“get her for me” judges 14:1-3 samson had little idea about what was necessary for a marriage

““Get Her For Me”Get Her For Me”

Judges 14:1-3

Samson Had Little Idea About What Was Necessary for a Marriage.

Judges 14:1-3Judges 14:1-31 Now Samson went down to Timnah, and saw a

woman in Timnah of the daughters of the Philistines. 2 So he went up and told his father and mother, saying, "I have seen a woman in Timnah of the daughters of the Philistines; now therefore, get her for me as a wife." 3 Then his father and mother said to him, "Is there no woman among the daughters of your brethren, or among all my people, that you must go and get a wife from the uncircumcised Philistines?" And Samson said to his father, "Get her for me, for she pleases me well."

Is Marriage in Trouble?Is Marriage in Trouble?

• Recent survey in Hamilton County reported in the Chattanooga Times – November 25, 2003

• Residents were asked to rank their “most important” priorities.

• This is part of a State of the Family report.


1. Family2. Faith3. Children4. Career / Work5. Health

Here are the top 10 Priorities:


6. Money / Finance

7. Hobbies / Leisure

8. Getting ahead in life

9. Marriage / Spouse

10. School

Here are the top 10 Priorities:


54% believe that if the traditional family unit falls apart, the stability of American society will collapse.

70% believe the typical marriage is weaker today than the typical marriage 30 years ago.

Here are some other stats:


69% agree that children who are raised in a home with both their natural parents will grow up to be more stable emotionally than children raised by one parent.

Is marriage in trouble?

Here are some other stats:

““Get her for me.”Get her for me.”

Samson saw a woman of the Philistines.

It was a violation of the law to marry her.

He wanted her, anyway.

He told his parents, “Get her for me.”

This marriage would be based ONLY on physical appearance.

Background of Judges 14

Ingredients for MarriageIngredients for Marriage

Marriage must begin with a commitment from both parties.

Without this willful intent to live together for life – there can be no marriage.

Marriage begins with this intent – and ends when this commitment fades.

Commitment - Intent


Genesis 2:21-2221And the LORD God caused a deep sleep to

fall on Adam, and he slept; and He took one of his ribs, and closed up the flesh in its place. 22Then the rib which the LORD God had taken from man He made into a woman, and He brought her to the man.

Commitment - Intent


Genesis 2:2323And Adam said: “This is now bone of my

bones And flesh of my flesh; She shall be called Woman, Because she was taken out of Man.”

Commitment - Intent


Genesis 2:24-2524Therefore a man shall leave his father and

mother and be joined to his wife, and they shall become one flesh.

25And they were both naked, the man and his wife, and were not ashamed

Commitment - Intent


Genesis 29:18-2018Now Jacob loved Rachel; so he said, “I will serve

you seven years for Rachel your younger daughter.”

19And Laban said, “It is better that I give her to you than that I should give her to another man. Stay with me.” 20So Jacob served seven years for Rachel, and they seemed only a few days to him because of the love he had for her.

Commitment - Intent


There is no “official” ceremony in the Bible.

Every part of the typical ceremony are taught in the pages of Scripture.

Public announcements:

• Marriage license

• Wedding rings

• Newspaper articles

Ceremony – Public Announcement


John 2:1-21On the third day there was a wedding in Cana of

Galilee, and the mother of Jesus was there.2Now both Jesus and His disciples were invited to

the wedding.

This is the public announcement of marriage.

Ceremony – Public Announcement


Laws vary from state to state

• Blood tests

• Pre-marriage counseling

• Application fees

• Waiting periods

• Age limits

• Restrictions – Can’t marry a close relative

Law of the State


Romans 13:1-21Let every soul be subject to the governing

authorities. For there is no authority except from God, and the authorities that exist are appointed by God. 2Therefore whoever resists the authority resists the ordinance of God, and those who resist will bring judgment on themselves.

Law of the State


Romans 13:3-43For rulers are not a terror to good works, but to

evil. Do you want to be unafraid of the authority? Do what is good, and you will have praise from the same. 4For he is God’s minister to you for good. But if you do evil, be afraid; for he does not bear the sword in vain; for he is God’s minister, an avenger to execute wrath on him who practices evil.

Law of the State


Samson just saw the physical attraction

Judge Judy’s book title – “Beauty Fades; Dumb is Forever”

What happens to a marriage when the physical attraction is gone?

What happens to a marriage when the Biblical ingredients are missing?

Conclusion:


NOW FOR ONE FINAL QUESTION:

WHAT ABOUT YOUR “MARRIAGE” TO GOD?

How strong is your commitment, public announcement and obedience to the law of God?

Conclusion:

“get her for me” judges 14:1-3 samson had little idea about what was necessary for a marriage

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