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Lifeskills Program for Adolescents

WelcomeWelcome

Drinking, Drugsand Sex

Organisedand Supported by

“On Track” Community Health Project

Mallee Track Health & Community Service

Presented by

Bernard DennerSpecial Projects Manager

MTH&CS


What WE are looking at today

• A bit about me

• Drinking

• Sex / Lust / Choice


Who am I?

Bernard DennerHealth Educator /Projects Manager

Bloke 52 yearsDivorced 12 yearsDaughters - 15 and 17 years

Vietnam Veteran 3RAR…Infantry


My work since 1994 focuses on providing Programs that address issues associated with:

Men

Adolescents

Workplace Health

Women Understanding Men

and Farmsafety in Primary Schools


mannet.com.auAverages monthly:

80 to 90,000+ hits

5,250+ sessions

40% interest from North America

Rated in Top 15% of 1.7M www domains

“Who said men weren’t interested

in their health”


Australian Mortality Rates National - 1999

15-24 years

Cause of Death Males Females %Rate

Suicide 398 71 435%

Cancer 95 47 202%

Leukemia 35 11 318%

Transport Accident 407 116 350%

Drugs 68 27 251%

Source: Causes of Death, ABS, 1999


Australian Mortality Rates Loddon Mallee Health Region - 1994

Cause of Death Males Females %Rate

Suicide 25 7 357%

Cancer 309 230 134%

Heart Disease 122 49 248%

Source: DHS, Measures of Health Status and Health Services in Victoria, 1994


Drinking

If you choose to drink you should consider the following pieces of advice


•Be clear about why you are drinking

•Be responsible for yourself and others

•Don’t take risks with yourself or others

•Drink in a safe place


•Take a limited amount of alcohol with you

•Low alcohol beer is cheaper and tends to make you feel full before you are drunk

•Pour your own drinks / open your own bottles


•Finish your glass first, don’t “top” it up

•Arrange for safe transport home

•Make a safety pact with a friend before drinking

•Alternate alcoholic and non-alcoholic drinks and avoid salty snacks


•Finish the night by drinking water - it won’t make you sober, but you will feel better in the morning

•Never drink and drive, climb or swim

Source: Rob and Kerry Grant


Unsafe DrinkingCould lead to:

•Unsafe sexual behaviour

•Aggression / Fighting

•Targetting / Harrassing Girls

•Drugs


•Stronger Drinks

•Risky behaviour such as:

unsafe swimming

unsafe driving

•Hospitalisation through injury from risky behaviour or alcoholic poisoning

Source: Bernard J. Denner


Drugs

If you choose to take drugs you should consider the following pieces of advice


•Be clear about why you are taking drugs

•Be responsible for yourself and others

•Don’t take risks with yourself or others

•Take drugs in a safe place


•Don’t mix drugs and alcohol

•Don’t buy drugs from an unknown source

•Don’t experiment, by yourself

•Never mix drugs


•Arrange for safe transport home

•Make a safety pact with a friend before taking drugs

Best Advice

DON’T TAKE DRUGS


Ask yourself Why?

Do I need to?

Being cool, could KILL you

Source: Bernard Denner


Unsafe Drug TakingCould lead to:

•Death

•Incapacitation for Life

•Jail

•HIV and Hepatitis C


•Stronger Drugs

•Risky behaviour such as:

unsafe swimming

unsafe driving

•Hospitalisation through injury from risky behaviour



Ask yourself

Is it worth it?

Get High on Life, not on Drugs


What is Sex?Male or Female

Communication between couples

Pleasure between couples

Demonstration of Feelings/Affection

Provides Intimacy

Making Babies or Just for FUN


So Why do

Adolescents

have Sex?


Why Girls and Boys Experienced Activities

46%

41%

6%3% 3%

1%

46%

40%

6%4%

1%3%

0%

10%

20%

30%

40%

50%

Fun Find Out Peer Pressure "It's Illegal" Forced Show Off

% o

f re

spo

nse

s

Girls

Boys


WHY NOT?

Reason Boys Girls% of Responses % of Responses

Not ready / interested 36% 35%

“It’s Illegal” 28% 11%

Safer 19% 39%

Parents 17% 15%


Year 10 Boys and Girls Experiences

87%

69%

40%33%

19% 18%

87%80%

52%

31% 29%24%

0%

20%

40%

60%

80%

100%

% o

f Yes

resp

onse

s

Boys

Girls


Would you practice safe sex?

98%94%

2%6%

0%

20%

40%

60%

80%

100%

Boys Girls

% o

f res

pons

es

Yes

No


Reasons For Not Practicing Safe Sex

0%

10%

20%

30%

40%

50%

60%

70%

80%

Affected bydrink / drugs

Forgot acondom

Pressure not to Think it’s betterw ithout acondom

Other

% o

f R

esp

on

ses

Girls

Boys


Do you need someone to talk to?

23%

88%

77%

12%

0%

20%

40%

60%

80%

100%

Boys Girls

% o

f res

pons

esYes

No


Who would you like to speak to?

43%

20%

16%

8%

1%

5%7%

51%

17% 17%

7%5%

3%1%

0%

10%

20%

30%

40%

50%

60%

Your friends Your parent(s) Someoneelse

Studentcounsellor

Communityworker

Doctor (GP ) Your teacher

% o

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spon

ses

Boys

Girls


What is Love?It is based on friendship, affection, mutual respect, admiration, thoughtfulness, sharing and caring

Involves good communication and listening


Does not involve any physical, emotional or sexual violence

Is not instant or perfect

Love at first sight is more likely to be lust at first sight

Source: Unzipped: Everything teenagers want to know about Love, Sex and Each other, B. Donaghy


What is Lust?Is a physical response that involves sexual arousal

It is being “turned on” sexually

Is a short-term emotion


Can get you into trouble (ie lust can make you do something you wouldn’t normally do, eg not using a condom)

LUST ...Is not always love

You can love and lust at the same time, but they are not the same thing



Do YOU have a

CHOICE?

YES or NO


The Choice is YOURS

3 A’s

Abstinence

Activity

All the Way


What is sexual activity?Masturbation …..?

Kissing, Pashing …..?

Feeling, touching someone else ….?

Mutual masturbation …..?

Oral sex …..?


Or

All the WAY

Anal intercourse …..?

Bonking, sexual intercourse …..?



Sexual Activity

Needs

Permission or Consent



Questions to ask ….

If you are thinking of having sex ...


Do I feel old enough and responsible enough to be doing this?

Am I doing this for me or for him / her?

Am I prepared to use a condom?


If something goes wrong and we become pregnant, am I prepared for that responsibility?

Am I just trying to prove something to myself or him / her?

How will I feel about him / her afterwards?


How will I feel about myself?

Has Sex - Solved the Problem?

Has Sex - made me Feel Better?



What is sex for?

There are several main answers to the question “what is sex for?” and many people feel that the ‘true’ answer is a combination of these:


•Sex is for the survival of the species (human beings).

•Sex is for making babies.

•Sex is part of partnership; it cements the relationship.

•Sex is showing feelings of love or affection between people.


•Sex is for pleasure.

•Sex is better between committed couples.

•Good Sex is more than just Bonking.


The Perils of Sex

Without Love

and

Unprotected Sex


•Unwanted Pregnancy

•Sexual Diseases

•Interrupted Study

•Alienation from friends

•Depression

•Being used


Always check the Use By Date on condoms to ensure that they are effective.

Use a lubricant to ensure condom doesn’t break.

The Pill does not always WORK

•Medication

•Drunk and Vomit


As a personYOU need to be

Healthy and Happy

THAT YOU FEEL GOOD

About Yourself

Most of the TIME


Why .....?• So that you don’t put

yourself at risk,

• or your relationships

at risk


Who’s A Winner

The person who does their best.

That they achieve their Personal Best.

THEY are a Winner.Source: Bernard Denner

Inspired by Simon Madden


Adolescence

is a

GOOD TIME

of Life

ENJOY IT

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