Bully-Proofing Your SchoolIntroduction & Session 1: Bullies and

Bullying

Reflect on your new learning and how you will implement it.

Bully-Proofing Your School

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•Identify key terms and statistics

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•Interact with text and colleagues, Visualization, Fact or Fiction

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•Apply new learning to current environment, be alert and aware

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Learners will understand and be able to effectively implement a bully-proofing program. :

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es Learners will observe students on campus and in the classrooms to determine conflicts as normal peer interaction or bullying.

Shifting GearsAs you enter, complete the Following…Think of words which describe bullying. Jot down words on sticky notes or create a Thinking Map. Read the poems.

NEXT STEPS: Session 2: Victims; Session 3: Staff Interaction; Session 4: Scenarios; Session 5: Program Strategies, Consequences, and Reinforcements; Session 6: Planning Your Own School-Wide program

Benchmarks: State Statutes, FLDOE, Statistics, Overview of the Program, Bullying Behaviors, Normal Peer Conflict, Characteristics of Bullies, Myth or Fact, Key Terms

Sum-It-UpEssential Question:Who are the bullies ? Why do they bully? What are bullying behaviors; mild, moderate, and severe?

Common Language:•Bullying, Passive Victim, Provocative Victim, Bully-Victim, Bystanders, Caring Majority, Caring Community

Florida Statute 1006.147; The Jeffery Johnson Stand Up for All Students ActRequires school districts to adopt an official

policy prohibiting bullying and harassment of students and staff on school grounds, at school sponsored events, and through school computer networks.

Florida’s Anti-Bullying Law – s.1006.147.F.S.www.fldoe.org/safeschools/bullying.asp StopBullying.gov Lake County School’s District Initiative =

Bully Proofing Your School

Scope of the ProblemAverage elementary school classroom, two to three

students spend their day afraid Children report that no one helps them58% of kids admit to never telling an adult2.7 Million students are bullied each year2.1 Million students are the bulliesEvery 7 minutes on campus bullying happens , 6.5 hours =

55.7 bullying incidents on one school campus daily; 278.5 x a week; 1,114.2 x a month; 10,026 x a school year

160,000 Children in Fear miss school Each Day1:10 students drop out or change schools because of

repeated bullying

Scope of the ProblemEvery Day approximately 100,000 children carry

guns to school, 1:20 students has seen a student with a gun

Bullying is one of the strongest motivation for school shootings

Each Day as many as 6,250 teachers are threatened, about 260 are actually attacked (every day)

56% of all students have witnessed a bullying crime take place while at school

71% of students report bullying as an on-going problem

Scope of the ProblemCyber bullying; 42% of kids have been bullied online;

35% have been threatened; 58% something mean has been said about them or to them online

Some of the top years for bullying include 4th – 8th graders; 90% were reported as victims of some kind of bullying

Violence and abuse at home can lead to violence at school; victims at home can be bullies at school

Homicide perpetrators were found to be twice as likely to have been bullied previously by their peers

About 282,000 students a month are reportedly attacked in high schools

Scope of the ProblemBullycide is a term used to describe suicide as the

result of bullying.Suicide continues to be one of the leading causes of

death among children under the age of 14Suicide is the 3rd leading cause of death among young

people; 4,400 deaths per year, according to the CDC1 suicide = 100 suicide attempts; 440,000 attemptsBully victims are 2-9x more likely to consider suicideBritain study, at least ½ of suicides among young

people are related to bullying10 to 14 year old girls may be at even higher risk for

suicide

The Bully-Proofing Your School ProgramDesigned to make the school

environment safe for children both physically and psychologically

Bully-Proofing Your School PrinciplesIt is the responsibility of adults to ensure that

school is a safe environment in which children can learn.

Bullies, when confronted with a caring community (a unified group of adults and peers within a school), are defused.

Bullying is not synonymous with conflict.The Bully-Proofing program will be most

successful if implemented comprehensively.Punitive programs are only successful with

bullying behaviors to a point.There are many means to an end.

Mission StatementOur goal is to make the school environment

safe for children both physically and psychologically.1) Stop the behavior – There will be “no-

bullying rules” enforced by staff members.2) What the students will do – The students will

help others by speaking out and getting adult help.

3) How students should treat one another – The students will use extra effort to include everyone.

3 Overall Goals in Implementing a Bully-Proofing ProgramThese involve systematic changes as well as

individual skill development:1) Shifting the power balance within the entire

school system, “Paradigm Shift”2) Participating in the development of the program

by community of parents, the administration, and the staff

3) Training in the skills and knowledge base necessary to implement the program

Understanding the theme of shifting the balance of power to the caring majority of students is critical to the success of the program.

Paradigm Shift – Where is the Power?Key Elements:

The staff members and students must be supported in assuming increased responsibility and allowing the principle to abandon the role of “all-powerful.”

The “caring majority” of students can be and will be the backbone of the caring school environment in this program.

There will be an opportunity to customize this program to the specific needs of the student body.

Paradigm Shift – Where is the Power?

Parents Staff Members

Students

Administration

Five Steps to Building a Caring and Safe ClimateStep 1: Asses the current climate of your school

How do students treat each other?How does the staff treat students?How does the staff treat each other?How does the administration treat the staff?

Step 2: Decide what kind of climate you want for your schoolGeneral PolicyCaring Majority of Students Set the Climate by:Balancing Climate and Control by:Bus Drivers Reinforce a Caring Climate by:Community Nurtures Students by:

Five Steps to Building a Caring and Safe ClimateStep 3: Identify current strengths and weaknesses in the climate

Identify goals in each areaDiscuss areas of strength

Step 4: Create a plan to improve areas of weaknessP.E., Music, Media, and Other ActivitiesAcademicsDisciplineCounseling and GuidanceTo and From SchoolParents as PartnersSchool RitualsRecognitionTone Set by the Physical Plant (school campus, displays)Community Partners

Five Steps to Building a Caring and Safe Climate

Step 5: Decide when to begin the bully-proofing program which will shift the silent majority to a caring majorityEstablish bully-proofing rules throughout the schoolBegin the classroom curriculumDevelop the protective skills and caring skillsEstablish a plan to develop the caring majority in each

classroom and school-wideGive recognition for positive caring activitiesStudents solve the majority of their own problemsSpeaking up, displaying courage, and helping another are

values in the schoolChildren are aware that a caring majority is in place. They

feel safe and know where support will come from if they are harassed or bullied.

Defining BullyingTrue bullying is repeated exposure over time

to negative actions.Bullying means there is an imbalance of

power so that the child being victimized has trouble defending himself or herself.

Bullying is aggression.Forms: physical, verbal, or psychologicalBullying is when one person uses power in a

willful manner with the aim of hurting another individual repeatedly.

Who are the Victims?Passive Victim is likely to be a child who:

Is isolated or alone during much of the school day.Is Anxious, insecure, and lacking in social skills.Is physically weak and therefore unable to defend

himself or herself.Cries easily, yields when bullied, and is unable to

stick up for himself or herselfMay have suffered past abuse or traumatization.May have a learning disorder that compromises

his or her ability to process and respond to social interactional cues.

Who are the Victims?Provocative Victim is likely to be a child

who:Is often restless, irrates and teases others and

doesn’t know when to stop. Fights back in bullying situations but ends up

losing.Is easily emotionally aroused.Tends to maintain the conflict and lose with

frustration and distress.May be diagnosed with ADHD.Tends to make you feel like they deserve it.

Bully-VictimShare characteristics of both bullies and victims; they

are a victim of bullying (usually sever) and they do bully others

Easily emotionally aroused and emotionally reactiveDo not necessarily show aggressionMay be hyperactiveResearch shows that this group of children are:

More disturbed, depressed and anxious, and have poorer academic achievement than other children, more disliked, peers have the least empathy for them, have a higher risk of serious aggression over time

FBI has profiled school shooters in this category (FBI 2001)

These students need individualized interventionsAdults need to be more vigilant with these students.

BystandersThe majority of students at school; approximately 85%Stand silently on the sidelines, the “Silent Majority”Powerful resource to change dynamics at schoolProgram is designed to empower the “Silent Majority”

into the “Caring Majority” and eventually create a “Caring Community”

Bystanders do not get involved in bullying eventsHarmful in the long run: bystanders become

desensitized to bullying and its violence and cruelty and are likely to have a diminished capacity for empathy for the suffering victims and people in general.

Normal Peer Conflict – What Bullying Is NotEqual power or

friendsHappens

occasionallyAccidentalNot SeriousEqual emotional

reaction

Not seeking power or attention

Not trying to get something

Remorse – will take responsibility

Effort to solve the problem

Not Normal Peer Conflict - What Bullying is…Imbalance of power;

not friendsRepeated negative

actionsPurposefulSerious with threat of

physical or emotional harm

Strong emotional reaction from victim and little or no

reaction from bullySeeking power,

control, or material things

Attempt to gain material things or power

No remorse – blames victim

No effort to solve problem

Visualization ExerciseSit comfortably with eyes open or closedRemember a time you were bullied, bullied

someone, or saw someone bulliedWhere were you?What role were you playing?

Bully? Victim? Observer?How were you feeling?What did you do?What do you wish you had done, or wish someone

else had done?Volunteers to share your experiencePost-Traumatic Stress Disorder, PTSD

Definition/Nature of BullyingThe Definition of Bullying

Targeting a child for repetitive negative actions.Imbalance of power so the victim can’t defend

himself/herself.Unequal levels of affect (feeling or emotion)

The Serious Nature of BullyingChildren being bullied need and deserve adult

intervention and help.The problem is too serious for them to solve alone.Without intervention, the problem will not go away.Bullies will keep bullying unless adults do something

about it.

Consequences for VictimsDrop in self-esteem to a self-defeating, fearful

attitudeAnxiety, fear, sadness, and possible

depressionDisrupted academic performance, lack of

interest in school, and excessive absencesPhysical symptoms (e.g., stomachaches,

headaches, fatigue)Panic and irrational retaliationPotential to harm oneself; cutting, suicide

Myth or Fact?Bullies are boys.

Myth; Both boys and girls bully, but their tactics are usually different. Boys usually bully with physical aggression, girls with social alienation or humiliation.

Bullies are insecure and have low self-esteem.Myth; Bullies are not anxious, insecure

children, but have positive (often unrealistic) self images that reflect a strong need to dominate with power and threat.

Myth or Fact?Bullies don’t have friends.

Myth; Bullies are not loner, but almost always have a small network of peers who encourage, admire, and model their bullying behavior.

Bullies are usually failing in school.Myth; Bullies tend to be at least average or

only slightly below average academically.

Myth or Fact?Bullies are physically larger than their

victims.Myth; Bullies come in all sizes, and bullies can

even intimidate victims who are physically larger if there’s an imbalance of power.

Bullies don’t really mean to hurt their victims.Myth; Bullies lack compassion for their victims

and feel justified in their actions.

Myth or Fact?Bullies usually feel badly about their actions, but

they just can’t help themselves.Myth; Bullies value the rewards they achieve from

aggression, such as attention, control over someone, or material possessions.

Looking different is the main reason children get bullied.Myth; Looking different is one reason children are

victimized, but not the main reason. Isolation and personality type are more often determining factors.

Myth or Fact?If the victim fights back, the bully will back down.

Myth; Returned aggression is not usually effective, and in fact excites the bully into further attacks. Assertion, rather than aggression, is effective, however.

Telling on a bully will only make the situation worse for the victim.Myth; If all the adults within a school are committed

to preventing bullying behavior, requesting adult intervention will help in equalizing the power imbalance between the bully and victim.

Myth or Fact?Unless you change the bully’s home life, nothing will

help.Myth; Bullies can separate home from school, and be

taught responsible school behavior even when aggression is modeled and/or reinforced at home.

Bullies need therapy to stop bullying.Myth; Bullying behavior does not usually change with

traditional therapy, but requires specific interventions techniques that increase skill deficits and correct thinking errors. There are some simple, proven intervention tactics, which will be taught in conjunction with this program, that prevent bullying behavior.

Myth or Fact?Other children should stay away from the bully-victim

situations or they’ll get bullied as well.Myth; When bullies are confronted with a united front of

their peers who support the victim and believe that bullying behavior is not socially acceptable, their power is defused.

All teachers can learn to handle a bully.Myth; Some teachers are threatened by conflict-ridden

situations and aggressive children. In this program, teachers identify their predominate conflict resolution styles, and identify other staff members with complementary styles who they can turn to for support with difficult situations.

Myth or Fact?Bringing the parents of the victim and of the bully

together for discussion is a good idea.Myth; It is not a good strategy to bring the parent(s)

of a bully and the parent(s) of a victim together, and should be avoided at all cost. It is essential to meet with each set of parents individually to provide them the specific assistance they need to help their child.

Once a victim, always a victim.Myth; The cycle of victimization can be broken by

working at the school and classroom levels, and by working with an individual child who is victimized.

Myth or Fact?Victims have usually brought the trouble

upon themselves.The responsibility for the aggression is the

bullies’. However, victims of bullying are not randomly targeted but are victimized because of characteristics and behaviors that make them easier targets for a bully. These include being physically weak, crying easily, being anxious and insecure, and lacking age appropriate social skills.

Myth or Fact?Learning disabled students are at higher risk

of being victimized.Fact; Students with special education needs

may be at greater risk of being bullied by others due to factors such as their disability or the fact that they may be less well integrated socially. If they have behavior problems and act out aggressively, they can become provocative victims. If they have trouble processing social cues, they may act shy and inhibited and become passive victims. Having a disability is not the main reason children get bullied, however.

Types of Bullying and Differences Between Male and Female BulliesBullying can range from mild name calling or

shoving to very severe acts of violence and coercion.Boys frequently use swift and effective physical

aggression such as tripping or elbowing another child in the stomach.

Girls tend to use the tactics of social alienation and intimidation, such as gossiping maliciously, writing spiteful notes, or alienating a peer from play.

Girls can use very destructive, insidious techniques that are hard to detect.

Extortion is a common form of bullying used by both boys and girls.

Bullying Behaviors ChartPhysical Aggression:Mild

Pushing, Shoving, Spitting, Kicking, HittingModerate

Defacing property, Stealing, Physical acts that are demeaning and humiliating, but not bodily harmful, Locking in a closed or confined space

SeverePhysical violence against family or friends,

Threatening with a weapon, Inflicting bodily harm

Bullying Behaviors ChartSocial Alienation:Mild

Gossiping, Embarrassing, Setting up to look foolish, Spreading rumors about

ModerateEthnic slurs, Setting up to take the blame,

Publicly humiliating, Excluding from group, Social rejection

SevereMaliciously excluding, Manipulating social

order to achieve rejection, Malicious rumor-mongering, Threatening with total isolation by peer group

Bullying Behaviors ChartVerbal Aggression:Mild

Mocking, Name calling, Dirty looks, Taunting, Teasing about clothes or possessions

ModerateTeasing about appearance, Intimidating

telephone callsSevere

Verbal threats of aggression against property or possessions, Verbal threats of violence or inflicting bodily harm

Bullying Behaviors ChartIntimidation:Mild

Threatening to reveal personal information, Graffiti, Publicly challenging to do something, Defacing property or clothing, Playing a dirty trick

ModerateTaking possessions, Extortion, Sexual/racial

tauntingSevere

Threats of using coercion against family or friends, Coercion, Threatening with a weapon

Next Session: VictimsIn the next session, staff members will learn

about the dynamics of the bully-victim relationship, and why some children are victimized and why others are not.