eltm31 is it misbehavior? entry-level training module iii: lesson two
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ELTM3 1
Is it Misbehavior?
Entry-Level Training Module III:
Lesson Two
ELTM3 2
Positive Guidance
“What is wrong with these kids?”
“If their parents would only…”
“When I was a child we would have never…”
1. “What behaviors do YOU find challenging?
2. “Where do these behaviors come from?
ELTM3 3
Mistaken Goals
Everyone has the need to belong, to feel a sense of worth and significance.
When we don’t feel a sense of belonging, we can become discouraged and look for ways to feel like we belong.
When a child becomes discouraged, s/he will often misbehave.
ELTM3 4
Goals of Misbehavior
Attention
Power
Revenge
Fear of failure/inadequacy
ELTM3 5
Causes of Misbehavior
1. Developmental Stage?2. Individual difference/temperament?3. Environment?4. New/unfamiliar skill/task or misunderstanding?5. Unmet emotional need?
1. Attention (1x)2. Power (10x)3. Revenge (100x)4. Fear of failure (1000x)
ELTM3 6
Professional Discipline Strategies are...
based on knowledge of children's needs and developmental appropriateness (observe the child, know the child)
nurturing and empathetic (know your hot buttons)
objective, focused on the things we actually see and hear
used to promote high self-esteem
recognized as having a powerful impact on children
consistent with parents’ discipline style (whenever possible)
ELTM3 7
What to Expect from Infants
No intentional behavior before 8-10 monthsNo self-control, all reflexive or reactive behaviorsKicks and flails when angry, gets angry over discomfort, boredom, may have tantrumsWithdraws from adults when over-stimulated, tired, distressed, or adult is unfamiliarExplores objects by mouthing, biting, shaking, banging, and throwingEats with hands, smears food all over
ELTM3 8
What to Expect from Toddlers
Constantly on the move, exploring (learning)
Loves to dump, pour, carry objects
Impulsive, possessive, aggressive
Interested in cause and effect, beginning to develop some self-control
Easily overwhelmed, frustrated (tantrums)
Uses a “love object” for comfort (blanket, bear, etc.)
Separation anxiety
Imitates everything, tries to be a big girl or big boy
ELTM3 9
What to Expect from Preschoolers
Makes intentional choicesCan verbalize needs and desiresStill egocentric, gets angry when doesn’t get his/her wayAggressive, competitive, intenseCan’t distinguish between intentional/unintentional behaviorPeer relationships are volatile (on again, off again)
ELTM3 10
What to Expect from School-agers
Less physically active
Still aggressive, mostly verbally
May sulk and hold grudges
Wants to be first, best, everything must be fair
Begins to use logic, argue with authority
Friendships are becoming extremely important
Increased self-control
ELTM3 11
Increasing Cooperation and Self-Control
Respond positively to the child
Demonstrate sensitivity
Demonstrate acceptance of the child
Show affection, appreciation
Cooperate with the child
Use positive communication
Teach cooperation and conflict resolution