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Gru and His Mom

Building a Child’s Self-Concept

Building yours, too.

Self-Concept = The total picture of who we

are. Our looks and traits, how we feel, what we

think, who we see when we look in the mirror… A child’s self-concept is in place by age 5.

1. How can a child “stand up from the inside”?

2. Self-Concept

Positive Self-Concept Get along better

with others Self-Confident Risk-Taker/Willing to

try new things Self-Reliant Goal Setter

Negative Self-Concept

Often a show off in front of other children

Put others down Critical of self and others Bully (to make the look

and feel stronger) Withdrawn Insecure

Think about it. This important for them to have! Do you still have the 100% you were born with?

Imagine what you could do if you did!

Children are born with 100% Self-Concept

*Balloon - blown up!

3. Self Concept Circle

• The person I think I am.• The person others think I am.

• The person others think I think I am.

My Actions

Other’s Reactions To Me

As Others See Me

As I See Myself

Child Self-Concept vs. Your Self-Concept

4. WHAT INFLUENCES THIS?*High and Low Self-concept

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Daily Affirmation

a. Individuals SELF - PERCEPTION

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Friends…

b. Verbal and Non-verbal Communication with self and others

Communication we hear, say, or see. We believe it and may even become it. 4 positive words for every negative word or

action can alter the affects of the negative.

c. Positive and Negative

Interactions

Why do we continue to hang around with or do that which brings us or other’s down?

d. Positive/Negative

interactions with SELF

e. Positive/Negative

interactions with ENVIRONMENT

VS

f. Positive/Negative interactions with

MEDIA

SELF-FULFILLING

PROPHECY-A CHILD BECOMES WHAT THE PERSON SEES OR THINKS THE CHILD IS!

- CHILDREN REMEMBER 3% OF WHAT WE SAY TO THEM AND 97% OF WHAT WE DO WITH THEM.

-OUR PERCEPTION BECOMES OUR REALITY

- I WON’T SEE IT UNTIL I BELIEVE IT.

5. Keys to Developing a Child’s

Self-Concept

*Write down a way you think you can build a child’s self-concept

“I got two A’s”, the small boy said, his voice was filled with glee.

His father bluntly asked, “Why didn’t you get three?”“Mom, I’ve got the dishes done,” the girl called from

the door.Her mother very calmly said, “Did you sweep the

floor?”“I mowed the grass,” the tall boy said, “and put the

mower away.”His father asked him with a shrug, "Did you clean off

the clay?”The children in the house next door seemed happy and

content.The same things happened over there, but this is how

it went.

“I’ve got two A’s,” the small boy said. His voice was filled with glee.

His father proudly said, "That's great, I’m glad that you belong to me.”

“Mom, I’ve got the dishes done,” the girl called from the door.

Her mother smiled and softly said, “Each day I love you more.”

“I’ve mowed the grass,” the tall boy said, “and put the mower away.”

His father answered with much joy, “You’ve made my happy day.”

Children deserve a little praise for tasks they’re asked to do. If they’re to lead a happy life, so much depends on you.

Study guide scenarios

Keys to Developing a Child’s

Self-Concept

Provide more successes

than failures for the child.

Plan successes Point out successes Help the child perceive

him/herself as successful Provide practice to improve

skills If they have more failures

than successes, back up to where success is achieved, and then move ahead gradually

Give the freedom to fail with acceptance.

As long as there are more successes than failures, children learn to not let a few failures get them down.

A child who is over-protected and not allowed to fail will learn to try only if success is guaranteed.

Give lots of

encouragement. Recognize the effort and

improvement, not just the final accomplishment.

Support as they do new things. “I know you can do it” “You handled that really

well” “You will make it next time”

Show appreciation. “Thanks, you were a big

help”

Give unconditional love.

Let child know that even if you do not approve of their behavior, you still love them.

Accept children as they are, not as they could be.

Respect your child. Show them how much

you care about them.

Allow independence.

Let them do things for themselves.

Let them work through a problem.

Give them choices as early as possible.

Eliminate the negative.

Tell children what they can do, not what they cannot do.

Catch them doing something good more often than what they are doing wrong.

Do not set standards unreasonably high.

They don’t have to be 100% all the time.

Know their abilities and work within those abilities.

Children are not miniature adults.

Do not over-estimate their maturity. Development if child

Avoid ridicule.

Be careful of nicknames.

Do not make fun of them, especially in front of others.

Allow exploration and encourage questions.

Let them explore their environment.

Give them a chance to see cause and effect, such as what happens when a rock is dropped in water. . .

Play, get messy, touch

Set limits.

Set limits (boundaries and rules) It helps them to feel

security, protected, valued, and loved.

Help your child develop

their talents.

Every child needs to feel that they are good at something. Give them

encouragement and opportunities to try new things.

Encourage their talents, not the ones you wish they had.

Take their ideas, emotions and feelings seriously.

Do not belittle them “That is nothing to

cry over”, or “You’ll get over it”.

Ask them for their advice and opinions. Listen to them and

act on their thoughts.

Be a good role model.

Improve your own self-image. Let your children see that you value yourself.

Let your children see you make mistakes, learn from them, and try again.

Give your children responsibility.

Give them chores that are appropriate for their age.

Give them family jobs so that they feel valued and important to the family.

Be available.

Give them support when they need it.

Spend time together. Work, talk, and share

activities together.

Let children know when their behavior is appropriate

Point out when they are meeting your expectations and requests.

DAPLA – Pick 1Me TREE

Have each child draw a tree trunk with branches on the white paper. Have each child cut out leaves from the construction paper. On the leaves have each child write something they like about themselves. Glue the leaves to the tree. Have the children color the paper. (10 leaves)

Self-Collage Create a self-collage using

pictures, words, or symbols clipped from magazines that represent things they enjoy doing or own, places they've been, people they admire, or careers they desire. Glue onto paper that has your head silhouette drawn.

(10 pics)