how to be a gentleman & lady and not merely a man and woman by dr t.h. chowdary director: center...
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How to be a Gentleman & Ladyand not merely
A Man and Woman
By
DR T.H. CHOWDARYDirector: Center for Telecom Management and Studies
Fellow: Tata Consultancy ServicesChairman: Pragna Bharati (intellect India )
Former: Chairman & Managing DirectorVidesh Sanchar Nigam Limited &Information Technology Advisor, Government of Andhra Pradesh
T: +91(40) 6667-1191(O) 2784-3121®F: +91 (40) 6667-1111
Talk @ TCS, KLK: 12 July 2012
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Evolution
• Female• Girl• Woman• Lady• Devi
— Male— Boy— Man— Gentleman— Deva
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What Brings this Transformation ?
• Ennoblement Vodi - Badi - Gudi(Mother’s –School- Place of Worship)
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What is Education (1)
• Education is a liberating force, enables the individual to rise form mere materiality to superior planes of intellectual and spiritual consciousness .
• Education gives us accumulated lessons of heritage to carry it forward to posterity .
• The past is our foundation, the present our material, the future our aim and summit. Each must have its due and natural place in a national system of education.
– Sri Aurobindo
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We want that education by which
character is formed,
strength of mind is increased,
the intellect is expanded and by which
one can stand on one’s own feet.
Education is the manifestation of the
perfection already in man
- Swami Vivekananda
What is Education (2)
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• I firmly believe the efficacy of the education as a panacea for our social evils
- Dr.B.R. Ambedkar Education is the process of individual mind
getting its full possible development…. It is a long school which losts a life time
-Dr Zakir Hussain Vidyayaa Vindate AmritamAatmanaa Vindate Veeryam
-Deathlessness is attained by knowledge Valour is attained by self (discipline)
What is Education (3)
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What is Education (5)
– Education aims at liberation - liberation from bondage and ignorance, backwardness and gravitational pulls of the lower human nature.Education should be so designed as to become a powerful carrier of the best of the heritage and it should, therefore, aim at transmitting to the new generations the lessons of the accumulated experiences of the past for further progress in the present and the future.
Source: “Higher Education in India – Vision and Action” GOI’s paper for UNESCO Oct. 1998)
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Why We Go to School?
• Vidya & Buddhi• Knowledge: Wisdom (ethics, morality,
humility, modesty, compassion, equanimity, equality, tolerance, reverence for life…)
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(ఉద్యో:గు: 2.44)
ఒర్త�వేమేమియొనంర్చిBనం నంర్తవర్త ! యుప్రి1యుమ్ము� తనంమ్మునం�బు�నం కుగు�దా
నొర్త�లుకు� నంవిసేయుకు�నికి పారాయుణమ్ము� ప్తర్తమ్ముధర్త� ప్తధమ్ము�లు కెలు2న్
(శాం�తి: 5:22)
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Literature-Instills Values
• Values, ethics, morality derived from literature greatest entrepreneurs are also greatest givers - Tatas, Birlas, Ford, Rockefeller, Carnegie, Stanford all universities in the US.
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Ethics
• For Loka Sanghraha- Preservation of a Harmonious Society
• Work ethic and virtue replaced by welfare ethic and opium
• Mindless competition destroys economy and promotes immorality
• Co-opitation promotes efficiency and optimisation • Ignoble leadership angling for votes and not building
a prosperous powerful intellectual & ethical notion.
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CULTURE
• Is the sum total of one’s being towards himself; family; society and God• To know something of everything and
everything of something• Is obedience to unenforceable laws• A gentleman/lady is one who never inflict pain
upon others• We must so live as to “add to the sum total of
happiness” in the society/world
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Cultured Conduct • Modesty, Vinaya• Greeting, Poorvaabhashi. [Sumathi….]• Not done in public [sneezing, yawning, spitting, blowing,
guffawing ….• Queuing when more than one.• Not speaking on Cell-phone in lifts, waiting rooms, public
places. (Smoking is injurious to public health; even passive smoking so is cell-phone talk in lifts, auditoria, Qs……)
• Talking, walking, gesticulating
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Deportment
• No right to be ugly• No need to be beautiful, assumed airs• Modesty in dress, speech• Stand on both legs (no donkeying)• Do not lean against walls, doors• Do not press lift button again and again• Speak softly (loudness), clearly, not fast (Churchill to his
colleague)
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Looking…….
• Looking, seeing, noticing, observing
• Dress [Jeans, tights…….] Eswara Chandra Vidyaa Sagar
• Shoes (socks), not chappals, slippers
• Driving – [No horn, keep to your lane, Head-lights,….Cross-roads…]
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Culture Cultivation
• Literature• Memorising, reciting (Vaakshuddhi)• Personal library• Family Life-dining table as “Class-room”• How to be a guest• How to ‘meet’ – not w/o appointment• Calling back/Return Calls• Writing a diary
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Culture Cultivation (Contd)
• To-Do Note-Book – Review• Memorise names – most sweetest is one’s own name• Never ask “can you recall my name?” “Do you remember
me?”• Use “aap”, “Sir”, “Meeru”• Visiting elders, teachers – never with empty hands• Best gifts – Good books, flowers…..• Gratefulness – Thanks• Forget the good deed; Regret inability (Chittaranjan Das
episode)
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Telephoning• How to display number +91 (40) 2784-6137• How to annunciate a number: eg: 22233556 double two, two
three; three five, five six• Answer promptly• Say: Namaskar! Bahuguna speaking Or Namaskar! Sri Bahuguna’s Office• If wanted party is not there, offer to take a message, caller’s
name, number, time of call, message; tell you would inform……”
• will you call back or expect to be called.• Caller: Identify yourself• Right number; wrong person or wrong number
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Modesty…(contd)
• A good leader takes a little more than his share of blame, a little less than his share of credit
-Arnold H. Glasov
• When the Gods would destroy, they first make him mad with power.
-Historian, Charles Beard
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Modesty…..(contd)
• But man, proud man dressed in a brief little authority ignorant of what he is most assured his glassy essence, like an angry ape plays such fantastic tricks before high heaven, as make the angels weep
-Shakespeare, ‘Measure for Measure’
• Knowledge is proud that he has learned so much wisdom is humble that he knows no more.
-William Cowper
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Vision
• One man with conviction is the majority
• Life’s battles are often won not by those who are strong but
by those who think they can.
– Hannibal [30,000 against 150,000]
– Churchill’s Battle of Britain
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Vision
• We will make electricity so cheap that only the rich can afford to burn candles.
-Thomas Alva Edison• Cities, countries and continents will be connected
and people will talk to one another from anywhere, anytime, to anyone…….
-Alexander Graham Bell
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Vision (Contd)
• We will make telephony cheaper than a post-card - Dhirubhai Ambani
• (1978) Ghar Ghar Mein Radio Gaon Gaon Mein Telephone -THC• (1997) Hath Hath Mein Telephone; Gaon Gaon Mein Internet - THC
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Wealth accumulates ….Men decay….
Ill fares the land to hastening ills a prey,
Where wealth accumulates and men decay,
Prices and lords may flourish or fade,
A breath can make them as a breath has made,
But a bold peasantry, their country’s pride
When once destroyed can never be supplied
- Goldsmith in Deserted village.
‘I want an India where the peasants are not beguiled or
intimidated into giving up their lands for Mr. Nehru to
build castles in thin air through co-operative farming…”
--Rajaji
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Information……Life
Where is the Life we have lost in livingWhere is the wisdom we have lost in knowledgeWhere is the knowledge we have lost in informationThe cycles of heaven in twenty centuriesBring us further from God and nearer to the dust.
-T.S. Eliot
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Abraham Lincoln“You cannot bring about prosperity by discouraging thrift.You cannot strengthen the weak by weakening the strong.You cannot help the poor by destroying the rich.You cannot establish sound security on borrowed money.You cannot keep out trouble by spending more than you earn.You cannot build character and courage
by taking away man’s initiative and independence.You cannot help men permanently by doing for themWhat they could do for themselves.” - (Source: Freedom First, May 1989)
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Delegation Jethro said to Moses, ‘You are not doing it the right way,
you will wear yourself out and these people as well. This is too much for you to do alone. You should choose some capable men and appoint them as leaders of the people, leaders of the thousands, hundreds, fifties and tens…they should be god-fearing who can be trusted and who cannot be bribed…
-Book of Exdus, CH 18, Verse 17
Here lies a man who knew how to enlist in his service better men than himself
-Andrew Carnegie
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H.W.Longfellow
The lives of great men do remind us That we too can make our lives sublimeAnd, departing, leave behind us Foot-prints on the sands of time
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Books for Reading• How to Win Friends & Influence people – Dale Carnegie • The Human side of Enterprises - Douglas Mcgregor• My years with General Motors – Alfred P Sloan• A Japan which can say “No” to America• Kautilya’s Artha Sastra• Are You Listening – Dr T H Chowdary • The Creation of Wealth - JRD Tata
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Books for Reading (Contd)
• Shantiparva in Mahabharata• Sundara Kanda (Ramayana) – Hanuman to Sita• Gita Rahasya by Lokamanya Tilak• Bharthrihari’s Subhashitas• Sumathi & Vemana Satakas• Rama Charita Manas – Tulasi Das• Krishnavatara – KM Munshi• Women in the Bible
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Dhanyawad:
Thank You
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