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Take Stock in Children

scholarships, mentors & hopeLunch & Learn’s

“Goal Setting with Your Mentee”

Hosted by Natasha Valle, Administrator of Curriculum & Training

www.takestockinchildren.org | scholarships, mentors & hope

OBJECTIVE

Today's training session will discuss...

• Why goal setting is important

• Tips on helping your mentee develop a plan

• Setting goals for their future

• How to handle possible self sabotage


Before We Begin

Think about how Chaotic your day can be…•Family

•Career

•Personal Interests

Consider your mentee…•Multiple classes

•Multiple teachers

•Homework

•Chores

•Social life

•Media Bombardment

Take a moment to think about when you were in high school… •Did you think about your future?

•Did you know what you wanted to do with your life?

•Did you procrastinate?

•Did you set goals for yourself?•

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Ask yourself:

“What would you have done to prepare for your future and set goals to reach your dreams?”

“How can you apply that experience in your mentoring relationship?”

Going Back in Time


Most adolescents today are just one bad decision away from adversely affecting their future

This is why it is so important to make sure they are focused on their future and are working toward meeting the objectives that will help them reach their goals

Bad Decisions


Getting your mentee in the habit of thinking of their future and setting goals is a very important component to their success…

The importance of goal setting:

Provides your mentee with a direction and a purpose.

Knowledge of what they have set out to achieve

Ability to focus their minds and actions on their target

Provides your mentee with motivation and realistic steps to execute their goal

Importance of Goal Setting


While introducing the goal setting process…

Be patient and encouraging

Use positive reinforcement

For many mentee’s…

Process may be a very difficult undertaking

May be the first time asked to think about their future, what they want and develop a plan, and follow it

The Goal Setting Process


“We need objectives.

We need focus and direction.

Most of all, we need the sense of

accomplishment that comes

from achieving what we set out

to do.”~Dr. Leon Tec, Child Psychologist

Ask the Experts


Get your mentee in the habit of setting goals that are…Specific

Measurable

Attainable

Rewarding

Timely

SMART guidelines creates goals that are…Clear

Easily understood

Subconsciously motivate

The SMART Goal Setting Guidelines


To help your mentee start thinking about setting “Specific” goals, break goals down into categories…

•High School Goals

•College Goals

•Career Goals

•Sports/extracurricular Goals

•Personal Development Goals

•Family Goals

•Health Goals

Breaking goals down into the specific areas of life will allow your mentee to work on each and create a balance

Goal Categories


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SMART Guidelines

Ask your mentee to envision their future and what they want

• High School goal, “to graduate”

“Who is graduating?”

“What are they doing?”

“Where is the setting?”

“When will the graduation take place?”

“Why do they want to graduate?”

• Ask them to describe the vision with as much detail as possible.

• Repeat these questions with each goal category


Once you have your mentee thinking, visualizing, and communicating about their future and their expectations, have your mentee write them down as goals in the goals column

• Be as specific as possible

• The act of setting “specific” goals and writing them down allows your mentee to begin to take ownership of their desires and aspirations

• Creates a clearer and more vivid picture of each “specific” goal and what short term objectives they will have to meet to reach them

Write Goals Down


High SchoolGoal

S M A R T

Graduate from High School and enroll aPost secondary Institution

SMART Guidelines


High SchoolGoal

Specific•Who?•What?•Where?•When?•Why?

M A R T


• Jessica

•Graduate H.S.

•Amway Arena

• June 2012

•Attend a post secondary institution

SMART Guidelines, “S”=Specific


Measurability applies to both the end result and the objectives implemented to reaching the goal.

Answers the question of quantity

How much?

How often?

How many?

For goals to be measurable

Establish a way to measure their progress

Create criteria that will inform them when they have reached their goal

SMART Guidelines, “M”=Measureable


High SchoolGoal

Specific

•Who?•What?•Where?•When?•Why?

Measure

able

•How much?•How often?•How many?

A R T


• Jessica

•Graduate H.S.

•Amway Arena

• June 2012


Check grades quarterly to ensure passing grades for required courses

SMART Guidelines, “M”=Measureable


SMART Guidelines, “A”=Attainable

This guideline in the goal setting process is to devise a plan and action steps necessary to make these goals attainable.

• An attainable goal is a goal for which your mentee can create a realistic path to achievement

• A goal needs to stretch your mentee slightly so they feel they can reach it and it will require them to be fully committed

• Ask your mentee:

“How are you going to reach this goal?”

“What steps do you need to take and what resources may you need to help you achieve your goal?”

• Encourage your mentee to think and write down a list of action steps and objectives they must meet to obtain their attainable goal


High SchoolGoal

Specific

Who?What?Where?When?Why?

Measure

able

•How much?•How often?•How many?

Attainabl

e

Action steps to achieve goal?

R T


• Jessica

•Graduate H.S.

•Amway Arena

• June 2012



• Increase Study time by 30 minutes

•Raise GPA to 3.0

•Meet with guidance counselor every quarter to check on status of Grad requirements

SMART Guidelines, “A”=Attainable


Goals are rewarding when there is a purpose to completing them

Ask your mentee to think about:

“Why they want to accomplish these goals?”“What is the purpose of achieving each of these goals?”“How will they feel about themselves once they have

achieved their goals?”

Next to each goal ask your mentee to write down the purpose and their intention for achieving each goal

SMART Guidelines, “R”=Rewarding


High SchoolGoal

Specific


Measure

able

•How much?•How many?•How Often?

Attaina

ble


Rewardi

ng

What is the purpose?

T


• Jessica

•Graduate H.S.

•Amway Arena

• June 2012



• Increase Study time


•Raise GPA to 3.0

•First in the Family to Graduate High School

•Scholarship

•Role model for siblings and peers

SMART Guidelines, “R”=Rewarding


A fun activity to keep your mentee engaged and motivated…

• Have your mentee cut out visual representations of their goals from old magazines and paste them on a poster board

• Pictures can be of famous people they aspire to be like or phrases or headlines that resonate with your mentee’s goals

• Paste cut outs on a poster board and place the poster board where your mentee can see it on a daily basis

• Whenever your mentee feels overwhelmed or not motivated they can look at the pictures on the poster board

• Stating the purpose of your goals and using a vision board are thought to be very powerful techniques to subconsciously reiterate the relevancy of achieving a goal and the reward that will be felt once completed

Remember The Vision


• Timely goals should have a specific date of completion

There is no such thing as a race without a finish line or a project without a deadline

• In order for your mentee to start actively working toward their goals, they have to state by when they want to achieve their goal

SMART Guidelines, “T”=Timely


High SchoolGoal

Specific


Measure

able

•How much?•How many?•How Often?

Attainab

le


Rewardin

g

What is the purpose?

Timely

Date of completion ?


•Jessica

•Graduate H.S.

•Amway Arena

•June 2012



• Increase Study time


•Raise GPA to 3.0

•First in the Family to Graduate High School

•Scholarship

•Role model for siblings and peers

•Graduate June of 2012

•Enroll in post secondary institution by fall of 2012

SMART Guidelines, “T”=Timely


Goal setting and proper preparation will position your mentee on a better track to meeting their full potential and seeing their infinite capabilities

The U.S. Military says it best:

“Proper Preparation Prevents Poor Performance.”

The better prepared your mentee is in having a plan to reach their goals, the easier it will be for them to carry out each step in the plan

The 5 P’s


Your mentee may lose motivation interest, or focus. • Ask your mentee to take notice of their emotions

and thoughts

Negative thinking can keep them from reaching their goals and dreams

• Ask them to pause and think about why they are thinking or speaking negatively

Is it productive or destructive?

• Look over SMART goal sheet and replace the negative thoughts with the reward obtained when your mentees goal is achieved

Watch Out for “Self Sabotage”


Writing SMART goals can take a little getting used to:

Your mentee may become frustrated, even irate

It may take a few sessions to get them thinking and discussing their future as well as writing down their goals

The process will eventually take shape:

Your mentee will lay out their life categories, visualize

Make specific goals for each of these categories

Determine when they will accomplish each goal

In doing so:

Your mentee will acquire a deeper appreciation of the work the two of you will be doing to accomplish their dreams and achieve a more rewarding future for themselves

In Conclusion


“Our goals can only be reached through a vehicle of a plan, in

which we must fervently believe, and upon which we must

vigorously act. There is no other route to success.”

~Stephen A. Brennan

Thank You for Listening…

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