interpersonal communication (final)
TRANSCRIPT
INTERPERSONAL COMMUNICATION
2
INTERPERSONAL COMMUNICATION
Process of sending and receiving information between two or more peopleTypes of Interpersonal Communication
• Dyadic communication (two people)• Public speaking• Small-group communication
Basic elementsCommunication channels
• Direct channels: obvious, under control of sender• Verbal (spoken or written) or Non-verbal (colour,
sound, controlled body movements)• Indirect channels: recognized subliminally,
subconsciously, not under direct control of the sender• Body Language
3
INTERPERSONAL COMMUNICATION: WHAT FOR?• Gaining Information about other individual
• For interacting more effectively• Better prediction about how they think, feel, and act• How? Passively (by observing them), Actively (having
others engage them) or Interactively (engaging them ourselves)
• Better Understanding others• Words can mean very different things depending on how
they are said or in what context• What and how are sent simultaneously, and both affect
the meaning• Establishing Identity
• Roles we play and public self-image we present• Interpersonal Needs
• Inclusion, Control and Affection
4
INTERPERSONAL CONFLICT
Expressed struggle between at least two interdependent parties who perceive incompatible goals, scarce resources, and interference from the other party in achieving their goalsImportant concepts in definition:
• The two sides must communicate about the problem• Often involves perceptions
Common Problems:• Avoiding conflict: damaging, greater problems in the future• Individuals blaming other individuals• Adopting a win-lose strategy
5
INTERPERSONAL COMMUNICATION
We are going to explicitly work on
• Effective Listening• “You have two ears and
one mouth. I suggest that you use them in that proportion”
• Assertiveness• “Too many of us fail to
fulfill our needs because we say no rather than yes, or perhaps later in life, yes when we should say no”
• Effective Questioning• “Only the crystal-clear
question yields a transparent answer”
6
EFFECTIVE LISTENING: ACTIVE LISTENING
Communication = Speaking & Listening = good speaking and effective listening skillsDifference between Hearing & Listening?Effective Listening Tips
• Make an effort to block out outer distractions. • Resist the urge to day dream. • Try to understand and correctly interprete body language.• Pay attention to tone also, as it is vital to the correct
interpretation of the message. • Have an open mind. Try not to make judgments about the
speaker or the message. • Don't hesitate to ask and clarify (do not interrupt, jot
questions down)• Big mistake: being preoccupied on what you want to say.
7
ASSERTIVE COMMUNICATIONAppropriately direct communication, open and honest, and clarifies one’s needs to the other personNatural to some, but skill that can be learnedGreatly reduces the level of interpersonal conflict, reducing a major source of stressFeatures of assertive people:
• assume the best about others and respect themselves, • think “win-win” and try to compromise
In contrast, individuals behaving aggressively• tend to employ disrespectful, manipulative or abusive tactics• make negative assumptions about motives of others• don’t think of the other person’s point of view at all• win at the expense of others, and• create unnecessary conflict
8
EFFECTIVE QUESTIONING TECHNIQUES
Open Questions (what, why, how): long answers
• Developing an open conversation
• Finding our more detail• Finding out the other
person's opinion or issues
Close Questions: short answers, yes or no.
• For Gathering facts, testing your understanding or the other person's
• Concluding a discussion or making a decision
• Frame setting• Misplaced closed question:
kill the conversation, awkward silences
Funnel Questions• Start with general questions, then
focus on a point in each answer, and ask more and more detail at each level
• Tip: start with closed questions and progress to open ones
Good for:• Finding out more detail about a
specific point• Gaining the interest or increasing
the confidence of the person you are with
Rhetorical Questions• An answer is not expected, they
are statements phrased in question form
• For engaging the listener
9
EFFECTIVE QUESTIONING TECHNIQUES
Probing Questions• Strategy for finding
out more detail• Tip: ask ‘Why?’ And
use ‘exactly’.
Good for:• Gaining clarification
to ensure you have the whole story and that you understand it thoroughly
• Drawing information out of people who are trying to avoid telling you something
Leading Questions• That will lead the
respondent in your way of thinking
• To be used with care• Can be seen as
manipulative and dishonest
How:• Phrasing the question so
that the "easiest" response is yes
• Adding personal appeal to agree
• Choice between fixed options
10
EFFECTIVE QUESTIONING T IPS FOR …Learning: Ask
open and closed
questions, and use probing questioning
Relationship building: Ask
about what they do or enquire about their opinions. In
affirmative way, ask for opinionsManaging and
coaching: Rhetorical and leading questions.
Help reflect and commit to suggested
courses of actionAvoiding misunderstandings: Use probing questions to seek
clarification, particularly when the consequences are
significant
De-fusing a heated situation: Calm a colleague by using funnel questions to get them to go into more detail about their grievance
Persuading people: Open
questions will help others to embrace the reasons behind your point of view
11
INTERPERSONAL COMMUNICATION
According to Petersen (2007), good communication is just as
important in business, family, and social life. Listening well
matters for coworkers, when intimacy is not the goal, but being
able to work together effectively is. It helps keep friendships vital
and even makes a difference in casual relationships where you
merely want ease (p. 4).
12
Stewart (2009) defines interpersonal communication as the type or kind
of communication that happens when the people involved talk and
listen in ways that maximize the presence of the personal (p. 33).
In the information age, we have to send, receive, and process huge
numbers of messages every day. But effective communication is about
more than just exchanging information. Effective communication
requires you to also understand the emotion behind the information.
Elements of Interpersonal Communication
The Communicators• one-way process
• two-way processesThe Message
facial expressions, tone of voice, gestures and body languageNoisecomplicated jargon, inappropriate body language, inattention, disinterest, and cultural differences
14
Feedback
Feedback consists of messages the receiver returns, which
allows the sender to know how accurately the message has
been received, as well as the receiver's reaction.
Context
All communication is influenced by the context in which it
takes place.
Channel
The channel refers to the physical means by which the
message is transferred from one person to another
Four Principles of Interpersonal Communication
Remember a basic principle of communication in general: people are not mind readers. Another way to put this is: people judge you by your behavior, not your intent.
Interpersonal communication is inescapable
Interpersonal communication is irreversible
A Russian proverb says, "Once a word goes out of your mouth, you can never swallow it again."
Interpersonal communication is complicated
No form of communication is simple. Because of the number of variables involved, even simple requests are extremely complex.
Interpersonal communication is contextualCommunication does not happen in isolation
Psychological context, which is who you are and what you bring to the interaction. Your needs, desires, values, personality, etc., all form the psychological context. ("You" here refers to both participants in the interaction.)
Relational context, which concerns your reactions to the other person--the "mix."Situational context deals with the psycho-social "where" you are communicating. An interaction that takes place in a classroom will be very different from one that takes place in a bar.
Environmental context deals with the physical "where" you are communicating. Furniture, location, noise level, temperature, season, time of day, all are examples of factors in the environmental context.Cultural context includes all the learned behaviors and rules that affect the interaction. If you come from a culture (foreign or within your own country) where it is considered rude to make long, direct eye contact, you will out of politeness avoid eye contact
Importance of Interpersonal Communication Skills
Listening is a vital interpersonal communication skillGood interpersonal communication skills enable us to work more effectively in groups and teamsInterpersonal communication skills are essential to developing other key life skills
WHAT IS INTERPERSONAL SKILLS?
WHAT IS INTERPERSONAL SKILLS?
All about working with other peopleAn ability to get along with others while performing the jobCharacteristic traits like Manners, attitude, courtesy,
habits, behavior and appearance which helps us to
communicate and maintain relationship with others
ORGANIZATIONAL CONTEXT
The organizational context
of how interpersonal skills are
used can be shown by the vast
number of interpersonal
interactions
INTERPERSONAL SKILLS WHILE WORKING
Take the relationship viewpoint:
• Effective relationships within the organization
• Effective relationships with suppliers
• Effective relationships with competitors
INTERPERSONAL SKILLS WHILE WORKING
Internally• In Teams
• Across Teams
• Within and between
departments and
business units
INTERPERSONAL SKILLS WHILE WORKING
Externally
•With
Suppliers
•With
Customers
INTERPERSONAL SKILLS WHILE WORKING
To gain real competitive advantage through such
relationships in the long term is dependent upon
your level of interpersonal skills
WHY INTERPERSONAL SKILLS NEEDED?
• To Improve:Relationship Productivity
Working Environment
All Round Success
Leadership Skills
Liking by Others
INTERPERSONAL SKILLS MODEL
Interpersonal Skills
Personality
Development
Leadership Skills
WHEN & WHERE INTERPERSONAL SKILLS ARE
REQUIRED AT WORK PLACE ?
While working in
groups to form effective
teams
Socializing at work
place
Presenting your self at
work
Listening &
Questioning
Giving or receiving
feedback
Building &
maintaining
relationships
TIPS TO IMPROVE INTERPERSONAL SKILLS
Smile
Be Appreciative
Pay Attention
Practice Active Listening
Bring People Together
Resolve Conflicts
Communicate Clearly
Humor Them
Empathy/See It On Their Side