanded Orgasm!
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When you learn Expanded Orgasm, you’ll quickly discover that you and
your partner enter the realm of Expanded Orgasm together, even if (in
manual play, our focus in this course) you are the “giver” and she is the
“receiver.” You both take the ride! My partner loves bringing me into
Expanded Orgasm because he gets to go there too. He feels me feeling
him! Can you imagine how much he loves that? In your second Report,
you’ll learn about Touching for Rapture—the surest kind of touch to
transport you both into Expanded Orgasm bliss.
In your third Report, I’ll introduce you to one of the most powerful
techniques for bringing your partner into Expanded Orgasm, and keeping
her there. We call this technique The Power and Pleasure of Orgasmic
Peaking.
I’ll bet you’re ready to get started!
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REPORT 1: HOW EXPANDED ORGASM CAN TAKE YOUR
LOVE LIFE TO THE NEXT LEVEL—AND BEYOND!
What is Expanded Orgasm?
It will be easier for you to understand Expanded Orgasm if I first contrast it
with other kinds of orgasm. Let’s start with “Regular Orgasm”—the type
you’re probably most familiar with.
Okay, What is a Regular Orgasm?
Regular Orgasm is the “typical” male orgasm, though most women
experience this type of orgasm, too, though it may take longer than it does
for a man, and women often like to experience a longer climb with more
plateaus.
In Regular Orgasm, the experience is focused in the genitals, ending with a
kind of explosion or intense climax with 8 to 10 contractions of the pelvic
muscles. These contractions are about a second apart, and are usually
intensely pleasurable.
The famous sex researches from the 60s, Masters and Johnson, described
four stages of Regular Orgasm.
These four stages have some interesting names:
- Excitement
- Plateau
- Orgasm
- Resolution
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Here’s a diagram to help you visualize these phases.
REGULAR ORGASMREGULAR ORGASM
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You can see that the amount (level) of arousal (sexual pleasure and
interest) increases with stimulation (time), climbs to a plateau, then
climaxes, and finally declines (usually pretty quickly, especially in men).
In the excitement phase, you see signs of arousal starting to happen, like
increasing vaginal lubrication – that’s when she starts getting wet! This is
when a man becomes hard (engorged). The pleasure can build slowly at
first, and then accelerates.
In the plateau phase, you see changes in heart rate and respiration—so
that’s where all the breathing intensifies…. The woman becomes engorged
(her vaginal lips and those deeper places become swollen with blood.
Some men start to “leak” clear somewhat sticky fluid at this point. In
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Regular Orgasm, the arousal keeps building, reaching a “point of
inevitability”—a point of no return….
Then there’s the orgasm phase which is self‐explanatory and I’ve already
described the typical 8 to 10 second climax. Sometimes (especially if
there’s been lots of foreplay and time to build arousal) this kind of climax
can seem to fill the whole body with massive and pleasurable release.
And in the resolution phase you have rapid relaxation and a drop in blood
pressure, slowing breathing, and other signs of decreasing arousal. The
engorgement fades quickly (more quickly, usually for men). People differ
in their responses to this phase—some like to cuddle, some prefer quiet
time by themselves, or to drift into a reverie or sleep.
Picture a Regular Orgasm like climbing a mountain… you climb, enjoy the
peak briefly, and then come down the other side.
Multiple Orgasms and Extended Orgasms
In a Multiple Orgasm, the woman receives genital stimulation, has a
Regular Orgasm, mmmm, it feels really good, too! Then, she starts down
the other side of the mountain … but not all the way, and then she starts
climbing up again. She can then experience another climax, or peak. Yum!
She will have two or more peaks and when she is done coming, she’ll
return all the way down the other side of the mountain (the resolution
phase). Some men can experience Multiple Orgasms, too, but usually
when they’re young ‘n horny (though many men can learn Multiple
Orgasm with proper training).
On the following page is a diagram of Multiple Orgasm.
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MULTIPLE ORGASMMULTIPLE ORGASM
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ORGASMORGASMORGASMORGASM
Now, in Extended Orgasm when a woman reaches the peak of the
experience, she stays there, having a prolonged orgasmic climax. She is
literally “hanging out at the edge.”
Think of Extended Orgasm as an orgasm in which a woman stays in the
over‐the‐edge state for longer than the typical 8 or 10 seconds. There may
be some fluctuation in intensity and/or sensation... an Extended Orgasm
can last for 20 seconds, a minute, or even several minutes.
Now let’s look at a diagram of Extended Orgasm on the next page.
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EXTENDED ORGASMEXTENDED ORGASM
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It’s a little challenging to do Extended Orgasm justice with a diagram.
Imagine that plateau wavering, maybe climbing to a new plateau before
going “over the edge.”
I’m sure you will agree, these are all wonderful types of orgasm. By the
way, you can learn more about these types of orgasm in the video tutorials
in my Expand Her Orgasm Tonight! The 21‐Day Program for Partners.
OK, I’m Ready to Learn About Expanded Orgasm!
An Expanded Orgasm will often include one (or more) of the above types
of orgasms, but… it has both profound and delicious characteristics that go
far beyond.
First, in these non‐expanded orgasms that I just described, the main
dimension is time.
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An Expanded Orgasm is an experience that happens in both time and
space. In Expanded Orgasm, you are expanding the pleasure you feel in
your genitals into the entire space of your body, through your mind, into
the dimension of your emotions, and into the expanding of your
awareness.
These mounting feelings of bliss spill out into your partner, into the space
around you, and into your very spirit.
In Expanded Orgasm, you have the sense of a cup filling up, and at the very
same time, the cup is growing to the size of a coliseum … with energy
currents running from head to toe. It’s as if your very body has enlarged
enormously, and all of it is filled to spill‐over with profound erotic
pleasure.
Here is a diagram of Expanded Orgasm:
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ORGASMORGASM
EXPANDED ORGASMEXPANDED ORGASM
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The climbing thick wavy line conveys how arousal keeps getting higher and
higher—much higher in fact than in Regular Orgasm. There are many
plateaus followed by more climbing. But as I said, Expanded Orgasm
happens not only in time, but also in space! The dotted wavy lines are
intended to illustrate the Expanded Orgasm experience of expanding way
out in space. In Expanded Orgasm you have a sense of not only filling your
body with great pleasure, but of making a larger body to fill.
I’d like to give you a sense of what it takes to create these mind blowing
orgasms. As your partner stimulates you—puts pleasurable attention on
you—you can spread the rising pleasure energy through your body. One
way to do this is to breathe it up and through your whole body, as you
relax more and more into the feeling. I call this “falling into climbing.” It’s a
kind of surrender to pleasure.
You can also learn to spread orgasmic sensations through your emotional
being, opening your heart to feelings as they arise, as you relax into them.
Not only is this incredibly pleasurable, but it’s a wonderful and powerful
way for you to connect with each other.
Your awareness goes very deeply into the richness of the current moment,
and then expands to the deepest reaches of the galaxy. In this state,
people report moving and profound experiences.
Something Else I want You to Know About Expanded Orgasm
Let’s begin by looking at the generally accepted definition of orgasm—
developed by the pioneering sex researchers Masters and Johnson.
I call the Masters and Johnson's model “The male model of orgasm”,
because they patterned their definition of orgasm on the standard male
experience.
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That experience is the climb, plateau, climax, and come down again
model. For years both men and women have been defining and judging
their orgasmic experiences by this standard. While this is a valid and
sometimes useful model of orgasm… it can also be constraining … if it's the
only model you have.
Expanded Orgasms begin by making a choice… a choice to start noticing
and approving of the first good sensation that you feel in your crotch. You
then notice and approve of all the pleasurable sensations that follow.
When you do this, you relax; you open up the feeling channels in your
body, and start a delicious feedback cycle. I encourage everyone to let go
of their prejudices that say orgasm has to be or look a certain way. Begin
expanding your mind… and body… as to how it can look and feel for you
and your partner.
What Is The Cost of Clinging to the Standard Definition of Orgasm?
When a woman’s orgasms aren’t distinguished properly, and therefore not
validated, she could be having profound orgasms, and just not
acknowledging them! Now, please don’t get me wrong. I am not saying
she is not enjoying these orgasms! But, I have had many women (and their
partners) come to me with this kind of needless “orgasm performance
anxiety”. What's equally troubling is that by not approving and validating
what you actually perceive (though under the surface of awareness), your
orgasms cannot start getting better.
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Approving of the pleasurable sensation you feel in your body is the first
step in creating, and having, mind blowing orgasms.
Since it's possible that you can have an Expanded Orgasm from the
moment you are touched, doesn’t it make sense to allow yourself to feel
pleasure right away? And isn’t it great to know there’s no limit to how high
you can get?
Learn this practice with a beginner’s mind… and don’t ever stop learning.
This is the very attitude I take into my own practice… curiosity and true
openness to how can I do this as a truly great art? And what new
technique can I learn today? As well as how much fun can I have and how
good can it feel?
With practice, you can enter an Expanded Orgasm state almost
immediately. And it does take practice. Fortunately the practice is a lot of
fun. In the second and third parts of this Report, I’ll give you two very
enjoyable practices you can do right away.
Now, when you’re ready, please turn to your second Expanded Orgasm
Report: Touching for Rapture!
Happy exploring!
Dr. Patti
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