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PROFILE

This profile is designed to help you understand your results on the Myers-Briggs Type Indicator

(MBTI)assessment. Based on your individual responses, the MBTI instrument produces resultsto identify which of sixteen different personality types best describes you. Your personality typerepresents your preferences in four separate categories, with each category composed of twoopposite poles. The four categories describe key areas that combine to form the basis of apersons personality as follows:

Your MBTI type is indicated by the four letters representing your preferences. Based on yourresponses to the assessment, your reported MBTI type is ENFJ. Your results are highlightedbelow.

Reported Type: ENFJ

Where youfocus your

attention

ExtraversionPeople who preferExtraversion tend to focustheir attention on the outerworld of people and things.

IntroversionPeople who preferIntroversion tend to focustheir attention on the innerworld of ideas and

impressions.The way you

take aninformation

Sensing

People who prefer Sensingtend to take-in informationthrough the five senses andfocus on the here and now.

Intuition

People who prefer Intuitiontend to take-in informationfrom patterns and the bigpicture and focus on futurepossibilities.

The way youmake

decisions

ThinkingPeople who prefer thinkingtend to make Decisionsprimarily on logic and onobjective analysis of causeand effect.

FeelingPeople who prefer Feelingtend to make decisions basedprimarily on values and onsubjective values of personcentered concerns.

Hoe you dealwith the

outer world

JudgingPeople who prefer Judgingtend to like planned andorganized approach to lifeand prefer to have thingssettled.

PerceivingPeople who prefer Perceivingtend to like a flexible andspontaneous approach to lifeand prefer to keep theiroptions open.

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Portrait of an ENFJ-Extraverted iNtuitive Feeling Judging(Extraverted Feeling with Introverted Intuition)

The Giver

As an ENFJ, your primary mode of living is focused externally, where you deal withthings according to how you feel about them, or how they fit into your personal value

system. Your secondary mode is internal, where you take things in primarily via yourintuition.

ENFJs are people-focused individuals. They live in the world of people possibilities.

More so than any other type, they have excellent people skills. They understand and

care about people, and have a special talent for bringing out the best in others.ENFJ's main interest in life is giving love, support, and a good time to other people.They are focused on understanding, supporting, and encouraging others. They make

things happen for people, and get their best personal satisfaction from this.

Because ENFJ's people skills are so extraordinary, they have the ability to makepeople do exactly what they want them to do. They get under people's skins and getthe reactions that they are seeking. ENFJ's motives are usually unselfish, but ENFJs

who have developed less than ideally have been known to use their power overpeople to manipulate them.

ENFJ's are so externally focused that it's especially important for them to spend time

alone. This can be difficult for some ENFJs, because they have the tendency to behard on themselves and turn to dark thoughts when alone. Consequently, ENFJs

might avoid being alone, and fill their lives with activities involving other people.ENFJs tend to define their life's direction and priorities according to other people's

needs, and may not be aware of their own needs. It's natural to their personalitytype that they will tend to place other people's needs above their own, but they needto stay aware of their own needs so that they don't sacrifice themselves in their driveto help others.

ENFJ's tend to be more reserved about exposing themselves than other extravertedtypes. Although they may have strongly-felt beliefs, they're likely to refrain fromexpressing them if doing so would interfere with bringing out the best in others.

Because their strongest interest lies in being a catalyst of change in other people,they're likely to interact with others on their own level, in a chameleon-like manner,

rather than as individuals.

Which is not to say that the ENFJ does not have opinions. ENFJs have definite valuesand opinions which they're able to express clearly and succinctly. These beliefs will

be expressed as long as they're not too personal. ENFJ is in many ways expressive

and open, but is more focused on being responsive and supportive of others. Whenfaced with a conflict between a strongly-held value and serving another person's

need, they are highly likely to value the other person's needs.

The ENFJ may feel quite lonely even when surrounded by people. This feeling ofaloneness may be exacerbated by the tendency to not reveal their true selves.


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People love ENFJs. They are fun to be with, and truly understand and love people.

They are typically very straight-forward and honest. Usually ENFJs exude a lot ofself-confidence, and have a great amount of ability to do many different things. They

are generally bright, full of potential, energetic and fast-paced. They are usually goodat anything which captures their interest.

ENFJs like for things to be well-organized, and will work hard at maintaining structure

and resolving ambiguity. They have a tendency to be fussy, especially with their

home environments.

In the work place, ENFJs do well in positions where they deal with people. They arenaturals for the social committee. Their uncanny ability to understand people and say

just what needs to be said to make them happy makes them naturals for counseling.They enjoy being the center of attention, and do very well in situations where they

can inspire and lead others, such as teaching.

ENFJs do not like dealing with impersonal reasoning. They don't understand or

appreciate its merit, and will be unhappy in situations where they're forced to dealwith logic and facts without any connection to a human element. Living in the worldof people possibilities, they enjoy their plans more than their achievements. They get

excited about possibilities for the future, but may become easily bored and restless

with the present.

ENFJs have a special gift with people, and are basically happy people when they canuse that gift to help others. They get their best satisfaction from serving others. Their

genuine interest in Humankind and their exceptional intuitive awareness of peoplemakes them able to draw out even the most reserved individuals.

ENFJs have a strong need for close, intimate relationships, and will put forth a lot of

effort in creating and maintaining these relationships. They're very loyal andtrustworthy once involved in a relationship.

An ENFJ who has not developed their Feeling side may have difficulty making good

decisions, and may rely heavily on other people in decision-making processes. If they

have not developed their Intuition, they may not be able to see possibilities, and willjudge things too quickly based on established value systems or social rules, without

really understanding the current situation. An ENFJ who has not found their place inthe world is likely to be extremely sensitive to criticism, and to have the tendency to

worry excessively and feel guilty. They are also likely to be very manipulative andcontrolling with others.

In general, ENFJs are charming, warm, gracious, creative and diverse individuals withrichly developed insights into what makes other people tick. This special ability to seegrowth potential in others combined with a genuine drive to help people makes the

ENFJ a truly valued individual. As giving and caring as the ENFJ is, they need to

remember to value their own needs as well as the needs of others.


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ENFJWork Style Report


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Brief Work Style Report

ENFJs are interpersonally adept, understanding, appreciative and facilitators of goodcommunication.

Contribution to the Organization

Bring strong ideals of how organizations should treat members

Enjoy leading and facilitating teamsEncourage cooperation

Communicate organizational valuesLike to bring matters to conclusion

Leadership Style

Lead through enthusiasm

Take a participative stance in managing people and projectsResponsive to followers needs

Challenge the organization to make actions congruent with valuesInspire change

Preferred Work Environment

Focused on changing things for the betterment of others

People-oriented

Supportive and socialHas a spirit of harmonyEncourages expressions of self

SettledOrderly

Potential Pitfalls

May idealize others and suffer under the rug when in conflict

May ignore the task in favor of relationship issues

May take criticism personally

Suggestions for Development

May need to recognize the limitations of people and guard against unquestioningloyalty

May need to learn to manage conflict productivelyMay need to pay as much attention to the details of the task as to the people

May need to suspend self-criticism and listen carefully to the objective-information contained in feedback.


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Detailed Work Style Report

ENFJ and Work

At work, the ENFJ will often

Be decisive, organized, motivated, productive, and idealistic

Reliably complete all stages of a project by the deadline

Strongly commit to work that reflects their values and interests

Creatively think of new ideas and possibilities

Generate interest in their ideas

Desire freedom and autonomy to complete tasks

Remain loyal to an organization and its people

Focus on identifying and responding to the needs of others

Believe people work together most effectively when following procedures

Require an environment that supports social interaction among coworkers

Strive to create a positive, harmonious, and supportive work environment

Require positive feedback and encouragement

At work, the ENFJ should be aware that they may

Struggle with incorporating details and creating a realistic project plan

Avoid conflict and experience difficulty working within a competitive environment

Resist inefficient bureaucratic policies and procedures

Be hesitant to request help from others and benefit from delegating tasks

Need to be cautious that their focus on others does not result in neglecting their

own tasks

Struggle with completing tasks that contradict their values

Need to evaluate their ability to complete a task before accepting the project

Experience difficulty accepting criticism

Need to realistically view people aside from how they desire them to beDesire closure and may make hasty decisions

When feeling unappreciated, become discouraged, excessively pursue harmony,

and incorrectly perceive criticism from others


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Teamwork Style

On a team, the ENFJ will often

Provide encouragement and support

Desire to create a solid and resilient team

Encourage harmony among team members

Be sensitive to difficulties experienced by the group

Contribute their enthusiastic attitude and organizational abilities

Maintain an energetic and fun attitude

On a team, the ENFJ should be aware that they may

Feel frustrated with others who are unwilling to work together, unproductive, orunorganized

Irritate team members when they only focus on interpersonal issues and naively

supporting causes or people

Become irritated with individuals that are tardy, inconsiderate, or focus only a

task and neglect people

Need to allow people to make their own choices and learn from their mistakes

Leadership Style

The ENFJ tends to enjoy being in a leadership position. As a leader, the ENFJ will

often

Enthusiastically present their ideas and gain support

Encourage input and consider all ideas

Assist others in planning and working together to achieve their goals

Create consensus between opposing viewpoints

Identify the skills and abilities that each member can contribute

Clearly communicate the necessary steps to complete tasksNeed to intentionally enforce rules and boundaries with others


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Communication Style

The ENFJ will often

Easily communicate with others and develop rapport

Clearly explain difficult concepts

Desire to hear positive feedback, personal values, and possible ideas for helping

people

Openly discuss their values and theoretical ideas

Excel at giving public presentations that emotionally connects with their audience

Effectively facilitate group discussions

The ENFJ should be aware that they may need to

Accept criticism without personalizing it

Use a more logical or sequential process for presenting information

Use more practical or applicable wording when expressing their ideas

Learn to effectively address conflict situations

Decision Making Style

When it comes to decision making, the ENFJ will often

Identify various options and possibilities

Need to ensure they spend adequate time gathering information

Consider their personal values and the implications on people

Benefit from including an objective and logical assessment of their options

Use decision making to create closure and facilitate movement to the next idea orproject


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Stress Management

An ENFJ will often experience stress when

Feeling that their values are challenged or violated

Encountering situations where they feel demeaned, put down, or misinterpreted

Working with difficult and uncooperative people

Focusing solely on others and neglecting their own needs

Feeling responsible for causing a problem or conflict

Confronted with unexpected changes

Receiving excessive criticism

Required to complete a task within a limited timeline

When they are affected by stress, an ENFJ will often

Feel negative or cynical and become inflexible

Doubt their abilities or intelligence

Become unfriendly, inconsiderate, or aggressive towards others or themselves

Minimize their contact with family or friends

Rely solely on logic to form critical and judgmental opinions of others or

themselves

With significant stress, focus on the faults of others and become excessively

critical

An ENFJ can reduce stress by

Addressing their personal needs

Spending time resting and reflecting

Participating in activities and interacting with friends

Delegating some of their tasks

Refocusing on their spiritual values

Gaining insight into a situation by discussing their thoughts with others


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ENFJ(The Public Relation Specialist)

Career Development


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CareerSatisfactionsforENFJs

Doingworkthat:

1. Letsmeestablishandmaintainwarmandsupportiveinterpersonalrelationshipswithcoworkers,clients,customers,etc.

2. LetsmedevelopcreativesolutionstoproblemsonprojectsthatIbelieveinandwhereIcanseethepositiveresultsofmyeffortsforotherpeople3. Isdoneinanenvironmentwhereexpectationsareclear,contributionsareappreciated,andpersonal

andprofessionalgrowthanddevelopmentareencouraged.

4. LetsmebeapartofateamofothercreativepeopleItrustaswellasbeingbusyandproductive5. Allowsmetimetodevelopcreativesolutionstoproblemsandthensharethemwithothersupportive

andcaringpeople

6. IsdoneinanactiveandchallengingenvironmentwhereIamabletojuggleseveralprojectsatonce7. Letsmeusemyorganizationalanddecisionmakingskillsandhavecontrolandresponsibilityformy

ownprojects

8. Givesmeavarietyofactivitiesbutallowsmetoworkinarelativelyorderlyandwellplannedmanner9. Isdoneinanenvironmentthatisfreefrominterpersonalconflictsandongoingtension10.Exposesmetonewideasandletsmeexplorenewapproaches,especiallythosethatwillimprovethe

livesofotherpeople

WorkRelatedStrengths

1. Excellentcommunicationandpresentationskills2. Charismaticleadershipandabilitytobuildconsensus3. Enthusiasmandabilitytoenlistcooperationfromothers4. Decisivenessandorganizationalskills5. Eagertothinkoutsidetheboxandconsidernewpossibilities6. Empathyandabilitytoanticipateothersneeds;agenuineconcernforpeople7. Variedinterestsandbeingaquickstudy8. Abilitytoseethebigpictureandtheimplicationsofactionsandideas9. Drivetobeproductiveandreachyourgoals10.Deepcommitmenttoperformworkyoureallybelievein

WorkRelatedWeaknesses

1. Reluctancetoworkonprojectsthatconflictwithyourvalues2. Tendencytoidealizepeopleandrelationships3. Difficultyworkingincompetitiveortensionfilledenvironments4. Impatientwithstructuresandpeoplewhoareinefficientoruncooperative5. Avoidsconflictandhasatendencytoignoreunpleasantness6. Tendencytomakedecisionstooquickly,beforegatheringadequateinformation7. Reluctancetodisciplinesubordinates8. Tendencytomakeerrorswhenhurried9. Tendencytomicromanageandresistrelinquishingcontrol

Source: Do What You Are, Paul D. Tieger& Barbara Barron-Tieger, 3rd edition, 2001 Please Understand Me, David Keirsey& Marilyn Bates, 4th edition, 1984.


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CareerPortraitofanENFJ

ENFJs areoutstanding leadersof groups,both task groups and growth groups.Theyhave the

charmingcharacteristicofseemingtotakeforgrantedthattheywillbefollowed,neverdoubting

thatpeoplewillwanttodowhattheysuggest.And,moreoftenthannot,peopledo,becausethis

typehas

unusual

charisma.

ENFJs

place

ahigh

value

on

cooperation

from

others

and

are

most

willingtocooperatethemselves.

ENFJs are especially vulnerable to idealizing interpersonal relationships, raising these

relationshipstoaplanewhichseldomcansustaintherealitiesofhumannature.Becauseofthis

tendency to raise interpersonal relations to the ideal, ENFJsmay unwittingly overpower their

friends,whobelievethattheycannotpossiblyliveuptoanENFJsperceptionofthem.Thefactis,

ENFJsareextraordinarilytolerantofothers,seldomcritical,andalwaystrustworthy.

Found in only about 5% of the general population, ENFJs place people as being of highest

importanceand

priority.

As

aresult,

ENFJs

may

find

themselves

feeling

responsible

for

the

feelingsofotherstoanextentwhichplacesaburdenontherelationship.AnENFJcommunicates

caring,concern,andawillingnesstobecomeinvolved.ThuspeopleturntoENFJsfornurtureand

support,whichanENFJisusuallyabletodeliver.Attimes,however,thesekindsofdemandscan

overwhelmENFJs,whofindatthispointthattheylacktheskillstodisengage.ENFJsdonotseem

abletoturnawayfromthesedemandsevenwhentheybecomeunreasonable.Or,ifforcedtolet

gooftheburdenthroughsheerunavailabilityoftimeorenergy,ENFJsexperienceaguiltalloutof

proportiontotherealitiesofthecommitmentmadetotherelationship.

ENFJs take communication for granted and believe that they are understood and that their

communications areaccepted. Just as they themselves are accepting, sodo they assume that

othersare

the

same.

When

ENFJs

find

that

their

position

or

beliefs

were

not

comprehended

or

accepted, theyare surprised,puzzled, and sometimeshurt. Fortunately, thisdoesnothappen

withhighfrequency,asENFJshavearemarkablefluencywithlanguage,especiallyinspeech;they

areparticularlyadeptwhencommunicatingfacetofaceasopposedtocommunicatinginwriting.

They are influential, therefore, in groups,havingnohesitation about speakingout,nomatter

howlargeorsmallthegroupmaybe.

ENFJs have an unusual ability to relate to others with empathy, taking into themselves the

characteristics,emotions,andbeliefsofothers.ThiscanposeadangerforENFJs,becausethey

canunconsciouslyoveridentifywithothersandpickuptheirburdensasiftheyweretheirown.

Inthe

process,

ENFJs

may

risk

their

own

sense

of

identity.

They

have

anatural

ability

to

mimic

becauseofthishighlydevelopedabilitytoempathizebyintrojections.Theyarelikelytobevery

concernedabouttheproblemsofthoseclosetothem,buttheyalsomaygetasdeeplyinvolved

intheproblemsofthosenotsocloseandmayfindthemselvesoverextendedemotionally.

ENFJswould dowell to follow their hunches, for their intuition tends to bewell developed.

Decisionsmadepurelyon thebasisof logicmaynotbe sosound. In the frameworkofvalues,


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however, theENFJ ison certain ground.Generally, they knowwhat theyprefer and can read

otherpeoplewithoutstandingaccuracy.SeldomisanENFJwrongaboutthemotivationsorintent

ofanother,hiddenornot.

ENFJs are socially adept and make excellent companions and mates. They also are deeply

devotedto

their

children,

yet

tend

not

to

be

domineering

to

either

the

children

or

amate.

In

fact,

theENFJissoeventemperedthatheorshecanbevictimizedbyamatewhomighthavebecome

more andmore demanding. ENFJmates always try to please and feel personally responsible

when home life does not go smoothly. They are tireless in their efforts to see that it does,

providing generously from available income, time, and energy. This dedication often exists,

however, sideby sidewithanENFJsdreamof theperfect relationship.ThusanENFJhas that

longing for the ideal that results in a vague dissatisfaction with whatever is in the way of

relationships,matingaswellasfriendships.

ThislongingfortheperfectcarriesoverintothecareersofENFJs,whoexperiencesomedegreeof

restlessnesswhatever theirjobs. ENFJs have awide range of occupationswith offer success.

Beingverballyadept,ENFJscontributetoanunusuallevelwhendealingwithpeople,particularly

facetoface; themedia, theministry, and the stage and screen arepopulatedwith successful

ENFJs. They make superior therapists, charismatic teachers, excellent executives, and

personalized salespersons.Areas thatwouldnotpermitutilizationof the interaction talentsof

ENFJs, for example, accounting, should be avoided; otherwise, almost any peopletopeople

occupationwhere personal, sustained contact is involved capitalizes on the personality of an

ENFJ.

ENFJs like to have things settled and organized. They prefer to plan both work and social

engagementsaheadandtendtobeabsolutelyreliableinhonoringthesecommitments.ENFJsare

verymuch

at

home

in

complex

situations

which

require

the

juggling

of

much

data.

At

the

same

time,theycanhandlepeoplewithcharmandconcern.ENFJsareusuallypopulartohavearound,

whatever the situation. A welldeveloped ENFJ group leader can provide, almost endlessly,

activities for groups toengage inwith almostnopreplanning and can findadequate roles for

membersofthegrouptoplay.Insome,thiscanamounttogeniuswhichothertypesfindhardto

emulate. ENFJs act more as a master of ceremonies than as a leader of groups. They value

harmonioushumanrelationsaboveallelse;butENFJsarenotsoeasilycrushedby indifference

andaremoreindependentofothersvaluations.

Usingyourstrengthsiseasy.

ThesecrettosuccessforanENFJislearningto:

SLOW

DOWN,

RELINQUISH

SOME

CONTROL,

AND

TAKE

THINGS

LESS

PERSONALLY


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ENFJPersonality Development

Report

By

Brunda Muler


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ENFJPersonalGrowth

WhatdoesSuccessmeantoanENFJ?

ENFJsaremotivatedbyexternalhumansituations,primarilybyotherpeople;theirtalents,their

needs, their aspirations and their cares forming theworld inwhich anENFJ lives. They thrivewhenable tomake things right forothers, toenableandempower theircoworkers, friends

andfamilythroughvaluingtheirhumanstrengthsandabilities.WhengiftedwiththeaddedENFJ

abilityto intuitivelyadapttheir feelingstotheway theyareaffectedbyothers,theENFJhasa

positive drive to find cooperative pathways leading to the best possible outcome for all,

includingthemselves.SuccessforanENFJcomesthrough involvement intheprocessofmaking

things happen for people; through the accomplishments and satisfactions of those they have

helpedtoenrichthehumanworldwithgreatervalue,andthroughfindingthattheireffortson

behalfofothershavefulfilledtheirownlifeaswell.

AllowingYour

ENFJ

Strengths

to

Flourish

AsanENFJ,youhavegiftsthatarespecifictoyourpersonalitytypethataren'tnaturalstrengths

forothertypes.Byrecognizingyourspecialgiftsandencouragingtheirgrowthanddevelopment,

youwillmorereadilyseeyourplaceintheworld,andbemorecontentwithyourrole.

NearlyallENFJswillrecognizethefollowingcharacteristics inthemselves.Theyshouldembrace

andnourishthesestrengths:

Makingothersfeelvaluedandimportant Quicklyseeingthepositiveandnegativeaspectsofahumansituation Expressingtheirfeelingsclearly Offeringloyaltyandcommitmenttopartners,familyandworkmates Tryingtoalwaysfindthesolutionwhichworksforeveryone Encouraginghumourandselfexpressioninothers Findingwaystohelpothersfulfiltheirneeds Affirmingpositivecommunityvalues Naturallyfallingintoleadershiprolesintheircommunity

ENFJs who have developed their Introverted Intuition to the extent that they can see the

possibilitieswithintheirperceptionswillenjoytheseveryspecialgifts:

Understanding and empathisingwith the feelings of others; realising where they arecomingfrom.

A talent for creative expression which can turn ordinary things and situations intosomethingmagical.

Anenhancedfeelingofconnectionwithandsensitivitytotheworldaroundthem. Theabilitytoseemanyfacetsofaproblemandthemanyways itmightberesolvedfor

thebest.


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Theabilitytomakecreativeandvaluableuseoftimespentalone. Opennesstothespiritualconnectionsbetweenallthings Theybecomeincreasinglycreative,visionaryandempathetic,andarethereforeeffective

andkindmanagersofbusinesses,people,andvarioussituationsthatlifepresents.

PotentialProblem

Areas

Withanygiftof strength, there isanassociatedweakness.Without "bad", therewouldbeno

"good".Without"difficult",therewouldbeno"easy".Wevalueourstrengths,butweoftencurse

andignoreourweaknesses.Togrowasapersonandgetwhatwewantoutoflife,wemustnot

onlycapitalizeuponourstrengths,butalsofaceourweaknessesanddealwiththem.Thatmeans

takingahardlookatourpersonalitytype'spotentialproblemareas.

MostoftheweakercharacteristicsfoundinENFJsareduetotheirdominantExtravertedFeeling

overvaluingwhattheyseeasobjectivevaluesintheexternalworldandtherebyjudgingtoomuch

by the needsof others, or by appearances. This is primarilydue to the ENFJ having not fully

adapted their Introverted Intuitive function sufficiently for them tobeable todiscern thevast

rangeofwaysinwhichtheymightbebeingmissingtheunderlyingneedswithinthemselvesand

being misled by such appearances. The ENFJ naturally looks outward to find value and

satisfaction,andwhilst it isessentialthatthisdirectionbetakentofulfiltheirprimaryneedsof

relation and comfort, without the supportive balance of a well developed Intuitive function,

ENFJs can overvalue the external world to the point where they lose sight of themselves,

becomingfixedintheirjudgementsaboutpeopleandtheworld. Insuchcases,theENFJwilltend

tolive inarigid andtoothers,somewhatsurreal worldofdefinitevalueswhichoftenseems

overstatedorobsessivelyconnectedtootherpeopleorhumansituations.

Explanationof

Problems

Nearlyalloftheproblematiccharacteristicsdescribedabovecanbeattributedinvariousdegrees

to the commonENFJproblemofwanting to find the propervalue ineverything. If theENFJ

doesnot learnhow toseebeneath theappearanceofwhat theyquicklyjudgeasgoodorbad

aboutthepeopleandsituationsintheirexternalenvironment,theywillonlyusetheirintroverted

intuitiontosupportthosejudgementstheyfeelaregoodforthemanddisregardnotonlyother

possibilitiesbuttheirownqualityof inner lifeaswell. Theconsiderationofthese lessobvious

possibilities and their own needs requires that the ENFJ recognize that their own value

judgementsareindeedsubjective,andthatitisnotappropriateoreffectivetoapplythemacross

the

board

to

all

civilized

people.

The

practice

of

standing

back

and

looking

objectively

at

their

ownvaluesystemisnotsomethingthattheENFJisaccustomedtodoing;tryingtoavoidabstract

rationalisationofproblemsandthefeelingstheyengenderisanaturalsurvivaltechniqueforthe

ENFJpersonality. ThemaindrivertotheENFJpersonalityisExtravertedFeeling,whosepurpose

isabovealltofindanddiscriminatethevaluesinpeopleandhumansituations.Iftheirabilityto

finda specificandworthyvalue inapersonor situation is threatened, theENFJ shutsout the

threateningforce. Thisistotallynatural,butunfortunatelytheindividualwhoexercisesthistype

of agenda protection regularly will become more and more rigid in their judgements and


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expectations of people, but even less concerned with the effect such conditions have upon

themselves.Where theunbalancedENFJdoes acquiesce to the imagesof intuition, thesewill

generallybe skewed to support the subjective agendaofdominant Feeling. In thisway they

always findjustification for theirdeterminationsand their self sacrifices topeople, thingsand

situations,andtheywillbeunablelocatetherealityofanotherstruefeelings,norbeinterested

indiscovering

that

their

seemingly

objective

judgements

miss

the

reasons

and

subjectivities

underlyingboththeirownandotherslivesorworldlysituation.

Petulance,pensivenessandasenseofbeing letdownbyotherscanoftenbetheendresultof

thisonesidedapproach to theworld,whilst if theENFJ is ina strongcompanyor relationship

positiontheymightbecomedriventomanipulateothersandsituationstoconformtotheirown

feelingneeds and valuejudgements, irrespectiveof any true value to the situationor for the

otherpersonsinvolved.Inthiscase,thebigpicturevaluedforitsgreatworthtoall,becomesa

dominant drive which seeks to blot out or crush any opposition by claiming the moral high

ground,eventothepointwheretheENFJsacrificestheirownlifetothecause.Theinabilityto

recognize the plethora of subjective possibilities their feelings bring into their lives strip the

unbalancedENFJoftheiraccesstobothadeeperconnectionwithothersandthepossibilityof

refininganddevelopingpathwaystothekindofselfunderstandingandselfnurturingtheirfiner

judgementsmightotherwiseleadthemto.

Solutions

Togrowasanindividual,theENFJneedstofocusonpayingattentiontotheirinnerimages.This

means theyneed tobeopen to thepossibilities that liebeneath theirjudgementsandvalues,

ratherthanjustacceptingtheappearanceofvalueswhichaccordwiththeirsenseofrightness.

The ENFJ needs to understand that developing their ability to see the subjective possibilities

withinthemselves

and

others

does

not

threaten

their

ability

to

make

correct

judgements,

but

ratherenhances it,andenhances theirpersonalchances forachievingameasureofsuccess in

theirlives.

The ENFJ concerned with personal growth will pay close attention to their motivation for

accepting values that come to them. Are they trying to see the background of circumstance

behindtheirownandothersvaluejudgements,oraretheytryingtomaintaintheirownimageof

howthingsoughttobe?Thegoalistofindabalancebetweenwhatseemscorrectandvaluable

andthemanypossiblewaysinwhichsuchajudgementmightbesubjectiveandnotnecessarily

thebestforthemselvesorasituation.Obviously,thisisnotentirelypossible,butitistheexercise

tokeepinmind.Theyneedtoseethemanydivergentimagesofvaluesandtheirconflictswhich

affect them, without feeling threatened, and without losing their sense of what is right and

wrong.

LivingHappilyinourWorldasanENFJ

As canbe seen from the above, some stronglyexpressedENFJs canhavedifficulty fitting into

society.TheirproblemsareusuallyduetotheirExtravertedFeelingfunctionbeingsodominant

thattheyaresostronglyboundtowhattheyseeasobjectivevaluesthattheycannotrelateto


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theworldexceptviatheobjectsoftheirfeeling. Insuchcasesthe intensityoftheirjudgements

canactuallydriveothersaway from them,and the resulting lackofclose relationship feltasa

personalfailingforwhichtheENFJfeelsguilty.Suchguiltcandriveevenmorestronglyaffective

behaviourwhichleadstheENFJtoignoretheirownneedsentirely,oritcanbecomeanegative

drive tomanipulate others to conform to their onesided vision of theworld. The ENFJwho

consistentlytries

to

see

the

underlying

possibilities

and

the

scope

available

in

each

situation

will

beabletoseetherightpathtotakewitheachpersonandsituationintheirlife. Thiswillalways

leadthemtotowardcloserrelationships,happinessandgreatachievements.

ThekeytopersonalgrowthfortheENFJiscompetentexecutionofIntrovertedIntuition.Because

itisoftenhardtodefinewhatthisrepresentssubjectivelytoeachperson,herearesomeaction

oriented suggestions thatwillhelp leadyoudown thepath towardsmoreeffectiveuseof the

IntrovertedIntuitivefunction.Specificsuggestions:

Whenconfrontedbyapersonorsituationwhichseemstoberejectingorrebuffingyourvaluejudgementsandyourmindfillingwithallthearguments,imagesandalternativesto

thesituation,lookcloselyatthoseyouareimmediatelyrejectingasnegativeorunsuitable

waystoproceed.Withintheseimagesoftenliepathstounderstandingandagreementif

youlookmoreclosely.Someoftheseimagesholdthekeytoseeinganothersfeelingsand

pointofviewmoreclearly.Remember,whatseemspositivetoyoumaynotbeeverything

orevenimportanttoanother.

Behindeverythingofvaluethatyousee liesmuchpotential.Trynottobesatisfiedwithjustagoodresult,butletyourselfimaginethewaysinwhichapersonmightfulfilalltheir

creativeaspects;theways inwhichasituationmightbecomeusefultomanymorethan

justwhatitwasmadefor.Tryto imagineeverythingasasourceofuntappedmagicand

creativepower letyourmindseeallthethings itmightbecome.Aboveall,applythis

exerciseto

yourself,

as

ifyou

were

seeing

yourself

in

amirror:

just

as

you

would

another

personwhomyoulove.

Whenyouarealonetrytobecomefullyawareofhowitfeelstoyou,trytorecognisetheemptinessasaplaceofpotential,trytoimaginewhatyoumightbeabletodoforothers

inthisemptytime,trytorealisethatyouarenottrulyalonebutwiththisspecialperson

whoisyourself.Whatwouldyoudoforthispersonifyoucouldmaketheirprivateworlda

betterplace?

Everythingwonderful in lifeproceedsfromthequalitieswhichliebehind it.Youcanfeelthese things, these drives and attitudes which seem to come from a place outside,

perhapsfromthecreatorexpressinghimselfwithinpeopleandnature.Lettingthesense

ofthese

background

qualities

permeate

your

drive

to

life

will

give

you

purpose

and

meaning.Allowyourselftofeelthemeaningsandpurposesoftheworld,letthembecome

avaluablegiftwhichcanbeexpressedinyourdealingswithothersandinthethingsyou

strivefor.

TenRulestoLiveBytoAchieveENFJSuccess


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1. Feed Your Strengths! Make sure you have opportunities to involve yourself with others insituationswhereyourinputisvalued.

2. Face Your Weaknesses! Realize and accept that some traits are strengths and some areweaknesses.By facingyourweaknesses,youcanovercome themand theywillhave lesspower

over

you.

3. ExpressYourFeelings.Understandthatyourfeelingsareasimportantasothersareintheoverallsituation.Withoutyour feelingsandneedsbeingvalued thebest result isnot realised,sovalue

andspeaktoyourownfeelingsasmuchasyouvaluethoseofothers.

4. MakeDecisions.Don'tbeafraidtohaveanopinion.Youneedtoknowshowothersthequalitiesandpotentialsyoucanseeareworthyofaction.

5. SmileatCriticism.Try to seewhydisagreementanddiscord indicate thedifferencesbetweenpeople,andusethisasanopportunitytomakeyourvaluejudgementsusefulforgrowth,because

that'sexactlywhattheyare.Trynotto feelresponsibleforanotherscriticism,buttrytohear it

andunderstand

the

feelings

and

images

it

engenders

within

you.

Then

you

may

see

apath

not

onlytoagreementbuttoasharedandtrulyvaluableend.

6. BeAware of Others.Remember that there are15otherpersonality typesout therewho seethingsdifferentlythanyouseethem.Mostofyourproblemswithotherpeopleareeasiertodeal

withifyoutrytounderstandtheotherperson'sperspective.

7. BeAwareofYourself.Don'tstintyourownneeds forthesakeofotherstoomuch.Realiseyouareanimportantfocus.Ifyoudonotfulfilyourownneeds,howwillcontinuetobeeffectiveand

howwillothersknowyouaretruetoyourbeliefs?

8.

BeGentleinYourExpectations.Itiseasyforyoutoseethevalueinothers,butstressingthistoomuchcandrivethemaway.Trytoshowthatyouunderstandtheirfearsandlimitationsandlead

themgentlytoseehowyoufeel:leadthemgentlyintounderstandingandlove.

9. AssumetheBest.Don'tdistressyourselfbyfeelingthatyourvaluesare lostuponotherstheyarenot.Perhaps itjusthas tositwith them too.Let the situation resolve itselfandnever stop

believingthatloveisthetrueanswer.

10. When in Doubt,Ask Questions!Don't assume that the lack of feedback is the same thing asnegativefeedback.Ifyouneedfeedbackanddon'thaveany,askforit.

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