Lead to Lead to feelings offeelings of

Authenticity/ realnessAuthenticity/ realness

Firm Sense of IdentityFirm Sense of Identity

Deserving of (love Deserving of (love and happiness)and happiness)

Aliveness (feeling lifeAliveness (feeling lifeEnergy)Energy)

Appropriate to life Appropriate to life (effectiveness)(effectiveness)

Operate from a Operate from a loving attitude (trust loving attitude (trust and confidence in others)and confidence in others)

Satisfaction Satisfaction of basic of basic security and security and esteem needsesteem needs

The mentally healthy selfThe mentally healthy self

Basic security Basic security and executive and executive controlcontrol

Sub-consciousSub-conscious

EgotismEgotism

Self-protectionSelf-protection(care, maintenance)(care, maintenance)

EmotionalityEmotionality(trust, self-deception)(trust, self-deception)

PracticalPractical

CognitiveCognitive

SpiritualSpiritual

Self and types of awareness

Basic Security & self Basic Security & self esteem: efficacy, esteem: efficacy, competence, controlcompetence, control

Love, care, Love, care, approval, approval, acceptanceacceptance

Self-worth, Self-worth, self-respect, self-respect, valued by others, valued by others, integrityintegrity

Significance, Significance, recognition, recognition, being under-being under-stoodstood

Aloneness Aloneness versus versus togethernesstogetherness

Solitude & Solitude & companycompany

CORE & SATELLITE NEEDS OF THE SELF

Joy

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Fear

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SadnessDisgust

Anger

Love

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Pultchik’s emotion wheelPultchik’s emotion wheel

The Cycle of DepressionThe Cycle of DepressionTriggersTriggers

Losses: Being rejected or made fun of; Being disliked; Having a chronic illness; Parents’ divorce; Family problems

ThoughtsThoughtsThings will never get better.I’m a failure.Nobody likes me.My life is doomed.I’m worthless.

FeelingsFeelingsHopeless: Despair; Gloom; Sad; Lonely; Rejected; Worthless; Upset; Discouraged; Somber; Disheartened

BehaviorsBehaviorsBeing inactive; Skipping school, Moping around; Not talking; Self-harm; Withdrawal; Substance use/abuse

Physical ResponsesPhysical ResponsesLow energy; Crying; Poor appetite; Insomnia; Poor memory; Trouble concentrating; Weight loss/gain

The Cycle of AngerThe Cycle of AngerTriggersTriggers

Being rejected or made fun of; Poverty; Emotional/physical pain; Cents' divorce; Loss; Chronic illness; Family problems

ThoughtsThoughtsEveryone is out to get me.Leave me alone.Life is unfair.I can't change.I'll hurt you first.I resent that.I don't care.

FeelingsFeelingsIrritable; Aggravated; Hopeless; Rageful; Hurt; Rejected; Hate; Annoyed; Perturbed; Exasperated; Riled up

BehaviorsBehaviorsFrequent fighting; Substance use/abuse; Self-harm; Arguing; Blaming others; Being defensive; Throwing things

Physical ResponsesPhysical ResponsesTight muscles; Clenched fists; Rapid heartbeat; Increased blood pressure; Sweating; Shaking; Trouble breathing

The Cycle of AnxietyThe Cycle of AnxietyTriggersTriggers

Disasters; Life changes (moving, death); Speaking in public; Automobile accident; Chronic illness; Physical/emotional pain

ThoughtsThoughtsThis is really scary.I can't handle this.Something bad will happen.I'm helpless.People always make fun of me.I'll be too embarrassed.

FeelingsFeelingsAfraid; Nervous; Irritable; Confused; Panicky; Tense; Apprehensive; Helpless; Embarrassed; Shaky

BehaviorsBehaviorsSkipping; Avoiding situations; Perfectionism; Substance use/abuse; Becoming dependent on others; Making up excuses

Physical ResponsesPhysical ResponsesTight muscles; Rapid heartbeat; Increased blood pressure; Sweating; Flushed cheeks; Shortness of breath

The Cycle of Low Self-EsteemThe Cycle of Low Self-EsteemTriggersTriggers

Being picked on or made fun of; Multiple failures; Frequent, negative feedback; Many losses; Unemployment

ThoughtsThoughtsI'm doomed.I don't care.What's the point?I can't do anything right.I'm helpless.I'll fail anyway so I give up.

FeelingsFeelingsDiscouraged; Sad; Rejected; Lonely; Unsure; Demoralized; Overwhelmed; Frustrated

BehaviorsBehaviorsGiving up; Being inactive; Not completing schoolwork; Becoming dependent on others; Substance use/abuse

Physical ResponsesPhysical ResponsesChronic fatigue; Poor appetite; Headaches; Sleeping too much; Crying; Difficulty concentrating; Poor body posture