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Page 1: How come understanding and impact is so challenging for human · Preoccupied: Confused state of self Inability due to ambivalent attachment to develop sense of self (fears of abandonment)
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How come understanding and intervening with attachment and its impact is so challenging for human service professionals and families?

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“Neurons that fire together, Wire Together” (Siegel, 2004)

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Mirror Neurons: “smart brain cells” that explain how we connect and relate to each other

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From birth hardwired to detect sequences and make maps in our brains of the internal state, intentional stance of other people.

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Our behavior sequencing circuits are initially dependent on parents. (What we expect from others)

IF: Caregivers Straightforward: Map sequences with security embedding intentions in kindness and care

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IF: Caregivers are confusing and hard to read our sequencing map of behavior are likely to be distorted.

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First Mind is the Internal State of Our Caregiver: Know ourselves as reflected in our caregivers first.

Then through a process of development we develop separate self.

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Recent Research: Released when we feel close and attached to someone. Children in orphanages had lower rates of oxytocin than control group.

What happens without the chemical?

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Both mother and infant contribute to the attachment process

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The parent-child relationship shapes children’s:

Peer relationships (concept of “first friend”)

Sense of security re exploring the world

Resilience to stress

Ability to regulate emotions

Capacity to carry a coherent story that makes sense of their lives

Future interpersonal relationships

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The Process

Key Factor: Reunion with mother

How child greeted mother after separation?

How easily distressed was soothed?

How rapidly returned to play with toys?

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Those who were securely attached:

Sensitive to the child’s bids for connection

Could read child signals

Effectively meet needs

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Insecurely attached:

Parent did not respond to child’s signals

Seemingly indifferent to child’s distress

In order to cope “child minimizes activation of attachment circuitry”

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Insecure Attachment:

80% of high risk groups such as drug addicted parents

Child may look terrorized upon absence, but then approaches but then withdraws,

Freezes, fall down on the floor, clings and cries while simultaneously pulling away

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Insecure Attachment: Disorganized

Sometimes were sensitive and others times not

Wary of separation, not easily soothed upon reunion, does not readily return to toys, may cling to parent

Contact with the parent does not bring relief

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Insecure Attachment: Disorganized

Parents sow severe terrifying lack of attunement when child is frightened of them

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Healthy

Secure

Insecure

Disorganized

RAD

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Child cannot find an effective means to cope

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Brain does not experience an integration of energy and information as in the secure attachment

Rather disrupted flow

Rigidity Avoidance

Chaos Ambivalence

Vacillation between the two extremes: Disorganized

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Brain-stem

Diencephalon

Limbic

NeocortexAbstract ThoughtConcrete ThoughtExecutive FunctionAttachmentSexual BehaviorEmotional RegulationMotor RegulationMotivationArousalSleepBP / Heart RateRespiratory DriveBody TemperaturePerry 2006

All sensory input enters here

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Brain-stem

Diencephalon

Limbic

Neocortex

Complexity Plasticity &Ease of change

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Attachment: Primarily Limbic Region Development

Good bodily regulation

Emotional balance

Response flexibility

Fear modulation

Empathy and Insight

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Brain Development in Insecure Attachment

Anxiety

Insecurity

Inability to relate to others

Inability to regulate emotions

Many symptoms of dissociation

Heighted risk for PTSD

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Earlier the trauma and the closer the relationship with the perpetrator of the trauma, the more impactful the experience is on the child’s development (Walker, 2007)

More likely that the child will experience betrayal trauma (Freyd, 1994; Goldberg & Freyd, 2004).

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“predicts that the degree to which a negative event represents a betrayal by a trusted, needed other will influence the way in which that even is processed and remembered” (Sivers, Schooler, & Freyd, 2002).

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Research: Best Predictor of Child’s Security of Attachment is not what happened to the child’s parents but how the parents made sense of their childhood experiences.

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Asking right questions can help us understand how they made sense of their past

How mind made sense of their experiences predicted the attachment style that their child had

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Securely attached:

Most often acknowledged both positive and negative aspects of their family experiences

Show how their experiences related to their later development

Had coherent account of their past and who they were

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Secure Attached: Even if difficult childhood had:

A relationship with a person attune to them

Helped build experience of wholeness

Able to reflect on ways that help them make sense of their experiences

Called “Earned Secure” Life Narrative

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Dismissing Mind (Avoidant as Child)

Left side dominant (factual) versus Right side autobiographical details (relationships)

Minimization of the need for others

Left adaptation so as not to feel the pain of missed connections

Integration of right hemisphere. Feelings become more available

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Preoccupied: Confused state of self

Inability due to ambivalent attachment to develop sense of self (fears of abandonment)

I need others but I cannot depend on them

Inability to become differentiated from parent affects adult relatedness of not being able to see the other as separate (Hyperarousal of A.S.)

Understanding the origins to integrate left side with the dominant right (

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Disorganized: Fear without solution

Child self becomes fragmented

Often result of unresolved trauma and dissociation and betrayal

Specific triggers create an exaggerated survival response

Bringing terrified right hemisphere images into relationship with left brain ability to understand them; Developing a narrative

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Study in England of adoptive children between the ages of 3 and 7.

The adult attachment style predicts the child’s ability to attach and the decrease of behavioral challenges.

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Coherent Narrative relationship with self

Curiosity

Openness

Acceptance

Have the ability to feel other people

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Insecurely attached:

Challenging childhood often resulted in incoherent account of

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Recognition that fear due to unresolved early childhood trauma may curtail parents conscious deployment of attention to infants fear signals to avoid their own retriggering

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Van der Kolk: “The earliest and possibly most damaging psychological trauma is the loss of a secure base.”

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Parent becomes source of protection and also represent harm

“fear without solution”

“caught between approach and avoidance”

“intractable emotional dilemma

“source of solution and source of alarm”

“parent as traumatic reminder”

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82% maltreated youth have serious disturbances in their attachment to caregivers

Recognizing impact to neurodevelopment, perception of others, and perception of self

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1) intensity of trauma and accompanying horror in not too overwhelming

2) attach figures provides adequate ongoing comfort, communication, and protection regarding fear evoking experiences

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Observation of visits: Caution: The ability to engage in play with children does not necessarily indicate that parent can provide comfort and soothing in times of child distress, anger, or noncompliance

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Strange Situation for Young Children Under two years of age.

Marschak Intervention Method (Therapy Play)

Handout

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Surrounded in Controversy due to the intensity and challenges of the continuum of insecure attachment.

Rewiring someone’s relational brain can take a lifetime

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Psychoeducation about attachment, trauma, and its impact on not only to the child but to them as well.

Teaching caregivers attunement skills to respond not to the behaviors, but what is underneath that behavior

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Integration of the left and right side of the brain

Multiple sensory based methods

Music,

dance,

rhythm,

touch,

story telling,

creating narratives

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Trauma Focused Cognitive Behavioral Therapy

Real Life Heroes

ARC

Theraplay

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1) Build/Rebuild healthy attachments between children and their traumatized parents

2) Creating a safe environment for the child that facilitates healthy recovery

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1) Creating a safe and predictable environment by establishing rituals and routines.

1) Adults being in Control

2) Rules are defined for keeping everyone safe

3) Bedtime rituals

4) Objects of Affection

5) Daily Schedules

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Basic safety and security a child is provided is the key to all developmental competencies including regulation of emotion, behavior, and relationships.

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2. Increasing caregivers ability to manage the child’s intense affect

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Ability to identify what one is feeling

Ability to connect these feelings to experience

Ability to read emotional cues of others

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Build capacity to safely express emotions and emotional experiences

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Ability to recognize and shift from emotional experiences

Ability to return to a comfortable state of arousal

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3) Improve caregiver attunement so as the caregiver is responding to the child’s underlying affect and not behavioral manifestations

Teaching parents not to personalize

Teaching parents how to recognize their own triggers

Teaching parents how to absorb affect

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4. Increase PRAISE of the child to facilitate the child’s identification with competencies not deficits.

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Must consider an ecological approach that targets all three areas

Individual child

Family system

Larger system

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Such children are likely to be frequently disconnected to their own relational experiences (not being aware of what they are doing during the intense affect dyregulationmoment.

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Building or restoring efficacy

Fostering developmental competencies

Planning

Social skills

Impulse control

Building familial and systemic supports

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Helping child gain mastery over their environment

What can you tell the child that he or she does that demonstrates this?

School success

Physical success

Relational success

Emotional regulation success

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Create opportunities for child connection with peers and adults and community

Extracurricular school activities

Play groups

Church youth groups

Orchestrating relational opportunities

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Build on child’s strengths to foster self esteem

Creating specific opportunities for success based on what you know the child does well

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Encourage practice and learning from outcomes

Spending the times to talk about what happened

What went well, what didn’t

How come this may have happened?

How could there have been a different outcome

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Interplay between refusal to seek out caregiver comfort and rejection of caregiver attempts and challenging behaviors often overwhelm resource parents

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Observation of visits: Caution: The ability to engage in play with children does not necessarily indicate that parent can provide comfort and soothing in times of child distress, anger, or noncompliance

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Resiliency is a product of the child’s interactions with the environment

Resiliency is a product of the balance between risk and protective factors. If balance tilts can lose resilience

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Brain-stem

Diencephalon

Limbic

NeocortexAbstract ThoughtConcrete ThoughtExecutive FunctionAttachmentSexual BehaviorEmotional RegulationMotor RegulationMotivationArousalSleepBP / Heart RateRespiratory DriveBody TemperaturePerry 2006

All sensory input enters here

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Brain-stem

Diencephalon

Limbic

Neocortex

Complexity Plasticity &Ease of change

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Caregiver:

Impairment

Inconsistency

Unpredictability

Own history of unresolved trauma

Abandonment due to multiple placements, caregivers incarceration,

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Child must deal with overwhelming experiences through primitive survival strategies

Aggression

Dissociation

Avoidance

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Child cannot adequately develop emotional regulation skills because of overwhelming relational experiences and the lack of caregiver modeling

Child continues to rely on primitive coping strategies (Spinazzola, et. al, 2005) that often lead to impaired functioning