Emotional IntelligenceTeaching Social Skills

Card Q: Research shows 2 important preschool skills predict eventual college or career success. What are they?

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Final Exam

• Where to find Study Guide and info about the exam:

• Exam times: – 12:30 class—Monday Dec 10th, 3:00– 2:00 class-Tuesday, Dec. 11th, 11:30

• Exam place: right here• Time to take exam: 2 hours, but many finish

within 40 minutes

EMOTIONAL INTELLIGENCE“IQ gets you hired. EQ gets you promoted or fired.”

The EQ Four:

1. The ability to understand our own emotions. (self-awareness)

2. The ability to understand the emotions and perspectives of others (perspective-taking, empathy)

3. The ability to regulate our emotions and actions (Self-regulation)

4. The ability to act appropriately (Social skills)

EQ COMPONENT1: UNDERSTANDING OWN EMOTIONS

Can recognize how you feel—can label using emotion wordsCan anticipate feelings and begin to learn useful actions

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• In the video clips, how does emotional intelligence change over time?

• How does the ability to control emotions change over time?

• How does emotional vocabulary change over time?

Early Child Middle Child

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Handling of emotional problems

(Self-regulation)

Awareness of emotions

Emotional vocabulary

Social/emotional Resilience:

Emotional Intelligence

EQ COMPONENT 2: PERSPECTIVE-TAKING

Definition: understanding and having empathy for how others feel-- http://youtu.be/cQMEwIOJQ4g

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Low Pro-social skills

• Psychopaths have NO or very low pro-social skills (understand the desired behavior, but do not care of have feelings)

• Opportunities to be “good” build pro-social skills http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=7vklxomobMI

– Service-learning– Helping each other learn– Practice losing and winning

Stages of perspective-taking—as the brain develops

1. Ages 3-6: Know others might feel differently than self, but generally see only their own perspective.

2. Ages 5-9: Understand people will feel differently if they have different experiences. Less confusion about perspectives but not quite accurate about another’s feelings.

3. Ages 7-12: Can “step into” another’s shoes and report how others are likely to feel.

4. Ages 10-15: Can see an incident from multiple perspectives, can “step into” many different pairs of shoes.

5. Ages 14-adult: Understands that people can have many conflicting perspectives, that perspectives change, and that larger social contexts change influence perspectives.

EQ COMPONENT 3: REGULATING EMOTIONS AND ACTIONS

Includes handling negative emotions-- http://youtu.be/IrLkDc6Ycp0 Includes controlling impulses—difficult for students with ADHDhttp://youtu.be/q-QC4voqmRg

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Self-regulation

• Learned early http://youtu.be/G7LN96jEXHc • Often learned through modeling• Influenced by neurological maturation• Early childhood still working on this• Later for males than females• Not fully matured until possibly early 20’s

(remember the teenage brain)• One attempt: Harlem Children’s Zone Baby

College: http://youtu.be/7SYwR4yuv3A

EQ 4: USING APPROPRIATE SOCIAL ACTIONS—SOCIAL SKILLS

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SOCIAL SKILLS REQUIRE STUDENTS TO MATCH LANGUAGE AND BEHAVIOR TO PARTICULAR ENVIRONMENTS. ..

Why do some kids have better social skills than others?

4 kinds of social skills:

1. Survival skills (e.g., listening, following directions, ignoring distractions, using nice or brave talk, rewarding yourself)2. Interpersonal skills (e.g., sharing, asking for permission, joining an activity, waiting your turn)3. Problem-solving skills (e.g., asking for help, apologizing, accepting consequences, deciding what to do)4. Conflict resolution skills (e.g., dealing with teasing, losing, accusations, being left out, peer pressure

4 Reasons for “bad” Social skills

1. Students do not know the correct way to act.2. They know the expected way, but are not yet

good at it.3. They tried the expected way, but it didn’t

work so they gave up.4. They are experiencing some kind of stress or

tension that interferes with their ability to act the right way.l

Ways to teach social skills

• Modeling• Explicit teaching ;

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=qjlSA-u8KUI

• Social skill-a-day• Social stories (especially for kids who need

explicit instruction) http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Jfq6S6FOQCk&feature=related

Embedding social skills into the school day—linked to online schedule

• Useful websites:– http://www.tolerance.org/– http://www.fmucenterofexcellence.org/fmu/pdfs/Chi

ldren%20and%20poverty-article.pdf (relationship driven classroom management)

– Cooperative learning: http://olc.spsd.sk.ca/DE/PD/instr/strats/coop/

– Embedding social skills in teaching: http://www.pbisworld.com/tier-1/teach-social-skills/ (see resources at the bottom of home page)

Embedding social skills into the school day

• Useful websites:– http://www.tolerance.org/– http://www.fmucenterofexcellence.org/fmu/pdfs/

Children%20and%20poverty-article.pdf (relationship driven classroom management)

– Cooperative learning: http://olc.spsd.sk.ca/DE/PD/instr/strats/coop/

– Embedding social skills in teaching: http://www.pbisworld.com/tier-1/teach-social-skills/ (see resources at the bottom of home page)

For this activity: The person in your family whose last name comes first in the alphabet is #1; the second by alphabet is #2; the 3rd, is #3.

Discussion Triad

• Person one—the power of the “pick” and facilitates the discussion.

• Person two—summarizes main ideas and reports to the class.

• Person three—develops a related question to ask large group—also writes on piece of paper. (Hand this in to me once you have formulated the question.)

• All family members participate in discussion

Discussion Triad

• What do you think is the best way to improve student ability to take into account the feelings of others while teaching your content?

• Which of the BIG 4 skills of emotional intelligence do you think students most lack? Explain.

• Most teachers agree that it is their job to help support social skills. Are there some social skills that teachers should NOT address? Explain.