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Hitting, Pushing and Name Calling:Bully-Proofing Your Class or School
Dr. Becky Bailey
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WhoWho let the manners out? I didWho let the kindness out? I didWho let the caring out? It must have been you. Who me? Yeah you!So turn around and put your hands in the airShake your body and show me you careTurn around and put your hands in the air And breathe … like me
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WhoWho let the manners out? I didWho let the kindness out? I didWho let the caring out? It must have been you. Who me? Yeah you!So turn around and put your hands in the airShake your body and show me you careTurn around and put your hands in the air And breathe … like me
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Who
Who let the manners out? I didWho let the kindness out? I didWho let the caring out? It must have been you. Who me? Yeah you!Turn around and put your hands on your kneesShake your body just like meTurn around and put your hands on your kneesBreathe … like meChorus 2x
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Started this way. . .
♥ Who lets the kindness out?♥ Who lets the caring out?♥ Depends on how we feel
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STATE dictates Behavior
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More likely to be hurtful.
More likely to be helpful.
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We tend to focus on behavior
With the goal of STOPPING IT
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Stopping behavior is ineffectivetiring and frustrating for all!
I did it! I stopped coloring on the wallsI did it! I stopped coloring on the babyI did it! I stopped coloring on the dogPlease help be stop being a bad boy!
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We’re Working too hardbecause we trying to do it
backwardsChange the state First - Behavior second
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Two things we must know and take to heart if we are going to
be able to transform aggressive acts into teaching
moments
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STATE dictates Behavior
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Our state regulates their state
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Frontal Lobes
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Higher Centers = RESPOND
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Lower Centers = REACT
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DownloadingBecome the state you want the child to be
Downloading♥ Be a STAR – Deep belly
breaths♥ As your body relaxes so
does theirs, turning off the stress respond
Making or Getting Calm♥ Demand, Bribe, beg, distract,
jiggle, rock or sway
♥ As your voice and body tension escalates so does theirs – increase stress response
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Mirror Neurons
♥ Mirror neurons ensure that the moment someone sees an emotion on your face, they will at once sense that same feeling within themselves
“Daniel Stern”
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Is it possible to create a bully-proof culture?
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YES♥ Must Shift from Control to ConnectionShift from attempting to make children
behave to helping them be successful♥ From Factory to Family modelShift from rewards and punishments to
safety, connection and problem solving♥ Must access our brilliance with positive
intentEmpower both victim and bully
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Connections on the outside build neural connections on the inside
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Connection literally wires the brain for impulse control and
willingness
Eye Contact
Touch
Presence
Playful situation
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Conscious Discipline Brain State Model
What can I learn?Wisdom/Choice
Am I lovedCD -rom
Am I safeFight, flight, Surrender
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My job is to make you behaveAnd your job is to make my job hard!
My job is to keep you safeYour job is to help keep it safe
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Safekeeper Ritual
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From Factory to Family
Factory♥ Create standardized
widgets with certain quality controls.
♥ Based on powerful and Powerless; better than & less thans.
♥ How do you make people behave and be productive.
Family♥ Optimal development of
all members.♥ Based on the concept we
are all in this together. Each person is valuable.
♥ How do you help people be successful.
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School Family is held togetherthrough caring rituals, visual routines and contributions
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Absent Child Ritual
♥ You’ve been gone♥ You’ve been missed♥ Where would you like your welcome
back kiss
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Absent Child Ritual
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Wishing Well
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Faculty Wish Well
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We Care
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WE Care BAG
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Describing is the KEY♥ Observe and describe the nonverbal
actions you see.
Nathan hit you on the head and took the ball.
You were walking and Latisha poked you with her finger.
Your face is going like this ____. It’s telling me you might be feeling ______. Something happened?
You are holding your arm like this. Something happened?
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Victim First
♥ Give first aide to the victimEmpathize
• Reflect what you see NOTICE• Inquire, “Something happened?”• Reflect what you hear
♥ Address the aggressorTeach the necessary skillAssign a positive intent
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VICTIMIZEDIntrusion
♥ Message: I feel powerless to deal with this - help me!
♥ Skill Needed: Assertiveness
♥ Typical Development:2-8 yrs
♥ Response: “Did you like it?”
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Intrusion is an opportunity to teach assertiveness
Child: He pushed meParent: Did you like it?Child: NoParent: Go tell ______. I don’t like it
when you push me.When he wants you to move what do
you want him to do instead of push.Child: Say,”move please.”Parent: Tell him, “Next time say
move please.”
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A period at the end of a problem is telling the other person what you want
NOT what youDon’t want
STOPQUIT
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Practice PracticeChild: Ashley took my doll!Adult: __________________
Child: NO!Adult: Tell Ashley I don’t _______________.
Adult: What do you want her to do instead of grab whenShe wants a turn?
Child:
Ask me!Adult: So you want her to ask, May I have a turn?”Tell Ashley ___________________.
Child: Ashley I don’t like it when you when you take my things
Did you like it?
I don’t like it when you take my things
Say, May I have a turn?
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Practice PracticeChild: James called me a jerk!
Adult: __________________
Child: NO!
Adult: Tell James I don’t _______________.
Adult: What do you want him to call you?
Child: I want him to Stop it!
Adult: So you want him to call you by your name.Tell James Please ________________________.
Child: James, I don’t like it when you call me names
Did you like it?
I don’t like it when you call me names
Call me by my own name
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Helpful Phrases
♥ Make your voice match mine
♥ So she/he just wanted you to know
♥ I am here to help you learn how to listen and respect each other. We are a family and that’s what we do.
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Developmental progression
♥ See his face? His face is saying, “Stop I don’t like it.” Touch me like this. See his face. He ______.
♥ Did you like it? Say, “Stop!” She wants you to ________.
♥ Did you like it? Say, “Stop, I don’t like it.” She wants you to _________
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♥ Did you like it? Tell _____ “I don’t like it when you _______.” She wants you to say/do _________. Say it now.
♥ Did you like it” Tell _____”I don’t like it when you ______. What do you want her to do next time to get _____. Tell her, “Next time, please _____.”
♥ Is that alright with you? If _______, then you could say, “________.”
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A teacher is always near to help point out the picture guides on the sides and model the POSITIVE language.
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Children retrieve the Time Machine whenever they want it. They use it to solve their own problems.
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If children are having a dispute one might suggest to get the Time Machine. He/she goes and brings it to where the problem is.
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If they are both willing to solve the problem then they roll back time and step on the 1st step STAR, 2nd step they both say “I wish you well”, 3rd 123 lets do it.
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After agreeing to solve their problem, breathing and wishing well, she gets to say what she doesn’t like and what she wants the other child to do instead.
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If she agrees she can do that they butterfly hand shake and put the Time Machine back on the shelf.
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The Time Machine is always available with instructions
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Language for the month
♥ “Did you like it! ♥Go tell _____ I
don’t like it when you _____.
♥Next time please _____.
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BIG Voice
When playing turns to pushingAnd pushing turns to shovingThere’s something that you ought to know
When talking turns to teasingAnd teasing isn’t pleasingThere’s something you ought to say
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BIG Voice
When playing turns to pushingAnd pushing turns to shovingThere’s something that you ought to know
When talking turns to teasingAnd teasing isn’t pleasingThere’s something you ought to say
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BIG VoiceJust say,“I don’t like it when you push me.”Say, “Excuse me move over please.”I don’t like it when you tease meRespect is what I want to see
Use you big voice - Stand up tallWith your big voice - Take a deep breathUse your big voice - Look them in the eyeWith your big voice - and give it a try
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BIG Voice
When giving turns to gettingAnd getting turns to grabbingThere’s something that you ought to know
When talking turns to teasingAnd teasing isn’t pleasingThere’s something you ought to say
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BIG VoiceJust say, “I don’t like it when you grab things.”Say, “May I have a turn please?”I don’t like it when you tease meRespect is what I want to see
Use your big voice - Stand up tallWith your big voice - Take a deep breathUse your big voice - Look them in the eyeWith your big voice - and give it a tryREPEAT CHORUS