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Emerging Leaders
Programme
Workshop 1
Leading Self
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Contents
What do I want to lead for? ......................................................................................................................................... 3
Self-Awareness ............................................................................................................................................................... 4
Strategies to develop self-awareness ................................................................................................................. 4
The Johari Window .................................................................................................................................................. 5
Using the Johari Window to increase self-awareness ................................................................................... 7
Your Johari Window ................................................................................................................................................ 8
Understanding and managing emotions .............................................................................................................. 10
The impact of feelings on performance............................................................................................................ 10
Channels of emotions ............................................................................................................................................. 10
Understanding the consequences of an emotional event: ........................................................................ 11
Self Confidence ............................................................................................................................................................. 15
Understanding your strengths............................................................................................................................. 15
Imposter Syndrome ................................................................................................................................................. 16
Self-Motivation .............................................................................................................................................................. 17
Final reflections: ........................................................................................................................................................... 19
The Window to Opportunity ...................................................................................................................................... 20
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Fundamental 1:
What do I want to lead for?
Think about your key values and what you want to lead for.
If you were to look back 15 years from now, how would you like people to
remember you as a leader?
What are your 3-5 core values that influence your leadership?
What is your Why?
Notes from Simon Senek video.
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Fundamental 2:
Self-Awareness Self-awareness refer to the ability to recognise how you’re feeling and why you’re feeling
that way, and the impact your behaviour has on others. Self-awareness is also about
developing the ability to use gut feelings to guide your decisions.
Self- awareness is the foundation from which we can begin to manage ourselves and
manage the interactions we have with others. Being personally and interpersonally
aware is truly a key skill in being an effective leader and the foundation from which to
build other skills. Only once I have an awareness of myself – of my abilities,
weaknesses, emotions, what motivates me, what frustrates me, can I then go on start
to self-manage my responses and my emotions, and further understand my impact on
others and how to improve interpersonal relationships.
Strategies to develop self-awareness
Johari’s window is a technique that can be used to develop self-awareness. Further detail
on this can be found later in the workbook. Other strategies include personality
questionnaires, 360 feedback and positive affirmations.
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The Johari Window
One of the single biggest predictors of leadership success is the degree to which a
leader knows themself and is aware of their strengths, weaknesses and the impact they
have on others. The process of giving and receiving feedback is an extremely
important factor in this process and indeed in any situation where we are working with
other people. It is through feedback that we gain the insight to “see ourselves as others
see us”. It is also through feedback that we let others know how we see them. The
process of giving and receiving can be illustrated by a model called the Johari Window,
originally developed by two psychologists: Joe Luft and Harry Ingham (1955). The
model can be seen as a window for communication through which you give and receive
information about yourselves and others
The model is shown below:
Looking at the four panes of the window in terms of columns and rows, the two columns
represent the SELF and the two rows represent OTHERS. The first column contains things
“I know about myself”, and the second column contains things “I don’t know about myself”.
The first row contains things “others know about me”, and the second row contains things
“others don’t know about me”.
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The four quadrants in brief:
1) The KNOWN AREA contains the things I know about myself and which other people
also know. It is an area characterised by free and open exchange of information between
myself and others. The behaviour here is public and open to everyone. The KNOWN AREA
increases in size as the level of trust increases between individuals and more information,
particularly relevant information, is shared.
2) The BLIND SPOT contains information "I don’t know about myself but which others may
know". As I begin to participate more I communicate all kinds of information of which I am
not aware, but which is picked up by others. This information may be in the form of: verbal
cues, mannerisms, the way I say things, body language, and the style in which I relate to
others.
The extent to which we are insensitive to much of our own behaviour, and what it may
communicate to others, can be surprising, disconcerting, exciting and developmental if we
are willing to listen.
3) The HIDDEN AREA involves things "I know about myself but of which others are
unaware". For one reason or another I keep this information to myself. My fear may be that
if others knew about my thoughts, feelings, perceptions, opinions, desires and values they
may reject, disapprove, attack, discount or hurt me in some way there are also things which
I will quite legitimately want to keep to myself. As a consequence I withhold this information.
It may be that I don’t see the supportive elements in other people. My assumptions may be
that, if I start revealing my private self, others will judge me negatively.
4) The UNKNOWN AREA contains things that neither I, nor others, know about me. Some
of this information may be so far below the surface that I may never become aware of it.
Other material, however, may be below the surface of awareness to myself and others, but
it can be made public through an exchange of feedback. This area may represent such
things as: early childhood memories, conditioned responses, latent potential,
unrecognised resources, how I might behave in certain situations in the future.
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Using the Johari Window to increase self-awareness
The information contained in these rows and columns is not static but moves from one
pane to another as levels of trust and honesty and the exchange of feedback, attitudes
and opinions vary between people. As a consequence of this movement, the size and
shape of the panes within the window will vary, as shown below:
When working with others, especially as a leader, our aim should be to provide feedback
to each other where appropriate. This process helps to reduce an individual’s Blind Spot,
giving him/her information about themselves that they did not know before, as well as
increasing the size of the Known Area.
A second way to increase openness in the relationship is to encourage the individual to
reduce their Hidden Area. In other words, encouraging him/her to disclose information
about themselves (perhaps their feelings or reactions about their performance, their
perceptions or motivations), or by giving feedback to you.
Using this effective two-way feedback process, other information that may have been in
the Unknown quadrant may begin to surface. For example, the individual may become
aware of his/her potential or talent in a particular task as a result of guidance and
encouragement from you.
In order for this two-way feedback process to be effective, the individual must develop a
receptive attitude and actively encourage feedback from you as the leader, as well as
trusting in you and the feedback you give him/her. In turn, as the leader, you need to
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develop and foster an atmosphere of trust and openness in the relationship. In terms of the
Johari Window, the Known Area increases in size as the level of trust increases between
individuals and more information is shared.
Your Johari Window
• Known Area: What behaviours do you want people to see at work?
• Hidden area: What information is known to you but hidden to others; how might people
experience that?
• What might people see that you don't know about? What type of feedback have you had that
perhaps you disagree with?
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Known Area
Blind Spot
Hidden Area
Unknown Area
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Fundamental 3
Understanding and managing emotions
Self-Regulation/self-management of emotions allows you to select the particular emotion
you wish to experience at a given moment, in a particular situation. This process takes a
lot of practice and a considerable amount of self-control, but mastering it will allow you to
take ownership of your emotions. It needs to be noted, however, that self-regulation is more
than merely ignoring negative emotions. It is an active process that takes considerable
training and focus to accomplish.
The impact of feelings on performance
In a study done by the Hay Group in nineteen insurance companies, they found that the climate created by the CEOs among their direct reports predicted the business performance of the entire organisation. In 75 percent of cases, climate alone accurately sorted companies into high versus low profits and growth. “In cardiac care units where the nurses’ general mood was ‘depressed’, the death rate among patients was four times higher than on comparable units”. (Schneider & Boven). “Upbeat moods make people more optimistic about the ability to achieve a goal, enhance creativity and decision-making skills, and predispose people to be helpful”. (Fisher & Noble) “Research on humour at work reveals that a well-timed joke or playful laughter can stimulate creativity, open lines of communication, enhance a sense of connection and trust, and make work more fun”. (Clause & Spurgeon) A study by Barsade, Warde et al done amongst CEOs and their top teams, found that the
better they worked together, the better the company’s business results. The converse had
a direct negative impact on the company’s market return. Unfortunately the person with the
lowest EQ in the group determines the base line at which a team functions!
Channels of emotions
Emotions express themselves through three channels, physically, in our thoughts, and in
our impulses. You can learn how to identify your feelings by paying attention to these
channels as they provide essential cues about what you are feeling.
Physical sensations - All emotions have some kind of physical expression. Each emotion
will have its own way of showing up in your body’s reaction. Different people react to the
same emotion with different physical sensations. Some people may feel tension in their
forehead while others may feel it in their lower back or with an upset stomach. Many of
your body’s reactions, which (up to now) you may have thought were just stray physical
events, are actually signals to you that you are experiencing some kind of emotion. In fact,
some physical illnesses result from chronic feelings, such as anger or anxiety that go
unrecognized. The toll of chronic physical reactions accumulates until real damage is done.
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Thoughts - Emotions prioritise our thoughts. You can’t focus on everything at every
moment. What do you select? You focus on whatever is most emotionally relevant to you
at the time. Thus, your thoughts can help you know what you are feeling. Here are some
examples:
If you find that your focus is on all the negative characteristics of the person across your
desk, it might indicate that you are angry with that person. If you find that your focus is on
lost opportunities, it might be a signal that you are feeling sad or regretful. If you find that
your focus is on threats, you might be feeling anxious.
Impulses - Emotions create an impulse to act. You might not follow through with the
impulse but you can still notice that you “feel like” doing this or that Here are some
examples:
If you feel like hitting, you are probably angry.
If you feel like crying, you may be sad or frustrated.
If you feel like running, running, running, you may be experiencing anxiety.
A good thing about being aware of your feelings is that you can identify your impulses
earlier. That way you can have more control over which impulses your good judgment
allows you to indulge and which ones are best put away.
Understanding the consequences of an emotional event:
One way to start understanding emotions and the impact they can have is to look at the
consequences that occur following a particular emotion. From the original feeling that you
might experience, this can develop into related thoughts, actions and results for you.
For example, you might have a presentation to do that you are particularly nervous about.
The pattern would look something like this:
LONG TERM
RESULT
IMMEDIATE
RESULTACTIONTHINKINGFEELING
Anxious about
presenting
Has to keep on doing
presenting
Embarrassed
Disappointed in self
Panic
Stutters
Forgets key points
Fear of failure
So much at stake
Anxious
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The emotion you feel first could be anxiety, this may present itself in any one of the three
channels previously expressed. You might have thoughts such as “Can I really do this?”
“I’m going to fail” or “What will happen if I do a bad job?” These negative emotions and the
corresponding thoughts could then lead to an in the moment action of stuttering, making a
mistake or forgetting a line. The immediate result of this is that you might feel embarrassed
or disappointed that you didn’t do as good a job as you had hoped, but the longer term
result could be more wide reaching – increased nerves and a general dislike of
presentations going forwards.
Complete the following diagram for an emotional event you have recently experienced.
How were you feeling before and during the event?
What were you thinking during the event?
What did you do in the situation?
What was the immediate result?
How did this event impact on you in the long term?
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Turning emotions around into positives:
Emotional events can also be explored from a positive standpoint. Take the event you looked just
looked at; how could you change this to make it a positive. In the above example of giving a
presentation, instead of feeling anxious you could flip this emotion into excitement.
Fear could become curiosity, sadness could become appreciation. Now look at your example,
how could you flip it?
CONFIDENCE GROWS, START
TO ENJOY PRESENTATIONS
Feel confident and ready
to go
Gets up with
confidence, smile at
room
This is going to be
great- I know it
Excited
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Fundamental 4
Self Confidence
Having a positive level of self-confidence can come from many sources, but a good amount of self-
awareness is a strong place to start. Self-confidence can be narrowed down to having a feeling of
trust in our ability, judgements and decision.
Undoubtedly self-confidence is an important tool for a leader, but so many of us struggle with it.
Confidence can be fickle – on one day you might feel highly confident, on another you might feel
the opposite. The important thing is to try and work out – what supports me in feeling my most
confident?
Understanding your strengths
“Think of your national athletics team at the Olympics. All the individuals in it are exceptionally
talented – but at different things. The javelin thrower is able to throw his javelin powerfully and
release it from his grasp at exactly the right time; the marathon runner has phenomenal endurance;
and the sprinter has powerful leg muscles so that she can explode out of the starting blocks. No
team manager would encourage the sprinter to start throwing javelins, nor would he assign the
endurance athlete to the 100 meter race. If he did, he'd be ignoring their strengths, and expecting
them to deliver results from an area of weakness.” MindTools.
It is really important to understand the strengths we each hold. Often it is our criticisms that are
most remembered – and we therefore focus on improving our areas of weakness, and forget to
focus on our strengths.
Understanding strengths reflection. The five people would say my strengths are:
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Imposter Syndrome
Sometimes, when our confidence is low, we can experience what is sometimes called ‘imposter
syndrome’. In short, this can mean feeling like we don’t belong, that we aren’t good enough to
complete the task assigned to us, or ultimately that we will get found as an imposter. When
individuals feel like an imposter, they also tend to assume that everyone else around them belongs
(i.e. everyone here but me knows what they’re doing).
If you encounter imposter feelings, some positive things to remember are:
Imposter syndrome is typically associated with high achievers; when we become more
specialised in our role we begin to better understand the gaps in our knowledge and
understanding. To demonstrate this, think of a newly qualified, or recently graduated
member of staff who displays high levels of, perhaps unfounded, confidence. Essentially we
don’t know what we don’t know - the longer we spend in a role the more we can see, and
the more doubt can creep in!
Also, real frauds don’t worry about being a fraud!
Strengths summary:
Video notes
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Fundamental 5
Self-Motivation
Self-motivation allows you to use your emotions to affect positive change in your life and
your leadership journey through dedicated pursuit of your goals, despite any obstacles in
your way. This process requires you to employ your emotions toward near-complete
positivity, optimism, confidence and persistence. It is essential that you release the
negative emotional reactions to achieve self-motivation.
Evidence suggests that we tend to feel most self-motivated when the following criteria are
in place.
1. We feel confident that we can complete a task well; we have paid attention to our
strengths and if necessary have used the power poses!
2. We are able to use our emotions positively; we are aware of positive and negative
thought patterns, and when negative When we have those feelings e.g. I am anxious,
I am physically feeling, I am thinking, my impulse is – how do I take my negative
narrative of ‘I can’t do this’ into a positive emotion ‘I can do this’. How to take the impulse
of wanting to run away, what is the opposite of that?
3. We can set meaningful goals that support us in achieving what we would like to;
concentrate on getting results, not on being busy. Set goals in writing, tell other people
what they are, and use positive language.
4. We are working in an environment that we find to be supportive; reflect on your
personal preferences – if you enjoy team environments seek out opportunities for you
to work in this way. If you prefer working in a quiet area with fewer distractions, make
sure there is a place that enables this. Utilise your support networks – tell people you
trust what you want to achieve and ask them to hold you accountable.
What motivates me?
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Additional tips for self-motivating
1. Understand what IMPORTANT tasks are for you - as opposed to URGENT tasks....
Things which are important are of higher value and meaning and bring you closer to your
goal.
Things which are urgent are time sensitive and need to be done NOW. Not everything
which is urgent is important.
2. Don't work from To-Do Lists....
People who work from to do lists are often busy and active but at the same time, often find
themselves constantly engaged in last minute, 'urgent' activity.
The problem with daily to do lists is that they prioritise all activities as being equal, they
begin with the assumption that everything needs to be done in equal or pretty equal
timeframes. Unless a to-do list is inspired firstly by a higher thinking model such as the 4
Quadrants model which incorporates the essential concept of 'Important' -v- 'Urgent'.
3. Practice saying NO.....
It's not as easy as you imagine but saying YES can get you into trouble at times -
overworked, stressed, frustrated...
Here are some ways to say no without saying no!
I'm happy to help you with that but I firstly need to prioritise this piece of work, could you
come back to me later?
Would it work for you if we asked X to do this as I am under pressure today to get this
done and it's really important for me and the business?
I'm busy with this priority right now so can I ask you how urgent this is and what's driving
that urgency? Can it wait?
I'm actually wondering about the importance of this task for me, I'm considering not doing
it and wonder what impact that would have for us?
4. Get Feedback from your Boss / Team / Friend / Spouse...
Get feedback from others about what they consider to be the highest priorities for you
and/or your team/family. It can be interesting to hear another person's perspective and can
sometimes help you to see the wood for the trees!
5. Review your priorities regularly...
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Every week or month, check back in with your goals and how they translate into actions
and priorities on a weekly / monthly / daily basis.
Remember - everything that's worth doing brings you closer to your goals whether on a
personal, interpersonal or professional level!
Final reflections:
As a consequence of today I am going to:
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The Window to Opportunity
1. Describe the situation
2. What would I have done previously?
3. What am I going to do now?
4. The outcome of this was…
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