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Forlov SCHOOL NAVIGATIONAL GUIDEBOOK

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Forlov (FOR-luv)

Forgiveness Through Love

ENLIGH SUGGESTIONS:

• Webster’s 1828 definition of forgiveness: The act of forgiving; the pardon of an

offender, by which he is considered and treated as not guilty.

• Listen to Forlov the Dolphin . Record your thoughts and impressions. What blessings

or benefits come through forgiveness?

• Read through the dolphin facts . After reading the dolphin facts and listening to

the song, how could you liken the dolphin to forgiveness?

• Study the word forgiveness and love in your core books (religious texts and resources,

personal journals, family histories, and any other tools you use to teach values or truth).

Are there videos, pictures, or other resources you could use to share these stories and

teachings with your class?

HOW TO USE FORLOV

RESULTS FROM APPLYING FORLOV

• Forgive myself and those I have allowed to

intentionally or unintentionally offend, hurt,

or disappoint me.

• Never harbor bitterness, hurt, or feelings of

ill will.

• Let it go.

• Strengthens the immune system

• Strengthens relationships

• Develops inner peace and harmony

• It is the champion of healing and inner

contentment

Forlov (The Dolphin)

Forgiveness through love leads to inner-contentment. This makes Forlov the champion of

healing.

Teaching Tip

“Example is not the main thing in influencing others, it is the only thing.” ~Albert Schweitzer

We often judge others the way we judge ourselves. If we judge ourselves harshly when we try and

fail, will our children feel safe to risk making difficult changes in their character?

This week, practice being more forgiving of yourself in all aspects of your life. Example is the best

teacher! This patience and compassion for self will spill over in your relationships with others,

creating a safer, and trusting environment, where risks can be taken and change can occur.

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READ THE TALE OF HOPE: Read together the Forlov section in The Tale of Hope: Island of

Humility.

LISTEN TO THE SONG: Listen to Forlov the Dolphin. Invite your class to share their

thoughts and impressions.

EXPLORE THE DOLPHIN:

1. Dolphins live in families, called pods. They form very strong bonds with their pods.

2. Dolphins are quick to help others in need. Pods of dolphins have been known to come to

the aid of an injured dolphin and help it to the surface to breathe. There are even stories

of dolphins rescuing humans in danger.

3. Dolphins also have extraordinary abilities to heal themselves. Dolphins can tolerate and

recover from extreme injuries such as shark bites, although the exact methods used to

achieve this are not known.

4. Dolphins are very acrobatic and will often be seen leaping out of the water and

performing tricks.

5. What else can you learn about dolphins?

PONDER:

1. Help your students understand what forgiveness is, and then ask your class: How can you

liken the dolphin to forgiveness? Think about the words in the song.

2. Dolphins live in families called pods; and they form very strong bonds with their pods.

How can forgiveness and love help us to develop strong relationships?

3. Dolphins have extraordinary abilities to heal themselves. How does forgiveness heal

wounded hearts? Can you think of an example?

4. Dolphins are often known for their acrobatic moves, leaping high into the air. In the song,

it says, “See him ride the waves of life, gliding smooth and leaping strife, never in the

harbor of bitter feelings.” What does this phrase mean to you? What does it mean to leap

strife?

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Teaching Tip

A simple way to find out what your students are learning from a story, without over

questioning, is to invite a student to retell the story back in their own words. Don’t be afraid to

occasionally do this yourself and add a few brief sentences of what you learned or how it made

you feel. Remember to keep it short.

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Forlov Stories

I’m Glad I Forgave Her

by Noelle

This is a story about a little girl named Noelle. She loved animals, all kinds of animals.

She was ten years old when she had this experience. She wants to tell it in her own words:

“For my birthday, my parents got me a parakeet. He was a pretty blue color with black

spots on his cheeks, so I decided to name him Pebbles. I really liked having a parakeet. He would

be happy a lot and make me happy. He liked to sit on people’s heads and he liked to listen to

music.

I had to feed him daily. He lived in a smallish cage in my bedroom. At night I had to put

a blanket over him so he would know when to go to sleep. He was the first parakeet I’d ever had.

He was a great pet and I had lots of fun with him.

One day we had to take him to the vet to get his beak trimmed because it was too long.

While the vet’s assistant was holding Pebbles, she accidently squeezed too tight. He died right

before my eyes. It was a shock to her too. Her eyes were wide and she backed out of the room.

She said she was sorry, but that didn’t help. I felt like it was the worst day of my life.

I was angry at first; but in a few days I realized she probably felt really bad. I had been

upset for several days. I decided to make her a card. I went to the vet and gave it to her. I told her

that I forgave her. I didn’t feel upset or angry anymore. I still sometimes miss him, but I’m glad I

forgave her.”

Noelle did not have peace until she forgave. Forgiveness brought her healing and

contentment. As she began to forgive the vet’s assistant, she could let go of her anger and do

something nice for the person who had hurt her. Noelle found peace.

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Coals of Fire

Guy Morgan had inherited from his father a hot temper. One day he came into the house

with an ominous look in his eyes, glanced up quickly at his mother for an instant, and exclaimed:

“I’ve done something for you, mother, that I wouldn’t do for anyone else. I’ve taken a low

without returning it.”

“Oh! Tell mem about it, Guy!”

“It was all Dick Osgood’s fault. I told him he’d got to quit nagging the younger boys, and

that made him mad, and he struck me in the face. I guess that mark of his claws is there now.”

“Oh! Guy, what did you do?”

“I didn’t strike him, mother. I remembered what I’d promised you for this year. He

shouted out ‘coward’ after me. Now you’ve got to let me off my promise mother. I am going

back to thrash him.”

“Better heap coals of fire on his head,” she said quietly.

“Yes! He deserves a good scorching!” said Guy, pretending to misunderstand her.

“No! you don’t know what kind of coals I mean. ‘If thine enemy hunger, feed him; if he

thirst, give him drink; for in so doing ye shall heap coals of fire on his head.’ Try it, Guy. I can’t

let you off your promise.”

“Well, I promised you, and I’ll stick to my word,” said Guy slowly. “But you don’t know

how tough it is.”

On the last day of school, a picnic was given on the banks of the Quassit River. All the

school went, and with Dick Osgood was his little sister Hetty. After dinner on the grass, the boys

and girls scattered in different directions, picking flowers, playing baseball, and fishing off the

banks.

Suddenly a wild cry rose above the sultry stillness of the summer afternoon – Dick

Osgood’s cry: “Hetty’s in the river, and I can’t swim. Oh, save her, save her!”

Before the words left his lips, all saw Guy Morgan running. He unbuttoned his coat and

vest as he ran and threw himself over into the water. He went under, rose again, and struck out

toward the golden head that rose for the second time.

Mr. Sharp, the head teacher, got a rope, and running down the bank, threw it out on the

water just above the falls. The water was dep where Hetty had fallen, and the river ran fast,

sweeping her on. When she rose for the third time, she was near the falls. A moment more and

she would go over. But the third time Guy Morgan caught her by her long glistening hair. Mr.

Sharp shouted to him. He saw the rope and swam toward it, his right arm beating the water, his

left motionless, holding his white burden.

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A moment more and he reached the rope, clung to it, and the boys and teacher drew the

two in over the slippery edge out of the seething waters. Both were unconscious, but Guy was

the first to revive.

“Is Hetty safe?” was his first question.

“We are doing our best.” Mr. Sharp answered solemnly.

It was almost half an hour more before Hetty opened her eyes. Dick, who had been

utterly frantic, was beside himself with joy.

Mr. Sharp drove Guy Morgan home, but he got out at the gate for fear his mother would

be alarmed by seeing anyone helping him.

“Where have you been?” she cried, seeing his wet, disordered plight.

“In Quassit River, mother, fishing out Hetty Osgood. I went in after the coals of fire.”

Mrs. Morgan’s laugh was a glad one. “I’ve heard of people smart enough to set the river

on fire,” she said, “but you’re the first one I ever knew who went in after the coals.”

Ethics for Children: A Guide for Teachers and Parents, by Ella Lyman Cabot, (1910).

Additional Books/Stories

• An Awesome Book of Love by Dallas Clayton (Ages 4-up). A book that defines love in

many poetic ways.

• Enemy Pie by Derek Munson (Ages 3-7). A boy discovers that the best way to get rid of

your enemy is to make him your friend.

• The Hiding Place by Corrie ten Boom (Ages 10-up). Concentration camp survivor,

Corrie ten Boom, tells her remarkable story during WWII and how she was able to

forgive her enemies.

• Unbroken by Laura Hillenbrand (Young Adult). The true story of Louis Zamperini, who

was a Japanese prisoner of war during WWII and how he was able to forgive his abusers.

• As I Have Loved You by Kitty De Ruyter (Young Adult). Kitty and her family are taken

to concentration camps during World War II. Kitty learns valuable lessons from her

mother during these difficult times, including the importance of forgiving others.

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Forlov Movies

Les Miserables Incorporated Television Company 1978. Jean Valjean learns about forgiveness

when a bishop inspires him to make a new life despite his many years in prison. Jean Valjean

leaves his criminal life behind and sets out to make a new name for himself.

Cinderella Walt Disney 2015. Although Ella is treated horribly after her father’s death, she is

able to forgive her abusers and be good despite all that is done to her.

The Corrie ten Boom Story World Wide Pictures 1975. Based on the book The Hiding Place.

Concentration camp survivor, Corrie ten Boom, tells her remarkable story during WWII and how

she was able to forgive her enemies.

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Forlov Lesson Ideas Discussion Questions

1. What is one fact you remember about the dolphin and how does it remind you of

forgiveness?

2. Do you have any examples of forgiveness you have read or seen that you would like to

share?

3. Find stories of individuals who were wronged and chose to forgive. How did they show

love toward that individual who wronged them? How did their love heal wounds?

4. Search for stories in your core books of individuals who chose not to forgive. How did

their choices affect them and generations following? Are there videos, pictures, or other

media you can use to share these stories with your class?

5. When have you unintentionally hurt someone? Did you know you caused offense? How

did you seek forgiveness and how did you show forgiveness toward that individual?

When have you been offended? How did you finally forgive and let go?

Song Extensions

• COLOR: Listen to Forlov the Dolphin and invite your class to color the dolphin. How

does this song make you feel?

• DISCUSSION: Listen to the song. What phrases stand out to you? What blessings or

benefits come when forgiveness is shown?

• ACTIVITY: Have your students color and cut out pictures of dolphins. Attach the

dolphins to tongue depressors and let your students “swim” their dolphins around the

room as they listen to the song. Encourage your students to listen to the words leaping,

ride the waves of life, and gliding. Create specific actions for these words.

- What does it mean to “ride the waves of life?” What do the “waves” represent?

• WORD PUZZLES: Do the word search or crossword puzzle while you listen to songs

you have already learned.

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Additional Activities

• TALE OF HOPE DISCUSSION AND ART: In the Tale of Hope: Island of Humility,

Damian lost the compass. Invite someone to retell the story of when Raja met Forlov.

- Invite your class to draw a picture that could represent Raja’s feelings while he

was with Forlov.

• DISCOVERY PROJECT: In Forlov’s song it says, “Never in the harbor of bitter

feelings…. Protects the human body from illness.” Encourage your students to research

the health benefits of those who easily forgive and do not harbor bitter feelings. Have

some students share what they learned.

• OBJECT LESSON: TAKE OFF THE WEIGHT. Forlov teaches us to remember to love

and to let go of ill feelings. This object lesson is designed to show the class how feelings

of anger, sadness, resentment, ill feelings toward others, and bitterness weigh us down;

and when we let go of these feelings, how much better we feel—inside and out.

- Have a student come up and stand before you while you tell them a situation. Ask

them to give you a negative emotion they could feel as a result of the incident. For

example, if your brother takes your toy and breaks it…how do you feel? The

student might say, “Angry.”

- Put an article of clothing on him/her: a hat, some gloves, another pair of pants, or

another shirt. Or, you could have him hold something that would weigh him

down. Give your student another situation that would provoke another negative

emotion. Add more weight with another article of clothing, or something else to

hold. Keep giving examples and keep adding weight until he experiences

discomfort. Don’t forget to give situations when an individual might hurt someone

and then not forgive himself. Sometimes we harbor negative feelings of guilt even

after we are forgiven by others. It is often more difficult to let go of these feelings

and forgive ourselves. Ask the following questions:

1. How do you feel?

2. How does this activity relate to Forlov?

3. Do you remember how Raja felt when Damian lost the compass?

- Explain to your class that feelings of anger, guilt, sadness, or bitterness make us

feel yucky, heavy, and sad.

- Take everything off and ask:

1. How do you feel now?

2. What can you do to keep yourself from carrying unnecessary burdens and

discomforts when others offend you, or you offend others?

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- Tell your class that forgiveness towards others and ourselves makes us happy and

feel free. It makes our relationships stronger and life is better.

• ACTIVITY: LET IT GO! On a blank piece of paper, write down a situation where you

were hurt. Include the details of how it happened and especially how you felt about it and

the consequences that followed. This is a private paper that you won’t show to anyone

else. It is ok to write how you really feel. For example - I was so angry when my brother

ruined my special project. didn't want to see him anymore. I wanted to punch him.

- Go to a quiet place and read the paper aloud and then state out loud that you

release those feelings and negative thoughts.

- Take the paper and rip it to shreds or actually burn it. As you are doing so, strive

to forgive this person and let go of the negative feelings and thoughts.

• QUOTE ACTIVITY: Choose a quote to discuss.

- What does this quote teach you?

- Memorize the quote. Write the words on separate sheets of paper and invite your

students to lay them out in order. Recite the quote and then remove one of the

words. Continue to remove words until you have it memorized! If you want, give

a reward when each student has memorized the quote.

• VIDEO: DOLPHINS SAVE AND HEAL. Dolphins are used in therapy sessions, have

been known to save people who are drowning, and even save people from sharks. Find a

video about these amazing rescues. How do these videos relate to Forlov the Dolphin?

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Forlov the Dolphin Forgiveness Through Love

ANIMAL FACTS

1. Dolphins live in families, called pods. They form very strong

bonds with their pods.

2. Dolphins are quick to help others in need. Pods of dolphins have

been known to come to the aid of an injured dolphin and help it

to the surface to breathe. There are even stories of dolphins

rescuing humans in danger.

3. Dolphins also have extraordinary abilities to heal themselves.

Dolphins can tolerate and recover from extreme injuries such as

shark bites, although the exact methods used to achieve this are

not known.

4. Dolphins are very acrobatic and will often be seen leaping out of the water and

performing tricks.

5. What else can you learn about dolphins?

PONDER

1. How can you liken the dolphin to forgiveness?

Think about the words in the song.

2. Dolphins live in families called pods; and they form

very strong bonds with their pods. How can

forgiveness and love help us to develop strong

family relationships?

3. Dolphins have extraordinary abilities to heal themselves. How does forgiveness heal

wounded hearts? Can you think of an example?

4. Dolphins are often known for their acrobatic moves, leaping high into the air. In the song,

it says, “See him ride the waves of life, gliding smooth and leaping strife, never in the

harbor of bitter feelings.” What does this phrase mean to you? What does it mean to leap

strife?

HOW TO USE FORLOV

RESULTS FROM APPLYING FORLOV

• Forgive myself and those I have allowed to

intentionally or unintentionally offend, hurt, or

disappoint me.

• Never harbor bitterness, hurt, or feelings of ill

will.

• Let it go.

• Strengthens the immune system

• Strengthens relationships

• Develops inner peace and harmony

• It is the champion of healing and inner contentment

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Forlov the Dolphin

Forlov, the dolphin, the champion

Forgiveness

The champion of healing, contentment

Forgiveness

See him ride the waves of life, gliding smooth and leaping strife,

Never in the harbor of bitter feelings.

Strengthens love and harmony,

Develops peace and unity,

Protects the human body from illness.

Forlov, Forgiveness

Forlov, the dolphin, the healer

Forgiveness

Reminding to love and to let go

Forgiveness

See him ride the waves of life, gliding smooth and leaping strife,

Never in the harbor of bitter feelings.

Strengthens love and harmony,

Develops peace and unity,

Protects the human body from illness.

Forlov, Forgiveness

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“The weak can never

forgive. Forgiveness is

the attribute of the

strong.”

~Mahatma Gandhi

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“We can do no great things;

only small things with great

love.” ~ Mother Teresa

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“Forgiveness through

love leads to inner-

contentment. This

makes Forlov the

champion of healing.” ~Roger Anthony

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“You can love a person dear

to you with a human love,

but an enemy can only be

loved with divine love.”

~Leo Tolstoy, War and Peace

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FORLOV CROSSWORD

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Across

3. _______ the dolphin, the champion. Forgiveness.

6. Forlov the ______, the healer. Forgiveness.

8. A dolphin lives in a family called a _____.

Down

1. Strengthens love and _______, develops peace and unity.

2. Reminding to _______ and to let go. Forgiveness.

4. See him ______ the waves of life, gliding smooth and leaping strife.

5. Protects the human body from _________. Forlov, forgiveness.

7. Dolphins have been known to _____ injured dolphins and people.

*Hint: The answers can be found in the song and animal facts. If you need additional help refer to the word bank at the end of the document.

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FORLOV WORD SEARCH

F H A R M O N Y P D A B

A O R G T N Y P E C F R

F O R G I V E R A N F Y

C L K L M N N O C I V K

A W V E O F E T E H B H

Q E F C H V H E R P E L

R I S S D B E C F L W J

L O V E F D A T E O Q H

P R H J K L L S D D F G

V H U S S E P O D L G J

D G E G C H E G C H W Y

FORLOV DOLPHIN FORGIVE

LIFE LOVE PROTECTS

PEACE HARMONY POD

HEAL

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FORLOV CROSSWORD

Word Bank:

help love

pod harmony

ride Forlov

dolphin illness