leader notes for starting point

Leader Notesfor Starting Point

Starting Point Leader Notes version 3.00.Copyright © 2006, 2008 by North Point Ministries, Inc. All rights reserved.

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Thank you for volunteering to be a Starting Point leader! Bill Hybels once said, “Nothing compares to the thrill that comes when you know that the Creator God used you to touch a human life.” This summarizes the experience of a Starting Point leader. These Leader Notes are designed to help you be a more effective leader. Whether you are leading a group for the first time, or have extensive leadership experience, it is extremely important for you to read through the Introduction to Leadership section in its entirety before starting your group. Your preparation directly determines your effectiveness as a leader. These Leader Notes contain the philosophy of Starting Point, explanations of the materials, and suggestions for leading your group.

ContentsIntroduction to Leadership ................................................................................................... 3 Overview of Starting Point ...................................................................................................... 3 Conversation Guide and Media .............................................................................................. 3 The Gap Philosophy ............................................................................................................... 5 Facilitating the Weekly Experience ......................................................................................... 6 Starting Point in Long-term Small Groups ............................................................................ 9 Apprenticing (New) Leaders ................................................................................................... 9 Using the Leader Notes Each Week ...................................................................................... 10 Leader Essentials ................................................................................................................... 10Chapter One: Story ................................................................................................................ 11Chapter Two: Scripture ......................................................................................................... 13Chapter Three: Creation ...................................................................................................... 15Chapter Four: Brokenness .................................................................................................... 17Chapter Five: Promise ............................................................................................................ 19Chapter Six: Law ..................................................................................................................... 21Chapter Seven: Rebellion ..................................................................................................... 23Chapter Eight: Grace ............................................................................................................ 25Chapter Nine: Spirit .............................................................................................................. 27Chapter Ten: Eternity ........................................................................................................... 29Epilogue .................................................................................................................................... 31

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Introduction to LeadershipOverview of Starting PointStarting Point is designed for three kinds of people: seekers, starters, and returners. Seekers are those who would not call themselves Christians, but are curious about God, Jesus, the Bible, or Christianity. Starters are new to a relationship with Jesus Christ and are looking to build a solid foundation for their faith. Returners have a church background, but have been away for a while. Most likely, there will be a broad variety of people in each group, so keep this in mind as you prepare each week. (If you are using the Starting Point materials in an ongoing small group, your audience may be different; be sure to see the section on p. 9.) With seekers, starters, and returners in mind:

Starting Point is a conversational environment where people can explore faith and experience community.

This description highlights the two primary goals in Starting Point: to help people explore faith and experience community. Therefore, success is evaluated by how well participants are growing spiritually and connecting relationally. In light of these two goals, Starting Point is not a teaching forum, an apologetics course, or a class in Christian theology. At its core, Starting Point is a conversational environment. Thus, Starting Point leaders are not teachers, but discussion facilitators and fellow sojourners. Therefore, do not use the terms teacher, student, class, or curriculum. These words reinforce a stereotype contrary to a conversational environment. Instead, use leader, group member, group, and Conversation Guide. This is critical! The language you use communicates the type of environment you want to create and the goals you want to achieve.

Leaders should measure the progress of their groups according to five significant values. Though other values are important, we believe these five are crucial to success.

Authentic Relationships :: 1. Do group members experience trust and acceptance? Biblical Authority :: 2. Is Scripture the basis for group discussion? Humble Leadership :: 3. Do leaders value group members’ opinions and beliefs? Relevant Environment :: 4. Is the group appealing, engaging, and helpful? Spiritual Growth :: 5. Are group members growing in their relationship with God?

Conversation Guide and Media The Conversation Guide has ten chapters. Each chapter’s title serves as its anchor word, communicating the dominant theme (e.g., Brokenness). You’ll also notice that this anchor word is highlighted throughout the chapter. In addition, a Gustave Doré drawing that captures the essence of the word/theme introduces the chapter. Each chapter has several components:

The Story UnfoldsThis brief narrative establishes the overall concept of the chapter. It typically calls on a common experience or felt need. Conclusions are not usually drawn; instead, ideas and themes are simply introduced. Questions for Reflection follow for group members to attempt to answer as


“homework.” Each set of questions is designed to progress from general to personal, from nonreligious to spiritual, or from experiential to biblical.

The Story Behind the StoryOne passage from the Bible becomes the focus of study and underlines the theme of the chapter. Historical introductions precede each passage to explain the context and “connect the dots” between chapters. Beginning in Chapter Three, this section also contains a scroll montage that utilizes the Doré drawings to help participants follow the story. Questions for Reflection follow.

Tensions in the StoryIn this section, the Conversation Guide asks a difficult question that often arises in conjunction with the topic under consideration. Be sure to save time for discussion of this section, since these questions are important to group members and often reveal barriers to faith. The brevity of this section often leaves readers wanting a bit more; this is intentional, but more on that later. Again, Questions for Reflection follow, and this section closes the main portion of each chapter.

Continuing the StoryThis section is optional; make sure your group members understand this. Additional Scripture passages are provided for those who want to dig deeper. Moreover, suggestions of art, film, music, literature, or Web content are given to offer other avenues of exploration. As a leader, do not feel obligated to spend any time in this section during the group meeting, except to highlight some of the suggestions (unless there are specific questions about a particular recommendation). Also, be discerning if you supplement this list with your own suggestions.

StorylineThis brief section presents the bottom line of each chapter. These statements are the conclusions that we hope take place as a result of reading the Conversation Guide, studying the biblical passage, listening to the media and, most importantly, engaging in the discussion. Participants will certainly wrestle with other issues, but this is the primary topic around which leaders should ask questions and guide the discussion. Reading the Storyline at the end of each group meeting will be helpful, even if some struggle with fully accepting or believing the statements.

For the Next Group MeetingThis is the “homework assignment.” It always involves reading the next chapter, responding to the Questions for Reflection, and listening to an audio message (except for the final week). It also includes an experiential exercise: something to do to engage the theme. This exercise can be especially significant, even if just to provide a shared experience and conversation starter at the beginning of each group meeting. Be sure to read this section aloud at the end of each meeting.

Note: Participants should have read the first chapter and responded to the Questions for Reflection before attending the first group meeting, but there is no audio message the first week.


MediaThe media discs are integral to the Starting Point experience. There are audio messages for each week (except Chapter One) and a bonus message at the end that can be recommended at the leader’s discretion. While the audio messages explore the themes of each chapter, the content itself is not usually referenced in the Conversation Guide. However, leaders should ask group members about their reactions to the audio messages and refer to them when pertinent to the discussion.

The Gap PhilosophyAs you read the Starting Point material, you may notice “gaps” in content where some issues are not fully addressed, and others are not addressed at all. This gap philosophy is crucial for understanding how to use the materials to effectively lead your group.

The most important objective of the leader is not to teach, but to assist in the process of spiritual development that’s already going on in each person’s life. As Philippians 1:6 suggests, it is God who began a good work in the hearts of your group members. They joined Starting Point, or your small group, because God is drawing them. Therefore, your job is not to feed them information based on your own agenda; it is to help them process the spiritual issues and concepts that God is already surfacing in their lives. Leaders will be effective if they remain observant of the felt needs of the attendees and attentive to the natural flow of conversation.

The key to this style of leadership is understanding the concept of gaps. Even more important than what is presented throughout the Conversation Guide is what is not presented. Rather than offering an exhaustive theological discourse, the Conversation Guide content often leads participants right up to a key concept, and then leaves a gap where discussion can take place. At that point, the leader is able to sense the felt needs of the individuals in the group and point to the information that will be most helpful for each person.

It is in the gaps that Starting Point moves beyond a static study and becomes intensely interactive. In the gaps, members are free to voice their thoughts, express their doubts, and reveal their individual spiritual concerns — what they need in order to move forward with God. Mentoring, discipleship, and spiritual formation happen in the gaps. The leader’s primary responsibility is to stand in the gaps with participants.

No printed study can do people’s thinking for them. Instead, a study should stimulate thinking. In many cases, the Conversation Guide content will create more questions than it answers. This is intentional. It is ineffective to produce a comprehensive presentation of so-called answers before a member has a felt-need question. Starting Point is intended to bring to the surface those questions that every soul longs to ask. Once they are voiced, a capable leader will have plenty of opportunities to share helpful information, thoughts, and guidance — not necessarily answers — that enable group members to take the next steps toward finding their places in the story.


Facilitating the Weekly ExperiencePhysical EnvironmentThe setting of your group meeting is vital for creating a warm environment. Consider these tips:

Meet in a room that matches the group’s size. It’s better to be slightly confined than •dwarfed by a large room.Make sure to arrange the chairs in a circle. Avoid rows or any layout that feels like a •classroom.Provide snacks and drinks. Don’t go overboard; a simple tray of cookies, a bowl of fruit, •and a carafe of coffee go a long way. In fact, you may want to offer a sign-up sheet for a different group member to bring snacks each week. This takes the burden off the leaders and gives group members a sense of ownership and accountability.Show up early, turn off your cell phone or pager during your meeting, and stay late. The •best interaction with group members often takes place before or after the meeting.

Leader FacilitationStarting Point leaders are facilitators of conversation. You will not be teaching your group per se, but encouraging members to discuss what they are learning. By all means, be prepared for difficult questions and discussions. Study pertinent biblical passages each week, consult additional resources, and complete the chapter even if a co-leader will be facilitating. Plan to share your own reflections, beliefs, and questions, but limit your input. Leaders, as a combined team, should probably be talking only 20 to 40 percent of the time at most. Ask thought-provoking questions and resist the temptation to fill the silence yourself. Stimulate others to share, listen attentively when they speak, and be affirming whenever you can.

Specific aspects of each chapter and group meeting are provided below. However, one skill for creating a conversational environment bears mentioning: asking good questions. Good questions force people to think about truth, as well as their own personal experiences. Use the Questions for Reflection in the Conversation Guide, but feel free to follow up with other questions that pertain to your group’s circumstances. Here are a few tips:

Ask open-ended questions, not those that can be answered with a simple • yes or no.Ask questions that evoke feelings, thoughts, and insights.•Ask questions that do not have just one right answer.•Ask questions that require personal examples.•Ask questions that stimulate people to apply what they are learning. •

Also, don’t simply answer group members’ questions. The best leaders are not great question answerers, but strategic question askers. Affirm the questions group members ask. Respond by promoting participation from the whole group and asking follow-up questions. Connect questions to the Storyline of the chapter. Admit your own struggles with difficult questions. Encourage self-discovery by allowing the group members to arrive at conclusions themselves. When in doubt, point back to Scripture for discussion. Remember: Starting Point is a conversational environment.


Sharing StoriesBrief introductions will take place the first week, but leaders and participants will begin to share their life stories starting with the second group meeting. While this may feel intimidating at first, sharing life stories is extremely significant for several reasons:

It sets the tone for a conversational environment at the beginning of each group meeting.•Deep down, everyone wants to share his or her story with someone else.•Sharing stories creates authentic community quickly.•Sharing stories helps group members become participants, not simply consumers.•Sharing our stories causes us to reflect on God’s guiding presence in our lives.•

Groups with less than ten people can allow one person to share each week, while larger groups will have two stories some weeks. Each meeting, ask for volunteers to share their stories the following week (this provides time for them to prepare and overcome their nervousness). Give people creative license to share their stories in whatever way they want (this will terrify some!). For those who are nervous or shy, you might help them get started by asking a few basic questions. Setting a time limit is critical. While seven minutes seems too brief for a life story, it’s enough to whet the appetite. It also forces people to include the most important things. If your group is smaller, you can afford to go a little longer. However, sharing life stories at the beginning of the meeting shouldn’t take more than fifteen minutes. As a leader, be sure to model seven minutes when you go first. Rehearse with a clock in hand, if that’s what it takes to keep it brief. Also, feel free to share about your relationship with God as part of your life story, but don’t overdo it or use the word “testimony.” As leaders, we want to be sure not to communicate that a non-Christian doesn’t have a life story.

Before the First Group Meeting (“Week Zero”)We highly recommend that each group have two to four leaders. And it’s essential for these co-leaders to meet together at least one week before the group starts with several objectives in mind:

If you’re not acquainted, spend some time just getting to know one another.•Talk about your strengths and weaknesses and how you can work together as a team.•Discuss how you will evaluate the group and provide constructive feedback to one another. •It’s best if leaders plan to gather for a few minutes after each group meeting. Also, agree to be honest with each other and welcome candid feedback.Make a plan for contacting each group member the week before the first meeting. Also, •discuss ways to continue following up with them throughout the course of the group (more on that on p. 8).Discuss how the first group meeting will be facilitated. Each leader should play a role in •the first meeting, even if there is a primary facilitator for the main discussion. If there is an apprentice (new) leader, review the principles listed on p. 9.•If you have information about your group members (e.g., how they got connected to •Starting Point or their spiritual backgrounds), review this information. Keep it in mind as you prepare so that you can be sensitive to their needs and questions.Pray for the group experience, the first meeting, and each group member by name. •


In-Between Group MeetingsEach week, prepare for the group meeting by reading the chapter, listening to the audio message, doing the experiential exercise, consulting additional resources, and praying for your group. Likewise, communicate with your co-leader(s) about facilitation roles. Give apprentice leaders ample opportunities to lead the group discussion, or even sections of a chapter, as they are ready. Provide feedback to one another as your group progresses.

Two additional activities that take place in-between group meetings are essential to Starting Point. First, you or your co-leader(s) should contact each group member every week. You may want to wait until the first group meeting to see if particular leaders connect with specific group members. But after the first week, divide the list in the most feasible way, and contact those under your care. Use a variety of methods — phone calls, emails, note cards, sharing a meal, or meeting for coffee. Mix it up and be creative. The important thing is to let your group members know you care and want to help them in whatever way you can. Also, men should follow up with male group members and women with female group members to maintain wise boundaries. Second, plan two social gatherings outside of the official meetings over the course of the group experience. These can take place at a home, restaurant, or some other venue. These social gatherings are extremely important for establishing relationships and community early on. Remember, what happens during the group meeting is often not as significant as what happens in between group meetings.

Adding Group MeetingsWhile the Starting Point experience is intentionally designed to last only ten weeks, there may be special circumstances that call for adding one or two meetings. For instance, if your discussion feels particularly unresolved one week, it may be appropriate to ask group members if they want to extend that theme an additional week. Or, after week ten, you might sense that there are still a lot of questions in the group. Thus, you could elect to add an eleventh week. During this time, you should address lingering questions, celebrate what each participant has meant to the group and how he or she has grown, and talk about next steps. If you choose to add one or two weeks, be sure to ask for the group’s input, since they originally committed to only ten weeks. Also, make sure that the room/place where you meet is available for the extra week(s).

After Starting PointSustained life change happens best within the context of community. Starting Point provides a taste of community, but it is only ten weeks. The best chance for continued growth after a Starting Point experience is for members to move into a long-term small group. Therefore, leaders should talk about long-term community early and often in their groups so that members will be ready to take the next step when the group ends. Feel free to incorporate stories about your own small group throughout Starting Point, especially when you share your life story. Also, tell group members about different small groups that your church or organization offers and how they can get connected. And don’t simply wait until the last few minutes of your final group meeting. It’s best to start emphasizing the importance of community early in the group cycle.


Starting Point in Long-term Small GroupsTwo dynamics are different for long-term small groups that are utilizing the Starting Point materials as a curriculum choice: (1) Your group members may already know one another well and the life story sharing activity may feel redundant. On the other hand, it can be valuable to revisit your spiritual journeys and to articulate a concise account to others. (2) Some of your group members who are more mature in their faith may feel as though they are utilizing the Starting Point materials in their small group for the benefit of a few others. This attitude can actually impair the group’s progress. Here are a few tips for long-term small groups:

Don’t reduce discussions to questions directed only at seekers or issues of salvation.•Encourage all group members to participate and share their thoughts and struggles.•Remind mature believers that the themes of Starting Point are not “basic” or “elementary,” •but unchanging, foundational, and transformational.

Apprenticing (New) LeadersApprenticeship is experienced leaders passing along to new leaders the knowledge, skills, and opportunities that have been entrusted to them. This process is crucial in order for apprentices to gain an understanding of the environment and leadership responsibilities unique to Starting Point. This happens by keeping three principles in mind (leaders should review these when they meet together before the group begins):

Model Good LeadershipWhile an apprentice is a full leader in the eyes of group members (no distinction should be made publicly), the experienced leader is responsible to model good leadership. That which is modeled transfers to apprentices and can influence, either positively or negatively, their future leadership. The best way to model good leadership is to follow the Starting Point Leader Essentials.

Apprentices Lead Early and OftenAs an apprentice becomes ready, he or she should be given opportunities to facilitate all parts of the group meeting, including the difficult aspects. Getting “hands-on” experience as early as possible is the best way for apprentices to learn. There are many ways to begin sharing facilitation responsibilities. However you decide, be sure that all leaders are preparing each week. Apprentices should oversee a group meeting at least three times during the group cycle.

Provide Input and FeedbackApprentices play a vital role in the direction of the group. As new leaders, their input is fresh and valuable. In addition, experienced leaders and apprentices should provide feedback to one another. Use the Starting Point Values and Leader Essentials to structure your dialogue. Feedback should be constructive, including both encouragement and specific suggestions for growth. The best time for evaluating the group and providing feedback is immediately after your group has ended each week. Make this time part of your weekly schedule.


Using the Leader Notes Each WeekEvery group member and leader will utilize the same Conversation Guide. However, the Leader Notes that follow and correspond to each chapter in the Conversation Guide are provided specifically to assist you in facilitating the discussion each week. These notes should be printed out and kept in a notebook along with any other resources or articles you find helpful. Each chapter contains these sections (though the first chapter is a bit unique):

Special Preparations Before This Group Meeting:1. Outside of prayer and normal preparations, these are special considerations for each week.Storyline: 2. This is the same chapter storyline as in the Conversation Guide. Keep this in mind as you pray, prepare, and guide discussion. These are the key concepts you want group members to explore.Getting Started:3. This suggests how to begin each group meeting with life stories.The Story Unfolds:4. Discussion of this section in the Conversation Guide often includes reviewing the experiential “assignment.” The Story Behind the Story:5. The group will read the biblical passage together and explore its message.Tensions in the Story:6. The hardest issues of each theme will often surface the most pressing questions and issues to discuss.Wrapping Up:7. This offers suggestions for concluding the group meeting with final thoughts, the Storyline, prayer, and preparations for the next week.

Be flexible if you sense that the group needs to dwell on one part of the discussion a bit longer, even if that means you don’t cover all of the material that week. Just be sure to hit the bottom line — the Storyline — before concluding the meeting time. These Leader Notes are provided as a road map for your meetings, but we encourage you to adapt the materials and questions to suit the needs of your group. It may be helpful to use the extra space within the Leader Notes to jot down your own thoughts and questions during preparation time. When you do adapt the materials, use discernment and keep two things in mind: (1) the Storyline of each chapter, and (2) the overall purpose of Starting Point: a conversational environment where people can explore faith and experience community.

Leader EssentialsAll of this information can feel intimidating to leaders. You may be asking, “What are the most important things that I need to remember as I lead my group?” Here are five Leader Essentials to keep in mind:

Develop Your Skills :: 1. Am I growing as a leader? Prioritize Preparation :: 2. Do I know my material and members? Promote Participation :: 3. Am I encouraging conversation? Cultivate Relationships :: 4. Am I connecting with group members? Encourage Long-Term Community :: 5. Are my members in a small group?

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Chapter One: Story

Special Preparations Before This Group MeetingMeet with your co-leader(s) ahead of time. This is essential. See the previous instructions •on p. 7 for more details about this important meeting.Call all group members to make sure they know the location and time of the first meeting •(divide the list among leaders). Also, make sure they have acquired their materials and know to read the first chapter before attending the first group meeting. Encourage members who may be tentative; let them know you’re excited about the group experience. This phone call is extremely important, so don’t settle for using email. Think about ways to create a warm and hospitable environment for the first meeting. That •first gathering will set the tone for your group. Bring refreshments. Be creative.

Getting Started (about 25 minutes)Welcome everyone.•Have all group members introduce themselves and share some basic information.•Leaders should begin by modeling a one- to two-minute introduction (keep it brief ).•Let your group know that there will be more opportunities in the future to get to know •each other. Take this time to explain the purpose of Starting Point: to be a conversational environment where people can explore faith and experience community.

Introducing the Starting Point Experience (about 15 minutes)Take a few minutes to explain the Conversation Guide. Use the Introduction on p. 3. •Make sure everyone knows to read the chapter, respond to the questions, and listen to an •audio message each week before the group meeting.Let group members know that their preparations before each meeting will greatly enhance •the discussion time. However, if they fail to read a chapter or listen to a message ahead of time, they are still encouraged to come and participate.

Storyline for Chapter One: StoryEach of our stories is a part of a bigger story — God’s story.•As a group, we will explore the Bible together looking for guidance so you may find your •place in the story.

When you ask group members (and leaders) to introduce themselves, it might be helpful to choose three or four specific questions for them to answer. Here are some suggestions: • Name and family members • Area of town they live in • Occupation • Style of music they like • Favorite food/restaurant • Hobbies • Where they grew up • Favorite sports team • Make sure to include this question: If you could ask God one thing, what would it be?

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Also, take this time to help everyone become familiar with the Bible, so that they know •how to use the Table of Contents, look up passages (book names, chapters, and verses), and differentiate Bible verses from study notes. Don’t assume your group members have read the Bible before. Be sure to affirm those who may feel intimidated.

The Story Unfolds, Story Behind the Story, and Tensions in the Story (about 25 minutes)

Transition to discussion regarding Chapter One in the Conversation Guide. •Discuss both questions from • The Story Unfolds section on p. 9.Discuss the first question from • The Story Behind the Story section on p. 12.Discuss the second question from the • Tensions in the Story section on p. 15.

If you have additional time, ask more questions from the Conversation Guide.•Wrapping Up (about 10 minutes)

Wrap up by explaining the • Continuing the Story section. Make sure participants know that these suggestions are optional.Review the • Storyline section. Read it aloud and ask if there are questions or comments.Have someone read the • For the Next Group Meeting section out loud. The assignment may intimidate some people. Explain that leaders will tell their life stories the following week, but that sooner or later, you want all group members to share their stories. Assure them that they won’t be called upon without notice. Also, discuss future plans for refreshments.Close in prayer.•

Don’t be concerned with wise insights or right answers at this point in the group experience. Set the tone early that you will not be teaching, but simply guiding conversation. Encourage people to open up. Some members will be tentative or quiet when you ask the first questions from the Conversation Guide. That’s okay. Avoid the inclination to fill the silence or talk too much. Ask follow-up questions if you need to. Use humor to set a comfortable tone. It may take a week or two for members to feel safe speaking. Use this time to continue getting to know one another and reflecting on the theme of story in our lives.

At some point you might ask: What makes a good story? Authors and screenwriters often point to two elements. First, a good story has a compelling plotline that often includes balance, conflict, journey, climax, and resolution. Second, a story is good when it is true-to-life and when we can identify with what’s happening in the story and find ourselves in it. Good stories become our stories.

Every time you pray in your group, you model the nature of prayer and your relationship with God. So, keep it short and simple, don’t use fancy religious words, and be authentic. Also, don’t ask for prayer requests in the group setting until you sense that people are comfortable sharing personal matters.

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Chapter Two: Scripture

Special Preparations Before This Group MeetingPray for group cohesion and a spirit of authenticity during your group meeting.•Connect with your co-leader(s) and discuss some ideas and dates for a social gathering •outside of your group meeting. The sooner, the better. Be ready to present several options to the group. Also, evaluate the first group meeting with your co-leader(s). Contact your group members by email. Affirm their participation and the specific insights •they bring to the group.Set a tone for starting and ending the group on time. •

Getting Started (about 15 minutes)One or two leaders should share their life stories this week. You might begin by explaining •again the purpose of sharing life stories from p. 17 in the Conversation Guide.

The Story Unfolds (about 10 minutes)Discuss both questions on p. 22.•

Storyline for Chapter Two: ScriptureThe primary way God reveals himself to us today is through Scripture.•The Bible is both historically reliable and relevant to our lives.•

It’s important for leaders to understand that this is not a “testimony.” As a leader, you might share how God has been a vital part of your spiritual journey. But also be aware of seekers in your group. Don’t imply that a non-Christian doesn’t have a life story or spiritual journey to share.

Remember to model humility and authenticity and set the tone for members who will follow. Don’t take any longer than seven minutes for each person. This will be tough. Plan to have other group leaders share the following week, or if your group is ready, go ahead and ask for volunteers among group members. Don’t just assume that someone will come prepared the following week.

Remember, this section serves to introduce the topic that will be discussed in greater depth in the following sections. At this point, you’re trying to gauge how people view the Bible, what their presuppositions are, and where they have questions or struggles.

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The Story Behind the Story (about 25 minutes)Ask group members to turn to Psalm 19 in their Bibles. If using the same Bible, provide •page numbers so that no one feels uncomfortable trying to find this passage.Ask a volunteer to read Psalm 19:7-11 aloud. (Do not • call on anyone yet.)Discuss all three questions from p. 24.•

Tensions in the Story (about 15 minutes)Discuss all three questions on p. 27. You may want to ask how helpful the audio message •was at addressing issues regarding the reliability of the Bible. (Also, remind group members that the rest of the sermon series is online if they wish to listen to it.)

Wrapping Up (about 10 minutes)Review the • Storyline section. Read it aloud and ask if there are questions or comments.Have someone read the • For the Next Group Meeting section aloud. Discuss the plans for the social gathering. Make a decision and put a date on the calendar.•Make sure one or two people will be ready to share their life stories next week.•Close in prayer.•

This Psalm can be confusing to first-time readers, especially verses 1-6. Here are a few thoughts to navigate the discussion. Verses 1-4a suggest that nature communicates God’s glory with its own unique “speech.” Verses 4b-6 describe one enduring aspect of creation: the sun and its magnificent radiance. But Scripture communicates more perfectly about God and provides its own brilliant light into our lives (vv. 7-11). We will explore God’s revelation through creation in the next chapter. Focus on vv. 7-11 and how God reveals himself and his story through the Bible. Also, look for opportunities to validate those who make these observations.

The main thrust of this Tension in the Story is whether Scripture can be trusted as a historically accurate document. This can be a hang-up for those who believe the Bible is full of stories that are either embellished or untrue. Others in your group may simply wonder if such an outdated document is relevant to their lives. Pursue both issues and guide the discussion wherever your group has questions.

It’s important to realize that many people just need to spend time exploring what the Bible actually says before they will trust it. Because of this, don’t feel like group members must accept the full inerrancy of Scripture at this point in their journeys. While biblical authority is an important concept, it’s probably unwise to introduce words like “inerrancy” or “infallibility” in most groups. Biblical scholar Scot McKnight offers an extremely helpful approach: Scripture is “trustable truth that summons me to live differently.” For those who struggle with reliability: can they accept Scripture as trustable truth? For the rest of us: are we allowing Scripture to summon us to live differently?

If you’re still having trouble getting at the concept of Scripture being reliable and relevant, you might discuss 2 Timothy 3:16-17 with your group. Here, Paul says that the Bible is God-breathed (and hence reliable, assuming God himself is reliable) and useful for our lives (relevant).

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Chapter Three: Creation

Special Preparations Before This Group MeetingContact your group members over the phone. Ask them how the group is going, help with •any questions or needs, and ask for any special prayer requests.Be especially persistent with group members who haven’t attended the group or have •missed one of the first two weeks. Find out if there are any particular reasons for their absences, and do what you can to help them overcome obstacles. Confirm that one or two people will be sharing their life stories.•

Getting Started (about 15 minutes)Begin with one or two co-leaders or group members sharing their life stories.•

The Story Unfolds (about 15 minutes)Transition to a discussion about the assignment to bring in a photograph or a picture •of a beautiful place. Go around the room and ask group members to share about their photographs or pictures and why they believe the places are beautiful or meaningful.Discuss one of the questions on p. 34.•

The Story Behind the Story (about 15 minutes)Discuss the second and third questions on p. 36. (The first question on p. 36 is important, •but will probably be addressed in the discussion on the Tension in the Story.) The passage is probably too long to read aloud, but if a person makes a comment about a specific concept, you can go back to the text and read the pertinent verses aloud.

Storyline for Chapter Three: CreationThe story begins with a glorious Creator and his beautiful creation.•Human beings were created to reflect God’s image and be in relationship with him.•

If you have more than nine people in your group, then more than one person will need to share some weeks. At first, ask for volunteers, but as you get to know specific group members who are at ease participating in the group, don’t hesitate to ask them directly if they’d be willing to share their stories. If you sense some are intimidated, let them share later in the group experience when they feel more comfortable. Give group members freedom when sharing their stories, and if time permits, ask follow-up questions. Keep it conversational, but don’t lose track of time. Some “talkers” could go on for hours. Literally. Make sure to model and invite people to “take a few minutes” to share their stories (fifteen minutes or less total for both stories).

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Tensions in the Story (about 20 minutes)Discuss all three questions on p. 39. Also, you might introduce the concept of the audio •message: that the creation story invites us to be part of God’s grand story.

Wrapping Up (about 15 minutes)Review the • Storyline section. Read it aloud and ask if there are questions or comments.

Have someone read the • For the Next Group Meeting section aloud. Close in prayer. Perhaps before you pray, or as part of your prayer, read a Psalm (such as •Psalm 148) that celebrates God’s creation.

The third question on p. 36 should bring up the issue of what it means for humans to be made in God’s image. The Bible doesn’t say exactly what the “image” is. Some scholars think that the image of God points to the intelligence, morality, and reasoning capability of humans in contrast with animals. Others suggest that it relates to our role as stewards over creation, because of the way Genesis 1:26 reads. Ancient rulers scattered their images (statues) across the lands they ruled, indicating their authority over and stewardship of that territory. Perhaps the imagery indicates that humans bear God’s “image” as they represent his stewardship and rule over the land that he created. Whatever the “image of God” means, humans have a special relationship with God. The creation story reminds us that our distinctive purpose and destiny are found in right relationship with God.

On one hand, discussing the creation account can be an exciting conversation, full of awe and wonder. On the other hand, it can be volatile if participants hold rigid views about the matter. As leaders, it’s important to remember that some group members may be skeptical toward particular religious groups. Christians who are strict literalists are often (rightly or wrongly) associated with rigid fundamentalism, political maneuvering, and school board battles. Thus, whatever your view on the literalness of the account, avoid taking a definitive stance. If you do share your opinion on the matter, be humble and admit that neither the Bible nor science is fully clear on exactly how creation happened.

In the end, it may be helpful to ask the question: What can we affirm? Or, on what can we all agree? Does your group agree with the statements made in the final paragraph? More? Less?

Note: The topic of evil may come up sometime during this group meeting. After all, if God created the world to be so good, why did he let it get so bad? This is the focus of Chapter Four. So if this question does arise, acknowledge the tension and let the group know that you will come back to it more fully next week. In this chapter, simply dwell on the beauty and goodness of creation. By recognizing this blissful state, we yearn for more. Resist the tendency to rush to the brokenness of creation.

Reviewing the Storyline section each week is important. This is the bottom line of the chapter. If people are still struggling with these conclusions, you might ask: If these statements were true, how would it impact our lives? In other words, are the barriers to belief intellectual, emotional, or simply a resistance to changing our behavior in light what the Bible teaches?

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Chapter Four: Brokenness

Special Preparations Before This Group MeetingNaturally, this is a heavy topic, but one of the most important, because receptiveness •to God’s grace first requires recognition of the need. Pray for group members who are experiencing brokenness in their lives. Pray for the emotions that may surface from this chapter and the group discussion.Send each of your group members an encouraging card. •

Getting Started (about 15 minutes)Begin with one or two people sharing their life stories.•

The Story Unfolds (about 15 minutes)Ask the first question on p. 46 and have members share about the article or news clip that •they brought to the group. Ask them why they chose their particular articles/issues. Ask the second question on p. 46 and steer the discussion toward more personal matters.•

The Story Behind the Story (about 20 minutes)Look up Genesis 3 (provide page numbers) and invite someone to read vv. 1-13 aloud.•Discuss two or three of the questions from p. 48. •Perhaps refer to the audio message at this point and ask members if this explanation of the •origin of brokenness was helpful for them.

Storyline for Chapter Four: BrokennessThe world is broken because humanity chose to defy God by satisfying our selfish desires.•The result of our sinful nature is death — both physical death and death in our relationship •with God.

The narrative introduction highlights the brokenness of the world and ends by suggesting that a portion of the blame falls upon us. Over the course of this chapter, help group members journey from “the world has major problems” to “I am part of the problem.” It may take time for some to make this transition. Be patient if individuals aren’t yet willing to admit their own sinfulness. Don’t force the issue. In this section, begin by grieving the state of the world and the ways we have been personally, and often painfully, scarred by others’ sin.

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Tensions in the Story (about 20 minutes)Discuss two or three questions from p. 51.•If you have time, take a brief look at Psalm 14:1-3. Invite someone to read it aloud, and •then discuss it. Is it true that “there is no one who does good”?

Wrapping Up (about 5 minutes)Review the • Storyline section. Read it aloud and ask if there are questions or comments.Close in prayer using Psalm 51:1-7.•

After prayer, have someone read the • For the Next Group Meeting section aloud.

Genesis 3:1-24 describes Adam and Eve’s sin and the ensuing consequences. The third question on p. 48 raises the issue of why God created humans with the option of sinning in the first place. Don’t be afraid to lead the group in a discussion about the nature of free will. What if humans didn’t have a choice to sin? Wouldn’t we have been more like robots? Discuss the importance of free will in having a genuine relationship with God. (However, be careful about taking a stance regarding the issue of predestination and free will. This is an extremely complex subject that can sidetrack the discussion. Starting Point is not the environment to talk about these issues extensively.)

Ultimately, help members wrestle with the nature of Adam and Eve’s sin. What did they really do wrong and what were the consequences? Begin to turn the corner in the conversation by identifying our own personal propensity to commit sin and reap the consequences in our lives.

This is an extremely important section; be sure to allow time to discuss it. Perhaps have your group reread it in the meeting if that’s what it takes. Focus on the basic question of how to define sin. Is it ingratitude toward God’s provision? Idolatry for making ourselves or something else our god? Independence for desiring to do things our own way? Selfishness? Pride? Mistrust? Explore different answers. You might consider the definition from the Conversation Guide: “a one-person mutiny against the God of the universe.” This is a good discussion for both seekers and believers.

Use the last question on p. 51 to refocus on the impact of sin on our relationship with God. If members are having a difficult time admitting their weaknesses, it may help to share a brief account of your own struggles with sin and its impact on your relationship with God. Be personal and vulnerable.

Try closing with a prayer of group confession. Explain to the group that confession is simply admitting to God the ways in which you have sinned and asking for his forgiveness. Suggest that you will read a portion of David’s prayer of confession and that everyone can pray silently as you pray aloud. Incorporate Psalm 51:1-7 into your prayer. Allow brief pauses. Use “we” pronouns.

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Chapter Five: Promise

Special Preparations Before This Group MeetingPray for your co-leader(s).•Contact your group members, and follow up on the questions and emotions that may have •come up as a result of the discussion on sin and its consequences. Schedule a time to meet with them over breakfast, lunch, or coffee during the next two weeks.


The Story Unfolds (about 20 minutes)Start by reflecting on the “assignment” given in the previous week. Ask if anyone made the •first move by pursuing reconciliation in a broken relationship.Discuss both questions on p. 58.•

The Story Behind the Story (about 15 minutes)Look up Genesis 12:1-3 (provide page numbers) and invite someone to read the passage.•Discuss the second and third questions on p. 60.•

Storyline for Chapter Five: PromiseGod responded to the problem of sin with a promise for all of humanity, demonstrating •his desire for restored relationship.Like Abraham, we can trust God’s promises.•

In this initial discussion, introduce the concept of a restored relationship built upon trust. Don’t be concerned with the biblical story so much as the emotions involved in reconciliation. What does it take to reconcile a relationship? Who has the responsibility to make the first move? How can we trust people who we feel have let us down in the past? Is God someone we can trust?

We will explore God’s promise and our trust in him shortly. But at this point, tease out the feelings people have about relational conflict. We all have issues of trust, especially as they pertain to specific circumstances in our lives.

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Tensions in the Story (about 20 minutes)The audio message suggests that trusting God is the key to a relationship with him. •Perhaps ask: Does this seem realistic? Can a relationship exist without trust?Discuss all three questions on p. 63. •

Wrapping Up (about 5 minutes)Review the • Storyline section. Read it aloud and ask if there are questions or comments.Before you pray, ask for specific prayer requests. Then close in prayer.•

After prayer, have someone read the • For the Next Group Meeting section aloud.

Genesis 12 and 15 deal specifically with God’s promise and Abraham’s trust. There are at least two layers in this narrative: (1) God is making a specific promise to the individual Abraham, and Abraham expresses faith in God. On this level, we can all identify with Abraham. Though we hesitate to trust God, he has proven himself trustworthy and, therefore, we are left with a decision. (2) God is making a bigger promise to humanity, and we are summoned to trust in his providential plan. This is the beginning of the grand story of redemption that God set in motion with Abraham. If group members fail to see this bigger aspect of God’s promise, focus on Genesis 12:3. What does it mean that all the families of the earth will be blessed? Does that promise include us today?

The issue of faith is extremely practical. Seekers may be struggling with the level of faith required to become a Christian or to fully surrender their lives to God. Assure them that God accepts whatever faith they have now and that their faith will increase as they get to know God better. Use Abraham as an example of simple faith and its result: righteousness. The concept of righteousness has tremendous theological implications, but at its heart, it simply means a restored relationship with God. A new Christian may not struggle with having enough faith to become a Christian, but we all hold back areas of our lives, refusing to surrender them to God. Pinpoint those areas where most people resist trusting God. Be vulnerable as a leader.

After five weeks of meeting together and sharing stories, group members should feel comfortable enough to voice personal prayer requests to the group. Of course, if anyone shares a concern or difficult life circumstance during the first four weeks, by all means pray for it. But the danger in asking for requests too early is people sharing about their friends and distant relatives only (Aunt Betty or her pet parakeet). While it’s good to pray for others, the focus of Starting Point is the group members themselves. Thus, it might be wise to ask for requests by saying: “Before I close in prayer, is there anything in your life personally that we can pray for?”

Also, co-leaders should alternate closing in prayer. If another person in the group wants to pray, great! Just assure the other members that they will not be called on to pray until they are ready. Also, remember to keep prayers brief and simple.

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Chapter Six: Law Special Preparations Before This Group Meeting

Pray for each person in your group by name. Pray specifically for the prayer requests •mentioned in the last group meeting.Try to meet with your group members for breakfast, lunch, or coffee. Thank them for a •specific contribution in the group. Also ask them how they think the group is going.Connect with your co-leader(s) and assess how the group is developing. Are group •members experiencing a conversational environment where they can explore faith and experience community? Are there any issues that need to be addressed? Is your leadership style effective? What can be improved?


The Story Unfolds (about 15 minutes)Start by reflecting on the “assignment” given the previous week. Could anyone keep all the •traffic laws? Explore the nature of these rules that we all are supposed to live by.Discuss the second question on p. 70.•

The Story Behind the Story (about 20 minutes)Discuss all three questions on p. 72.•Ask the group members if they agree with the audio message, that “rules are not a •condition of a relationship, but a confirmation of one.”

Storyline for Chapter Six: LawGod gave the law to Israel so that they could reflect his character and recognize their •shortcomings.Keeping God’s law is not a condition of a relationship with him, but a confirmation of one.•

The giving of the Ten Commandments is well known. Most people are familiar with three or four of the commands, especially those concerning relationships among people. However, this famous chapter begins by establishing the nature of a relationship with God. Not only is God to be first and foremost, he has already provided the foundation of a relationship through his deliverance of Israel from slavery in Egypt. In fact, in Exodus 19:5, God calls Israel his “treasured possession.” In light of all God had done for them, did the Israelites have any reason to not trust the goodness of his “rules”?

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Tensions in the Story (about 20 minutes)Discuss both questions on p. 75. •

Wrapping Up (about 5 minutes)Review the • Storyline section. Read it aloud and ask if there are questions or comments.Close in prayer.•After prayer, have someone read the • For the Next Group Meeting section aloud. Be sure group members understand the “assignment” to reflect on their sin.

There are a few ancillary issues that may come up in your group that the Conversation Guide does not address. Though you don’t want to teach, some background information might be helpful if your group discussion moves toward these issues. Here are a few of the common ones:

Why the strange dietary laws? It’s likely that God wanted his people to be different than other Canaanite nations that blended certain foods and meals with pagan cultic practices. Why so many purity regulations, especially for the priests? Through purity rituals, God instilled in the Hebrew people a value of holiness and purity before a holy and pure God. What about the sacrif icial system? The sermon message refers to the Passover sacrifice and a substantial portion of the law regards the intricacies of the sacrificial system. Because of the complexity of this question, you should consult the full article concerning the purpose of the sacrificial system online at www.startingpoint.com.

Finally, group members may wonder: Should we continue to follow the Old Testament law today? While the Ten Commandments and general ethical teaching of the law remains valuable to Christians, the New Testament asserts that we no longer live under the burden of the law (Romans 5-8). Rather, we follow Christ’s authority and live according to the Holy Spirit’s presence within us. There will be more on this in later chapters. At this juncture, try to affirm the positive value of the law in the setting it was given.

God gave the law to Israel for two main purposes. (1) By obeying the law, Israel would reflect the moral character of God and be an alternative community of faith to the surrounding pagan nations. Ultimately, by following the law, Israel would be a light to all nations and fulfill God’s promise to Abraham by blessing all the families of the earth. (2) The law also revealed Israel’s sinful nature, at both an individual and corporate level. This would ultimately expose the need for a savior.

If you have time, review the purpose of Starting Point. Ask group members how they are enjoying it so far. Do they feel like they are exploring faith? Are they developing relationships and experiencing community? Ask them if there is anything you can do to make the group meetings more beneficial.

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Chapter Seven: Rebellion

Special Preparations Before This Group MeetingSpend some time this week searching your own heart. In what ways have you rebelled •against God? Use the exercise in the Conversation Guide to make your own list and bring it to the next group meeting. As you do this, confess your sin to God and repent. Connect with your co-leader(s) and discuss some ideas and dates for a second social •gathering before the last group meeting. Try to meet in an intimate environment, like someone’s home. Be ready to present options at the group meeting.Email your group members. •

Getting Started (about 15 minutes)Begin with one or two people sharing their life stories. • Note: Because the Chapter Eight discussion (next week) is so crucial, try to schedule only one person to share his or her life story next week.

The Story Unfolds (about 15 minutes)Discuss the two questions on p. 82.•In conjunction with the second question on p. 82, ask group members if they made their •“rebellion” lists. Ask them how it felt. Was it easy? Hard? Convicting?

The Story Behind the Story (about 20 minutes)Look up Jeremiah 2:1-13 (provide page numbers) and invite someone to read it aloud. •Remind the group that Jeremiah is the same prophet mentioned in the audio message.Discuss the first and third questions on p. 84. •

Storyline for Chapter Seven: RebellionIsrael’s rebellion exposed the depth of the sin problem.•When we rebel, we isolate ourselves from a relationship with God.•

Reflecting on our rebellion toward God is one thing. Actually writing it down takes it to another level. As a leader, it’s important that you take part in this exercise too. Not only because you are an example to the group, but because you can model that you also struggle with sin and need to repent and experience forgiveness from God. You don’t need to force group members to share what’s on their lists, but it might be helpful to share your own thoughts on the exercise. The purpose of this chapter and the larger biblical story is to return to the issue introduced in Chapter Four: we are all sinful, and trying to be better people won’t solve the problem. At our deepest levels, we are all rebels, broken and in need of forgiveness.

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Tensions in the Story (about 10 minutes)Discuss the second and third questions on p. 87.•

Wrapping Up (about 15 minutes)Review the • Storyline section. Read it aloud and ask if there are questions or comments.Tell the group that next week the discussion will shift to the New Testament. Ask if there •are any lingering questions about the story, especially the Old Testament. Close in prayer; try using the Lord’s Prayer in Matthew 6:9-13 as a guide.•After prayer, have someone read the • For the Next Group Meeting section aloud. Be sure to tell them to bring their “rebellion” envelopes, and if they didn’t do the assignment for this week, ask them to do it for next week.

Prophetic writings are often misunderstood. While the prophets sometimes predicted events in the future, more often than not, they spoke to the current condition of God’s people. Jeremiah was a prophet who lived around 600 BC. He saw the terrible decline Judah (the southern kingdom) had experienced and warned them of God’s judgment. In this passage, he condemns their worship of idols three times (vv. 5, 8, 11). Idolatry is simply worshiping or trusting in something other than God. In our culture, this can be money, a job or career, a relationship, or, oftentimes, ourselves.

The imagery of “broken cisterns” is powerful. Cisterns were artificial reservoirs hewn out of rock that stored precious water. Plaster was applied to the bottoms and sides of cisterns so that water did not leak out. When rainfall slowed or natural springs dried up, cisterns were essential. Most cities, like Jerusalem, had public cisterns, but sometimes, private individuals dug their own cisterns so as not to be dependent upon others. Jeremiah suggested that the people’s rebellion was twofold: they had turned away from the one everlasting source of life (God), and they had placed their confidence in other “cisterns.” The problem was that these other cisterns were broken. Turning away from God never pays off. The consequences are fatal, and only when we realize that our own cisterns are broken can we return to God.

This Tension in the Story is important because of all the misconceptions about God in the Old Testament. After discussing this topic, use the third question to begin setting up the theme for Chapter Eight. Can we approach God with our sin? What will he do to us? What will he do for us? Why are we scared of him? These questions are powerful, no matter where you are in your spiritual journey.

Films often play a significant role in helping us confront important issues. Two films in particular are recommended for Chapter Eight on p. 100 of the Conversation Guide: MOST (an academy-award nominated short film) and The Passion of the Christ. You may suggest these as good additional resources for next week’s discussion (though prepare group members ahead of time regarding the heavy content). Both films, in their own unique ways, portray the heart of Christ’s sacrifice on the cross. These films can serve as great conversation starters, especially outside of the group meeting, for those who are struggling with understanding the depth of Christ’s sacrifice.

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Chapter Eight: Grace

Special Preparations Before This Group MeetingPray for this week’s group meeting, that each person, Christian or non-Christian, would •embrace the gospel message and be transformed. In a sense, this is the culmination of both the biblical story and the Starting Point experience.While the Conversation Guide and sermon message explain the purpose of Christ’s death, •they do not provide many details regarding Jesus’ humanity, divinity, sinlessness, and resurrection. Therefore, be prepared for questions that might arise around these issues.Call your group members.•

Getting Started (about 10 minutes)Begin with one member sharing his or her life story.•

The Story Unfolds (about 15 minutes)Transition to a discussion of both questions on p. 94. •

The Story Behind the Story (about 20 minutes)Discuss all three questions on p. 96. You won’t have time to read the entire narrative, but go •back and read particular verses as they come up in the discussion.

Storyline for Chapter Eight: GraceOur rebellion warrants full condemnation, but in his grace, God offers to pay the penalty •himself.When we express faith in Jesus’ death and resurrection, our relationship with God is •restored.

If group members still don’t feel a need for God’s forgiveness, perhaps it would be helpful to quickly review the themes of Brokenness and Rebellion. You might ask questions such as:

Do you feel as though you have rebelled against God in your own way and are broken?•Do you feel as though you need God’s forgiveness? Why or why not?•Regarding his sin with Bathsheba, David confessed to God: “Against you, you only, have I sinned •and done what is evil in your sight” (Psalm 51:4). Maybe ask: How are our sins against other people, at their core, sins against God himself?

Unfortunately, Matthew 27:1–28:20 is too long to read aloud in the group. However, be prepared to address specific questions that may arise from the passage. Consult a good commentary before the group meeting (recommendations are online). Remember to seek input and cultivate discussion when questions are asked. Don’t simply answer questions; rather, turn them back to the group for discussion. When you discuss the third question on p. 96, you might refer to Paul’s words in 1 Corinthians 15:14,17.

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Tensions in the Story (about 20 minutes)Discuss the first question on p. 99.•

Discuss the second and third questions on p. 99. Engage everyone, from the hesitant seeker •who may be ready to be challenged to respond to the believer who is reexamining the need for Calvary. Refer to the audio message by asking: Do you think Christ’s death and resurrection reflect •God’s grace, mercy, and justice?

Wrapping Up (about 10 minutes)

Review the • Storyline section. Read it aloud and ask if there are questions or comments.End the group meeting with a poignant exercise. •

Close in prayer. Thank God for his forgiveness of our sins.•After prayer, have someone read the • For the Next Group Meeting section aloud. Also, provide some explanation about the exercise: that group members are not expected to hear God’s “voice” audibly, but to simply seek his guidance and direction and exhibit a posture of listening and receptivity to the Spirit’s gentle nudging.

The exclusivity of Christ is a very difficult concept. Those who struggle with it often ask, “What about the innocent native in Africa who has never heard of Christ?” Yes, there is a time to discuss that issue, and yes, the Bible isn’t always clear. Perhaps the “innocent native” has never heard of Christ, but he or she is still a broken person and in desperate need of the hope and transformation only a savior can provide. For more background, consult the online article about this specific question.

Oftentimes, raising these types of questions is a way of turning attention toward other people and away from us. Therefore, emphasize two points as the group discusses this issue: (1) the difference between Christianity and other religions (grace), and (2) the choice that each one of us faces regarding Christ. At the end of the day, some group members may not be ready to accept that salvation is only found through Christ. That’s okay. Don’t force the issue or feel like people must resolve it before moving forward. It often takes time (a lot more than ten weeks) for seekers to work out their questions and concerns.

Instruct members to take out their “rebellion” lists/envelopes from the previous week. Read Romans 3:23-24 aloud. It says that “all have sinned” but “all are justified freely by his grace through the redemption that came by Christ Jesus.” Suggest that to be “justified” simply means to have a right relationship with God, and that by accepting Christ’s payment for our sins, our sins are forgiven, and we can begin to experience a new and intimate relationship with God. Ask the question of everyone: Is there anything keeping you from fully accepting Christ’s grace? Don’t manipulate group members into “praying the prayer” before they are ready, but feel free to challenge those group members who are looking for answers to consider responding to God’s gracious invitation. Suggest that by doing so, our “rebellion” lists can be ripped up, thrown away, burned, nailed to a piece of wood, or crossed out with a permanent marker to signify what God has done (doing any of these symbolic actions as a group can be powerful). It may be most appropriate to follow up with specific group members after the meeting in a more personal setting where you can explore this issue more fully.

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Chapter Nine: Spirit

Special Preparations Before This Group MeetingPray for the Holy Spirit to transform group members’ lives. Use Ephesians 1:15-22 in your •prayer time.Discuss with your co-leader(s) ways to encourage each member to “take the next step” after •the group ends. Contact your group members over the phone. Ask seekers about their responses to the last •group meeting. Also, ask all group members about their plans for getting involved in long-term community after your group ends. Inform them about events, environments, or small groups at your church that are beginning soon. Help them take the next step. Don’t wait until after the last group meeting.

Getting Started (about 15 minutes)Begin with one or two members sharing their life stories.

The Story Unfolds (about 20 minutes)Discuss both questions on p. 106.•Discuss the “assignment” that challenged everyone to dedicate 15-30 minutes one day •listening for the voice of the Holy Spirit. Ask them: Was it easy or difficult? What did you learn?If you have time, refer to the audio message by asking: Did you find the distinction •between living under the “law” and living by the guidance of the Holy Spirit helpful?

Storyline for Chapter Nine: SpiritWe can grow in intimacy with God through keeping in step with his Spirit.•God has given us the Holy Spirit to guide, correct, comfort, and encourage us.•

There may be questions about the Trinity. Consult online resources for guidance. However, don’t feel the need to offer a comprehensive explanation. We just cannot fathom the nature of God’s existence with our finite minds. As the audio message communicates, Jesus did not think we needed a full explanation; therefore, we would be wise to follow his lead.

The Holy Spirit is the most mysterious person of the Trinity. The Hebrew and Greek words for “spirit” can also mean “breath” or “wind.” This paints a picture of the Holy Spirit as a life-giving presence that is rarely seen, but always near. Philip Yancey notes that “to reach for the Spirit is like hunting for your eyeglasses while wearing them.” The Holy Spirit makes God the Father personal and accessible to us by uniting us to Christ and applying the redemptive work of the cross to our lives. While there are many specific roles of the Holy Spirit, focus primarily on guidance.

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The Story Behind the Story (about 15 minutes)Turn to John 14:15-17 (provide page numbers) and invite someone to read it aloud.•Discuss the second and third questions on p. 108.•

Tensions in the Story (about 25 minutes)Discuss the second and third questions on p. 111.•

Wrapping Up (about 5 minutes)Review the • Storyline section. Read it aloud and ask if there are questions or comments.Close in prayer. Suggest that in addition to praying for the needs previously mentioned, •you also want to thank God for what he has done in their lives. Ask members to share one thing for which they are thankful to God. Close in prayer by thanking God for those specific things and praying for direction for members in their personal lives. After prayer, have someone read the • For the Next Group Meeting section aloud.Also, this is a good time to talk about next steps for group members after Starting Point.•

Be sure to leave a significant amount of time for this discussion. Sometimes people struggle with the truth of the Bible. There are philosophical, intellectual, or emotional barriers that need to be worked through. But quite often, group members are more concerned with the ramifications of a biblical worldview. They want to know if following Christ will change their lives for the better. They may ask: Will it affect my decisions? Will it change the direction of my life? Will my faith grow? How will I know what to do and what not to do?

This Tension in the Story deals with the important issue of knowing God’s will. Note that there are no secret formulas or easy answers. However, the Conversation Guide has provided five specific “catalysts” that the Holy Spirit uses to reveal his will and grow our faith. These five things are not listed anywhere in the Bible. Rather, the list emerged by observing how God works in the lives of believers and even seekers. Virtually every time someone shares his or her journey of faith, at least one of these five dynamics is a part of the story. Be sure to spend some time discussing these catalysts:

Practical teaching• :: receiving instruction for how God’s Word applies to everyday life. Providential relationships• :: interaction with specific people whom God has placed in our lives.Private disciplines• :: intentional practices for seeking intimacy with God.Pivotal circumstances• :: intense life events ordained by God to direct our paths.Personal ministry• :: discovering your unique gifts and fulfilling your role in serving others.

Help group members see how the Holy Spirit has and could use these catalysts in their lives.

The title of “Counselor” is related to the NIV translation of John 14:16, 26. The Greek word John used here for the Holy Spirit is parakletos and has been translated as “counselor,” “advocate,” “comforter,” or “helper.” This term carries the sense of “one called alongside” and draws attention to the role of the Holy Spirit in our lives. He is always present to help, encourage, prompt, guide, and oftentimes, convict. It might help to read Psalm 139:7-12 as a group. Is it really true that God’s Spirit is with us no matter where we go? If so, how would awareness of that reality change our thoughts, actions, and fears?

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Chapter Ten: Eternity

Special Preparations Before This Group MeetingPray for members to finish Starting Point well. Pray that this would truly be a starting •point and that God would begin a new chapter of transformation in their lives.Consider sending each of your group members a card. Encourage them. Celebrate the •ways you have seen them grow.Discuss with your co-leader(s) potential ways to celebrate your group’s journey and •congratulate members for their faithfulness. Be creative.If you feel like there are too many things to cover in this final week, you may consider •adding an eleventh week. Consult the suggestions on p. 8 of the Leader Notes.

Getting Started (about 15 minutes)Begin with one or two members sharing their life stories.•

The Story Unfolds (about 10 minutes)Discuss the first question on p. 118.•

The Story Behind the Story (about 15 minutes)Look up Revelation 21:1-5 (provide page numbers) and invite someone to read it aloud.•Discuss the second and third questions on p. 120.•

Storyline for Chapter Ten: EternityEach of our stories is part of a bigger story — God’s story.•In light of eternity, your task is to find your place in the story.•

Even though parts of the book of Revelation can be confusing, it’s important to have this discussion about our future hope. The Conversation Guide doesn’t address many issues related to end-times events: the return of Christ, the tribulation, or the millennial kingdom. While these matters are important, their details are not crucial to the Starting Point experience (not to mention that they are hotly debated). If questions arise, a few basic assertions could be made:

Jesus promised that he would return to the earth ( John 14:1-3).•We do not know when Jesus will return, so we should • always be ready (Luke 12:35-48).Ultimately, our final destination is with God on a new earth (Revelation 21:1-5).•

If group members ask other questions about the end times, affirm their curiosity. Nonetheless, aside from these assertions, it’s best to address ancillary end-times issues after the group meeting with the individuals who ask the questions. But don’t be afraid to discuss the passage in general. Focus the conversation on the picture it portrays of our ultimate destiny with God on a new earth.

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Tensions in the Story (about 20 minutes)Discuss all three questions on p. 123.•

Wrapping Up (about 20 minutes)Close with a sharing time. Utilize the “assignment” from p. 113. You might ask:•

How have you grown in your spiritual journey over the past ten weeks?�How have others in the group affected you?�

Celebrate your group’s journey and congratulate group members for their faithfulness.•Encourage group members to get involved in a small group. Provide tangible steps and •offer whatever resources are available. Talk about your own small group experience and what it is has meant to you personally.Close in prayer. Incorporate Philippians 1:6 and Jude 24-25.•Note: If you run out of time to do this last section adequately, schedule another meeting or •time of celebration with the group (perhaps over a meal) to do it justice.

Becoming a Christian isn’t just about going to heaven when we die. But we still need to know how the story ends. And to our surprise, the ending is just “Chapter One of the Great Story, which no one on earth has read: which goes on forever: in which every chapter is better than the one before” (C.S. Lewis, The Last Battle). How can this understanding of eternity shape our decisions today?

This final Tension in the Story may be the toughest emotionally, because the concepts of heaven and hell are introduced. Focus primarily on the potential richness of this life now and eternity in God’s presence. If the topic of hell arises, suggest three thoughts for discussion: We all have a sense of justice in our hearts. What kind of God would he be if he didn’t judge those who are evil? We all want to make our own choices. God is simply honoring the choices of those who don’t want a relationship with him. Everyone who wants to spend eternity with God can do so. By surrendering our wills to him and accepting the grace given to us through Jesus Christ, we can live in the presence of our Creator forever. There is one prayer that God always answers in the affirmative: “Here I am, Lord; save me” (Romans 10:13). (Also, remember that descriptions of hell in the Bible are often metaphorical, so we should be careful not to characterize it in any way other than separation from God. Consult online resources for more information.)

Make sure you discuss the final question on p. 123. Recognizing that our exploration of faith never ends, this may be the most important question to ask the group. Refer to the audio message as a summary of the story your group has been exploring. Does the story make more sense now? Are you finding your place in the story?

As a leader, set the tone by sharing first. Be sure to include ways that your faith has been challenged, ignited, or stretched. You might thank members of the group for specific ways they have encouraged you. Remember to model using as few words as possible so as to maximize their impact and allow plenty of time for others to share. Have a co-leader close the sharing time.

Also, it may be good to plan a social gathering after the group has finished. This is a great way to celebrate the entire Starting Point experience. Some of your group members may suggest that they want to keep meeting. While this seems like a good idea at first, it’s usually much better to challenge them to get involved in other long-term small groups at your church or organization. Do whatever you can to help them take this next step (as intimidating as it may seem).

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Epilogue

After Your Group EndsPray for your group members regularly.•After about one week, meet face-to-face with your co-leader(s), assess the group •experience, and evaluate each other. Give honest feedback about leadership style. Encourage one another regarding strengths and give practical suggestions for areas where improvement can be made. This meeting is vital for your growth as a leader and for working on areas of weakness for the next time you lead a group.After about two weeks, call your group members. Ask for prayer requests and encourage •them in their relationship with God. Help them find long-term community if they have not already done so.You might consider having a “reunion” several weeks after your group ends. This is a great •way to stay in touch with group members and help them along in their journeys.Celebrate God’s faithfulness!•

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