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Is Sex Worth The Pain? Willingness To Engage In Sexual Ac8vity Among Partnered Women With Fibromyalgia Kirsten M. Gullickson 1 , Lyndsay Crump 1 , Diane L. LaChapelle 1 , Pablo Santos-Iglesias 2 , & E. Sandra Byers 1 1 Department of Psychology, University of New Brunswick 2 Department of Oncology, University of Calgary INTRODUCTION BACKGROUND Up to 97% of paOents with fibromyalgia (FM) report it adversely affects their sexual lives 1 . Commonly reported impacts of FM on sexual well-being include decreased sexual frequency, lower sexual desire, difficulty with arousal and orgasm, and reduced sexual saOsfacOon 2-3 . However, previous research has not assessed: Women’s willingness to engage in sexual acOvity despite FM The extent to which women with FM view the changes to their sexual lives as distressing to themselves or their partners Improving our understanding of the impact of FM on women’s sexual lives is essenOal because sexual well-being is an important contributor to relaOonship saOsfacOon and stability, psychological health, and quality of life 4 . PURPOSE This project was part of a larger study exploring women’s lived experiences of the impact of FM on their sexual well-being Our aim was to understand women’s: Feelings about FM-related changes to their sexual lives PercepOons of how these changes affect their relaOonship Willingness to adjust their sexual scripts to accommodate FM METHOD PARTICIPANTS 16 women with FM who were in a commiaed romanOc relaOonship Age (years): M = 45.19; SD = 12.03; Range = 28-67 Rela1onship length (years): M = 14.4; SD = 12.31; Range = 1-43 Time since diagnosis (years): M = 10.08; SD = 6.56, Range = 3-22 PROCEDURE Audio-recorded semi-structured interviews in person or via telephone lasOng approximately 60 to 90 minutes ANALYSES SemanOc and latent content was coded based on the principles of ThemaOc Analysis 5 RESULTS/DISCUSSION Consistent with exisOng literature, the vast majority of women reported experiencing changes in their sexual lives as a result of FM (e.g., pain, faOgue, depression, medicaOon side-effects, negaOve body image) 1-3 . Latent content underlying parOcipants’ narraOves suggested sex was a valued ac8vity for some women, but not others. Related to this, some women expressed willingness to engage in sex despite FM, while others described liOle to no willingness to engage in sex. Willing individuals described aaempts to adjust their sexual scripts to accommodate FM by changing the Oming, duraOon, locaOon, or nature of their sexual encounters. ParOcipants reported varying levels of personal distress and rela8onship conflict as a result of the sexual impacts of FM. For women whose sexual behaviour was consistent with their sexual values, lower levels of personal distress and interpersonal conflict were reported: Group 1: valued sex and were willing to engage in sex despite FM Group 3: did not engage in sex because it was not a strongly held value For women whose sexual behaviour was not consistent with their values, higher levels of personal distress and interpersonal conflict were reported: Group 2: valued sex, but were unwilling to engage in sexual acOvity due to their illness Group 4: engaged in sex despite not valuing sex as a means of reducing conflict or out of fear of losing their relaOonship REFERENCES 1. Fitzcharles, M. A., et al. (2013). 2012 Canadian guidelines for the diagnosis and management of fibromyalgia syndrome: execuOve summary. Pain Research and Management, 18(3), 119-126. 2. Kayhan, F., et al.(2016). Sexual dysfuncOon, mood, anxiety, and personality disorders in female paOents with fibromyalgia. Neuropsychiatric Disease and Treatment, 12, 349-355. 3. Rico-Villademoros, F., et al. (2012). Sexual funcOoning in women and men with fibromyalgia. Journal of Sexual Medicine, 9, 542-549. 4. Byers, E. S., & Rehman, U. (2013). Sexual well-being. In D. Tolman & L. Diamonds (Eds.), APA Handbook of sexuality and psychology. Washington, DC: APA Books. 5. Braun, V., & Clarke, V. (2006). Using themaOc analysis in psychology. Qualita1ve Research in Psychology, 3, 77-101. ACKNOWLEDGEMENTS Funding support: BanOng Postdoctoral Fellowship (P. Santos-Iglesias), UNB Research Funds (D. LaChapelle & E. S. Byers) Resource support: UNB Psychological Wellness Centre *For a copy of this poster please visit hOp://www.rehabilita8onpsychologyresearchlab.com ENGAGEMENT IN SEX DESPITE FM VALUE SEX LITTLE TO NO ENGAGEMENT IN SEX DO NOT VALUE SEX 4. High distress/conflict 3. Low distress/conflict 1. Low distress/conflict 2. High distress/conflict “SomeOmes if I’m having a really bad day I might just have to tell him ‘Hey, my knee hurts, we’re not gonna have sex in that posiOon, let’s do it this way’ and it’s really a non-issue… there’s never any conflict about it.” – ParOcipant 4 “Right now I’m not concerned [about our sex life]… we’re in a good place I think… smooth sailing.” – ParOcipant 8 “The pain doesn’t prevent me [from having sex]. Sex is worth the pain.” - ParOcipant 12 “Even if I don’t feel like [sex] I sOll do it… Sex is part of your relaOonship and you have to try the best that you can to have a good sexual life with your partner…” – ParOcipant 18 A proporOon of women with FM are willing to engage in sexual acOvity despite their condiOon, indicaOng that for some women, sex is worth the pain. Women who experience FM-related changes to their sexual lives do not necessarily experience personal distress or interpersonal conflict if their sexual behaviour is consistent with their sexual values. Clinicians can help individuals and couples adjust to FM by encouraging paOents to clarify their sexual values and, if sex is a strongly held value, assist them in finding ways to engage in sexual acOvity despite FM (e.g., communicaOon training, recommending changes to the sexual script). Engagement in valued acOviOes despite pain is an essenOal component of chronic pain acceptance, therefore a woman’s willingness to engage in sexual acOvity despite FM may be an indicator of more general chronic pain acceptance. “I would get angry and frustrated [when FM got in the way of sex]. It’s like FM has affected so many aspects of my life, can’t I just have one thing that it doesn’t affect….” – ParOcipant 13 “I feel like I’ve let [my husband] down” – ParOcipant 7 “[Our sex life] lacks when I have a period of really not feeling well. I just keep telling myself ‘I’m going to feel beaer in a few days’…, but right now it hasn’t goaen any beaer and we sOll aren’t having sex.” – ParOcipant 11 Lots of Ome you don’t feel like being touched. Especially when you have a flare-up… Sex is the last thing on your mind for sure. With us [lack of sex] is not too bad… I could see other couples, it impacOng them for sure… fighOng about it or whatever but we’ve been very fortunate... The two of us are okay with that.” – ParOcipant 1 “I know that if I have [sex] more frequently I’m going to be in agony, so I just don’t... I won’t even entertain the thought [of having sex] even if I am aroused.” – ParOcipant 5 “Although [sex] is enjoyable for both of us, it’s not as important [to us] as it may be for some people.” – ParOcipant 14 “[My husband] would make me literally cry at night saying ‘you know how important sex is to me’ and ‘you know that was part of the deal when we got married’ and ‘now you’re just pretending that you can’t [have sex] anymore because your losing interest’… so I would suffer through it.” – ParOcipant 9 IMPLICATIONS

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Page 1: Is Sex Worth The Pain? Willingness To Engage In Sexual Ac8vity Among Partnered Women ... · 2019-11-30 · Is Sex Worth The Pain? Willingness To Engage In Sexual Ac8vity Among Partnered

IsSexWorthThePain?WillingnessToEngageInSexualAc8vityAmongPartneredWomenWithFibromyalgiaKirstenM.Gullickson1,LyndsayCrump1,DianeL.LaChapelle1,PabloSantos-Iglesias2,&E.SandraByers1

1DepartmentofPsychology,UniversityofNewBrunswick2DepartmentofOncology,UniversityofCalgary

INTRODUCTION BACKGROUND•  Upto97%ofpaOentswithfibromyalgia(FM)reportitadversely

affectstheirsexuallives1.•  CommonlyreportedimpactsofFMonsexualwell-beinginclude

decreasedsexualfrequency,lowersexualdesire,difficultywitharousalandorgasm,andreducedsexualsaOsfacOon2-3.

•  However,previousresearchhasnotassessed:•  Women’swillingnesstoengageinsexualacOvitydespiteFM•  TheextenttowhichwomenwithFMviewthechangesto

theirsexuallivesasdistressingtothemselvesortheirpartners

•  ImprovingourunderstandingoftheimpactofFMonwomen’ssexuallivesisessenOalbecausesexualwell-beingisanimportantcontributortorelaOonshipsaOsfacOonandstability,psychologicalhealth,andqualityoflife4.

PURPOSE•  Thisprojectwaspartofalargerstudyexploringwomen’slived

experiencesoftheimpactofFMontheirsexualwell-being•  Ouraimwastounderstandwomen’s:

•  FeelingsaboutFM-relatedchangestotheirsexuallives•  PercepOonsofhowthesechangesaffecttheirrelaOonship•  WillingnesstoadjusttheirsexualscriptstoaccommodateFM

METHOD PARTICIPANTS•  16womenwithFMwhowereinacommiaedromanOcrelaOonship•  Age(years):M=45.19;SD=12.03;Range=28-67•  Rela1onshiplength(years):M=14.4;SD=12.31;Range=1-43•  Timesincediagnosis(years):M=10.08;SD=6.56,Range=3-22

PROCEDURE•  Audio-recordedsemi-structuredinterviewsinpersonorvia

telephonelasOngapproximately60to90minutesANALYSES•  SemanOcandlatentcontentwascodedbasedontheprinciplesof

ThemaOcAnalysis5

RESULTS/DISCUSSION •  ConsistentwithexisOngliterature,thevastmajorityofwomenreportedexperiencingchangesintheirsexuallivesasaresultofFM(e.g.,pain,faOgue,depression,medicaOonside-effects,negaOvebodyimage)1-3.•  LatentcontentunderlyingparOcipants’narraOvessuggestedsexwasavaluedac8vityforsomewomen,butnotothers.•  Relatedtothis,somewomenexpressedwillingnesstoengageinsexdespiteFM,whileothersdescribedliOletonowillingnesstoengageinsex.

•  WillingindividualsdescribedaaemptstoadjusttheirsexualscriptstoaccommodateFMbychangingtheOming,duraOon,locaOon,ornatureoftheirsexualencounters.•  ParOcipantsreportedvaryinglevelsofpersonaldistressandrela8onshipconflictasaresultofthesexualimpactsofFM.

•  Forwomenwhosesexualbehaviourwasconsistentwiththeirsexualvalues,lowerlevelsofpersonaldistressandinterpersonalconflictwerereported:•  Group1:valuedsexandwerewillingtoengageinsexdespiteFM•  Group3:didnotengageinsexbecauseitwasnotastronglyheldvalue

•  Forwomenwhosesexualbehaviourwasnotconsistentwiththeirvalues,higherlevelsofpersonaldistressandinterpersonalconflictwerereported:•  Group2:valuedsex,butwereunwillingtoengageinsexualacOvityduetotheirillness•  Group4:engagedinsexdespitenotvaluingsexasameansofreducingconflictoroutoffearoflosingtheirrelaOonship

REFERENCES1.  Fitzcharles,M.A.,etal.(2013).2012Canadianguidelinesforthediagnosisandmanagementoffibromyalgiasyndrome:

execuOvesummary.PainResearchandManagement,18(3),119-126.2.  Kayhan,F.,etal.(2016).SexualdysfuncOon,mood,anxiety,andpersonalitydisordersinfemalepaOentswithfibromyalgia.

NeuropsychiatricDiseaseandTreatment,12,349-355.3.  Rico-Villademoros,F.,etal.(2012).SexualfuncOoninginwomenandmenwithfibromyalgia.JournalofSexualMedicine,9,

542-549.4.  Byers,E.S.,&Rehman,U.(2013).Sexualwell-being.InD.Tolman&L.Diamonds(Eds.),APAHandbookofsexualityand

psychology.Washington,DC:APABooks.5.  Braun,V.,&Clarke,V.(2006).UsingthemaOcanalysisinpsychology.Qualita1veResearchinPsychology,3,77-101.

ACKNOWLEDGEMENTS•  Fundingsupport:BanOngPostdoctoralFellowship(P.Santos-Iglesias),UNBResearchFunds(D.LaChapelle&E.S.Byers)•  Resourcesupport:UNBPsychologicalWellnessCentre*ForacopyofthisposterpleasevisithOp://www.rehabilita8onpsychologyresearchlab.com

ENGAGEMENTINSEXDESPITEFM

VALUESEX

LITTLETONOENGAGEMENTINSEX

DONOTVALUESEX

4.Highdistress/conflict 3.Lowdistress/conflict

1.Lowdistress/conflict 2.Highdistress/conflict

“SomeOmesifI’mhavingareallybaddayImightjusthavetotellhim‘Hey,mykneehurts,we’renotgonnahavesexinthatposiOon,let’sdoitthisway’andit’sreallyanon-issue…there’sneveranyconflictaboutit.”–ParOcipant4“RightnowI’mnotconcerned[aboutoursexlife]…we’reinagoodplaceIthink…smoothsailing.”–ParOcipant8

“Thepaindoesn’tpreventme[fromhavingsex].Sexisworththepain.”-ParOcipant12“EvenifIdon’tfeellike[sex]IsOlldoit…SexispartofyourrelaOonshipandyouhavetotrythebestthatyoucantohaveagoodsexuallifewithyourpartner…”–ParOcipant18

•  AproporOonofwomenwithFMarewillingtoengageinsexualacOvitydespitetheircondiOon,indicaOngthatforsomewomen,sexisworththepain.•  WomenwhoexperienceFM-relatedchangestotheirsexuallivesdonotnecessarilyexperiencepersonaldistressorinterpersonalconflictiftheirsexualbehaviourisconsistentwiththeirsexualvalues.•  ClinicianscanhelpindividualsandcouplesadjusttoFMbyencouragingpaOentstoclarifytheirsexualvaluesand,ifsexisastronglyheldvalue,assisttheminfindingwaystoengageinsexualacOvitydespiteFM(e.g.,

communicaOontraining,recommendingchangestothesexualscript).•  EngagementinvaluedacOviOesdespitepainisanessenOalcomponentofchronicpainacceptance,thereforeawoman’swillingnesstoengageinsexualacOvitydespiteFMmaybeanindicatorofmoregeneralchronic

painacceptance.

“Iwouldgetangryandfrustrated[whenFMgotinthewayofsex].It’slikeFMhasaffectedsomanyaspectsofmylife,can’tIjusthaveonethingthatitdoesn’taffect….”–ParOcipant13“IfeellikeI’velet[myhusband]down”–ParOcipant7

“[Oursexlife]lackswhenIhaveaperiodofreallynotfeelingwell.Ijustkeeptellingmyself‘I’mgoingtofeelbeaerinafewdays’…,butrightnowithasn’tgoaenanybeaerandwesOllaren’thavingsex.”–ParOcipant11

“LotsofOmeyoudon’tfeellikebeingtouched.Especiallywhenyouhaveaflare-up…Sexisthelastthingonyourmindforsure.Withus[lackofsex]isnottoobad…Icouldseeothercouples,itimpacOngthemforsure…fighOngaboutitorwhateverbutwe’vebeenveryfortunate...Thetwoofusareokaywiththat.”–ParOcipant1

“IknowthatifIhave[sex]morefrequentlyI’mgoingtobeinagony,soIjustdon’t...Iwon’tevenentertainthethought[ofhavingsex]evenifIamaroused.”–ParOcipant5“Although[sex]isenjoyableforbothofus,it’snotasimportant[tous]asitmaybeforsomepeople.”–ParOcipant14

“[Myhusband]wouldmakemeliterallycryatnightsaying‘youknowhowimportantsexistome’and‘youknowthatwaspartofthedealwhenwegotmarried’and‘nowyou’rejustpretendingthatyoucan’t[havesex]anymorebecauseyourlosinginterest’…soIwouldsufferthroughit.”–ParOcipant9

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