How to Ask a Girl Out Over TextBy: Mike Wynn

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How Many Times Has This Happened...

Guy: Do you want to go out?Girl: Where?Guy: We can go anywhere. What do you like?Girl: I don't know, I have to get up early tomorrow.Guy: We can go out for a little whileGirl: Nah, I'll probably just stay inGuy: OK

It is very frustrating...● She gives you her number

and seems to like you● But then when you try to get

her to go out with you it seems like mission impossible.

● Why is that? ● I will explain...

What You Have to Understand...● Young women are very social and

feel most comfortable hanging out with their group of friends

● Ever had the feeling like you’re missing out?

● Same feeling with women. They would rather hangout with friends on a Fri/Sat night than go out with a guy that they don’t know well yet.

Invite Her & Her Friends

● Instead of trying to get a one-on-one date, invite her and her friends to meetup with you and your friends

● This will make it much easier for her to go on a date

● The idea is to build comfort and make a connection… Then...

Now is the Time for one-on-one● Once you meet her friends and become part

of her social circle, she will be much more comfortable going on a “date”

● If you’re going to a bar/club, going to an event etc. Simply invite her & her friends to meetup.

● Build trust/connection. Now mention one-on-one date

Note:

● Sometimes she may not have a big social circle or a group of friends that she likes to go out with.

● The first part is more for college aged women that don’t want to miss out on having fun with their friends

Asking Her Out On A Date

● As a guy you ALWAYS want to be the leader and make the plans.

● If you ask her, “what do you want to do?” it is not attractive.

● Have a plan when you ask her out. ● Example: I know a great new sushi

restaurant, let’s meet there at 7pm.

Asking Her Out On a Date● if she says that she doesn’t like sushi or your idea...

no big deal. Mention something else. ● You can ask her what type of things that she likes to

do but ultimately have a plan. ● You can also be funny/flirtatious by being overly

detailed…● Ex. I’ll pick you up at 9:05 sharp, we’ll get dinner at 9:

25. Then we’ll go to a salsa dance lesson for 10:26● Women like a detailed, in charge, confident man.

Much better to Tell than Ask

● Instead of asking her if she wants to go out with you, it is better to…

● Tell her that she is invited ● Ex. Instead of saying, “Do you

want to get sushi with me?” ● Say, “I’m going out to get sushi,

you should come with me.”

You living your life = Attractive

● You are going to do fun/cool things and SHE is invited along

● You are going to live you life and have fun either way.

● She will sense that and want to be a part of it.

If she says that she is busy...● Do not act like it is a big deal● Continue to build attraction by texting her

about the fun/interesting things that you are doing in your life.

● Do not ask her out again for a few weeks. ● if you keep building attraction she will

eventually ask you, “what are you doing tonight?”

Build attraction. Ask her out again.

● Text her the next day and tell her how great your night was despite her not going out

● Ex. “The salsa dance lesson was so fun last night.”● Ex. “I’m actually glad I didn’t go out last night, I was

able to finish a project I was working on.” ● Point is that it is no big deal. Stay positive

and ask her out again later if she is busy.

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