EMPATHY

EMOTIONS REFLECTION AND

SELF-CONTROL

"New Literacy Set" project

2015-2017

EMOTIONAL INTELLIGENCE

• Intrapersonal scale - self-confidence,

self-awareness and independence of

persons

• Interpersonal scale -

• 1. Empathy - a person's ability to sense

the emotions of others

• 2. Social responsibility - awareness of the

contribution to the common good

• Stress management scale – measures

stress tolerance and the ability to control

impulsive reactions

• Mood scale - emotionally intelligent

people are happier and have more

optimistic views, because they cope better

with negative feelings

HOW EMOTIONAL

INTELLIGENT ARE

YOU?

Do you have at least 8 out of 10 "yes"

answers ?

How to increase emotional

intelligence?• Learn to recognize emotions

• Take responsibility for your feelings

• Anticipate your feelings

• Ask others how they feel

• Be less sensitive

• Evaluate the problems comprehensively

• 1. EMOTION REFLECTION

• 2. SELF-CONTROL

• 3. EMPATHY

1. EMOTION REFLECTION• TYPES OF EMOTIONS:

• simple - love, fear and anger

• complex - hatred (fear and anger) and

jealousy (love, fear and anger)

• Emotion - a strong sense with the

accompanying psychological and physical

reactions

• Affect - particularly strong emotion in which

there is no rational control

• physical changes - heart rate, blood

pressure, breathing, muscle relaxation and

muscle contraction (stomach, intestines,

urinary bladder ...), the work of the

endocrine glands

• dissociation of consciousness -

consciousness is for the duration of strong

emotions somewhat narrowed – with that

we estimate one's responsibility!

• Emotions are spent, mistreated, stated -

more or less controlled

• Or they are repressed, suppressed:

- Temporary (fatigue or a too strong

emotion)

- Permanently (mental disorder)

• EXERCISES

• Emotion ≠ Perception

• Perception is a collection of sensory

data that gives us a unique view of the

observed object

• Emotion is the evaluation of perception

Can I get mad

at an apple?

• The cause of anger is loss of control.

• But also the consequences of anger is

loss of control

• Anger is useful only if it is understood by

the other person we are talking too!

• Anger is a short circuit between our needs

and the current feeling that this need is

not met

• Recognize your share of the guilt!

• Anger is accompanied by a large amount of

energy that is here to remove the cause of

anger

- The worst is suppressing misunderstood anger

- A little less bad is to spend the energy in harmful

activities

- Best - sports, recreational, work activities

(freelance work in which we are the boss, the

executor and main beneficiary)

• Often angry – they control their close

persons with anger - "We have to be

careful. (S)He will be upset. "

• Rarely angry - they get angry because

they bend over their work, and directed to

look to something else, so nobody will be

angry at them

• Both are equally harmful

2. SELF-CONTROL

• IMPULSE CONTROL / SELF-CONTROL -

initiators of violence - not knowing one's

emotions, prejudice against them, fear of

the unknown, confusion, poor integration

into society, a sense of inferiority or

rejection, depression, addictions

• Who do teenagers usually emerge in conflicts

with?

• How often do you enter conflicts?

• Does it happen to you that in those moments

you do not control your emotions?

• How often?

• SELF-CONTROL EXERCISE

RED – STOP !

• BECOME

• aware of the trigger

• aware of the body

• aware of the feeling

• aware of the urge

YELLOW – THINK !

• BECOME

• aware of the consequences

• aware of the understanding

• aware of the reality

GREEN – GO!

• BECOME

• aware of the solution

• aware of the benefits

• aware of a close person

3. EMPATHY

• Empathy - the ability of immersion in the

emotional state of other people and

understanding their position

• Emotional and rational component

• Empathy is a prerequisite for

socialization

• Empathy is innate, but also develops

parallel to the cognitive development

• Empathetic teenagers are more

successful because they do not seek good

grades, but their goal is to understand

the materials in the subject

• They accept failure better because they

do not include their ego in their tasks -

disappointing outcomes are rarely seen as

a failure, but as a learning experience,

and it's just a bad approach to the problem

• Teenagers who are not so empathetic,

tend to be more focused on themselves

and show less concern for others, but

ironically and for themselves

• They tend to be based mostly on just what

they can get in return - mostly acceptance

and recognition

COMPASSION ≠ EMPATHY

• only pain

• express

sympathy

• superficial

• sharing beliefs

• other emotions

• not necessarily

express sympathy

• deep

• no evaluation of

beliefs

• identifying only one

dimension

• superficial listener

• temporarily becoming

another person

• complete listener

• Accept differences without judging

and evaluating

• True interest of others

• Feel the emotions of all people, are not

prone to bonding - knowledge of the

world and life far wider than others

HOW TO DEVELOP EMPATHY?

• Listen to others without judging

• Being open to the inner world of the person

• Really get to know other people

• Feel what others feel, including pain

• For a moment, completely forget about

yourself, your emotions, your ego

HOW TO EXPRESS EMPATHY?

• Give others enough time to express

themselves

• Show genuine interest

• Do not give immediate advice or possible

solutions to problems

• HOW EMPATHIC ARE YOU?