PERSONAL IDENTITY,

CHARACTER,& EMOTIONS

MASLOW’S HIERARCHY OF NEEDSHierarchy of Needs: a ranked list of those needs essential to human growth and development, presented in ascending order; starting with the basic needs and building toward the need to reach your highest potential.

MASLOW’S HIERARCHY OF NEEDS• We all have needs.

• Lower level needs must be satisfied before upper level needs can be met.

Level 1: Physical NeedsLevel 2: Safety NeedsLevel 3: Love and BelongingLevel 4: Feeling Recognized/ Self-EsteemLevel 5: Reaching Potential (Self-Actualization)

ALICE IN WONDERLAND “Who are you?” said the

caterpillar. Alice replied, rather shyly, “I hardly know, Sir, just at present—at least I know who I

was when I got up this morning, but I think I must have changed

several times since then.”

PERSONAL IDENTITY Personal identity is one of the MOST

important tasks you will accomplish during your teen years.

How do we do this? Identity is partly formed by recognizing your

likes and dislikes.

Your relationships and experiences with family and friends also influence your personal identity.

LIKES AND DISLIKES read or write? indoors or outdoors? Ipod or radio? skiing or scuba diving Movie theater or redbox? chocolate or vanilla? Novel or magazine? Dine in or take out? booth or table? Chick flick or action?

LIKES DISLIKES reality tv fan or not? Lights or lamps take the picture, or have picture taken? dog or cat? socks or barefoot? salt or pepper? blonde or brunette? call or be called? bath or shower? morning or night?

LIKE DISLIKES half full or half empty? hot or cold? Mustard or ketchup? Coke or sprite

ROLE MODELS Someone whose success or behavior

serves as an example for you.

My sister: She is a kind person, who listens to people, non judgmental.

Aragorn from Lord of the Rings: Strong, leader, valued yet knew his strengths and weaknesses.

Princess Diana: Graceful, a Lady, kind, gentle despite her ROYAL status she spent much of her time with underprivileged people helping them.

PERSONALITY A complex set of Characteristics that

makes you UNIQUE

ELEMENTS OF PERSONALITY INNATE? INTERPRETATION OF LIFE?CODE OF BEHAVIOR?MYSTERY????

REDS: THE POWER WIELDERS Reds are the power wielders of the world.

Power is not good and it is not bad, it just is. It has to do with movement, (moving from A to B). Power sometimes carries a negative connotation but where positive characteristics of Reds are concerned, it drives them to high levels of productivity and efficiency. Reds boldly move forward with logic, vision and determination. These qualities make them natural born leaders, as they make things happen by sheer force of will. From a Red perspective, emotion has little to do with accomplishing a task.

Strengths Visionary Insight into the future Independent Swift decision makers Goal oriented Capable High expectationsLimitations Lack subtlety Tactless Insensitive Demanding Lack Compassion High expectations

REDS: THE POWER WIELDERS

BLUES: THE DO-GOODERS

Blues are motivated by Intimacy. Without their natural talent to insist on quality and to provide service, our world would be a far less pleasant place. Blues want to connect and to be understood and appreciated. If they are not connecting with you, if they are not plugged into humanity, then what’s the point? They believe if you don’t have a sincere connection in life, then there really is no other value. Earning money, having the Mercedes, and being in the windowed office are nice but do not represent a purposeful life to a blue. Blues are very purposeful people who love to serve and give of themselves freely to nurture others' lives. They are loyal friends, employers and employees, and their personal code of ethics is very strong. They expect other people to live honest and committed lives as well. Blues are dependable, thoughtful, and analytical; but they can also be self-righteous, worry-prone, and moody. They hold on and never let go of something/someone once they are committed.

Strengths Observant & Intuitive Compassionate Notice quality and detail Strong sense of purpose Involved Loyal Caring Committed employees and friends Commitment to learn, become self-aware, and to be their

best

Limitations Ruled by emotions Want love and acceptance from others but struggle to love

and accept themselves Remember their own weaknesses, rather than strengths Tend to struggle more with depression

BLUES: THE DO-GOODERS

WHITES: THE PEACEKEEPERS

Motivated by Peace, Whites will do almost anything to avoid confrontation and to create tranquility. They have a remarkable ability to understand and draw objective conclusions—they are the voice of reason, and this is their gift to us.

Whites truly believe that with patience all things come to those who wait. The problem is that they are sometimes too content with sitting around waiting. They seek contentment more than power, money or, for that matter, more than friends. They are happy having one or two good friends and one or two hobbies. In fact, they tend to have only one hobby at a time. Instead of trying to carry on with two hobbies, they will drop one to take on another. Having two is too much effort. Their only demands from life are the things that make them feel comfortable. That feeling fosters their need to feel good inside.

Strengths Kind Considerate Patient Accepting Not judgmental or critical of others Tactful Self-Control Good listenersLimitations Hide their feelings Unwilling to set goals Resist working at another’s pace Self-deprecating Uncomfortable with praise

WHITES: THE PEACEKEEPERS

YELLOW: THE FUN LOVERS

Yellows are motivated by Fun. Without their natural talents of enthusiasm and optimism, the world would be a boring place for all. They are here to have a great time. Yellows have an innate ability to be happy. They believe it is okay to play and people who don’t understand this have limited minds. They are the people who get up in the morning and sing to the Bon Jovi tune, “Until I’m six feet under, baby I don’t need a bed. Gonna live while I’m alive–—I’ll sleep when I’m dead.” Yellows love to enjoy life. They have a mental attitude that allows them to appreciate what they have rather than be miserable over what they don’t . They spend much of their time charming everyone in an entertaining way. Robin Williams is a good example. Can you imagine growing up as his child? What a fun dad. He has that child-like innocence and a hope that inspires the masses.

Strengths Love to be around people Others love to be around them Positive energy Optimistic Enthusiastic Playful Avoid risk Persuasive Spontaneous Entertainers

Limitations Lack commitment for success Believe the best, even when their ship is sinking Can be self-centered Willing to blow off plans if something better comes along Lack deep friendships

YELLOW: THE FUN LOVERS

IT IS WHAT YOU DO THAT DEFINES YOU!

CHARACTER PLAYS A SIGNIFICANT ROLE IN YOUR

DECISIONS, ACTIONS, AND BEHAVIOR

The distinctive qualities that describe how a person thinks, feels, and behaves.

TRAITS OF GOOD CHARACTER

Trustworthiness

Respect

Responsibility

Fairness

Caring

Citizenship

TRUSTWORTHINESS Be honest • Don’t deceive, cheat, or

steal • Be reliable — do what you say you’ll do • Have the courage to do the right thing • Build a good reputation • Be loyal — stand by your family, friends, and country

RESPECT Treat others with respect; follow the

Golden Rule • Be tolerant and accepting of differences • Use good manners, not bad language • Be considerate of the feelings of others • Don’t threaten, hit or hurt anyone • Deal peacefully with anger, insults, and disagreements

RESPONSIBILITY Do what you are supposed to do • Plan

ahead • Persevere: keep on trying! • Always do your best • Use self-control • Be self-disciplined • Think before you act — consider the consequences • Be accountable for your words, actions, and attitudes • Set a good example for others

FAIRNESS Play by the rules • Take turns and share

• Be open-minded; listen to others • Don’t take advantage of others • Don’t blame others carelessly • Treat all people fairly

CARING Be kind • Be compassionate and show

you care • Express gratitude • Forgive others • Help people in need

CITIZENSHIP Do your share to make your school and

community better • Cooperate • Get involved in community affairs • Stay informed; vote • Be a good neighbor • Obey laws and rules • Respect authority • Protect the environment • Volunteer

TIPS FOR HEALTHY IDENTITY List your skills and strengths

Surround yourself with positive supportivepeople

Find something you love and DO IT!

Stop making life a contest

Help others…..SERVICE

WORDS OF SUESS WISDOM “Be who you are and say what you feel

because those who mind don't matter and those who matter don't mind.”

RANDOM ACTS OF KINDNESS WEEK Kindness Video (3 minutes) List ideas of kind things you could do for others on a daily

basis on the board. Random Acts of Kindness Week 2010

February 13-17 Two weeks to do at least one act of kindness for somebody

else. Get credit by writing your act of kindness on the Kindness

Poster, initialing it, and then crossing your name off of the list.

EMOTIONSEmotions: signals that tell your mind and body how to react.

Hormones: chemicals produced by your glands that regulate the activities of different body cells.

EMOTIONS CHARADES 10-15

minutes• Angry• Happy• Sad• Confused• Stressed• Frustrated• Exhausted• Content• Embarrassed• Afraid• Love• Jealous• Indifferent• Proud• Satisfied• Nervous• Determined• Excited • Flirty• Hyper• Disappointed• Surprised• Disgusted

MANAGING DIFFICULT EMOTIONS

Defense Mechanisms: mental processes that protect individuals from strong or stressful emotions and situations.

Repression: involuntarily pushing unpleasant feelings out of one’s mind.

Regression: returning to behaviors characteristic of a younger age, rather than dealing with problems in a mature manner.

Denial: unconscious lack of recognition of something that is obvious to others.

Projection: attributing your own feelings or faults to another person or group.

Suppression: consciously and intentionally pushing unpleasant feelings out of one’s mind.

Rationalization: making excuses to explain a situation or behavior, rather than taking responsibility for it.

Compensation: making up for weaknesses and mistakes through gift giving, hard work, or extreme efforts.

COMMON DEFENSE MECHANISMS

DEFENSE MECHANISMS VIDEO 5 min

HOW TO HANDLE YOUR EMOTIONS Be honest with yourself. Talk to somebody about your feelings. Don't ignore your emotions, they are telling you

something. If you are having an unpleasant feeling, think of

something you can do that will help, and then do it.

Find positive ways to express anger that are not hurtful to others.

Remember, whatever you are feeling, you're not alone.

Try not to get overwhelmed, things usually improve.

If you do get overwhelmed—ask for help.