happy & you know it · 2020. 9. 18. · from mra conf 2019: good health, being with my husband...
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If You’re
Happy &
You
Know It
Created by Jennifer Underdown
Objectives
• Define it
• Assess yours
• Learn about it
• Experiment with it
• Apply it
What does it mean to be happy?
Happiness is…
What does it mean to be happy?
From MRA Conf 2019: Good health, being with my husband and kids, $ for what I want, being yourself (x2), loving & being loved, being at peace with myself and the world, loving yourself, time with my family (x2), hugs & kisses from my kids, spending time with my family and friends, laughing, coffee (aka hug in a cup), feeling positive and goooood, freedom, outdoors, family & friends, a cozy rainy day at home reading a book, people I love, freedom to choose, confidence, contentment (x4), warm puppies, being able to be yourself, an outing with my family when we are all getting along, having a good quality of life, family & friend’s love and support, love, children, seeing/feeling accomplishments, family (x2), a feeling where everything is good and when it’s not you feel it will return there, being around things and people you love, the ability to feel gratitude and contentment regardless of the situation, feeling GOD, self-care, the energy/enthusiasm of others, an embrace from my spouse, comfort with family/healthy & good people, feeling gratitude, having no care in the world, feeling free with love and able to express my soul unconditionally, weekends & having all my work caught up, being satisfied, calm & family, pajamas day, talking to others, warm, being exactly where you are supposed to be, helping others, individualized – each person is responsible for their own happiness, family & laughter & sleep
What does it mean to be happy?
Happiness is…joy and love. –Alex, age 6
Happiness is…treating others like you want to be treated. –Dorian, age 10
Happiness is…loving someone. –Kennedy, age 4
Happiness is…a happy face. –Madeline, age 2
Happiness is…stickers. –Jaxon, age 3
To me the definition of happiness is when someone or
something makes you laugh and or smile. But, I also
think there is other types of happiness, such as, when
you have an internal happiness. Which is when you
laugh, smile and or feel good on the inside. But
personaly I think happiness should be external because it
comes from your heart and should be shared with others.
–Kadyn, age 11
The meaning to happiness isn’t for one person to answer because everyone has different opinions on happiness. Mine is to be able to live and to have a comfortable life. –Hailey, age 11
What does it mean to be happy?
Google says…
Dictionary: the state of being happy
Wikipedia: Happiness is used in the context of mental or emotional states, including positive or pleasant emotions ranging from contentment to intense joy. It is also used in the context of life satisfaction, subjective well-being, eudaimonia(prosperity or blessedness), flourishing and well-being.
Definition, according to UC Berkeley’s Greater Good Science Center: The experience of joy, contentment, or positive well-being, combined with a sense that one’s life is good, meaningful, and worthwhile. (taken from Sonja Lyubomirsky’s book The How of Happiness)
How happy are you right now?
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-We should feel happy all the time
-Money = happiness
Common Misconceptions
-Pursuit of happiness
#1 Finland
#2 Denmark
World Happiness Report ‘19
#3 Norway
#4 Iceland
#5 Netherlands
#6 Switzerland
#7 Sweden
#8 New Zealand
#9 Canada
#10 Austria
Where’s the US?
#19
Why are we not happier?
Why is this important?
Improved mental health…PLUS
Improved physical health…PLUS
Longer lives!
Donate time
What can we do?
Donate money
Random Acts
Let’s give it
a try!
From MRA Conf 2019: two pedis with massage chair and $10
tips to reward our techs, donation to MRA, pedicure, pay off
student lunch accounts, giving away to random people, donate to
Special Olympics, Christmas dinner and presents for a family,
book fund for new HS grad, getting nails done and giving generous
tip, children’s charity for kids experiencing trauma, animal rescue
organization, youth/children who have endured physical and/or
emotional trauma, buy toiletries at the Dollar Store to hand out
to the homeless, coats for kids, spa/massages, go to a low income
daycare and pay someone’s bill, buy someone dinner, volunteer
with at risk and take out to dinner/movie, donate to Ms. Betty –
consumer of the year, Operation Christmas child, go to dinner,
pizza party for the consumer and bought candies, give it to NPD
Happiness Practices
Three good things
Active listening
Random acts of kindness
Forgiving
Mindfulness
Happiness Practices
Self-compassionate letter
Best possible self
Gratitude letter
Awe walk
Gratitude journal
Happiness Practices
Play
Stories
Laughter
Happiness Practices
Harvard Grant Study
• Longest longitudinal study
What have we learned?
• Social connection is good
• Quality relationships
• Protects us physically and
mentally
What does it mean to be happy?
Happiness is…joy and love. –Alex, age 6
Happiness is…treating others like you want to be treated. –Dorian, age 10
Happiness is…loving someone. –Kennedy, age 4
Happiness is…a happy face. –Madeline, age 2
Happiness is…stickers. –Jaxon, age 2
To me the definition of happiness is when someone or
something makes you laugh and or smile. But, I also
think there is other types of happiness, such as, when
you have an internal happiness. Which is when you
laugh, smile and or feel good on the inside. But
personaly I think happiness should be external because it
comes from your heart and should be shared with others.
–Kadyn, age 11
The meaning to happiness isn’t for one person to answer because everyone has different opinions on happiness. Mine is to be able to live and to have a comfortable life. –Hailey, age 11
How happy are you right now?
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