“having it all” workbook

“HAVING IT ALL” WORKBOOK

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“Having It All” Workbook

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True North AccomplishmentsFirst, list all your wonderful accomplishments in life so far. Some examples:

1. Blissfullymarriedforfiveyears

2. Graduated from school of culinary arts

3. Openedownrestauranttoravereviews

4. Business in the black three years in a row

5. Purchase home of our own

6. Birth of twins

7. Speak three languages: English, French, Spanish

8. TookaweekofflastyeartotravelinMexico(firstvacationinfiveyears)

9. Reconnected with high school friend and am fostering that friendship

10.Contributionoffoodandtimetocommunitysoupkitchenoneaquarter;servebigfeatattheholidays

Considereverythingyou’vedoneinyourlifethatwarrantscelebratingorrecognitionfromyou;fulfillingrelationships,schoolorintellectualachievements,familyaccomplishments,financialmilestones-

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True North StrengthsNow take a look at the areas of your life in which you know you are strong. What are your natural and developedstrengths?Someexamples:

1. Accounting background:Iunderstandhowtoprepareaccuratefinancialstatementsandinterpretthe numbers from statements prepared by others.

2. �Conflict�resolution:I’mtrainedinhelpingpeoplenavigatetrickydisputesandcometomutuallybeneficialsolutions.

3. Curiosity:I’mwillingtolearnjustaboutanything.

4. Communication:Ispeakseverallanguagesfluentlyandgraspthenuancesofthelanguages;amalsoattentivetobodylanguage.

5. Sense of humor:Itellgreatjokes.

6. Quick study: I read and retain information with ease.

7. Internet Savvy: I understand how to use the internet to accelerate and enhance my own business.

8. Understand how the universe operates:Inowknowthegreatlawandthesevennaturallawsthatgovernmylife.

9. Health:I’mingreatshape,andIhavelotsofenergy.

10. Dedication: I am absolutely committed to creating the life of my dreams.

It’syourturntocomeupwithyourownlist.Whatskillsandtalentsdoyoupossess?Whatexperiencedoyouhave?Whatresourcesdoyouposses?

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True North Perceived WeaknessesThisnextstepmaybesensitive,butit’scriticalbecauseitprovidesarealitycheck.Nooneisgoodateverything,andthequickeryourealizeinwhatwaysyouareexcellentandinwhatwaysyouarenot,thebetteryoucanmanagetheweaknesses.Alsonotethatthetitleofthisworksheetis“PerceivedWeaknesses” In other words, you are not scribing some great Truth, here; you are merely writing down areasinwhichyouhaveobservedthatyou’dliketobebetter.Someexamples:

1. I can be forgetful/thoughtless about things that are important to other people but not to me.

2. Iamundisciplinedaboutmaintenance.(Igetallexcitedinthecreativephaseoftheproject,butimplementationisadrag.)

3. I’mnotalwaystruthfulaboutmyfeelingswhenIthinkitmightleadtodisagreement.

4. I’mnotgreatwithdetails.

5. Mywritingskillsarerusty;poorspellers,notgoodwithgrammar.

6. I’mlesswell-readthanmanyofmypeers.

7. I’mimpatientandsometimeschildishaboutwantingwhatIwantnow.

8. I hate making sales calls.

9. Mydietisnotasgoodasitshouldbe-itincludesmorejunkfoodandsodathanIknowishealthyfor me.

10.ItendtobetooquicktomakebigpurchasesifIcanjustifythemforthebusiness.

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True North Mental Health Evaluation (sampleworksheet) Date: ____________________

0 1 2 3 4 5 6 7 8 9 10 Need Help Getting By Just OK Very Pleased Excellent

MycurrentMentalHealthis:

I’m doing pretty well. I have my days, but by and large my spirits are up and I’m an enjoyable person for others to be around. The one thing keeping me from feeling really excellent is that my grief over my father’s death last year persists. I have a recurring dream where he is just out of my reach, and he can’t hear or see me, but I can see him. The loss I feel over this is pervading the rest of my life to the point where, when I see my own children having fun with my husband, it is bittersweet. This keeps me from fully enjoying moments that should be wonderful for all of us - sometimes I tear up and have to turn away - and i think it’s confusing for the kids.

For this result to be present, my past programming or belief was:

My father is gone and I’ll never see him again. I won’t ever be able to tell him I love him again. My children won’t know their grandfather because he was taken from them so early in their lives, and I don’t want to get all emotional in front of them because they’re too young to understand what I’m going through.

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Need Help Getting By Just OK Very Pleased Excellent

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True North Physical Health Evaluation (sampleworksheet) Date: ____________________


MycurrentPhysicalHealthis:

Really good. I’m exercising regularly, lifting weights, and swimming several times a week, eating right and taking my supplements. The best part is that I’m in better shape now than I was in my thirties. Look out fifty!


I can be fit at any age. I love to eat healthfully and work out. I feel confident and sexy when I take care of my body. (I’m pretty happy with my 8, though I wouldn’t mind kicking it up a notch.)

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True North Spiritual Evaluation (sampleworksheet) Date: ____________________


MycurrentSpiritualLifeis:

Okay. I’m not very involved with religion, but I feel the need for spiritual practice. My wife attends a church, but it’s not a good match for me. It just feels like a social function more than a way to connect with God. So I get my connection with Spirit through nature, surfing specifically. That word “awesome” didn’t come out of beach culture for nothing - the waves inspire me in ways that organized religion does not. But I don’t have a lot of time for surfing, and I’d like it if our family was more connected spiritually. I’d like it if I was more connected spiritually.


I don’t have the time to spend on this area of my life. Other things are always more pressing and important.

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True North Relationship Evaluation (sampleworksheet) Date: ____________________


MycurrentresultsinmyRelationshipsare: Note:Describeeachofyourmostimportantrelationshipsindividually.

Kids: The arrangement we have for seeing each other stinks. I have to drive two hours to pick them up then get to see them for only two days at a time. Given all that, we still have a great time together, and I feel like I’m able to contribute significantly to their parenting. They know how much I love them and i know they love me too.

Terry: Things are rough. She doesn’t want to bend on the vacation arrangement and still feels threatened by anything the kids and I do together that seems special and doesn’t include her. Our conversations are civil but tense. I think she gets off on keeping this last bit of control over me.


There’s nothing I can do about the arrangement with the kids. I simply have to suck it up and deal with whatever life hands me. I’m not inclined to go out on a limb to help people who are trying to be difficult. Relationship can be complex and especially so where women are involved.

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True North Financial Evaluation (sampleworksheet) Date: ____________________


Mycurrentyearlyincomeis$60,000.

Mycurrentoverallfinancialpictureis:

I am in over my head with unsecured debt. We live a little above our means, which results in a pretty nice lifestyle but lots of stress in trying to keep up with the bills every month. My income is decent, yet I think an increase would help relieve some of the pressure. Debt is the enemy of our future. It robs us of the ability to invest, and continuing offers of credit lure us into believing we can afford a lifestyle that’s actually beyond our means right now. We need to STOP now and eliminate our debt so we can think farther ahead than just this month’s bills. An increase in income won’t make a dent unless we also alter our habits. When I get the raise I’m seeking, I want it to mean something!


It’s okay to accrue debt so long as I can foresee paying it off within three to five years. As long as we’re able to meet our expenses every month, things are okay.

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True North Career/Business Evaluation (sampleworksheet) Date: ____________________


The current results in my Career/Business are:

We’re making a reasonable profit for our fifth year in business, though, I’d like to see more “big fish” type clients come through our doors. Medical consulting as a field is still strong despite the economic downturn. Doctors always need help with the business side of their practices. I still enjoy the work I do and am getting more and more confident with making pitches to the bigger medical groups. My partners are enthusiastic and make valuable contributions to the growth of the business, although they’re a little less interested in making the company start generating revenues that aren’t directly dependent upon them.


1) I need the full support of my partners to initiate new ideas in the company, because if the idea flops, I want it to have been with everyone’s agreement so I don’t get blamed. 2) I have to work harder to make more money. (Intellectually, I know this isn’t true, but I behave as if it is, so i guess it’s part of my programming.).

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MY VISION FOR THE LIFE OF MY DREAMS Health

Mental Health

HowdoIapproachlife?Whataremydominantemotions?WhatkindofmentalactivitiesdoIengagein?HowdoIdescribemyintellect,mymemory,myperception?

Physical Health

HowactiveamI?Howdoifeel?HowmuchdoIweigh?Whatismybodyfatpercentage?HowdoIseeandfeelaboutmyself?

Mynewbeliefthatisnowcreatedtoachievemyoptimalhealthis: (E.g.AsI’mgettingolder,Iaminbettershapethaneverbefore,andIfeelgreat!)



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MY VISION FOR THE LIFE OF MY DREAMS Family

HowdoIinteractwitheachmemberofmyfamily?HowdoIfeelwhenI’maroundthem?WhatdoIgivethem?Whatdotheygiveme?

Mynewbeliefthatisnowcreatedtoachievemyidealfamily: (E.g.Ifeeldad’slovesurroundingmeeveryday.)

Mynewbeliefthatisnowcreatedtoachievemyoptimalhealthis: (E.g.AsI’mgettingolder,Iaminbettershapethaneverbefore,andIfeelgreat!)



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MY VISION FOR THE LIFE OF MY DREAMS Significant�Other

Whatislifelikewiththisromanticpartner?Whatdoweenjoytogether?Whatkindsofemotionsdoesthisrelationshipfoster?Whatdoesthispersonbringoutinme?WhatdoIgivetotherelationship?Whatdowecreatetogether?Whatwouldhappenduringmyidealdaywiththisperson?

Mynewbeliefthatisnowcreatedtoachievetherelationshipofmydreamswithmysignificantotheris:(E.g.LouandIarelovinglyconnected,passionatelyattractedandgrowinginourrelationshipeveryday.)



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MY VISION FOR THE LIFE OF MY DREAMS Friendship with _______________________

Whatmakesthisfriendshipspecial?Whatactivitiesdoweshare?Whattopicsdowediscuss?Howdowehelpeachother?Whatdoesthispersonbringoutinme,andwhatdoIbringoutinhimorher?

Mynewbeliefthatisnowcreatedtoachievethefriendshipofmydreamswith_____________is: (E.g.Wearebuildingafriendshipforalifetime.)



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MY VISION FOR THE LIFE OF MY DREAMS Career/Business

WhatkindofservicesdoIprovide?HowmuchamIpaid?Whatismyworkenvironment?HowmanyhoursaweekdoIdevotetoprofessionalpursuits?Whoaremycolleaguesorclients?WhydoIlovethislineofwork?Whatdoesitaddtomylife?InwhatwaysamIabletocontributetoothersthroughmywork?Inwhatwaysisthisworkimportant?

Mynewbeliefthatisnowcreatedtoachievethesatisfactionandsuccessinthecareer/businessthatIdesire is: (E.g.Mybusinessisgenerating$250,000/yearinprofit.Businessisflowingtoourcompanyinabundance.)



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MY VISION FOR THE LIFE OF MY DREAMS Spirituality

Whatkindofrelationshipdoihavewithmygod?HowconnecteddoIfeel?WhatkindofspiritualpracticedoIengagein,ifany?Whatdomyreligiousorspiritualbeliefsbringtomylife?HowdoIexperiencespirituality?Arethereparticularplacesoractionsthathelpmefeelinspiredanduplifted?

MynewbeliefthatisnowcreatedtoachievethespiritualityIdesireis: (E.g.IfeelGod’spresenceinmylifewhereverIgo,andIfeeltotallyconnected.)



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MY VISION FOR THE LIFE OF MY DREAMS Finances

Whatismyapproachtomoneymanagement?Whatismyannualincome?HowmuchdoIhaveinvestedandsaved?DoIhaveanydebt?Whobenefitsfrommyfinancialsituation?Howdoesitbenefitme?

MynewbeliefthatisnowcreatedtoachievethefinancialoutcomeIdesireis: (E.g.Iamdebtfreeandearning$100,000ayear.Ilovehavingextracashinthebank!)



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MY LIFE AND LIVING IT AT THE SUMMIT



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MY ONE-YEAR GOALS Mental Health

Here’swhatI’mnowdoingtoachievemygoals:

Onceyouryearlygoalsarewritten,breakthemdownintoachievablemonthly,weeklyanddailyroutinesandactivitieslikebabysteps.Useyourcalendar,dayplannerorotherorganizingtooltorecordtheseactivitiesandkeeptrackofyourprogress.

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MY ONE-YEAR GOALS Physical Health



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MY ONE-YEAR GOALS Finances



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MY ONE-YEAR GOALS Spirituality



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MY ONE-YEAR GOALS Family



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MY ONE-YEAR GOALS Significant�Other��



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MY ONE-YEAR GOALS Children



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MY ONE-YEAR GOALS Career/Business



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MY ONE-YEAR GOALS Contribution



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BINDING AGREEMENT WITH ME, MYSELF, AND I Date __________________

I, the undersigned, commit and agree to furnish all materials and labor necessary to design and create theLIFEOFMYDREAMS.

IherebycommittodoingwhateverittakeswithoutbeingdishonestordeceitfultoachievethegreatnessI know is within me.

Iwillpaythenecessarypricetoreachmylife’sdreamanddestiny,becauseIknownotfulfillingmydestinywillleavemefeelingshort-changedinmylife.

Iunderstandthatmylife’sdesignplanistobereachedonestepatatime,witheachstepbringingmeclosertotheLIFEOFMYDREAMS.

IwillnotsettleforanythingotherthanachievingtheLIFEOFMYDREAMS.

Ihavethepower,Ihavetheknowledge,andIhavewhatittakes.

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Life Design Matrix Checklist

Chapter 6 Makealistofaccomplishments,strengths,andperceivedweaknesses.

True North: Assess current results and beliefs.

Chapter 7 Clarifyavisionforhealth,family,significantother,friendships,career/business,spirituality,and

finances.

Chapter 8 Committocreatingthelifeofmydreams:Readandsign“BindingAgreementwithMe,Myself,andI.”

Set life goals.

Set goals for one year and determine actions for the next month, week, and day.

Implement the Plan Gettoworkonadoptingnewbeliefs(usemethodsinchapter5).

Take action and make course corrections as needed.

Startbehavinginalignmentwithyournewvisions,goals,andbeliefs.

Celebrateachievements!



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God

•ItotallysurrendertoGod’swillandpathforme.

•IhavetotalfaithandtotaltrustinGod.

• I am always connected to the source.

•Everythinghappensforareasonandservesmeand helps me grow.

Health

•Ienjoyeatinghealthyfood.

• I feel and look great.

•Exercisingisfunandrejuvenating.

• I feel happy and at peace with myself.

•Ihaveanabundanceofphysicalandmentalenergy.

• I am now perfectly healthy both physically and mentally.

Financial

• I am a genius and I use my wisdom daily.

•Igivemyselfpermissiontobepowerful.

•Ihaveabsolutecertaintyinmyabilitytogenerate any amount of income I choose.

•Moneyisflowingtomefromexpectedandunexpected sources.

Career

• I consistently attract all the right people to help me grow my business.

•IamabrilliantandsavvybusinessmanandIhaveeverythingittakestogrowNeuroGymtoa$1 Billion Dollar a year company right now.

•Ihaveallthetalent,intelligenceandmoneyIneed to create this new masterpiece.

• I am always calm, succinct, happy, and outstandingwheninterviewedordoingaseminar or keynote.

• I am a master presenter and persuader on and offtheplatform.Itissomuchfun!

Family/Relationships

•Iaminquisitive,creative,fun-loving,andadventurous.

•Iamasourceoflove,guidance,andeducationfor my children.

•Iamacaringandlovingpartnertomywife.

•Iamaloyalandlovingfamilymemberandfriend.

• I communicate often and openly.

•MyfriendshipsarephenomenalandIvaluethem deeply.

John Assaraf: Daily Affirmations to Support My One-Year Goals and Vision.



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More Sample Affirmations •IliveeachdaywithPassionandPurpose.

• I am a success in all that I do.

•IrespectmyabilitiesandIalwaysfulfillmypotential.

•IalwayshaveenoughmoneyforallthatIneed.

•Mylifeisnowfilledwithprosperityandabundance.

•Ieasilyachieveallmygoalsanddreams.

•Iamtotallyconfident.

• I am an excellent businessperson.

•Iamwealthyandsuccessful,everyday,inallthat I do.

• I feel happy and at peace with myself.

•Ihaveanabundanceofphysicalandmentalenergy and I feel and look great.

•IamthehealthiestIhaveeverbeen.

• I am now perfectly healthy both physically and mentally.

•Myhealth,strength,andfitness,areatoptimumlevels.

•IlookandfeelthebestIhaveeverfelt.

•Igivemyselfpermissiontobepowerful.

•Ideservetoearnmoneyeasilyandinabundance.

• I am totally paid in full and on time on all accounts.

•Moneyisflowingtomefromexpectedandunexpected sources.

•Iusemywealthandprosperityverywisely.

•Ieasilycommunicatemyvisionandgoals.

•Iconsistentlyachieveallofmygoals.

•Inowhavealltheresourcesnecessarytofulfillanyandallofmylife’sgoalsanddreams.

•Makingmoneyexcitesmeandenergizesme.

• I am a powerful and resourceful creator.

•Ihaveabsolutecertaintyinmyabilitytogenerate any amount of income I choose.

•InowhavealltheresourcesIneedtobecomeamulti-millionaire.

•IhavegreatabundanceflowingintomylifewhichaffordseveryluxurythatIdesire.



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More Sample Affirmations •Iamanorganized,pro-active,disciplined,

talented,innovative,andintelligentperson.

• I am a powerful resourceful creator attracting all the wealth and opportunities I need for me tomeetmyfinancialsuccessnow.

•Ihavealltheskills,intelligence,contactsandmoney I need right now to create an incredible masterpiece with my life.

•Ideservehappiness,abundance,andprosperity.

• I accomplish my goals with ease.

•Ihavecompletefreedomovermytime.

•IamageniusandIusemywisdomeverymoment. Now that I am aligned with the universeandtheInfiniteIntelligenceIamcreatingthemasterfullifethatIdeserveandthat has always been waiting for me.

•Daybyday,ineveryway,Iambetterandbetter.

•Ialwayshavemorethanenoughmoneyforallthat I need.

•IhavetheextraordinaryabilitytoaccomplisheverythingIchooseandwant.

• I am committed, determined, and passionate about what I do.

•Iamveryfocusedandpersistent.

•Ihavetremendousenergyandfocusforachievingallmylife’sgoals.

•Mylifeisnowamasterpiece.

•Peopleloveme.

•IalwayschoosetodowhatIlove.

•Feelingconfidentandhappyispriorityforme.

• I meditate daily and stay in constant sync and thevibrationofabundanceandsuccess.

•Iamuniquelytalentedtoachieveallofmygoals.

•Iamconfidentandcertaininmyabilitytochange and grow as a person.

•IvisualizeallthatIdesireandIhavecompletecontrolovermanifestingitall.

John’s�Affirmation�of�Health:

Mybodyandallitsorganswerecreatedbytheinfiniteintelligenceinmysubconsciousmind.Itknows how to heal me. Its wisdom created all my organs,tissuesbonesandmuscles.Thisinfinitehealing presence within me is now transforming everyatomofmybeingmakingmewholeandperfect.IgivethanksforthehealingIknowistaking place now. Wonderful are the works of the creativeintelligencewithinme!Iamnowperfectlyhealthy.

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