important, it shows her that she can control how those feelings affect her.

2. Don’t be shy. How many times have you been chatting with an acquaintance at the park or store only to find your son hiding behind your leg? Or may-be your normally talkative daughter has gone silent when asked a simple question by your friend? Often, the first thing we say to our child is “don’t be shy.” While we’re trying to encourage politeness, we’re forgetting that kids have different personalities and aren’t all equally outgoing. When we call our kids “shy,” they have a greater tendency to act shy. In-stead of putting them on the spot when you run into a friend at the mall, try working together ahead of time on how to deal with meeting and greeting new people. Role play situations, arrive to events early to allow your child to get acclimated – and most im-portantly – don’t pressure your child into talking if he doesn’t want to.

3. Any sentence that begins with “see”. As adults, we don’t like hearing “I told you so,” and neither do our kids. When we say, “see, wasn’t it a good idea to bring an umbrella today?” or “see, isn’t it easier to pick out a shirt when you hang them up?” we’re try-ing to reinforce our point or teach a lesson. Instead, our kids hear, “I told you so. If you would just listen to me, life would be much easier!” Defenses go up, your lesson is less likely to be heard, and a power struggle will probably result. In this case, the best teacher is the experience itself.

When we know more about how our children inter-pret our words, we can truly be as helpful as we’re intending to be.

"See, I Told You So: Unhelpful Things Well-Meaning Parents Say." Positive Parenting Solutions Blog. N.p., n.d. Web. 14 May 2015. <www.positiveparentingsolutions.com>

Your child’s crumpled into a ball in the living room, sobbing over a newly broken toy. You jump into action to quell the crying and help him feel better – but will your words actually help?

As much as parents would like to consider ourselves fonts of unending wisdom, we can say some pretty unhelpful things at times. These aren’t necessarily things said in the midst of a late-afternoon tantrum or a middle-of-the-store meltdown, but things we say to comfort our kids with the best intentions of helping them.

So, the next time these words are on the tip of your tongue, take a second and look for a different way to approach the situation:

1. Don’t worry or don’t cry. When we say this, we truly do want our kids to feel better – but instead, it can make your child feel like you see those feelings as un-important. The truth is, we’re all sad or worried some-times, and we need to help our children learn to work with these feelings rather than ignore them. Instead of saying, “It’s silly to believe that there are three-eyed pink monsters under the bed,” acknowledge your child’s feelings and then find ways to deal with those feel-ings. Ask questions like, “What are some things you can do to feel less afraid?” or “what are some things that you can do to feel less worried?” Not only does this show your child that her feelings are valid and

By Amy McCready, Founder of PositiveParentingSolutions.com and author of If I Have to Tell You One More Time

AAA Michigan Donald Amboyer Joyce Anderson Kathleen Andrews Anytime Fitness - Fraser Carl Apfel Serene Arena Liz Arndt Melinda Arndt Michael Baran Nathan Barnes Melissa Barnett Heather Battaglia Jessica Beauchamp Linda Beaumont Katherine Becker Andrea Belanger Kelly Bennett Jeanie Bentley Gillian Bentley Lois Bertani Big Apple Bagel Bill MacDonald Ford, Inc Cynthia & Florria Blank Blue Care Network Blue Cross/Blue Shield of MI Erik Boone Constantine Botimer Michele Bracy Elisabeth Bradley Matthew Brenner Eddy Bullock Linda Busch Christopher Calamita Josephine Chadwick Diann Chase Chippewa Valley Coalition For Youth & Families John & Sharon Chirkun Monica Chrzaszcz Craig Chynoweth Anna Clark Heidi Collier Emily Collins-Hamel Communications LLC ConCorde Inn of Clinton Twp Carol Corneille Costco Wholesale-Shelby Twp.

Costco Wholesale-Roseville Sheri Crell Paul Dailey Patti Denomme Detroit Symphony Orchestra Eric Detweiler DigitasLBi Disability Network Oakland & Macomb Tracey Drotos Crystal Duperry Bill Durdin Eastside Bagel Edsel & Eleanor Ford House

Families Against Narcotics Jennifer Farah Farmers Market INC Bert Figueras Scott Flaherty Chad & Denise Flinders Jeffery Flynn Mary Forand Phil Foster Angela Freeman Audrey Frohriep Stephen Gabbara Kathryn Gardull Daniel Garvey Fran Gawrych Paul Gentner Caitlyn Gledhill Steve Gold Greyhound Technologies Ltd

Curt Harder Rachael Hardwick Leah Harvey Howard Hatten Stephanie Hayes Henry Ford Health System - Henry Ford Macomb Hospitals Julie Hickey Hitachi Automotive Systems Americas, Inc. DRCAC Linda Hockney Frances Holmes Edith Howe-Byrne John Humphrey Tia Hurchalla Jimmy John's - Fraser Katherine Jordan Randy Kandt Kimberly Kapp Natalie Kerry Mark Kilgore Meghan Kindsvater Guy King Mary Kish Kitch Attorneys & Counselors

Beverly Knudsen Kohn Cheryl Komisarz Diane Koschke Annie Kosek Ericka Krajewski Yehuda Kranczer Mordechai Kranczer Kroger Co. Of Michigan Don & Paddy Laske Jon Lenard Steve Lenard Robert Lenard Derrin Leppek Mike Lijewski Erica Lindow Christine Liptak Little Caesars Pizza Emilie MacNeil

Macomb Center for the Performing Arts Eric Smith Renae Mansor Marsh & McLennan Agency Jerry Martin Joann Masakowski Emily McCartney McLaren Macomb Meijer Store # 145 Ruth Merritt Michigan Science Center Brett Miller Adhnan Mohamed Dino and Mary Jo Morelli Doug Muir Cindi Neaves Bob Neumaier Nino Salvaggio's-Clinton Twp. Don O'Connell Maryjo O'Donnell Patricia O'Neill Kiel Opperman Christof Othmer Paula Parent Sima Patel Sharan Paul Gary Pawlitz Sandy Pelini Enid Penn Nichole Peters Kady Peyser Pfizer Foundation Matching Gifts Program Leonard Piecuch Tony Pizzo PKSA Karate-St. Clair Shores Preva Salon Prime Office Innovations Progressive Communities Mgmt

Iola Rainoldi Deanna Reed Shivon Reed Debbie Richards William Ridella Betty Risher Paula Roman Roman Homes Amy Salciccioli Ostdiek Leslie Salmen Kelly Salomone Thomas Sandusky Anthony& Linda Schornak Janine Sechrist Richard Seymour Dave Silwester Carolyn Skaff SMART Transporation Susan Smiley Steven Smith Smooch Yer Pooch Kim Snarski

Spaulding For Children Robert Spears James Spears Spicuzza Painting & Restoration LLC St John Providence Health System St Michael Catholic - Community Church St. James Lutheran Church Lauren Stankovich Monique Stanton Linda Steele Lisa Stemple Brandi Storment Betty Stutzky Tracy Stuyck Sunburst Home Improvement Amy Szymanski Talmer Bank and Trust The Anton Art Center The Loft Fine Art Terri Timm Tim's Bike Shop Trader Joe's Company Triumphant Cross Lutheran Church Mary Trombly Patrick Tully Hugh Turner United Way For Southeastern Michigan Gail Urso Value Center Marketplace Vince & Joe's Goumet Market Murray Vrooman Elizabeth Walters Warner Norcross & Judd LLP Len & Emma Warren Warren Sterling Heights Elks Deone Watts Erica Wehrs Glenn Weiland Jennifer Welch Western & Southern Life Mike White Deborah Wiebelhaus Mary Woloszyk Richard Wooten Erin Wynn Rosalie Youngblood Stacy Ziarko Angela Zoeplitz

In Honor of Lucia Smith Rachel Busby

In Memory of Dr. Janet Reed

Patrick McLogan Keith Reed

Summer 2015 Specialty Workshops

CARE of Southeastern Michigan’s mission is to educate, link and support individuals, families, businesses and communities affected by family concerns, workplace challenges, mental health conditions

and the misuse of alcohol, tobacco, and other drugs. Federal, state and local funding has been provided through Macomb County Community Mental Health/Office of Substance Abuse and other

funding sources to support project costs. Recipients of substance use services have rights protected by state and federal law and promulgated rules. For information, contact CARE of Southeastern

Michigan Recipient Rights Advisor, 31900 Utica Road, MI 48026, 586.541.2273 or State Recipient Rights Coordinator, P.O. Box 30664, Lansing, Michigan 48909.

You may know CPR and the Heimlich maneuver. You can call 911. But can you administer first aid in a mental health crisis? What would you say to a person who says they are thinking about suicide? How can you help in a panic attack? This eight-hour course uses role-playing and simulations to demonstrate how to offer initial help in a mental health crisis and connect persons to the appropriate professional, peer, social, and self-help care. Mental Health First Aid has strong evidence backing it. Three quantita-tive and one qualitative studies have shown that the program: (1) improves people’s mental health, (2) increases understanding of mental health issues and treatments, (3) connects more people with care, and (4) reduces stigma. By attending this training, participants will: Learn about the common risk factors and

warning signs of specific types of mental illness, like anxiety, depression, substance use, bipolar disorder, eating disorders, and psychotic disorders.

Have an understanding of mental health disorder’s impact and an overview of common supports.

Gain a five-step action plan, called ALGEE, to support someone developing signs and symptoms of a mental illness or in an emotional crisis.

To schedule this training or to learn more about attending an 8 hour training, call 586-218-5270 or email worklife@careswls.com. Currently there is no fee for this training.