heart therapy ii

Disease of the Heart - II 2

Index 1 Hasad ~ Envy ----------------------------------------------------------------------------------------- 4

1.1 What is Hasad or Envy ? ----------------------------------------------------------------- 4

Proof ------------------------------------------------------------------------------------- 4

1.2 What is Ghibtah ?------------------------------------------------------------------------- 4

1.3 Danger of Hasad -------------------------------------------------------------------------- 4

1.3.1 The First Sin in the Heavens -------------------------------------------------------- 4

1.3.2 The First Sin on Earth --------------------------------------------------------------- 4

1.4 The Cause of Envy ------------------------------------------------------------------------ 5

Enmity & Hatred ------------------------------------------------------------------------- 5

Low Self-Esteem ------------------------------------------------------------------------ 5

Pride & Arrogance ----------------------------------------------------------------------- 5

Astonishment ---------------------------------------------------------------------------- 5

Fearing of losing of One’s Own Aims --------------------------------------------------- 5

Love of Leadership & Status ------------------------------------------------------------ 5

Impurity of the Soul -------------------------------------------------------------------- 5

1.5 Battling Hasad ---------------------------------------------------------------------------- 6

2 Lying ~ Kadhib ---------------------------------------------------------------------------------------- 7

Not Lying -------------------------------------------------------------------------------- 7

Concept ---------------------------------------------------------------------------------- 7

Proofs ------------------------------------------------------------------------------------ 7

Hukm ~ Ruling -------------------------------------------------------------------------- 7

2.1 Relationship :: Hypocrisy [nifaq] & Lying [kadhib] ------------------------------------- 8

2.2 Types & Causes --------------------------------------------------------------------------- 9

Lying about Allah ------------------------------------------------------------------------ 9

Lying for Profit--------------------------------------------------------------------------- 9

Lying for Entertainment ----------------------------------------------------------------- 9

Lying in the Reporting of Information -------------------------------------------------- 9

2.3 Lying :: Prevention & Cure -------------------------------------------------------------- 10

2.4 Lying is Obligatory ----------------------------------------------------------------------- 10

3 Riya ~ Ostentation ----------------------------------------------------------------------------------- 11

Definition ------------------------------------------------------------------------------- 11

Proof ------------------------------------------------------------------------------------ 11

3.1 Consequences --------------------------------------------------------------------------- 11

3.2 Riya is hidden Shirk --------------------------------------------------------------------- 11

3.3 Riya Renders good deeds null and void ------------------------------------------------ 12

3.4 Types of Riya ---------------------------------------------------------------------------- 12

3.4.1 Riya with respect to One’s Intention ----------------------------------------------- 12

3.4.2 Riya with respect to the Essence of the Act of Worship or its Qualities ---------- 13

3.4.3 Riya with respect to the reason why someone is showing off -------------------- 13

3.5 Signs & Indications of Riya -------------------------------------------------------------- 14

3.6 Curing Riya ------------------------------------------------------------------------------ 14

Recognizing the presence of Riya ----------------------------------------------------- 14

Concealing Good Deeds ---------------------------------------------------------------- 14

Knowledge of the Dangers of Riya ---------------------------------------------------- 14

Questioning One’s Intention ----------------------------------------------------------- 14

4 Bukhl ~ Miserliness ---------------------------------------------------------------------------------- 15

Definition ------------------------------------------------------------------------------- 15

Proof ------------------------------------------------------------------------------------ 15

4.1 Types of Bukhl --------------------------------------------------------------------------- 15

4.1.1 Bukhl against the Shariah ---------------------------------------------------------- 15

4.1.2 Bukh against Meritorious Character ----------------------------------------------- 15

4.2 Curing Bukhl ----------------------------------------------------------------------------- 16

4.3 Exception -------------------------------------------------------------------------------- 16

5 Bughd ~ Hatred -------------------------------------------------------------------------------------- 17


Concept --------------------------------------------------------------------------------- 17

The Ploy -------------------------------------------------------------------------------- 17

5.1 Preventing Hatred amongst Muslims --------------------------------------------------- 18

5.2 Curing Oneself of Hatred ---------------------------------------------------------------- 18

o Islam encourages mutual love --------------------------------------------------- 18

o Dua for the one he hates -------------------------------------------------------- 18

o Dua for Divine assistance -------------------------------------------------------- 18

o Actions that defy his hatred ----------------------------------------------------- 18


1 Hasad ~ Envy

1.1 What is Hasad or Envy ?

Hasad is the desire that a blessing, or a cause of happiness, may depart from its possessor and become transferred to oneself.

Proof

Sahih Bukhari, Volume 8, Number 90 :: Narrated Abu Huraira: The Prophet said, "Beware of suspicion, for suspicion is the worst of false tales; and do not look for the others' faults and do not spy, and do not be jealous of one another, and do not desert (cut your relation with) one another, and do not hate one another; and O Allah's worshipers! Be brothers (as Allah has ordered you!")

1.2 What is Ghibtah ? Opposite of Hasad. A state of happiness; and of enjoyment. It is derived from the root gh-ba-ta which means to regard him with un-envious emulation. i.e. to regard a person with a wish for the like of his condition, of for the like of that which he attained.

1.3 Danger of Hasad

1.3.1 The First Sin in the Heavens

Iblis did not prostrate to Adam as per Allah’s commandment out of envy because he was made of fire while Adam was made of clay. There is no place on earth where Iblis did not worship Allah and yet his one act got him disfranchised from Allah’s Mercy.

1.3.2 The First Sin on Earth

The story of Habeel & Qabeel where Qabeel killed Habeel out of envy.


1.4 The Cause of Envy

Enmity & Hatred

o Nurtures animosity o Makes you happy when the other person suffers

Low Self-Esteem

o Sees oneself as less significant o Cannot tolerate peers when fortune favors them

Pride & Arrogance

o Cannot accept the other person when succeeding o Considers the success to be unworthy for that person

Astonishment

o How can an unworthy person like that be blessed ?

Fearing of losing of One’s Own Aims

o Rivalry within a group o Sibling rivalry

Love of Leadership & Status

o Existing leader cannot favor the notion of the upcoming/growing leader

Impurity of the Soul

o When soul rejoices at the calamities of others and regrets their blessings


1.5 Battling Hasad € Certain Knowledge

o One who envies should realize the certainty of his envy being harmful to his/her duniya and akhira; the envied person is not affected by his envy

€ Know :: It is a crime against oneself & one’s fellow Muslims

o One who envies is insincere and departed from the way of the Prophets and Messengers. He/She has adopted the path of Iblis.

€ Reflection on the harms of envy in this life

o It will result to constant grief and sadness as each time the other person is being blessed.

€ Striving for content in the face of Allah’s decree

o Reflecting over one’s own blessings allows one to increase in gratefulness towards Allah

€ Actions defying “natural” envy

o For natural envy it is in the best interest of the person to curb this and to control his/her nafs.

€ Desisting from envious thoughts by engaging in good deeds

o Get busy performing dhikr and good deeds

€ Dua for the one who you envy

o Make dua for the person whom your soul envies.

€ Istiadha

o Seek refuge in Allah and make dua to remove it


2 Lying ~ Kadhib Lying is a form of deception

Not Lying

When saying something which the present company knows is not true, it is not considered lying as there is no deception.

Concept

Lying is a very serious sin in the sight of Allah

Proofs

Abu Dawud, Book 41, Number 4973:

Narrated Abdullah ibn Amir: My mother called me one day when the Apostle of Allah (peace_be_upon_him) was sitting in our house. She said: Come here and I shall give you something. The Apostle of Allah (peace_be_upon_him) asked her: What did you intend to give him? She replied: I intended to give him some dates. The Apostle of Allah (peace_be_upon_him) said: If you were not to give him anything, a lie would be recorded against you. Sunan of Abu-Dawood Hadith (Hadith 2235)

The Prophet (peace be upon him) said: I guarantee a house in the surroundings of Paradise for a man who avoids quarrelling even if he were in the right, a house in the middle of Paradise for a man who avoids lying even if he were joking, and a house in the upper part of Paradise for a man who made his character good.

Hukm ~ Ruling

Surah al-Nahl 16, Verse 116 – 117

“ And do not say about what your tongues assert of untruth, "This is lawful and this is unlawful," to invent falsehood about Allah. Indeed, those who invent falsehood about Allah will not succeed. [It is but] a brief enjoyment, and they will have a painful punishment. “


2.1 Relationship :: Hypocrisy [nifaq] & Lying [kadhib] Hypocrisy is built on lying Sahih Bukhari, Volume 1 Number 33

Narrated `Abdullah bin `Amr: The Prophet said, "Whoever has the following four (characteristics) will be a pure hypocrite and whoever has one of the following four characteristics will have one characteristic of hypocrisy unless and until he gives it up. -1. Whenever he is entrusted, he betrays. -2. Whenever he speaks, he tells a lie. -3. Whenever he makes a covenant, he proves treacherous. -4. Whenever he quarrels, he behaves in a very imprudent, evil and insulting manner." Sahih Muslim, Book 1, Number 114

'Uqba b. Mukarram al-'Ami reported that he heard 'Ala' b. 'Abdur- Rahman narrating this hadith with this chain of transmitters and he said: Three are the signs of a hypocrite, even if he observed fast and prayed and asserted that he was a Muslim.


2.2 Types & Causes

Lying about Allah

Sahih Bukhari, Volume 1 Number 106 Narrated `Ali: The Prophet said, "Do not tell a lie against me for whoever tells a lie against me (intentionally) then he will surely enter the Hell-fire."

Surah al-Nahl 16, Verse 116 – 117

“ And do not say about what your tongues assert of untruth, "This is lawful and this is unlawful," to invent falsehood about Allah. Indeed, those who invent falsehood about Allah will not succeed. [It is but] a brief enjoyment, and they will have a painful punishment. ”

Lying for Profit

Sahih Bukhari, Volume 1, Book 20 “If both the seller and the buyer explain the good and bad points concerning the transaction and hide nothing and give sincere advice (then they are blessed in their bargain).”

Lying for Entertainment

Sunan of Abu-Dawood Hadith 2235

The Prophet (peace be upon him) said: I guarantee a house in the surroundings of Paradise for a man who avoids quarrelling even if he were in the right, a house in the middle of Paradise for a man who avoids lying even if he were joking, and a house in the upper part of Paradise for a man who made his character good.

Lying in the Reporting of Information

Al-Tirmidhi Hadith 82 Allah's Messenger (peace be upon him) said: Be mindful when transmitting a Hadith from me. (Transmit) only that which you know (very well) for he who intentionally lies about me will find his abode in Hell-Fire.


2.3 Lying :: Prevention & Cure € Increasing Remembrance of Allah € Know Virtues of Truthfulness € Fear the Punishment of Allah € Know the Consequences of Falsehood € Reflect on the Character of the Prophet € Realize that a lie requires further lies to cover it € Ist’’adha :: Seek refuge in Allah € Dua € Reprimand Oneself

2.4 Lying is Obligatory € To save a fellow human (specially Muslim). Best is to try to be vague. € Even if you saw a fellow committing Zina you take Oath by Allah and say

you did not see. This is to defend your fellow brother. Exception is the court.

Imam al-Nawawi stated , “Even though the general rule with regards to lying is that it is haram, it is allowed in some situations with conditions. We can summarize this as follows :

speech is a means to reach certain goals. Every praiseworthy goal that can be achieved

without lying then it is harm to lie to achieve it. If, however, this praiseworthy and

permissible goal cannot be achieved except by lying, then lying is permissible to achieve it.

Moreover if the goal desired is one that needs to be attained by way of obligation and it

cannot be achieved without lying, then lying too, becomes obligatory in order that the goal

might be achieved.”


3 Riya ~ Ostentation

Definition

This is from the third verbal form (meaning ‘to act hypocritically before others, to act in a certain manner in order to be seen by others’) of the Arabic verb ra-a-ā and gives the meaning of “he acted ostentatiously; he did a deed in order that men might see it” Action otherwise for the sake of Allah.

Proof

Surah al-Nisa 4, Verse 38

Sahih International: And [also] those who spend of their wealth to be seen by the people and believe not in Allah nor in the Last Day. And he to whom Satan is a companion – then evil is he as a companion.

3.1 Consequences

3.2 Riya is hidden Shirk Surah al-Bayyinah 98, Verse 5

Sahih International: And they were not commanded except to worship Allah, [being] sincere to Him in religion, inclining to truth, and to establish prayer and to give zakah. And that is the correct religion. Imam Ahmad in his Musnad

Mahmood ibn Labeed reported that the Allah's Messenger (sallallahu àlayhi wa salam) said, "The thing that I fear most for you is the minor Shirk; Riyaa" Sunan Ibn Majah Volume. 2, #3389

Aboo Saèed reported that the Messenger of Allah (sallallahu àlayhi wa salam) came to us while we were talking about Dajjaal and said, "Should I not inform you of that which I fear for you even more than the dangers of Dajjaal? It is the hidden Shirk; A person stands to pray, and he beautifies his prayer because he seas the people looking at him." Authenticated in Sahih al Targheeb wat-Tarheeb, no. 33

Aboo Moosaa al-Ashàree reported that Allah's Messenger (sallallahu àlayhi wa salam) delivered a sermon to them one day and said, "O People! Fear this Shirk (meaning Riyaa), for it is more inconspicuous than the crawling of an ant."


3.3 Riya Renders good deeds null and void

Surah al-Baqarah 2, Verse 264

Sahih International: O you who have believed, do not invalidate your charities with reminders or injury as does one who spends his wealth [only] to be seen by the people and does not believe in Allah and the Last Day. His example is like that of a [large] smooth stone upon which is dust and is hit by a downpour that leaves it bare. They are unable [to keep] anything of what they have earned. And Allah does not guide the disbelieving people.

€ Actions with Riya will bear testimony against the believer on the Last Day Sunnah Abu Daud, Book 25, Number 3656

Narrated Abu Hurayrah: The Prophet (peace_be_upon_him) said: If anyone acquires knowledge of things by which Allah's good pleasure is sought, but acquires it only to get some worldly advantage, he will not experience the arf, i.e. the odour, of Paradise.

€ The one who had Riya will be exposed and disgraced in front of all of creation

3.4 Types of Riya

3.4.1 Riya with respect to One’s Intention

€ Intending only other than Allah o The one who prays only when he is with others

€ Weak intention seeking Allah’s reward, real motivation is mainly from the praise of

others o People’s presence motivates one o Allah’s reward alone does not inspire the person to pray when he is alone

€ Desire for praise and reward are equal to each other

o Intention of reward and intention of showing off are equal. o If one of the intention was not present he will not perform the act of worship

€ Desire for praise, Riya is less than one’s desire for reward

o Intention of showing off is less than the intention of seeking Allah’s reward o If there were no people he would still perform the act of worship o Ostentation alone will not produce the act of worship


3.4.2 Riya with respect to the Essence of the Act of

Worship or its Qualities

€ Riya in the essence of the acts of worship o Riya in the essence of Iman

€ Openly exhibits Islam though there is no Iman € Such a person is a hypocrite

o Riya in the Obligatory acts of Worship € Performs obligatory Ibadah only in the presence of people € Focus is the pleasure of others above that of Allah

o Riya in the supererogatory acts of Worship € Performs only in the presence of people but when left alone only

performs obligatory prayers

€ Riya in the Outward Performance of the Act o Displaying ostentation through a deed the abandoning of which constitutes a

deficiency in the act of worship. € Performs prayer regularly in a manner that makes it deficient but

improves the act to remove deficiency when people are watching

o Displaying ostentation through a deed the leaving of which does not constitute a deficiency

€ Such as prolonging the bowing or prostration in the presence of others

o Displaying ostentation through acts which do not belong to the supererogatory category

€ Such as arriving at the Masjid well before other people

3.4.3 Riya with respect to the reason why someone is showing off

€ Riya in order to perform that which is Haram o Person exhibits good deeds to get close to a woman unlawfully

€ Riya in order to attain some worldly gain o Islamic lectures for the sake of wealth alone or other worldly gain

€ Riya for the purposes of not being through badly of o Prays tarawih in order avoid possible social criticism


3.5 Signs & Indications of Riya € Laziness towards acts of worship, especially when one is on his own

o Being lazy with regards to acts of worship when one is alone. However, when he is with others in the Masjid, for example, he find it easy to do these deeds

€ Reacting to praise

o Increasing in one’s good deeds when one is praised for them and decreasing in them when one is not praised

3.6 Curing Riya

Recognizing the presence of Riya

o As a general rule the first step to curing any o the diseases of the heart and soul is recognizing the presence of the disease,

Concealing Good Deeds

o One should hide his good deeds from others, specially the nafl ibadahs. o Increase nafl ibadah while alone

Knowledge of the Dangers of Riya

o Familiarize with the knowledge of Riya.

Questioning One’s Intention

o Whenever the thought of Riya comes in the heart, try to repel by remembrance of Allah


4 Bukhl ~ Miserliness Contrary to generosity.

Definition

Bukhl is from root word ba-kha-la which means ‘to be or become tenacious, stingy’. Bukhl is tenaciousness or stinginess. Miserliness is to refuse to give something that one has acquired to someone upon request; it is worse when the one who requests it is entitled to that thing.

Proof

Surah al-Nisa 4, Verse 37

Sahih International: Who are stingy and enjoin upon [other] people stinginess and conceal what Allah has given them of His bounty – and We have prepared for the disbelievers a humiliating punishment – Sahih Muslim, Hadith 1178 Narrated Jabir ibn Abdullah Allah's Apostle (peace be upon him) said: Be on your guard against committing oppression, for oppression is a darkness on the Day of Resurrection, and be on your guard against petty-mindedness for petty-mindedness destroyed those who were before you, as it incited them to shed blood and make lawful what was unlawful for them.

4.1 Types of Bukhl

4.1.1 Bukhl against the Shariah

o Stops from paying Zakah o Does not support their dependents

4.1.2 Bukh against Meritorious Character

o Does not give charity knowing the person begging has a genuine condition


4.2 Curing Bukhl € Generosity towards one’s fellow beings invites the generosity of Allah towards oneself

o One should remind himself that if he is generous to others, Allah will be generous to him.

€ Avoid excessive love of this duniya o Primary reason is that he loves that thing

€ Misers are not liked o Every dislikes misers. o Even the misers dislike another miser.

€ Reflect on his own possible future need o Person should reflect that the blessings that he experiences are only from Allah,

and one day he may also find himself in need.

€ One should emulate the best of character o All muslims should aspire to be like the Prophets

4.3 Exception Sometime it is praiseworthy to be miserly. Example, when a wife is miserly with her husband’s wealth when giving it in voluntary charity, as he might be harmed by the excessive charity.


5 Bughd ~ Hatred

Concept

Surah al-Hujurat 49, Verse 10

Sahih International: The believers are but brothers, so make settlement between your brothers. And fear Allah that you may receive mercy. Sahih Al-Bukhari Volume 8,.Number 99 Allah's Apostle said, "Do not hate one another, nor be jealous of one another; and do not desert one another, but O Allah's worshipers! Be Brothers! And it is unlawful for a Muslim to desert his brother Muslim (and not to talk to him) for more than three nights."

The Ploy

Sahih Muslim Hadith 1306

Narrated Jabir ibn Abdullah I heard Allah's Apostle (peace be upon him) as saying: Verily , the Satan has lost all hopes that the worshippers would ever worship (him) in the peninsula of Arabia, but he (is hopeful) that he would sow the seed of dissension amongst them.


5.1 Preventing Hatred amongst Muslims

€ One should avoid expressing satisfaction at another’s hardship

Al-Tirmidhi Hadith 489 & 1255

Narrated Wathilah :: Allah's Messenger (peace be upon him) said, "Do not display pleasure at your brother's misfortune and so have Allah showing mercy to him and bringing misfortune to you."

€ Avoid actions That excite suspicion or doubt

Sahih Al-Bukhari Volume 8,.Number 303 & 305

Narrated by Abdullah :: The Prophet said, "When you are three persons sitting together, then no two of you should hold secret counsel excluding the third person until you are with some other people too, for that would grieve him."

€ Have mutual love for each other

Sunan of Abu-Dawood Hadith 2430

The Prophet (peace be upon him) said: When a man loves his brother, he should tell him that he loves him.

Sahih Muslim Hadith 1170

Allah's Apostle (peace be upon him) said: A person visited his brother in another town and Allah deputed an Angel to wait for him on his way and when he came to him he said: Where do you intend to go? He said: I intend to go to my brother in this town. He said: Have you done any favour to him (the repayment of which you intend to get)? He said: No, excepting this that I love him for the sake of Allah, the Exalted and Glorious. Thereupon he said: I am a Messenger to you from Allah (to inform you) that Allah loves you as you love him (for His sake).

5.2 Curing Oneself of Hatred

o Islam encourages mutual love

o Dua for the one he hates

o Dua for Divine assistance

o Actions that defy his hatred

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