how to become more confident by till h. gross a visual summary
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HOW TO BECOMECONFIDEN
T?
Your heart starts RACING
Do you know this feeling…
Your hands start SWEATING
Your knees get WEAK
You get BUTTERFLIES in stomach
Have you ever wanted to DO something
but COULDN’T because you got nervous and anxious?
Have you ever done something you were initially NERVOUS about?
Did you then feel that it was not as SCARY as you
thought?
Is your answer to these questions YES?
Do you want to become more CONFIDENT?Overcome social ANXIETIES?
Not be held back by FEAR?
But,HOW to do it??
Of course you do!!
Simple. Just lay down on a street for 30 seconds
You think it is WEIRD?
Let me tell you a small story…
Once there was a boy who was
CONFIDENT &
OUTGOING
However, some situations made
him reallyNERVOUS
&INSECURE
He felt shy in front of people superior to himHe was afraid of REJECTION and being exposed
This invoked 2 types of
BEHAVIOURin him
1. AVOIDANCEHe wouldn’t go to a party where he knew none
2. He looked for APPROVAL from those superior to him
He behaved in a way they approved of
He started attending psychotherapy coachingout of
INTEREST
There he heard about Comfort
Zone Challenges
These challenges require you to put
yourself in an Uncomfortable
Situation
Get yourself rejected 10 times as fast as possible…
So, if you are afraid of being rejected, go out…
The idea behind it is…
…to do it over & over again
And then at one point of time,
you would just stop caring what other people might think!!
This is called EXPOSURE THERAPY
Why does it WORK?
Over the years, your Nervous System has learnt to respond to a particular situation with FEAR
When faced with this situation, your nervous system sends
FEAR responses
Even if the situation is
NOT dangerous
So, how to get over it?
It’s simple…
Over and over AGAIN.
EXPOSE yourself to that situation
As your anxiety REDUCES,
your nervous system eventually LEARNS
that situation isnot scary
And you become more CONFIDENT
Now, the boy found this thought INTERESTING…
He decided to take up the challenge the NEXT day…
Then the THOUGHT came to his mind…
WHY SHOULDN’T I
DO IT TODAY??
BOOM BOOM BOOM
Two things happened simultaneously…
His hands started getting
SWEATY
His heart started to RACE
His knees felt WEAK
All those really good excuses popped up
Floor is dirty
Mom is waiting
What might people think
Wanting to DO
He was torn between
Fear & Excuses
It was then he had this AHA
Moment
These fears and excuses will ALWAYS be there…
He realized –
And this was what he thought...
He LAID DOWN on the busy street bursting with people
His heart was racing. MADLY.
He was NERVOUS as hell…
But as time went by, he noticed 3 things…
He got weird looks. A lot. But, these were NOT as SCARY as he thought!!
Many people were really CONFUSED
They didn’t know what he was doing
Majority of people DIDN’T
even CARE
They walked right past without looking at him
The boy was Till H. Gross……founder of Comfort Zone Crusher
LESSONS LEARNED…
Learn to go through discomfort
You’ll learn to ignore the irrational excuses
1. HABIT Practice comfort zone challenges over & over again
It would still be present, but it won’t HOLD you back anymore
2. FEAR
3. HAPPINESS
You stop COMPARING yourself to others
You stop CARING what other people might think of you
“DO ONE THING EVERYDAY THAT SCARES YOU”
- Eleanor Roosevelt
LET’S RECAP
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=HtDkg3Xwn7U
DISCLAIMER: These slides were created by Ankita Sharma, IIM Lucknow, as part of a MBA course “Personal Branding” (www.MBASkills.IN) taught by Prof. Sameer Mathur
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Photo Credits:Google Images
CREDITS
Prof. Sameer Mathur Indian Institute of Management, Lucknow Marketing Professor (August 2013 – Present)
Marketing Professor (2009 – 2013)
Ph.D. and M.S. - Marketing (2003 – 2009)
Indian Institute of Management Lucknow
MBA Student (2014 – 2016)
Ankita Sharma