FIFTH SUNDAY IN ORDINARY TIME

PASTOR’S CORNER

MARRIAGE SUNDAY IN THE ARCHDIOCESE OF TORONTO

I want to share with you 7 habits of healthy couples from the book, How to Heal Your Marriage and Nurture Lasting Love, by Dr. Grego-

ry Popcak:

1. Rituals of Connection: Healthy couples have regular rituals for working, playing, talking, and praying together. They carve out

some time each day to make sure they do something related to these four categories. Rituals of connection form the skeleton of the

relationship. These rituals guarantee that the couple will prioritize their relationship and have the time they need to share experienc-

es, relate on a deeper level to each other, and build a shared life together.

2. Emotional Rapport & Benevolence: Healthy couples make a point of being intentional about looking for ways to make each

other’s days a little easier or more pleasant. They turn toward each other in times of stress and actively look for ways to lighten each

other’s burden even when they do not feel like it.

3. Self-Regulation: Healthy couples are good at monitoring their emotional temperatures. They know when they need to take a

break from a stressful conversation and they know what to do to get themselves back to a calm and empathetic mindset so that the

next round of discussions will go better. They do not blame their partner for their own emotional reactions. Instead, they learn from

the times they lose it and figure out how to do better the next time.

4. A Positive Intention Frame: Healthy couples realize that most offenses in marriage are due to miscommunication or misun-

derstanding. They realize that their partner gets nothing out of being intentionally offensive. They try to understand the true intention

or need behind the offense and find a more respectful way to meet that need or intention.

5. Caretaking in Conflict: Healthy couples know that the most important thing in problem-solving is not actually solving the

problem. The MOST important thing in problem-solving is taking care of each other so that they can solve the problem together.

They work to make sure each knows the other’s concerns are important. They also look for ways to reassure each other that they can

get through any difficulties as long as they stick together.

6. Mutual Respect, Accountability, and Boundaries: Healthy couples respect each other, which means that they are willing to

listen and learn from each other even when it is hard. They do not have to understand why something is important to their partner. It

is enough that it is important. They accept each other’s boundaries and work to accommodate each other’s needs and preferences

even when those needs or preferences do not necessarily make sense.

7. Reviewing and Learning from Mistakes: Healthy couples know how to learn from their disagreements. They are able to go

back over arguments and offenses in a way that helps them learn to do better next time. They do not blame and attack each other or

endlessly debate what “really” happened last time. They focus on what they need to do to handle similar situations better in the

future.

Fr. Slawek

FIRST RECONCILIATION / FIRST HOLY COMMUNION ~ 2020—Parents / Guardians, friendly reminder … There will be no session on Sunday, Feb. 16 after the 9:00 am Mass, but there will still be the celebration of Mass and Children's Liturgy at 9:00 am. Enjoy Family Day Weekend !

On Sunday, February 23, again no session because the children will celebrate the Sacrament of Reconciliation at 12:00 directly following the 11:00 am Mass. Your choice which Mass you attend, 9:00 am or 11:00, but please be there for 12:00 as we will begin right away with Reconciliation. The sooner your child celebrates this healing Sacrament they will be permitted to leave for the day. God Bless !

CONFIRMATION ~ 2020—Friendly reminder to our youth preparing for the Sacrament of Confirmation … no session on Saturday, February 15 because of Family Day Weekend, ENJOY! You are still expected to celebrate one of the weekend Masses, be it on Saturday or Sunday, your choice. Our next session will be on Saturday, February 22 at 3:00 pm. See you then! God is Good... All the Time !

RCIA ~ 2020—Dear parishioners please continue to pray for our Catechumens; Ashley, Siara, Beverly, David, Jamie, Jennifer & Julia as they con-tinue their Journey into Faith with the possible outcome of becoming fully initiated members of our church community. God Bless!

February 9, 2020

KNIGHTS OF COLUMBUS BUS TOUR TO RAMA

February 18, 2020

Depart Holy Spirit Church 8:15 a.m. Arrive at Rama 10:30 a.m. Depart Rama 3:30 p.m. Arrive Holy Spirit Church 5:30 p.m.

Please book Early

For more information and cost please contact:

Joe Armeni 416-498.7358

MASS INTENTIONS

Tuesday, February 11

9:00 a.m. (+) Phillip Coutinho req. by Tony & Esther James.

Wednesday, February 12

9 a.m. Private Intentions.

Thursday, February 13

9 a.m. (+) Dorothy Johns req. by the Johns family. Friday, February 14 9 a.m. (+) Antonette & Eric De Souza.

Saturday, February 15

4:30 p.m.(+) Corazon Ilagan Domingo req. by Merana family.

Sunday, February 16

9:00 a.m. (+) Corazon Ilagan Domingo req. by the Merana family. 11 a.m. All Parishioners.

FEBRUARY 2, 2020 Regular Envelope Offering $ 5, 131.00 Loose offering $ 252.00 Thank you for you continued generosity

HOLY SPIRIT PARISH OFFERING FEBRUARY

Saint Vincent DePaul Holy Spirit Conference

Turning concern into action

All of our members would like to thank all our parishioners for their generous sup-port throughout the year. Without your donations we could not serve our community as we do. For your information, here are some statistics for 2019:

We made 159 visits - in total we served 292 adults and 151 children. Total value of vouchers $7,615.00

Children from 2 families were sent to SSVP camps.

We provided 11 families with furniture assistance and gave out 27 Salvation Army vouchers.

Christmas Program: We assisted 83 families, the value of the gift cards was $8,000.00. The total collection received from our parishioners was $10,802.00. Thank you for you generous contributions to our Christmas program and your continued

support.

YOUTH MINISTRY UPDATE - Join us to discover who God is, to deepen your

faith, to build long lasting friendships and have fun. Edge night will resume on Friday, Jan 31st and Teen night on Friday, February 7th. SAVE THE DATE! We will have a Valentine's Day Dance on Friday, February 14th. Stay tuned for more details! See you soon! Email: youth.holyspiritparish@gmail.com Instagram: hs.youthministry

Edith Stein A One Woman Play Adapted by Mary Kischuck

Come and see a show about a fascinating 20th century Woman Saint! (Free Admission)

The play will be followed by a discussion ☆

Friday Feb. 28th at 7pm in the Parish Hall

SENIOR’S GROUP: The seniors group resumes Wednesday, February 12 after the 9 a.m. devotion of Our Lady of Perpetual Help. Come out and socialize, make new friends in your parish community. Coffee, tea and snack are provided. Everyone welcome.

ARE YOU MOVING? OR HAVE YOU ALREADY CHANGED YOUR ADDRESS?

Please notify the parish office.

YOUR HEALTH : As cold and flu season approaches, to ensure the health of the entire community, parishioners are encouraged to stay home from Mass and parish functions if they are experiencing symptoms of the flu virus, colds, etc. Respect and concern for the common good takes precedence. Thank you for your cooperation! To minimize risks please use the hand sanitizers that are located at each entrance!