leadership & emotional intelligence: two sides of the same coin
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Presentation about Leadership and Emotional Intelligence made in Phoenix, AZ in October 2014 at PMI (Project Management Institute) North America LIM (Leadership Institute Meeting).TRANSCRIPT
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Leadership & Emotional Intelligence: Two
Sides of the Same Coin
Ivo M. Michalick Vasconcelos, MSc, PMP®, PMI-SP®
October 23, 2014
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" Anybody can become angry - that is easy. But to be angry with the right person and to the right degree and at the right time and for the right purpose, and in the right way - that is not within everybody's power and is
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everybody's power and is not easy.“ (Aristotle)
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Agenda
• Introduction
• Leadership
• Leadership – Tools and Techniques
• Emotional Intelligence
Presentation Title
• Emotional Intelligence
• Emotional Intelligence – Tools and Techniques
• Let´s practice a bit?
• Final Thoughts
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• Projects are undertaken by people, so when a projectgoes wrong guilt always falls on someone and not onsomething...
• That is a truth verified throughout the history ofmodern project management and that most of us have witnessed at some point in our projects!
People and projects
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have witnessed at some point in our projects!
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• According to the PMBOK Guide®, effective projectmanagement requires that the project manager possesses the following competencies:
– Knowledge about project management.
Competencies of The Project Manager
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– Performance: what he can do or accomplish withthat knowledge.
– Personal: related to behavior, attitudes andpersonal features used to conduct the project.
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• The PMBOK Guide® lists in its Appendix X3 thefollowing interpersonal skills as important to projectManagers:
Interpersonal Skills of a Project Manager
• Leadership• Team Building
• Motivation
• Political and Cultural Awareness
• Negotiation
• Trust building
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• Motivation
• Communication
• Influencing
• Decision Making
• Trust building
• Conflict management
• Coaching
• Reflect about how good you are on each of these!
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Leadership
“If your actions inspire others to dream more, learn more, do more and become more, you are a leader.” (John Quincy Adams)
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And to you, what exactly is leadership?
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Situational Leadership (Hersey and Blanchard)
• You, the team and the task at hand!
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Situational Leadership (Hersey and Blanchard)
“Effective leaders need to be flexible, and mustadapt themselves according to thesituation.” (Paul Hersey and Kenneth
Blanchard)Blanchard)
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Followers and Leaders
• Not everyone can be a leader all the time.
• All of us have to follow someone at some point in time.
• I believe followers are underrated!
• Here we have a relationship that demands one keyelement to work:
TRUST!
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Characteristics of a Good Leader
� Understands and handles team diversity.
� Knows himself (The Good and The Bad).
� Knows his team, putting the right person at the right position.
� Promotes a healthy environment that enables team motivation.
� Gets things done!
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Leadership: born or learned?
• Many leaders show up when least expected!
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San Jose, Chile, Oct 2010 – Mario Sepúlveda Espinace (left) and Sebastián Piñera (right)
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Leadership: born or learned?
• If we can improve our leadership skills at any point in our
lives, what is the best way to do that?
Learn & Practice!Learn & Practice!
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Leadership – Tools & Techniques
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– To other people, we are
what they perceive, not
what we believe we are.
– The best way to improve
ourselves and find our
“blind spots” is to seek
Feedback
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“blind spots” is to seek
feedback from those close
to us, specially our team.
– This is a two-way lane, we
must seek AND give
feedback.
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1. Ask for it, no strings attached.
2. Keep it confidential.
3. Seek it from more than one source.
Getting Feedback
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4. Focus on those who know you best.
5. Be humble and let your guard down.
6. ALWAYS say “Thank you”!
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Getting Feedback
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“The unexamined life is not worth living.”
(Socrates)
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1. Be private.
2. Be compassionate and gentle, but direct.
3. “Facts, please!”
Giving Feedback
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4. Always look forward (“feedforward”).
5. Only give feedback to people you really know.
6. Give regular feedback to your team, individually.
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• Power is neither good or bad, it is all a matter of whatyou do with it!
• Power is:
– Unstable;
Power
– Unstable;
– Dependent upon perception and will (ours andfrom others).
• Without some sort of power it is almost impossible to lead someone!
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Personal Power
• Motivation
• Will
• Information
• Trust
Power: Personal x External
External Power
• Authority
• Size
• Force
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Both are useful and unstable, but only personal power follows you!
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• Trust is a must for any leader.
• So, in order to be trusted:
Tell the truth all the time, to everyone.
Personal Power: Trust
• Align your words with your actions.
• Don´t make promises you know you can´t keep.
• Do what you said you will do.
• And remember: trust is hard to get, but easy to lose...
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Self Management
1. Know yourself.
2. Love yourself.
3. Be nice and gentle to yourself.
4. Be current on your professional and technical affairs.
5. Learn from others and from your mistakes.
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5. Learn from others and from your mistakes.
6. Take good care of your body and mind.
7. Be coherent with your values (“Walk The Talk”).
8. Think big, after all...
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Self Management
“Life is too short to be little.
Man is never so manly as
when he feels deeply,
acts boldly, and
expresses himself with
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expresses himself with
frankness and with
fervor.” (Benjamin
Disraeli, former British
Prime Minister in the 19th
Century)
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Emotional
Intelligence
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• Emotional Intelligence as a concept was developed
by Peter Salovey and John Mayer, who defined it as:
“The ability to perceive emotions, to access and
generate emotions so as to assist thought, to
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generate emotions so as to assist thought, to
understand emotions and emotional knowledge, and
to reflectively regulate emotions so as to promote
emotional and intellectual growth.“ ( Mayer & Salovey,
1997)
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• It was made popular by Daniel Goleman in “Emotional
Intelligence: Why It Can Matter More Than IQ”,
originally published in 1995, one of many books he would
publish around the subject.
Emotional Intelligence
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• Goleman coined the expression EQ to represent it
(as opposed to IQ), and defined its five “domains”
as:
1. Self-Awareness: Knowing your emotions.
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2. Self-Regulation: Managing your own emotions.
3. Motivation: Motivating yourself.
4. Empathy: Recognizing and understanding other
people's emotions.
5. Social Skills: Managing relationships.
Self
Social
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• A few years later Goleman reviewed such domains as:
Emotional Intelligence
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• Many authors beyond Goleman state that there is a
stronger correlation between success and EQ than
between success and IQ.
• Anthony Mersino, in his excellent book “Emotional
Intelligence for Project Managers: The People Skills
You Need to Achieve Outstanding Results”, states that
Emotional Intelligence
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You Need to Achieve Outstanding Results”, states that
he became a much better person and project manager
after he worked on improving his EQ.
• That´s good news, right? It seems that EQ, just like
leadership, can be improved through learning and
practicing!
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Emotional Intelligence
Tools & Techniques
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Johari Window
Known by
Known by
myself
Unknown by
myself
Open Area Blind Area
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:myself
: the other
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the other
Unknown by
the other
Open Area
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• Our goal when interacting with other people should be to enlarge ourOpen Area, reducing our Blind and Hidden Areas.
• The larger our Open Area, the better we can interact with other people.
• And how can we do that?
Johari Window
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– In order to enlarge your open area by reducing yourblind area, practice active listening:
� Demonstrate interest by looking at the other person.
� Nod from time to time.
� Do not interrupt the other person!
� Ask open-ended questions.
Active Listening
� Ask open-ended questions.
� From time to time summarize what you are understanding and ask for confirmation.
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– If you are listening as part of a discussion, ALWAYS admit to yourself the possibility of beingwrong.
– Many times what we see as a dialogue is actuallytwo concurrent and competing monologues!
Active Listening
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• Leaders must always keep an open communication channelto their teams, and try to work physically close to themwhenever possible.
• If you work close to your team you can observe them andlearn a lot.
Dialogue and observation
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• Watch out for non-verbal cues!
• When talking to a member of your team, practice activelistening and ALWAYS remember that this is a human beinglike you! (“I-Thou” instead of “I-It”).
Dialogue and observation
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• Our relationships with other people are key to a happy life!
• Treat others as you would like to be treated (Golden Rule).
Dialogue and observation: “I-Thou” instead of “I-It”
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Martin Buber, author of “I and Thou”
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Let´s practice a bit?
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• We will work in pairs, please join a colleague nearby,
preferably someone you don´t know.
• (3 to 5 minutes) Each pair will work on expandig their open
area through dialogue and active listening, from three to five
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minutes.
• As a goal, try to find at least:
1. One interesting or extraordinary thing about your colleague.
2. One thing you two have in common.
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• What have you learned from this exercise?
• Life teaches us early that we are gregarious animals, and
depend upon each other to accomplish our projects.
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• So, try to make a habit out of showing genuine interest for
other people, it pays off, trust me,as a “reformed nerd” I´ve
learned that the hard way!
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Final Thoughts
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• Do you remember the title of this talk? Do you agree with it?
• Can you see now the strong relationship between Leadership and Emotional Intelligence?
• Are you willing to lead yourself? If so, how?
Final Thoughts
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• Of all the tools and techniques presented here, which one do you believe can be most useful to youright now?
• >>> And ALWAYS remember�
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”I am the master of my fate, I am the captain of my soul.”
Final Thoughts
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soul.”
(from “Invictus”, a poemby William Ernest Henley)
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Ivo M. Michalick Vasconcelos, MSc, PMP®, PMI-SP®
Shadow Mentor for Region 13 – Brazil
LinkedIn: http://www.linkedin.com/in/ivomichalick
Thank you!
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Twitter: @ivomichalick
Skype: ivomichalick
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