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    Greatalk!

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    Copyright, Mazeway

    This book is copyrighted material. All rights reserved.

    It is against the law to make copies of this material without getting specific permission in

    advance from Mazeway. No part of this publication may be reproduced, stored in a re-

    trieval system, or transmitted in any form or by any means, electronic, mechanical, photo-

    copying, recording or otherwise without written permission of the publisher.

    Printed in the United States of America

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    Jeff Vankooten

    ii

    I rely on Jeff to evaluate my speech organization and

    effectiveness. The time spent with Jeff is always invaluable. His

    concise feedback invariably improves my speech organization,

    speech effectiveness--and even my speech 'confidence'.

    -Rainey Wikstrom

    Jeff Vankooten is a professional speaker, content creator, and consultant.

    Through his company Guruyou, Jeff inspires midlife professionals to make money and

    difference sharing what they know with the world.

    Jeff graduated from Calvin College in Grand Rapids, Michigan with a Bachelor of Arts

    in Psychology; a Bachelors of Arts in Communications; and a Masters Degree in The-

    ology from Denver Seminary where he was chosen as one of the top five speakers in

    his class. He lives in Denver, Colorado with his wife, three kids, and very big dog.Jeff Vankooten.com

    [email protected]

    mailto:[email protected]:[email protected]:[email protected]
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    Introduction

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    Things that make you go ...umm...

    Why does someone believe you when you say there are four billion

    stars, but checks when you say the paint is wet? ...umm...

    Why doesnt glue stick to the bottle? ...umm...

    Statistics say that four out of five people suffer from diarrhea. Does that

    mean one out of five actually enjoys it? ...umm...

    Why do people constantly return to the refrigerator with hopes that

    something new to eat will have materialized? ...umm...

    Why is the bar high on a boys bicycle and low on a girls? ...umm...

    Do the Alphabet song and Twinkle, Twinkle Little Star have the same

    tune? ...umm...

    Why did you just try singing the two songs above? ...umm...

    If corn oil comes from corn and olive oil from olives, where does baby

    oil come from? ...umm...

    Why is bra singular and panties plural? ...umm...

    Why did I even include that one? ...umm...

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    There are many imponderables in life that if you really thought

    about them would make you scratch your head and go umm...

    Unfortunately, one of the most prevalent imponderables is a

    presentation. How many times have you heard a speaker give

    a talk that left you scratching your head going umm...? Sure,the supporting slides and illustrations were impressive, the

    speaker was charismatic and made the audience laugh, he or

    she might have had a gifted tonal quality to the voice, sooth-

    ing to listen to, but in pondering what the speech was about,

    you had NO CLUE ...umm...

    In fact, 75 percent of audience members when asked immedi-

    ately after hearing a speaker were unable to succinctly sum-marize what the talk was about.

    More astonishing is the fact that only 50 percent of speakers

    could articulate precisely what their talk was about. If they

    could answer you, it might be just to get it over with. No won-

    der effective communication is so rare these days!

    The National Center on Education discovered that executivesof 610 corporations with 500 or more employees stated that

    oral and written skills were the number one deficiencies in

    their organizations. They also discovered that most managers

    were unable to clearly organize material and communicate it

    cogently themselves.

    As the pressure grows for companies and organizations to do

    more with less, they will increasingly rely on oral communica-

    tion. Why? Because a one hour talk delivers nearly 40 pages

    of hardcopy. Even a shorter presentation can reach more peo-

    ple quickly and persuade them 65 percent more effectively

    (Write Now surveys)

    There is a desperate need for clear communication. Our day

    and age demands that we be clearly heard through the ether

    of our information environment. There is so much information

    out there that we have become immune to it all. Weve be-

    come narcotized; not sure what to pay attention to.

    Getting Through

    Its easy to get all kinds of information these days. The mega-

    bytes are swirling around our heads all day long. Its a whole

    lot tougher putting that information together and communicat-

    ing it in ways that get through. The United States has far and

    away the most public speakers on the planet. From circuit rid-

    ers and evangelists, to presidential debates and improvisa-

    tional comedy, we have been a nation of oral communicators.

    Given the amount and proliferation of speakers and their mes-

    sages today, its amazing how many people arent very good

    at it.

    The following pieces of advice are distillations of what Ive

    learned over the years that make for great speakers and pre-

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    senters - dynamic communicators. Good public speaking skills

    could be the difference between getting a client or losing them

    to your competitor. It can make or break a political campaign.

    For a teacher it can create students who will either be passion-

    ate or indifferent to a subject. It depends on you.

    My desire is to go beyond mere advice. It is my hope that you

    will become the sort of speaker that heeds them to your advan-

    tage and transcends them. My desire is that you reach and

    galvanize an audience with a message that will truly get

    through.

    So, for those of you about to speak, I salute you!

    The Value of most information has col-

    lapsed to zero. The only scarce re-

    source is attention.

    For as long as I remember Ive been a public speaker. From

    the first wails of a request in the open arena of my parent s

    world, to the twenty- five hundred electrical union workers at

    Ballys in Las Vegas, I have attempted to communicate effec-

    tively in public.

    You too have spoken in public many times in your life. You

    gave a school report in front of class. You asked a person out

    on a date. You tried to win an argument. All those are exam-

    ples of speech uttered in the presence of others. Whether you

    like it or not, you are a public speaker. Get used to it and

    strive for excellence.

    One of my high school teachers told me that whenever I had a

    microphone in my hand I came alive. I have agreed with him

    ever since. Im happiest when Im speaking in front of an audi-

    ence. In fact, I would rather speak to two thousand people

    than to twenty.

    Part of knowing what gifts you possess is how energized youare when you express them. If something drains you when do-

    ing it, it probably isnt a gift. There are many who speak who

    dont have the gift. That doesnt mean they cant improve their

    speaking in public, but they are drained each time they do so.

    My hunch is that since you are reading this little tome on

    speaking, that you have the gift of gab. It invigorates you.

    Even if you think you dont have the gift, you will become

    more energized in those moments of speaking by heeding

    these pieces of advice. I also have a hunch there s an idea

    brewing deep down in the core of your soul that desperately

    wants to get out. In fact, you can hardly do anything else but

    talk about it. Great speakers, after all, speak.

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    Eddy Merckx, winner of four Tour de France races and one of

    the best bicyclists in the history of the sport was asked how he

    became such a good rider. His simple reply was,

    Ride lots

    Great speakers speak lots. They take advantage of every op-

    portunity to speak no matter how small the venue. In fact,

    great speakers stretch themselves by speaking in front of audi-

    ences they are uncomfortable with. For instance, you may not

    feel so adept at communicating to elementary school children,

    but I can guarantee you that when you do, you have just in-

    creased your effectiveness with an adult audience. When you

    stretch yourself, you never bounce back the same shape

    again.

    Wash off the mud

    Public speaking is an articulated expression of the heart of a

    person. Thus, who you are makes a huge difference in the ef-

    fectiveness of your presentation. A shallow person will give a

    shallow speech, while a deep person will give a deep speech -

    the kind of speech that people yearn to listen to and be trans-

    formed by. So self development is key to any discussion of ad-

    vice on public speaking. The outer self must give expression

    to the inner.

    The first essential for any public speaker is integrity. An align-

    ment of words and actions is essential. The tips, principles,

    and advice for the public speaker are only secondary matters.

    The sharp mind and warm heart are essential. Unless some-

    one is living fully out of the overflow of who they are, every-

    thing else will be like a glove with no hand-outward form but

    no internal substance.

    Many products are designed to imitate the real thing. There is

    plastic decking that looks like real wood. Vinyl flooring that ap-

    pears to be ceramic tile. You can purchase fake fur, diamonds,

    breasts and other body parts. The purpose behind all of these

    is pretty obvious, but what about a can of Spray on Mud?

    The actual product of Spray on Mudis designed for use on

    the outside of your SUV. That way it appears you use your ex-

    pensive vehicle for more than taking kids to soccer practice.

    Spray it on and friends might think youve just returned from a

    wilderness adventure.

    Inauthentic speakers, those who express mostly imitations of

    who they are, are like spray on mud. Looks real on the outside

    but is less than real on the inside. The Greek root for hypo-

    crite means one who wears a mask. We need to take off our

    masks - wash off the mud. What gets across most is who we

    are rather than what we say.

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    We are all presenters of our ideas, passion and image in front

    of a watching and listening world. Our whole hearts need to

    be in it.

    The public speaking event is one that takes place face to face.

    It remains vital and relevant. It is a highly relational event. Theinteraction between speaker and audience is special and

    unique. Its personal. Its intimate. The bond that is created can-

    not be achieved any other way. It will become ever more criti-

    cal in this day and age.

    Help me out, please

    Im tired of all the noise clamoring for my attention with half-

    baked ideas communicated with half-assed preparation and

    delivery. So many speakers out there think that if they say

    enough stuff and throw it all out there, something is bound to

    stick. If they put up enough shiny, happy powerpoint slides

    with cheesy graphics and distracting, moving objects that we

    as an audience will somehow get it. No way my friend.

    Im also saddened by speakers who have a message clamor-

    ing to get out, but they cant articulate it clearly or dynamically.

    I want that to cease. Their ideas deserve the best communica-

    tion possible.

    What you have to say matters to the world and I for one want

    to hear it. You have something to say that only you can say.

    No one else can deliver what you have to deliver. No one else

    can say what you have to say. In a nutshell, no one can do

    you, and do it for real. The world needs your unique contribu-

    tion and authenticity. The world needs who you are. The world

    needs to hear what you have to say. Please help me by com-

    municating it with excellence.

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    Chapter 1

    Pep with

    Prep

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    The trouble with many speakers is they go before an audience

    ill prepared and their minds a blank. Since nature abhors a

    vacuum the space is filled with all kinds of thoughts unrelated

    to the audience: Hows my hair? I hope I can pull this off!

    What am I doing up here anyway? I hope they like me.

    Get out of the Doldrums

    With so much on the line in public speaking its amazing how

    little attention we pay to our preparation. Its not that we dont

    realize its critical importance to the speech, its just that there

    never seems to be enough time to truly prepare as we would

    like or not quite sure how to do it. So we rush through this im-

    portant piece of advice. If we do give ourselves enough time,we arent sure what to do with it. So we wallow through our

    preparation. We enter what is known as the doldrums.

    The doldrums are pockets in oceans where winds can be com-

    pletely absent, notoriously trapping ships for days or weeks

    without enough wind to power their sails.

    To be in the doldrums of preparation means being in a place

    that is listless, stagnant, inactive, and in a slump. There is no

    pep.

    Take a look at a common way you might prepare for a speech.

    You sit at your desk with great anticipation ready to prepare a

    talk that will really leave the audience spell bound. A blank

    sheet of paper or an electronic word processor is in front of

    you ladened with such potentiality that it is dripping with possi-

    bilities. You can imagine the accolades now. Maybe a stand-

    ing ovation is in order.

    Then thirty minutes goes by with nothing to show for it, the dol-drums have set in, and the panic begins to quickly creep in.

    You know what Im talking about- the blank mind and unin-

    spired thoughts. What in the world are you going to talk

    about? And if you did have something to say, how in the world

    are you going to communicate it? So to lessen the stress of

    the moment you get up and go into the kitchen and dig into a

    handful of chocolate chips. Anything to mimic movement.

    Then you need something salty to wash them down so you

    open the bag of potato chips and begin to chow down. You

    know you desperately need to get back to your preparation

    and it bugs you. Its time for a Coke.

    You know you are cheating yourself but what are you going to

    do? Do you lift somebody elses talk and retrofit it for your

    own? Uh uh, cant do that. Youre a speaker of integrity. Even-

    tually you head back to your desk and get back to preparing

    your talk.

    Still, nothing. Doldrums. You might begin to aimlessly surf the

    internet in hopes that something substantive will materialize

    there. You begin to check your email every time the chime re-

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    minds you a new message has arrived. Every time you do that

    you interrupt the task at hand. Studies say it will take twenty

    five minutes before you even get back to it. It s a waste of

    time.

    You soon realize all the other tasks that are crying out for yourattention. And they get it. Soon, time has slipped away with

    very little to show for it.

    The problem of resistance

    What you are up against, quite simply, is resistance. It wreaks

    havoc on your preparation. It is internal and self perpetuated.

    It keeps us from moving ahead.

    Resistance gives impetus to the doldrums. Resistance has a

    knack of taking the wind out of our sails and keeping us in our

    place. The more you waffle in engaging the task at the hand,

    the more pronounced the doldrums become. Resistance often

    arises from fear - fear of performing poorly, fear of being

    judged and critiqued, fear of not getting it right, fear of actually

    succeeding (why is that?).

    Resistance becomes an entity that takes on a life of its own. It

    can become a virus that zaps your energy. It is responsible for

    many of the dysfunctions of preparation:

    A weakened motivation Inhibited creativity

    Discarded projects, and Diminished focus

    The power of conation

    The antidote to resistance is conation. Conation is an obscure

    word in the English language, but its definition is powerful in

    confronting resistance. Conation is the mental faculty of pur-

    pose, desire, or will to perform an action. In other words, it isthe purposeful movement in a desired direction. Conation is

    action and speed of execution. You just need to get started.

    Conation prevents waffling.

    General George S. Patton said that even bad plans pursued

    violently can make a difference. No plan is perfect when it is

    first conceived. In fact, the talk you put on paper is probably

    not the talk that develops. You just start with the talk you haveand doggedly pursue it as you make adjustments along the

    way. The key is to engage.

    Conation is not a quick fix but a significant part of anything

    that is worth doing. It deals with being and doing. The deeper

    the being the more significant the doing. We face two particu-

    lar conative questions daily:

    what are my intentions and goals? (Being) and

    what am I going to do about them? (Doing)

    How we answer those questions will make all the difference in

    the world. Every talk you give, every message that comes

    from your gut, through your heart and out of your mouth de-

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    serves the best that conation has to offer. Conation in prepara-

    tion means you take seriously the deep purpose of your task

    and give it intended direction.

    So, as you are preparing, add pep to the process by conating

    all over the place. Conate constantly in your prep time. Cona-

    tion ought to be oozing from your pores. Here is how to co-

    nate in your preparation and give it some pep.

    Get away and get ahead.

    Lets face it, every good presentation needs ample prep time

    to be created and allowed to ferment. Go someplace where

    you are very comfortable, where you will not be disturbed, and

    shut off all technological contact to the outside world. Dont al-

    low your cell phone, text messaging, facebook, twitter, or any

    other type of social media take precedence during this time. If

    music or coffee helps you to concentrate, then go for it. The

    key is not to be interrupted and to stay as focused as possible

    for at least an hour.

    Then begin to answer the key conative questions:

    What are my intentions and goals?:

    This gets down to the purpose of your talk. What is its reason

    for being? Answering this question gives your message mean-

    ingful heft and increases your motivation for telling it. The

    Gettysburg address was written and delivered by Abraham Lin-

    coln and is one of the best-speeches in United States history.

    It was secondary to other speeches that day but is the one

    that is remembered.

    Given at the dedication of the Soldiers National Cemetery in

    Gettysburg, Pennsylvania it was a well crafted speech with a

    deep purpose behind it. In just over two minutes and 272

    words (!) he invoked the principles of human equality and rede-

    fined the Civil War as one that would unify the fragmented

    country and bring true equality for all people.

    Abraham Lincolns purpose was nothing less than a unified

    country. You can hope people get your message but unless

    you intend it to be so, it isnt gonna happen.

    So, what is the reason you are really up in front speaking to

    people? What are your intending to do? You should be able to

    sum up your intentions for your talk with one motivational

    word. For instance:

    Inspiration

    Encouragement

    Transformation

    Equality

    Disruption

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    Unification

    Establishing these intentions requires careful planning. After

    all, they become the foundation upon which your content, or-

    ganization, and visual aids are built.

    What am I going to say about my intentions?

    After reflecting on the real reason you are giving the talk and

    determining your stated intentions for it, ask yourself what it is

    you are going to say about them. Answering this question gets

    to the overarching subject of your talk. Deciding on the subject

    you are going to talk about seems like standard procedure,

    right? But youd be surprise how many people arent sure

    what theyre going to talk about - subject matter is so broad

    and expansive. This is because they havent boiled their sub-

    ject matter down to a manageable amount of information.

    Ask yourself what it is you want to talk about by framing it. The

    right frame adds beauty to any painting and brings the proper

    focus to the work of art. The same is true for the art of crafting

    a speech.

    For instance, lets say you want to talk about the subject of

    cockroaches. Many speakers stop right there. They think

    they got the subject (whew) and all they have to do is talk

    about it from there. Yet there is no frame, no way of highlight-

    ing the subject at hand. Cockroaches is very broad subject.

    So you need to narrow it down more specifically. How about

    framing the talk around how to get rid of cockroaches. Or you

    may want to talk about the nutritional value of eating cock-

    roaches (tastes like chicken). Now you got something that can

    be worked with. Yum! Its also the beginning step in fully clarify-

    ing your message (that piece of advice to follow).

    Brainstorm

    Once youve answered the two conative questions, you now

    begin to brainstorm. This is fun, because its meant to be non-

    judgmental and give expression to your creativity. You mustnt

    analyze this process. It is what it is and the end result is what

    was suppose to happen. Leave it at that.

    Brainstorming can unlock what you want to say. This is a tech-

    nique where you cognitively dump everything that is on your

    mind regarding your talk and its subject manner. Quantity

    counts more than quality at this stage. Take a blank piece of

    paper and some colored markers and begin to go. Fire up the

    digital recorder and begin to spew all the ideas into it. Dont

    judge what comes out of your brain but rather keep going. It iswhat it is and the act of doing it is what matters. You can or-

    ganize your thoughts later in the clarification piece of advice.

    Have fun. Doodle. Write down thoughts about your audience.

    Sing. Dream about the response to your talk. Investigate all

    sources on your subject. One of the best pieces of advice I

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    ever got from a mentor of mine was this: read what no one

    else reading. Then you sound fresh and innovative about the

    topic at hand.

    Brainstorming is a function of right brain operation. The left

    brain is analytical, the right brain is creative. An effective way

    to access the right brain is through the technique of mind-

    mapping. What this does is take a standard, run of the mill out-

    line and translates it into pictures and a flow that are the pre-

    ferred mode for the right brain. Google it and try it.

    Organize your thoughts

    After you have brainstormed, you need to focus. You need to

    scoop all of your ideas into a type of mental receptacle - a

    place that begins to ferment the ideas and gives them direc-

    tion and shape. Allow them into your heart. Silence your

    thoughts and focus only on what you have come up with. Is

    there a pattern that emerges? Is there something of sub-

    stance to talk about? Are there any illustrations that could be

    used? This is all about mindfulness. Mindfulness is being fully

    present with the process by attentive engagement with thesubject at hand. Avoid bunny trails. Avoid the superfluous

    thoughts. Get off that trail quickly and onto the avenues that

    will bring you closer to what you are going to say.

    Choose what type of talk you will give

    There are only two types of talks you will ever give. That

    should give you some solace. It will be either one or the other

    - informative or persuasive. Thats it. Whether you knew it or

    not every talk youve ever given was one or the other. Every

    talk youve ever heard was one or the other. You will either be

    informing and instructing or persuading and motivating. These

    are your objectives. So what will it be? Think about the speak-

    ing assignment and context of your talk. What category of

    speech does it fall into, Informative or Persuasive?

    Plan for Success and Expect it

    We can often and easily imagine what can go wrong with our

    talk. Usually then it will. If your heart palpitates while thinkingabout the talk, your heart will palpitate on the stage. If in your

    mind you foresee audience boredom, then they probably will

    be. Ruts in the brain are hard to get out of. If you habitually

    foresee what can go wrong with the talk, the more pro-

    nounced the ruts become. But there are ways out of them and

    into the grooves that really matter.

    You need to visualize your talk going off without a hitch.

    When visualizing, the first thing you need to do is relax. This

    helps remove from the mind all the clutter and insecurities that

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    can arise. Identify any troubling situations or conditions that

    you can think of.

    Can you see yourself freezing in front of the audience like

    deer in the headlights? Stop that. Begin to imagine the talk go-

    ing just as planned and you speaking at your very best. Be-

    come aware of the thought patterns that you default to when

    thinking about the situations or conditions of the speaking

    event.

    You need to challenge inaccurate thinking with the truth. You

    are a good speaker. If something does go wrong, it doesnt

    make you a failure. If nothing else, it can be tremendous learn-

    ing opportunity. Change your thoughts and beliefs of failure.That will add pep to your prep.

    The trouble with many speakers is they go before an audience

    ill prepared and their minds a blank. Since nature abhors a

    vacuum the space is filled with all kinds of thoughts unrelated

    to the audience: Hows my hair? I hope I can pull this off!

    What am I doing up here anyway? I hope they like me.

    Get out of the Doldrums

    With so much on the line in public speaking its amazing how

    little attention we pay to our preparation. Its not that we dont

    realize its critical importance to the speech, its just that there

    never seems to be enough time to truly prepare as we would

    like or not quite sure how to do it. So we rush through this im-

    portant piece of advice. If we do give ourselves enough time,

    we arent sure what to do with it. So we wallow through our

    preparation. We enter what is known as the doldrums.

    The doldrums are pockets in oceans where winds can be com-

    pletely absent, notoriously trapping ships for days or weeks

    without enough wind to power their sails.

    To be in the doldrums of preparation means being in a place

    that is listless, stagnant, inactive, and in a slump. There is no

    pep.

    Take a look at a common way you might prepare for a speech.

    You sit at your desk with great anticipation ready to prepare a

    talk that will really leave the audience spell bound. A blank

    sheet of paper or an electronic word processor is in front of

    you ladened with such potentiality that it is dripping with possi-

    bilities. You can imagine the accolades now. Maybe a stand-

    ing ovation is in order.

    Then thirty minutes goes by with nothing to show for it, the dol-

    drums have set in, and the panic begins to quickly creep in.

    You know what Im talking about- the blank mind and unin-

    spired thoughts. What in the world are you going to talk

    about? And if you did have something to say, how in the world

    are you going to communicate it? So to lessen the stress of

    the moment you get up and go into the kitchen and dig into a

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    handful of chocolate chips. Anything to mimic movement.

    Then you need something salty to wash them down so you

    open the bag of potato chips and begin to chow down. You

    know you desperately need to get back to your preparation

    and it bugs you. Its time for a Coke.

    You know you are cheating yourself but what are you going to

    do? Do you lift somebody elses talk and retrofit it for your

    own? Uh uh, cant do that. Youre a speaker of integrity. Even-

    tually you head back to your desk and get back to preparing

    your talk.

    Still, nothing. Doldrums. You might begin to aimlessly surf the

    internet in hopes that something substantive will materializethere. You begin to check your email every time the chime re-

    minds you a new message has arrived. Every time you do that

    you interrupt the task at hand. Studies say it will take twenty

    five minutes before you even get back to it. It s a waste of

    time.

    You soon realize all the other tasks that are crying out for your

    attention. And they get it. Soon, time has slipped away withvery little to show for it.

    The problem of resistance

    What you are up against, quite simply, is resistance. It wreaks

    havoc on your preparation. It is internal and self perpetuated.

    It keeps us from moving ahead.

    Resistance gives impetus to the doldrums. Resistance has a

    knack of taking the wind out of our sails and keeping us in our

    place. The more you waffle in engaging the task at the hand,

    the more pronounced the doldrums become. Resistance often

    arises from fear - fear of performing poorly, fear of being

    judged and critiqued, fear of not getting it right, fear of actually

    succeeding (why is that?).

    Resistance becomes an entity that takes on a life of its own. It

    can become a virus that zaps your energy. It is responsible for

    many of the dysfunctions of preparation:

    A weakened motivation Inhibited creativity

    Discarded projects, and Diminished focus

    The power of conation

    The antidote to resistance is conation. Conation is an obscure

    word in the English language, but its definition is powerful in

    confronting resistance. Conation is the mental faculty of pur-

    pose, desire, or will to perform an action. In other words, it is

    the purposeful movement in a desired direction. Conation is

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    action and speed of execution. You just need to get started.

    Conation prevents waffling.

    General George S. Patton said that even bad plans pursued

    violently can make a difference. No plan is perfect when it is

    first conceived. In fact, the talk you put on paper is probably

    not the talk that develops. You just start with the talk you have

    and doggedly pursue it as you make adjustments along the

    way. The key is to engage.

    Conation is not a quick fix but a significant part of anything

    that is worth doing. It deals with being and doing. The deeper

    the being the more significant the doing. We face two particu-

    lar conative questions daily:

    what are my intentions and goals? (Being) and

    what am I going to do about them? (Doing)

    How we answer those questions will make all the difference in

    the world. Every talk you give, every message that comes

    from your gut, through your heart and out of your mouth de-

    serves the best that conation has to offer. Conation in prepara-tion means you take seriously the deep purpose of your task

    and give it intended direction.

    So, as you are preparing, add pep to the process by conating

    all over the place. Conate constantly in your prep time. Cona-

    tion ought to be oozing from your pores. Here is how to co-

    nate in your preparation and give it some pep.

    Get away and get ahead.

    Lets face it, every good presentation needs ample prep time

    to be created and allowed to ferment. Go someplace whereyou are very comfortable, where you will not be disturbed, and

    shut off all technological contact to the outside world. Dont al-

    low your cell phone, text messaging, facebook, twitter, or any

    other type of social media take precedence during this time. If

    music or coffee helps you to concentrate, then go for it. The

    key is not to be interrupted and to stay as focused as possible

    for at least an hour.

    Then begin to answer the key conative questions:

    What are my intentions and goals?:

    This gets down to the purpose of your talk. What is its reason

    for being? Answering this question gives your message mean-

    ingful heft and increases your motivation for telling it. The

    Gettysburg address was written and delivered by Abraham Lin-coln and is one of the best-speeches in United States history.

    It was secondary to other speeches that day but is the one

    that is remembered.

    Given at the dedication of the Soldiers National Cemetery in

    Gettysburg, Pennsylvania it was a well crafted speech with a

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    deep purpose behind it. In just over two minutes and 272

    words (!) he invoked the principles of human equality and rede-

    fined the Civil War as one that would unify the fragmented

    country and bring true equality for all people.

    Abraham Lincolns purpose was nothing less than a unified

    country. You can hope people get your message but unless

    you intend it to be so, it isnt gonna happen.

    So, what is the reason you are really up in front speaking to

    people? What are your intending to do? You should be able to

    sum up your intentions for your talk with one motivational

    word. For instance:

    Inspiration

    Encouragement

    Transformation

    Equality

    Disruption

    Unification

    Establishing these intentions requires careful planning. After

    all, they become the foundation upon which your content, or-

    ganization, and visual aids are built.

    What are you going to say about my intentions?

    After reflecting on the real reason you are giving the talk and

    determining your stated intentions for it, ask yourself what it is

    you are going to say about them. Answering this question gets

    to the overarching subject of your talk. Deciding on the subject

    you are going to talk about seems like standard procedure,

    right? But youd be surprise how many people arent sure

    what theyre going to talk about - subject matter is so broad

    and expansive. This is because they havent boiled their sub-

    ject matter down to a manageable amount of information.

    Ask yourself what it is you want to talk about by framing it. The

    right frame adds beauty to any painting and brings the properfocus to the work of art. The same is true for the art of crafting

    a speech.

    For instance, lets say you want to talk about the subject of

    cockroaches. Many speakers stop right there. They think

    they got the subject (whew) and all they have to do is talk

    about it from there. Yet there is no frame, no way of highlight-

    ing the subject at hand. Cockroaches is very broad subject.So you need to narrow it down more specifically. How about

    framing the talk around how to get rid of cockroaches. Or you

    may want to talk about the nutritional value of eating cock-

    roaches (tastes like chicken). Now you got something that can

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    be worked with. Yum! Its also the beginning step in fully clarify-

    ing your message (that piece of advice to follow).

    Brainstorm

    Once youve answered the two conative questions, you now

    begin to brainstorm. This is fun, because its meant to be non-judgmental and give expression to your creativity. You mustnt

    analyze this process. It is what it is and the end result is what

    was suppose to happen. Leave it at that.

    Brainstorming can unlock what you want to say. This is a tech-

    nique where you cognitively dump everything that is on your

    mind regarding your talk and its subject manner. Quantity

    counts more than quality at this stage. Take a blank piece of

    paper and some colored markers and begin to go. Fire up the

    digital recorder and begin to spew all the ideas into it. Dont

    judge what comes out of your brain but rather keep going. It is

    what it is and the act of doing it is what matters. You can or-

    ganize your thoughts later in the clarification piece of advice.

    Have fun. Doodle. Write down thoughts about your audience.

    Sing. Dream about the response to your talk. Investigate allsources on your subject. One of the best pieces of advice I

    ever got from a mentor of mine was this: read what no one

    else reading. Then you sound fresh and innovative about the

    topic at hand.

    Brainstorming is a function of right brain operation. The left

    brain is analytical, the right brain is creative. An effective way

    to access the right brain is through the technique of mind-

    mapping. What this does is take a standard, run of the mill out-

    line and translates it into pictures and a flow that are the pre-

    ferred mode for the right brain. Google it and try it.

    Organize your thoughts

    After you have brainstormed, you need to focus. You need to

    scoop all of your ideas into a type of mental receptacle - a

    place that begins to ferment the ideas and gives them direc-

    tion and shape. Allow them into your heart. Silence your

    thoughts and focus only on what you have come up with. Isthere a pattern that emerges? Is there something of sub-

    stance to talk about? Are there any illustrations that could be

    used? This is all about mindfulness. Mindfulness is being fully

    present with the process by attentive engagement with the

    subject at hand. Avoid bunny trails. Avoid the superfluous

    thoughts. Get off that trail quickly and onto the avenues that

    will bring you closer to what you are going to say.

    Choose what type of talk you will give

    There are only two types of talks you will ever give. That

    should give you some solace. It will be either one or the other

    - informative or persuasive. Thats it. Whether you knew it or

    not every talk youve ever given was one or the other. Every

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    talk youve ever heard was one or the other. You will either be

    informing and instructing or persuading and motivating. These

    are your objectives. So what will it be? Think about the speak-

    ing assignment and context of your talk. What category of

    speech does it fall into, Informative or Persuasive?

    Plan for Success and Expect it

    We can often and easily imagine what can go wrong with our

    talk. Usually then it will. If your heart palpitates while thinking

    about the talk, your heart will palpitate on the stage. If in your

    mind you foresee audience boredom, then they probably will

    be. Ruts in the brain are hard to get out of. If you habitually

    foresee what can go wrong with the talk, the more pro-nounced the ruts become. But there are ways out of them and

    into the grooves that really matter.

    You need to visualize your talk going off without a hitch.

    When visualizing, the first thing you need to do is relax. This

    helps remove from the mind all the clutter and insecurities thatcan arise. Identify any troubling situations or conditions that

    you can think of.

    Can you see yourself freezing in front of the audience like

    deer in the headlights? Stop that. Begin to imagine the talk go-

    ing just as planned and you speaking at your very best. Be-

    come aware of the thought patterns that you default to when

    thinking about the situations or conditions of the speaking

    event.

    You need to challenge inaccurate thinking with the truth. You

    are a good speaker. If something does go wrong, it doesnt

    make you a failure. If nothing else, it can be tremendous learn-

    ing opportunity. Change your thoughts and beliefs of failure.

    That will add pep to your prep.

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    Chapter 2

    Clarity is your

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    I know you believe you understand what you think I said, but I

    am not sure you realize that what you heard is not what I

    meant."

    You may have conated your way to a subject and reason for

    your talk but unless it is crystal clear, its not going to make

    much difference and will dissipate in the space between you

    and your audience.

    Check out the following statistics on our information day and

    age. They are astonishing, and my guess is they will only in-

    crease until every minute of every twenty four hours of the day

    are bloated with info (even while we sleep):

    According to a study by the University of California, San Diego

    our consumption of data in one day is 3.6 Zettabytes. How

    large is that anyway (it boggles the mind)? It is the amount of

    information if you tweeted every second of every day non-stop

    for a hundred years.

    The nature of being opaque

    I can remember taking my grandma to the eye doctor. Shecalled me with the complaint that her right eye was cloudy and

    she was having a hard time seeing clearly through it.

    When we arrived there, the doctor tested her sight with a vari-

    ety of contraptions to diagnose her condition. One test asked

    her to read the letters on a chart if front of her.

    No matter how large the letters were she could not make them

    out through her cloudy eye. They were hazy and ill defined.

    Her vision was opaque and she couldnt see clearly at all.

    With out clarity, information is hard or impossible to under-

    stand and make sense of clearly. It becomes opaque. Being

    opaque creates a veil that is very difficult to see through. Be-

    ing opaque clouds the picture of your communication intent.

    Being opaque prevents the light of your talk from shining

    through. Quite simply being opaque is being unclear. It also

    diminishes your authenticity because it is seen as being less

    than transparent and honest with your audience. Are you hid-

    ing something?

    What makes a talk opaque? First and foremost its being un-

    certain as to what you are talking about. In other words its a

    function of clarity. Unless you are intentional about being

    clear, certain as to what you are going to communicate, then

    you will be opaque.

    The most effective people erase opacity from their communica-

    tion by intentionally being crystal clear. There was no mistak-ing the clarity of Martin Luther Kings I have a dream speech

    delivered at the Lincoln Memorial on the 28th of August 1963.

    Similar to Lincolns Gettysburg Address, Dr. King used a modi-

    cum of words and time (a little over seventeen minutes) to

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    make a very clear point: Equality for all. Even the venue

    helped to clarify his message. No opacity at all.

    Clarity around your subject matter reduces its opaqueness

    and increases its value and its importance for you and your re-

    cipients.

    The benefits of clarity

    Being crystal clear has benefits that put you way ahead of the

    competition.

    Clarity captures attention:

    With all the information flying around these days, the only real

    resource for communicators today is attention. Clarity garners

    it. Clarity focuses attention on a single objective, the purpose

    of your talk.

    If you remember the James Bond movie, Goldfinger James

    Bond is bound to a flat table and a laser is pointed to burn be-

    tween his legs reaching its final destination of, well, you

    know...that part. Its one of the few times in the Bond series

    that I really saw him sweat. Why? Because a focused laser

    beam made it very clear to Bond what the intent was. It got his

    attention.

    Clarity brings much needed attention to your message.

    Clarity attracts affinity:

    Clarity aligns people to your vision and mission. It creates and

    garners synergy. Every time you speak you want to create

    some sort of alignment with an idea or action and instill it in

    your audience. Clarity does that.

    Think of the movie Braveheart starring Mel Gibson. The

    movie focuses on William Wallace, the Scot warrior who,

    through guerilla warfare resists the tyranny of England. His

    ability to rouse the common people of Scotland to confront the

    professional military of the King of England was his ability to

    communicate a clear message that gathered followers. He in-

    spired warriors to follow him because his mission was incredi-

    bly clear: Free Scotland, No Compromise- period. A clear pre-

    cise mission does wonders in attracting allies to change the

    world (or at least your little corner of it). The Scots aligned to

    the clear mission went on to earned their freedom.

    Clarity inspires action:

    Without clarity, communication fails. Clarity inspires action in

    your audience because they know precisely what you are moti-

    vating them for or asking them to do.

    Youve heard the cliched movie directive of Lights, Camera,

    Action. That is the directors way of announcing that the ac-

    tors are clear on their parts and their scenes. If they are not,

    he/she will go back to rehearsal and give directions until he/

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    she feels they know exactly what they need to do and say. All

    of that leads up to the precise action of the scene.

    Clarity reduces anxiety:

    Its visceral.

    You feel it in your bones.

    The quivering of the minute hairs on the back of your neck

    hearken its arrival. The superficial muscles embedded be-

    neath your skin begin to quiver. The skin itself is affected, with

    sweat easily oozing from its pores. The rush of adrenaline

    courses through even the smallest capillaries, causing the

    heart to beat violently, palpitating its reaction against the ribs.

    Your breathing becomes frantic. Your mouth becomes dry and

    your senses crackle with every stimuli. You can't sleep. Or if

    you do, you're dreams are uneasy, disconcerting. You are on

    high alert and on watch. It shows in your performance.

    Fear has arrived...

    The Book of Lists accumulated and ranked an assortment of

    fascinating topics. One is a list of mankinds worst fear. Is

    death our greatest fear? No. Thats tied for sixth place along-

    side sickness. In fifth place, above death is our fear of deep

    water. In fourth place is our fear of financial problems. Third

    highlights our fear of insects and bugs, and second place is

    our fear of heights.

    The number one fear of people today, surpassing death, is

    speaking before people. Public speaking is so disconcerting

    that the comedian Jerry Seinfeld quipped that

    most people would rather be in the cas-

    ket than give the eulogy

    Many of us are unsure of ourselves, our message, and our

    ability to speak in public. We are too self conscious. We are

    afraid that we are going to be found out on stage; that we

    really dont know what we are talking about and appear to be

    a fool. This is insecurity. Insecurity arises from a disconnect

    between our outer and inner selves. Fear arises from a lack of

    clarity in our message. Sweaty palms, dry mouth, and intesti-

    nal gas are the result. Fear often can and does render us inef-

    fective, stealing our confidence and emotional resources.

    We need to change that. We need to be communicators that

    know exactly what we are going to say and have the confi-

    dence to say it with clarity and integrity. Clarity and Integrity

    are both antidotes to anxiety.

    The ability to be clear and compelling as well as honest and

    authentic will set you apart from the rest of the riff-raff clogging

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    the airwaves, and believe me there are MANY out there. They

    are speaker wanna bes - theyre not real but they sure are

    earnest.

    The torpedo effect

    Submarine commanders use periscopes to hone in on a tar-get on the surface of the water. The cross hairs calibrate the

    precise location the torpedo is going to hit. The same is true in

    creating an objective. You hone in on your targeted purpose

    with the torpedo of clarity. Calibrations take place that focus

    your attention precisely on the target you have in mind. The

    torpedo of public speaking is a one sentence objective.

    Author, Ron Hoff ("I Can See You Naked") reminds us that

    your presentation should be able to pass the David Belasco

    test while you're in the planning stages. David Belasco was a

    producer who insisted that the core idea for every successful

    play he produced could be written as a simple sentence on

    the back of a business card.

    Try it. Can you crystallize the essence of your content and

    write it on the back of a business card? It s essential. Its your

    torpedo. Clarity is your guarantee that your message will be

    heard and that your intent for the talk is precisely what is deliv-

    ered. Being clear about what you want to say in one sentence

    is the bedrock of all other speech advice.

    I have a conviction that no talk is ready

    for presenting, not ready for writing out,

    until we can express its theme in a short,

    pregnant sentence as clear as a crystal. Ifind the getting of that sentence is the

    hardest, the most exacting, and the most

    fruitful labor in my study.

    -J.H. Jowett

    An objective sentence is critical. It tells you where you are go-

    ing, keeps you from meandering, and captivates the attention

    of the audience.

    You can determine the objective of your talk by following the

    SCORRE process of preparation. Developed by Ken Davis

    and Dynamic Communicators International, SCORRE leads

    you through stages that force you to be clear as a speaker.

    The most important stage is to determine an objective. If you

    dont determine your objective an unconscious one, like I

    hope they like me will take over and your talk will be less than

    effective.

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    The objective is a sentence that contains a proposition (what

    you are putting before your audience to consider or accept).

    One well known example of a proposition is the young man

    proposing to his girlfriend. Will you marry me? It is put be-

    fore the young lady for her to consider, accept, or, heaven for-

    bid, decline.

    There are only two kinds of propositions to choose from: Ena-

    bling or Persuasive. You are either going to inform and instruct

    your audience or you are going to persuade and motivate

    them.

    From the example above, the proposition is persuasive, you

    should marry me.

    The subsequent proposition from wedding planners to a bride

    to be is enabling, you can have a beautiful wedding

    Heres how we sketch out the two propositions from our exam-

    ples.

    Persuasive: My girlfriend shouldmarry me.

    Enabling: Every bride canhave a beautiful wedding.

    Notice the word should (for persuasive) and can (for ena-

    bling). Each word makes the proposition what it is. Makes

    sense.

    Each proposition conjures a question in the mind of the audi-

    ence. If you dont answer it in your speech you are dead in the

    water and youre clarity is shot.

    If you go with a persuasive proposition that uses the word

    should, the obvious question in the mind of your hearers is

    why?

    Likewise if you go with an enabling proposition using the word

    can the logical question that is asked by your audience is

    how?

    It is essential you answer the question posed by each proposi-

    tion. You audience is going to be asking it.

    From our examples it looks something like this:

    My girlfriend should marry me - Why? because of all the

    ways we are compatible

    Every bride can have a beautiful wedding - How? by hiring

    our services.

    From there you need to list the ways you are compatible orthe services you provide brides to be.

    For much more detail on putting this all together as well as im-

    proving your skill set as a speaker plan to attend the

    SCORREconference.com . Its the best out there.

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    Move to

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    Words and actions must align. This is more than just moving

    around on the stage. It is in service to a clear message.

    Gestures

    Gestures are the primary mode of body language that speakers

    utilize. They refer to all bodily movement except walking. De-

    tailed studies taking advantage of audio-visual recording technol-

    ogy have shown that gesture and speech are so intimately con-

    nected that they appear to be governed by a single process. In

    fact, it is widely believed that gestures were the first forms of lan-

    guage with which humans communicated, and that vocalization

    came about not as a replacement for manual gestures, but

    rather to augment them.

    Gestures will come as a natural part of your speaking manner;

    they should arise spontaneously from enthusiasm and convic-

    tion. There doesnt have to be complicated rehearsals for ges-

    tures. They naturally occur from the fullness of your message.

    They happen when your descriptive gestures portray an object

    or illustrate an action. Describe the size, shape, or movement of

    an object by imitation. Show a vigorous punch by striking with

    your fist; show height by holding your hand at the desired level;

    show speed by a quick sweep of your arm. Pantomime a com-

    plicated or humorous movement as you describe it.

    Remember that when it comes to gestures, less is more. Do not

    smother ideas with a floor exercise. The message needs to be

    bigger than the gesture. The basic rule in movement is modera-

    tion.

    One extreme are those speakers who are hyper-kinetic and

    bounce around the stage like a pinball in an arcade game. They

    often spray the audience with spittle, their veins will pop out of

    their neck and temples, and they begin to sweat profusely. Theyseem to be exuding pure animal instincts.

    A great example of this is the late Chris Farleys comedy routine

    on Saturday Night Live. He played the part of Matt Foley a fre-

    netic motivational speaker. His movements were so large and

    over the top he would crash onto tables and bust through walls.

    The other class of speakers cower behind the podium afraid of

    the limelight, and unable to move during their talk. They seem to

    want nothing more than to slink away unnoticed.

    A great example of this is the late Don Knotts, best known as

    Barney Fife from the Andy Griffith Show. As part of his schtick

    early in his career he played the part of a nervous presenter who

    never moved from behind the security of the podium. He would

    rattle his papers and physically and verbally tremble. He sheep-

    ishly tried to make his points and it garnered many laughs as a

    result.

    Between these two extremes lies appropriate movement.

    As your skill and experience increase, your movement will be-

    come less obvious and more meaningful. Learn to modify the

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    degree of movement to make it natural and meaningful. Plan

    your movement so that you are at the proper place at the

    proper time. Remember whenever a shirt or a pair of shoes calls

    attention to itself, its bad. The same goes for gestures.

    Home base

    It is important to discover your home base, that natural resting

    position we default to with our hands. For some its in their pock-

    ets. Others lace the fingers of their two hands in front of them.

    You may find your home base is with hands crossed behind

    your back. The best way to discover this is to have someone

    you know spectate one of your talks with the intention of analyz-

    ing your gestures. Have him or her pay close attention to the

    gesture that seems to be the common default for you. Anotherway is to watch a video of your talk and discover home base for

    yourself. From there all other hand gestures should originate.

    And don't forget the most important gesture: to SMILE. It

    makes you look more comfortable and less like a victim with

    bad case of diarrhea.

    Space

    Space on stage is an important component of any presentation.

    Actors on a stage have certain marks taped on the floor to help

    them know where they need to be at any particular time in the

    play. A director during rehearsal will ask the thespians to take

    their places.

    Using space effectively is much more than simply walking back

    and forth across the stage. It is utilizing it as a strategic ally. You

    should pick one or two people on both sides of the auditorium

    moving to them periodically and looking them in the eye. The

    rest of the audience will perceive that you are including them in

    your talk.

    If you can, get up on the stage before you speak and get a feel

    for its environment. Determine the spots you are going to utilize

    in the space on stage. That way you arent surprised the mo-

    ment you get up there by its dynamic or your orientation to the

    audience.

    It's a rather rude gesture, but at least it's clear

    what you mean.

    -Katherine Hepburn, american actress

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    Chapter 4

    Transition is

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    Think of the best books youve ever read. The kind that you

    couldnt put down, keeping you awake until the wee hours of

    the morning to finish it. What do all those stories have in com-

    mon? The ability of the author to make it a page turner. Every

    sentence led to the next in such a compelling way that you were

    inspired to keep going and follow the narrative to its conclusion.

    Or think of the old fashion bucket brigade. That is where people

    lined up to pass a bucket of water from one to the other so the

    person at the end of the line can throw it on the fire. Each move-

    ment of the bucket is critical to the next movement toward its

    final outcome.

    Often the longest lines at amusement parks are for the sharp

    twist and turns of a roller coaster. Why? The transitions are crispand exhilarating, leaving the rider wanting more. Coasters are so

    popular in our imaginations, that even the design of the curves

    and over all movement of the car from section to section has be-

    come a creative and innovative engineering feat.

    Transitions in presentations are very much like all that. They are

    crisp and intriguing, leaving the listener wanting more. It is your

    compelling ability both physically and verbally to move an audi-ence along in your talk to its desired outcome.

    The most basic transitions in any talk involve moving your audi-

    ence through three main components: the beginning, middle,

    and end, also known as the opening, the body, and the close of

    the talk.

    How to use transitions

    You can craft transitions by changing stage position, pausing,

    using visual aids, giving out a handout, picking up a prop, using

    transitional words; also, in addition, to sum up, on the other

    hand etc. You can also sharply vary the sound you make com-

    ing out microphone. Do anything that breaks the pattern of whatyou were doing in the previous segment and introduces what

    you plan to do. Likewise, few things can distract an audience

    faster than a speaker who jumps physically from one point to an-

    other with out any apparent reason.

    Transitions must be designed and deliberately rehearsed. For in-

    stance, you can practice the use of physical transitions such as

    a different location on the stage to highlight each point, or asweep of the hand at the appropriate time can work as a useful

    transition.

    For verbal transitions, one-liners, anecdotes, and questions

    work well. Also, people seem to like and need recaps. Recaps

    are one of the most effective ways to move from point to point.

    The average attention span of most people when listening to a

    presentation is about twenty minutes. You can test that out by

    looking over the audience at around 25 minutes and see how

    many people are doing other things, such as doodling, looking

    at laptops, reading papers, or dozing.

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    Given the hyper accelerated immediacy of our culture, experts

    are saying our attention span will become even less than that.

    That means you need to vary your pace and movement, transi-

    tioning strategically to bring the audiences attention back to you

    and to the flow of your speech.

    Filmmakers use the "Whammo chart" which specifies that everyten pages or so of a script there must be a real whammo, a real

    shot of action. This transitions the narrative of the movie back to

    the main plotline. So if your speech is longer than twenty min-

    utes you need to plan some sort of whammo every twenty min-

    utes to bring your audience back to your presentation.

    A critical element is pacing.

    If you are old enough to have watched Michael Jacksons break-

    through performance on the Motown television special of his

    song Billy Jean on March 25, 1983, youll recall how Jackson

    sealed his status as a pop phenomenon when he performed the

    song Billie Jean. It was a dance move that mesmerized the

    audience. In a visual illusion, Jackson walked forward while mov-

    ing back. He dubbed it the moonwalk and purportedly paid a

    performer he had seen accomplish it a thousand dollars to

    learn.

    In that move, it was the smoothness of Jacksons transitions

    and his determination to perfect it that cemented his legend as

    King of Pop.

    All that is to say, transitions are crucial enough to the perform-

    ance of your talk that you should always be on the lookout for

    ways to move your audience through the elements of your pres-

    entation as well as relentlessly perfecting them at each and

    every stage. It will help to cement your quality status as a bril-

    liant presenter.

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    Grabm,

    Holdm,Leavm

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    Your speech consists of three dynamics. Each must be ampli-

    fied to make the most of your talk

    GRABM: The opening

    One of the primary purposes of an opening is to establish rap-

    port with your audience. This can be done before you even step

    on stage. I consider what I do before the speech as an impor-

    tant component of establishing rapport. I will shake hands and

    learn names. I will hand out supporting material and say hi to

    those who receive it.

    Be creative in the opening. Most every one on the planet is famil-

    iar with the Star Wars series of movies. I was a part of the gen-

    eration that saw the original Star Wars for the first time when it

    arrived in theaters. I was hooked the moment the opening

    scene hearkened the promise of film making never seen before.

    The small rebel ship flew across the screen chased by a ship

    that was so large it seemed to go on forever. And who could for-

    get the music that defined it. It opened up the context of the

    movie and began a cultural phenomenon that lasts to this day. I

    ended up seeing the movie twice in one day.

    You can squelch rapport with a weak introduction. I cant stand

    speakers who patronize the audience in their introduction. How

    many of you have heard a speaker begin by intoning Good

    Morning! in order to raise the energy level, only to chide the

    audience for their lack of enthusiasm by having them respond

    again with forced gusto.

    Other things to avoid that establish a weak rapport and introduc-

    tion are saying things like,

    Whew, Im really nervous so bear with me...

    I really dont have that much to say...

    Rather, you should tell the reasons why you are the best personto present on a particular topic and why the topic is so close to

    your heart. In the opening you are telling them simply what to ex-

    pect from the core of the speech.

    Openings garner the attention of the audience. You can do that

    through surprise, statistics, humor, a personal anecdote, or cur-

    rent news item. Anything that will endear you to the audience is

    critical in the opening

    HOLDM: The body

    The body is the heart of your talk. It unpacks the clear objective

    you created in your preparation. It is here you must engage the

    audience. If they miss the reason you are speaking to them

    youre wasting your time and theirs.

    You Holdm by clearly leading them through the rationale (points)of your talk. Remember, Clarity is you Guarantee. Fortify each

    point of your talk with illustrations and other information relevant

    to it.

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    LEAVM: The closing

    Some experts on communication state that the closing is the

    most critical component of the speech. It is usually what the

    audience remembers and will walk away with. You can often

    make up for a weak opening but you dont have such luxury for

    the closing.You can give a wonderful presentation, but if yourconclusion is weak and ineffectual it might let the air out the

    whole thing.

    Closings have much in common with openings in that they can

    use statistics, stories, rhetorical questions, and the like.

    In my presentation on age diversity I end by telling the story of

    the death of my grandfather, my mentor and friend. As the ma-

    chines monitoring his strength of existence on this planet

    showed he was faltering, I went over to his bedside and whis-

    pered in his ear... big guy, its time to go home. As soon as the

    resonance of the letter m was out of my mouth and into the

    atmosphere, he was gone.

    I share the profundity of that moment by stating that my grandfa-

    ther cradled me in his arms when I came into the world, and

    how I was privileged to cradle him in mine as he went out. Let

    me tell you, there is rarely a dry eye in the audience and the pow-

    erful impact it makes is evident by the feedback I get from em-

    ployers and employees alike. I have left them with something to

    remember.

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    Chapter 6

    Projection is

    yourConnection

    One of my favorite movies is the faux documentary, This is Spi- lungs, a properly projected voice uses air properly flowing from

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    One of my favorite movies is the faux documentary, This is Spi

    nal Tap. In it, one member of the band, showing his guitar col-

    lection to the film maker, had an amplifier with a volume knob

    that went to eleven; when the film maker asks, "Why not just

    make ten louder and make that the top?" The rock star can only

    reply, with some pride, "Ours goes to eleven."

    How many of us use some arbitrary standard for volume when

    we speak. That is, we dont know the various settings of our

    voice or how to use them appropriately.

    We use speech every day and, for the most part, we take it for

    granted. But when we think of words as sounds with a range of

    amplitudes and frequencies, then we might wonder what

    speech sounds actually are. Speech consists of complex acous-

    tical waveforms that rapidly vary in frequency and amplitude. Ef-

    fective speakers use these dynamics to their advantage.

    When it comes to voice projection and articulation, participants

    who have been speaking for years and, presumably being

    heard, may wonder why it is more than just volume that is impor-

    tant. However, presentations are not like ordinary face-to-face

    conversations and require a different set of skills.

    Projection is a technique which can be employed to demand re-

    spect and attention, such as when a teacher is talking to the

    class, or simply to be heard clearly, as an actor in a theatre.

    Breath technique is essential for proper voice projection.

    Whereas in normal talking one may use air from the top of the

    lungs, a properly projected voice uses air properly flowing from

    the expansion of the diaphragm.

    There is often a strong psychological component to voice difficul-

    ties as well. Soft speakers may unconsciously be trying to hold

    themselves back, inhibit their self-expression, or stifle them-

    selves. I was spectating at one of my sons basketball games.

    One of the referees must have been new, because his whistle to

    call a foul could barely be heard. It became a running joke

    among us in the stands as to whether he really made a call or

    not. We could barely hear it, if at all. He was unsure of himself

    and it reflected poorly in his projection.

    Subsequently loud speakers are driven by nerves, lack of voice

    control, or an inability to rely on the amplification technology that

    is available to them.

    Mental fortitude and confidence in what you say is a major hur-

    dle in overcoming projection issues that distract. A confident

    speaker who knows that what he/she has to say and is worth

    listening to will use projection techniques naturally in ways that

    audiences hear.

    The key is to get a handle on your natural range of volume and

    intonation so you can use it confidently when needed and pro-

    ject appropriately to audience members in the back of the room.

    More often than not you are going to have some kind of elec-

    tronic amplification for your voice. This is where cozying up to

    the sound person is so critical. Make sure he/she and you are

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    p g p y

    cerned and make sure you do a test.

    Rock musicians often use the word check, check, or one,

    two one, two to measure proper sound amplification. My test

    is always the phrase Attention Kmart shoppers, there is a blue

    light special in the back of the store. Boys underwear is nowbuy one get one free. The point is you need to have a long

    enough phrase for an audio technician to get a handle on your

    range as well as maybe providing a few laughs for those in the

    room.

    Professional technicians can make you look like heroes on stage

    by being unnoticed. That is, sound people are at their best

    when no one knows they are around doing their job so thank

    them often. Be grateful there wasnt anything (feedback or

    screeches) that stole attention away from you the speaker.

    An hilarious illustration of the importance of speaking with

    proper vocal projection is from the 90s comedy sitcom Sein-

    feld. Kramers current girlfriend, a designer, was known as a

    low talker - You couldnt understand a word she was saying be-

    cause her projection was so weak. After a particular conversa-

    tion with her, Jerry, unable to hear what she said, nodded in

    agreement out of courtesy.

    Unbeknownst to him, he agreed to wear a silly looking puffy

    shirt that she designed for him to wear during his interview on

    the Today Show.

    g g p y

    out what he really agreed to:

    KRAMER: You're not going to believe whats happening with

    Leslie. You know, ever since you agreed to wear the puffy shirt

    on the Today show, she's been getting all these orders from bou-

    tiques and department stores..

    JERRY: Uh-huh.. (Finally realizes what Kramer said, he looks up)

    Since I said what?

    KRAMER: Agreed to wear the puffy shirt. (Starts unzipping the

    suit cover)

    JERRY: What are you talking about?

    KRAMER: When you said that you'd agree to wear the puffy

    shirt on the Today show. (Takes the ridiculous puffy shirt out of

    the cover)

    JERRY: (Goes up to it) This?

    KRAMER: Yes!

    JERRY: I agreed to wear this?!

    KRAMER: Yeah, yeah.JERRY: But, when did I do that?

    KRAMER: When we went to dinner the other night.

    JERRY: What are you, crazy?!

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    room?

    JERRY: I don't know! I couldn't understand a word she was say-

    ing! I was just nodding!

    KRAMER: There you go.

    JERRY: Where I go? You mean she was asking me to wear this

    ridiculous shirt on national TV, and I said 'Yes'?!

    KRAMER: Yes, yes! You said it!

    JERRY: But, I - I didn't know what she was talking about. I

    couldn't hear her!

    -Seinfeld, Season 5, Episode 2 The Puffy Shirt

    Articulation

    There is a difference between not being heard (being inaudible)

    and not being understood (being inarticulate). Sometimes peo-

    ple confuse the two. Being inarticulate may be caused by prob-

    lems with volume and pronunciation. It can be caused by a

    piercing through the tongue. People with poor articulation can

    sound throaty because their tongue is pulled too far back, or

    they may sound muffled because they don't move their tongueenough when they speak.

    Many of us are inflicted with sloppy mouth disease. We stumble

    over words, we slur them and fail to articulate them properly and

    our volume is inadequate for the listener. This can be perfectly

    p j

    wont do when speaking in public.

    Diction is the clear annunciation and articulation of the words

    we are saying. Good diction is NOT about changing your accent

    or making you 'talk posh'.

    Often when I preach I fail to rehearse the proper articulation of

    words. Ill read the name of some obscure Jewish tribe and then

    get caught up front with an uneasy pronunciation and slaughter-

    ing of the name. I come off looking less than knowledgeable on

    the passage I am preaching from.

    You can practice articulation and pronunciation by overtly form-

    ing your words with large, slow motion movement of your

    mouth and lips. Also tongue twisters are great to practice yourdiction and articulation of words.

    Here is an exercise. Try saying this with deliberation.

    Can you imagine an imaginary menagerie manager imagining

    managing an imaginary menagerie?

    Or try this one. This comes from Gilbert and Sullivan's light op-

    era 'The Pirates of Penzance'.

    It's guaranteed to make you work. It includes many difficult com-

    binations impossible to get right unless you articulate clearly.

    Have fun with it.

    'I am the very pattern of a modern Major-General;

    I've information vegetable, animal, and mineral;

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    From Marathon to Waterloo, in order categorical;

    I'm very well acquainted too with matters mathematical,

    I understand equations, both simple and quadratical,

    About binomial theorem I'm teeming with a lot o' news,

    With many cheerful facts about the square of the hypotenuse.

    I'm very good at integral and differential calculus,

    I know the scientific names of beings animalculous,

    In short, in matters vegetable, animal, and mineral,

    I am the very model of a modern Major-General.'

    Pace

    The most common critique of my public speaking is the speed

    at which I talk. I can really race through a presentation. This can

    come from nerves and insecurity. If we speak fast enough

    maybe the audience wont notice. However, they will notice and

    have a heck of time keeping up with you. Even if they do, there

    is no time to process or catch ones breath as a listener. You

    have given them no time to truly process what you are saying.

    You need to allow your audience time to have aural breathers.

    Give them some time to absorb all your useful content through

    strategic pauses in you speech. Though pause can seem like an

    eternity when you are on stage, the reality is much different. Its

    never as long as you think. A pause usually never inhibits the ef-

    fectiveness of a talk but enhances it.

    mony to recite the Lords Prayer. It is a very common prayer and

    one that I have prayed many times before. But when it came

    time for me to the lead the guests in the recitation of the prayer,

    I froze. I could not remember how it started.

    After a few moments the groom looked at me and mouthed,You dont remember it do you?. I communicated through my

    non-verbal facial expression that I didnt. Then the bride caught

    my eye and kindly mouthed the first line of the prayer, Our Fa-

    ther... That was all I needed to complete that portion of the serv-

    ice.

    Afterwards, word got out (from the wedding party) that I forgot-

    ten the prayer. However, every attender stated that they had no

    idea. They assumed I was using a brief pause to lend to the pro-

    fundity of the moment. I could have had them all fooled. But

    noooo....

    Pauses are those moments when meaning happens and com-

    mon ground is realized. They arent as horrible as you might

    think.

    Take care of your voice

    My sister is a speech pathologist and audiologist. That means

    she specializes in the aural aspects of the human body. She

    knows I am a public speaker by trade and she has one piece of

    advice for me:

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    Pee Pale

    It is evidence that I am well hydrated. Thats critical to speaking

    as your vocal cords must remain moist to be effective. They

    must also remain spry. That is, dont drink milk or eat chocolate

    before you speak. They goop up your cords. You need to keep

    your vocal cords in as pristine a shape as you possibly can be-

    fore speaking. Even caffeine can cause problems as it is a diu-

    retic, taking water out of your system. In addition, it can jitter

    your nerves and often makes it hard to speak without the strain

    of tension coming through.

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    Illustrate to

    Illuminate

    We are bombarded by visual missiles all the time. Ours is par likely to remember your content if your visuals are unique,

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    excellence the Age of Illustrations, an age when people are

    habituated to picture thinking. If you hear eiffel tower, the

    visual picture of it pops into your head before you thought of the

    word.

    Recent research supports the idea that visual communication

    can be more powerful than verbal communication. In many

    instances people learn and retain information that is presented

    to them visually much better than that which is only provided

    verbally.

    Training materials used by the federal government cite studies

    indicating that the retention of information three days after a

    meeting or other event is six times greater when information is

    presented by visual and oral means together than when the

    information is presented by the spoken word alone. The same

    materials also cite studies by educational researchers

    suggesting that 83% of human learning occurs visually.

    These are welcome findings to anyone whose work involves

    using visual presentations to persuade or instruct others. All

    speakers need to do the same.

    Visuals that surprise people, touch them, delight them, and

    support your story are best because they affect people in an

    emotional way. People are more likely to remember your content

    in the form of stories and examples, and they are also more

    powerful and of the highest quality.

    Illustrations give light, color, and clarity to your presentation.

    They warm the heart and embed themselves in memory like

    nothing else can. Mental images help us retain information.

    Imagination is the formation of images that create a newperception, a new way of seeing. We navigate the world visually

    taking in cues about it through the sense of imagination. When it

    comes to illustrations, keep the imagination at the forefront as it

    will capture the hearts of your listeners like nothing else can.

    You can do that by filtering your illustrations through the three

    conduits of imagination. Moral, Mystical, and Missional

    The Moral Imagination

    The Moral Imagination is anything that enriches the mind.

    Whether they admit it or not, people want to think on a higher

    plane than just the surface of our cultural veneer. Pop culture is

    very much the air we collectively breath as far as entertainment

    is concerned. But there is much more behind popular culture

    that lends itself to a moral imagination. You can ask why

    something is so popular. What makes that particular product,movie, or song so endearing to our collective imagination?

    Begin by filtering your illustration through the moral conduit.

    Make people think about it.

    For instance, I use an illustration in my generational

    presentations in describing the unique personality of the Xers.

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    Around the late sixties and early seventies there was a very

    l d l i i ll d G S I d k if

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    popular comedy on television called Get Smart. I dont know if

    you remember the show but it entailed a bumbling secret agent

    named Maxwell Smart. We laughed at his ineptitude.

    The name of the organization that Maxwell was committed to

    bringing down, the organization that was the nemesis for him

    was named Chaos. The heroic organization on the other hand,

    the one that Maxwell worked for was named Control. It is

    interesting that at a time in our history we were mired in chaos.

    We were bogged down in Vietnam War. The Watergate scandal

    was exposing the unethical dimensions of Washington. Chaos.

    Yet, we were used to being in control. Particularly the Boomer

    generation who had such large numbers in their demographic

    that they were in control. They needed control back even if they

    had to bumble their way to get it.

    Xers learned from the get go that Chaos was the only real

    certainty in life and that control was merely an illusion. We arent

    really in control. Chaos shaped the particular personality of the

    Xers as they were coming of age. Control, which molded the

    Boomers collective personality was under attack. I tell them

    that the biggest clashes among generations today is betweenthe Control of the Boomers and the Chaos of the Xers.

    It brought the thinking of the audience (hopefully) to a new way

    of thinking, leading to new insights into the personalities of each

    generation.

    Any illustration that enlarges the heart of your audience filters

    through the mystical imagination. Anything that moves you

    emotionally will more than likely move your audience

    emotionally. What we are talking about here is aesthetics, the

    sphere of beauty that gives our lives depth, meaning, and

    movement. With out it the world becomes bland and one

    dimensional.

    Beauty gives depth to our lives through touching us in very

    visceral ways. I have been moved by the grandeur of the night

    time sky. The vast array of stars shining through the deep dark

    canvas of night is one of the more profound experiences Ive

    had in life. I am a sucker for the beauty in the laugh of a baby.

    Beauty gives meaning to our lives by focusing our attention on

    matters that take the mundane and infuses it with wonder. That

    is, beauty makes life seem grand and exciting. Even the

    mundane elements of life can take on an aesthetic if we just

    have the eyes to see it. Washing the dishes, for instance,

    reminds me of the work that went into the meal, the sustenance

    it provided, the gratitude of my actions, even the movements of

    my hands as I scrub can add to the wonder of it all.

    Beauty brings movement to our lives by prodding us to create

    more beauty which in turn gives impetus to life. When people

    believe that they are creators in the world, who through their

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    inspired.

    Beauty then is emotional depth. Even in bittersweet moments,

    beauty can emerge. Beauty can be agonizing. It explores the

    depth of our souls (ala poetry) and asks us to respond with

    emotional vibrancy.

    For me, an illustration filtered through the conduit of the Mystical

    Imagination is the