“FIGHTING FIRE WITH FIRE”By:Ayinda St.HolderCommunication 104

STANDING UP FOR YOUR POINT OFVIEW….

Both men and women tend to resort to tactics of manipulation in order to get their way in important

argumentative battles.

THREE CONFLICT TYPES PEOPLE FIND THEMSELVES IN

Lets take a closer look into the three…..

SimpleHaving a subject or title with the conflict

This style have lead to over 90 %( percent) of divorces.

PseudoDeals with having a communication breakdown.

The send wasn’t received in the correct way.

EgoThe hardest type of conflict to deal with

Involves one dignity, self esteem and self respect

RELATIONSHIP ARGUMENT STYLES PART 1

Unresolved issues Garbage baggingWhen an argument starts with one issue and end with more.

Sensitive issueRepresents a serious breach of trust.Breaking of confidences.

Having to deal with someone past relationship problems in their current relationship.

PART: 2

Deeper NeedsConsist of where responsibility lies

Who has control over what

Hidden playoffsWhere an argument has a beneficial roleArguing to see the reaction of other person feelings

Stick to the issueAvoid personal attacksConcentrate on what your trying to accomplish

COMMON ISSUE COUPLES FIGHT OVER

S.E.X. =is the biggest problem in most relationship

Money = not having enough money and unnecessary spending

Children=when the right time to have kids conversation

In-laws= having in- laws over step there boundaries

Housework= each mate not putting in the same effect to keep the household in order

Religion=having different beliefs

MEN VS. WOMEN• Men conversation to give orders

• Men show independence

• Men provide information

• Men deal with conflict

• Women use to it make proposal

• Women seek intimacy

• Women express feelings

• Women seek compromise

BEHAVIORAL APPROACHES

Nonassertive & Passive• I’m nothing• Your superior • My thought aren’t important

• Ignore your feeling and putting other over yours.

Assertive &Aggressive• This is what I think• This is what I feel• This is how I see the situation

• Being able to express your thoughts

CONCLUSIONIt’s okay for you and your mate not to agree with everything but never lose the focus of what your relationship hands for…. Being happy…