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Khadro-la, The StateOracle of Tibet, onMeditation, Dealing withAggression andBodhicitta.Khadro-la, long cherished by The Dalai Lama and the Tibetanpeople, is now offering teachings to the Western world.by Natalie Pace, co-creator of the Earth Gratitude project and bestsellingauthor of The Gratitude Game, The ABCs of Money and Put Your Money WhereYour Heart Is.

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Khadro-la, the State Oracle of Tibet. Photo (c) Piero Sirianni POMAIA (PISA) - Italy. Used withpermission. 

She is called Khadro-la. Her title is Rangjung Neljorma – self-arisen dakini. She is also

the state oracle of Tsering Chenga, the goddess protector of Tibet.

When I met with Khadro-la, the first thing that struck me was how kind, humble and

beautiful that she is. As you can see from her picture, she glows. When she giggles,

which she does frequently (similar to HH The Dalai Lama), it is an impish giggle, like

she is sharing a private joke with you. Her channeled messages are cherished by HH

The Dalai Lama and many of the high lamas in Tibetan Buddhism, including Lama

Zopa Rinpoche. She is a sought-after speaker around the world for her wisdom,

compassion, light and love.

Khadro-la, the State Oracle of Tibet. Photo (c) Piero Sirianni POMAIA (PISA) - Italy. Used

with permission. 

However, Khadro-la is one of the most humble VIPs you’ll ever meet. On January 14,

2018, when she walked a crowded pathway with Richard Gere in Bodhgaya, India, to

celebrate the 30 anniversary of Root Institute, Khadro-la stepped onto the dirt to

allow Gere and the others to walk on the sidewalk. Richard Gere stopped the

procession, and politely gestured for Khadro-la to please walk in front of him.

Bodhicitta (the desire to realize enlightenment for the sake of others) is not just a

word or a mindset to Khadro-la. Putting others before herself is evident in the

footsteps Khadro-la takes when no one is looking, in the breath and words that flow

from her lips, even in private company. Her eyes are piercing, pointed and knowing,

but warm, and accompanied with a smile.

When I met with Khadro-la on January 9, 2018, I didn’t know if I would be granted an

audience for 5 minutes or 50 minutes. (It turned out that I was to be blessed with a

90-minute teaching, which I’m still in a bliss bubble about.) Here are a few nuggets of

wisdom from that teaching.

Dealing with Unimaginable Loss

Khadro-la, I asked, “How does someone deal with a great loss, of unimaginable grief,

such as when a parent loses a child?”

After acknowledging the loss, and saying that her heart was filled with compassion

for whomever would experience such a loss, Khadro-la said that one thing that

might be beneficial in the healing is to “dedicate your life to altruism, to serving

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others, to developing love, compassion and warmheartedness.” She continued, “This

is so wholesome that it will create the natural result of more happiness.”

Actions Mean More Than Words

Khadro-la, I asked, “I see people who claim to know so much about compassion,

dharma, Tibetan Buddhism and bodhicitta. Yet, after the teachings in Bodhgaya,

when they meet a beggar child on the street, they push them aside and speak

unpleasantly to them. I see no compassion in these actions.”

Khadro-la: “We can know all about the dharma, and explain all about the dharma.

However, if we never actually put it into practice, then whatever we do and however

long that we do it, it does not transform our minds. Basically, it remains useless.

Actually, quite the opposite happens. Our mind can become very stiff, and our ego

grasping and self-cherishing becomes even bigger.”

Standing Up to Aggression

Khadro-la, I asked, “How do we meet people who are trying to harm us, or who are

being nasty to us, with compassion? Don’t we have a right to defend ourselves?”

Khadro-la: “If we do not have this very useful wisdom or precious mind of bodhicitta,

if someone comes up to us and is very angry or insults us, our natural immediate

answer will be to answer with anger. We engage in negative behavior. We say harsh

words. We make wrong decisions. On top of this, because of our exaggerating

thoughts that build up things, we exaggerate the faults of the person and fuel our

anger. In this way, we are harming our minds and we are also harming our body. We

get higher blood pressure. We create more suffering for the other person and for

oneself.”

Khadro-la, I asked, “So what is the better response to this kind of aggression?”

Khadro-la: “Just as we suffer and we do not want to suffer, other sentient beings are

exactly the same. They are overwhelmed by suffering that they do not want. When

we see this and understand this, it immediately eradicates all violence and

aggressiveness. Instead, we feel love and compassion. If someone fights with us,

even if we did not do anything wrong, if we are endowed with this very precious

mind, we can use our wisdom. We can understand their point of view. We can feel

that this person is very upset. This person is very angry. They are unhappy. They are

suffering. By using our wisdom in such circumstances, we can feel more love and

compassion, be more honest and be more truthful. We can be more tolerant and

patient. We see the reality. We can have more universal responsibility, even in the

face of hardships and anger.”

The Value of a Kind Heart

Khadro-la, I asked, “What is the most important thing that we can do to achieve

greater enlightenment?”

Khadro-la: “People try spiritually to achieve realization. The true realization is to

achieve a kind heart. Other than that, there is nothing really that is useful. Nothing

else. Realistically, there is good and bad. The things that we can completely trust,

that will never betray us or fail us, are kindheartedness and bodhicitta.”

Tips for Meditation

Khadro-la, I asked, “Is meditation helpful in achieving a kind heart? Do you have any

tips for meditation?”

Khadro-la: “Many people like meditation. Many people think of it as single-pointed

concentration. In my opinion, meditation is to cultivate a habit of an honest mindset

and a kind heart. If we develop and increase our qualities of kindness and honesty,

we can get rid of so many different kinds of suffering. Otherwise, if we think we want

to meditate, and we just sit still and we don’t think about anything in particular, then

what we are doing is actually resting our mind, giving our minds a little break. But it

is not very constructive or useful. It does not decrease our negative mindsets of

anger, attachments, etc. It does not increase our qualities of kindness, truthfulness

and wisdom. So, we might be able to sit still single-pointedly for four or five hours,

but what’s the point? It’s like a pigeon!”

I wish that I could share all of Khadro-la’s teaching. Here I’ve only given a few tidbits.

However, I hope that these snacks whet your appetite sufficiently to seek out

opportunities to hear Khadro-la, the State Oracle of Tibet, speak in person. Whether

you become a bodhisattva or just lower your own blood pressure and reduce the

amount of arguments you have, Khadro-la has a lot of personal experience and

lessons to help you get there. You don’t have to believe in Buddhism or oracles to

appreciate the profound insights of Khadro-la. In fact, Khado-la stresses that

kindheartedness has no religion, gender, or race.

Khadro-la doesn’t have a website yet. It’s coming soon. However, there are

interviews with her in Mandala Magazine, and other features if you check around

online. And if you’re committed to inviting her to offering a teaching to your group,

I’m sure that karma will find a way to put the two of you in touch. 

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