I. FriendshipII. AttractionIII. IntimacyIV. Commitment V. Marriage

1. having a deep or unusual knowledge of

2. deeply personal, private, or secret

3. to make known archaic

4. having sexual relations euphemism

5. (e.g. intimate apparel)

Into – Me - See

1. the communication or reception of knowledge or intelligence

2. data

3. facts

• An American custom• Non-committal romance• Intention to marry not

necessary• No accountability required• Time alone leading to

intimacy• Most vulnerable for sexual

temptation• Christians who are sexually

active are usually secretive

Dating Method

• An old English custom

• The couple would meet in public places or at the woman’s home

• Marriage intentions

• Information gathering

• Intimacy was inappropriate

• No premarital sex.

Courtship Method

• A Hebrew tradition hard to apply in current times

• A marriage covenant is ratified.• A dowry is paid• Pre-arranged marriages included the

woman's approval but at times was abused

• The couple separates and seeks God• The man and woman are tested• No premarital sex

No hips, hands, or butts about it!about it!

Bethrothal Method

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#1 KISSING

James 1:14 But every man is tempted when he is drawn away of his own lust, and enticed. v.15 Then when lust hath conceived, it bringeth forth sin: and sin, when it is finished, bringeth forth death.

Kissing according to Kissing according to the French Traditionthe French TraditionKissing according to Kissing according to the French Traditionthe French Tradition

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#1 KISSING#2 PETTING

- I Cor 6:19 What? know ye not that your body is the temple of the Holy Ghost which is in you, which ye have of God, and ye are not your own? 20 For ye are bought with a price therefore glorify God in your Body, and in your spirit, which are God’s. 7:1... It is good for a man not to touch a woman.

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#1 KISSING#2 PETTING#3 FORNICATION

- I Thes 4:3 For this the will of God, even your sanctification, that ye should abstain from fornication. v.4 That every one of you should know how to possess his vessel in sanctification and honor.

THE AMERICAN HERITAGE DICTIONARY

for•ni•ca•tionfor•ni•ca•tionSexual intercourse

between partners who are not married to each

other.

for•ni•ca•tionfor•ni•ca•tionSexual intercourse

between partners who are not married to each

other.

COMMITMENT INFORMATIONATTRACTION

OR PETTING INTIMACYATTRACTION

Boy meets

Girl

OR

POINT OF NO RETURN

COMMITMENT INFORATIONATTRACTION

PETTING INTIMACYATTRACTION

OR

Married or not here we come!

PETTING INTIMACYATTRACTION

COMMITMENT INFORATIONATTRACTION

Marriage?or

Fornication?

Heb 13:4 MARRIAGE is honourable in all, and the bed undefiled: but WHOREMONGERS and adulterers God will judge.

Bed of Marriage

MARK 10:7-8For this cause shall a man leave his father & mother and cleave to his wife and they two shall be ONE FLESH.

1 COR. 6:16know ye not that he which is joined to a harlot is one body? for two saith He, shall be ONE FLESH.

Bed of Fornication

…..OR…..

II. Attraction

Dating, Courting or Pre-Betrothal

Do I keep myself accountable?

a) Fornicationb) Romance with respectc) Separation

THE AMERICAN HERITAGE DICTIONARY

dat•ingdat•ingdat•ingdat•ingAn

appointment, especially an engagement

to go out socially with a

member of the opposite

sex.

dat•ingdat•ingdat•ingdat•ing• GOING OUT ALONE WITH THE

OPPOSITE SEX FOR FUN WITH NO INTENTIONS OF MARRIAGE

dat•ingdat•ing 1. Talking on the Phone1. Talking on the Phone

dat•ingdat•ing 1. Talking on the Phone1. Talking on the Phone

dat•ingdat•ing 2. E-Mailing & Instant 2. E-Mailing & Instant

MessagingMessaging

dat•ingdat•ing 2. E-Mailing & Instant 2. E-Mailing & Instant

MessagingMessaging

dat•ingdat•ing 3. Eating Out Together3. Eating Out Together

dat•ingdat•ing 3. Eating Out Together3. Eating Out Together

dat•ingdat•ing 4. Private Conversations4. Private Conversations

dat•ingdat•ing 4. Private Conversations4. Private Conversations

THE AMERICAN HERITAGE DICTIONARY

cour•tingcour•tingcour•tingcour•tingTo try to gain

the love or affections

of, especially to

seek to marry.

cour•tingcour•tingcour•tingcour•ting• DEVELOPING A FRIENDSHIP RELATIONSHIP

WITH THE OPPOSITE SEX WITH THE INTENTION OF THE POSSIBILITY OF MARRIAGE

• IS BUILT UPON A SPIRITUAL COMMON GROUND IN GROUP SETTINGS

• YOU SAVE YOUR KISS UNTIL THE WEDDING DAY

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#1 CHOOSING A MATE

#2 WALK IN THE SPIRIT

#3 MARRIAGEI Cor 7:2 ...to avoid fornication, let every man have his own wife, and let every woman have her own husband.