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اس وا للن
ول
اوق
حسن
Speak fair to the people
• “Kalam” is originated from : – “kalman”: to give wound
– “kalma”: meaning word
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Communication skills !
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• Among all living species only human beings are gifted with this skill.
Need pic of eagle, ants
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“It is the province of knowledge to speak and it is the privilege of wisdom to listen”
(words of wisdom)
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• Allah says:
ا يلفظ من قول إل لديه رقيب عتيد م
(Qaf- 50:18)
• Not a word does he utter but there is a sentinel by him, ready (to note it).
• Every word recorded and we will be accountable on the day of judgment.
• Our words can become a source of success or failure for us
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• Allah Says:
• وقولوا قولا قوا للا ها الذين آمنوا ات ايا أي ٣٣:٧٠ سديدا • O ye who believe! Fear Allah, and (always) say a word directed to the
Right:
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ا ورسوله فقد فاز فوزا يصلح لكم أعمالكم ويغفر لكم ذنوبكم ومن يطع للا
ا عظيما
٣٣:٧١
That He may make your conduct whole and sound and forgive you your sins: He that obeys Allah and His Messenger, has already attained the highest achievement.
Conduct Enhanced.
Conduct Immoral. R
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Sensing what is said to us
Interpreting what is
meant by the statement
Evaluating the statement
Storing the statement;
and
Responding appropriately
to the statement
Selection of words
Style Body
language Attitude
• Precise and to the point
• Every word used to be clear and separate from every other
• Never spoke exaggeratedly or unnecessarily
• Listener belonging to any level of sharpness and mental capability use to understand
Prophet(S.A.W) used to remain quiet most of the time and only spoke when something beneficial.
• We listen effectively, on average, only 25% of the time
• Initially, we remember 50% of what was just said
• But our retention rate drops quickly after that point
• 40% learning to read
• 35% learning to write
• 24% learning to speak; and
• 1% learning to listen
When we phone
When we knock at door
When we meet anyone after looooong time
Bad gestures
Continuous body movements
Unnecessary seriousness
Talking while eating , laughing or coughing
Unpleasant smell coming from mouth
Very loud, repulsive or authoritative tone
Speaking very fast
Ambiguity
Very childish tone
Usage of slang
Abusive language
Unnecessary repetition of words
Self-projection
Speaking without hesitation and haya
Interrupting others
Speaking without proper knowledge
Speaking out of context
Speaking without any purpose
Starting with a “NO”
Not giving importance to the listener
Assumptions Attitudes Beliefs Expectations
Interests Past
experiences Values
55% of communication is visual (your body language)
38% of communication is your voice (tone, inflection, etc)
7% is verbal (your words)
Zikr
Good advice
Consoling others
Spreading words of knowledge of Deen and Duniya
Talking on the topics which are beneficial for others
Giving the chance of speaking to others as well
Asking for forgiveness
Speaking without having hatred or grudge for anyone and having fear of Allah.
Speaking on the right time, with good intention and with good selection of words