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C O N T R I B U T I N G W R I T E R S

E M O T I O N SCry BabyWhen it comes to crying, domen get a fair shake?

L O V EBachelors in BusinessThe Fab Five

22H I S T O R YBlack History ReflectionMeet some of the earlypioneers of Black Business.

26E N T E R TA I N M E N TBorn for the StageTasha Taylor is charting her owncourse in entertainment.

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5 EDITOR’S LETTER

20 THE LIPSTICK CHRONICLES

32 MANAGING ME

36 YEAH I DID

F E A T U R E S

30 SHINE ON SISTA!Illumination(andinspiration for thedaily grind)

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C O V E RBACHELORS IN BUSINESS(l-r) Leonard W. Underwood, Joffrey Smith, Michael Carter,

Kris Ludwig, andAlfonso Santaniello

ISSUE 5 FEBRUARY 2012

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ISSUE 5 FEBRUARY 2012

Lioness Magazine is the firstonline magazine geared towardfemale entrepreneurs. We deliversharp and compelling informationon a variety of topics that are rele-vant to female entrepreneurs andprofessionals. Our mission is toelevate, educate and supportfemale professionals.

We celebrate the unique challengesand achievements of women inbusiness. We believe women aremulti-dimensional creations whoflourish, personally and profes-sionally, when they take time tonurture their spirits.

Editor-in-ChiefNatasha Clark

Copy EditorJean Wroblewski

Art DirectorLeonardo Pilares

Director of PhotographyDenise Smith

ColumnistsCrystal Senter Brown

Brenda’s ChildErin Corriveau

Dawn LeaksKatelyn Gendron

Contributing WritersTony Gaskins, Jr.Lamara Hunter

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“Where are they?” My single girlfriends and I have shrugged over Happy Hour cocktails. “They” being awesome bachelors doing workthat inspires them, fulfills their dreams and makes the world a little sweeter to live in.

Well, HERE THEY ARE! This month Lioness is highlighting bachelors rising in their respective industries. From a clothing designer toa financial advisor, these men run the gamut in professions, interests and what they are looking for in a significant other.

Our feature cover bachelors were photographed in downtown Springfield, Massachusetts last fall. Jackson & Connor, a modern apparelstore for men, dressed the fab five and Denise Smith of Denise Smith Photography shot the quintet inside Monarch Place on Main Street,on the downtown city streets and on the steps of City Hall.

Many of these bachelors fall between Generation X and Y, both of which are less likely to stick to the traditional roles of men and womenin the workforce, like previous generations.

In the days of old, women entering the workforce seemed as if they were waging war on men’s territory. What they really wanted was thefreedom to do as they chose – whether that was dunking a basketball or running a fortune 500 company.

Dennis Cauchon reported back in 2009 in USA Today that women were on the verge of historically outnumbering men in the workforce,part of it is due to the current recession. “The gender transformation is especially remarkable in local government's 14.6 million-personworkforce. Cities, schools, water authorities and other local jurisdictions have cut 86,000 men from payrolls during the recession — whileadding 167,000 women, according to the Bureau of Labor Statistics.”

So here is to all of the men who are carving their niche in business and all the women who are keeping an eye on the lookout for them.We had loads of fun putting this issue together and we hope you enjoy it.

We also take a special moment to recognize those who have paved the way for African Americans in business. These brilliant entrepreneursand their inventions made waves and the ripples effects are still being felt today.

Happy Black History Month!

Natasha

editor’sTaking a detour to the world ofBachelors in Business

letter

Natasha Clark

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ALFONSO SANTANIELLO

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What do you do?For tCSA, I handle marketing initiativesfor several businesses. For TBC, I direct,produce, and edit all the web series, aswell as host two of the 15 web shows.

Why you do what you do?I am a creative person. I have ideascoming out of my mind left and right, dayand night. This is a great, positive outletto help grow businesses throughmarketing.

What is your motto in business?“Think. Plan. Grow.”

What is your motto in life?Have an idea? Run with it!

Favorite quote:“Obviously everyone wants to be suc-cessful, but I want to be looked back onas being very innovative, very trustedand ethical and ultimately making a bigdifference in the world.” - Sergey Brin

What are youpassionate about and why?I am passionate about helping people.It’s a natural knack I have. If someoneneeds something, and I have the capabil-ities to help them personally or profes-sionally, I will.

Favorite Pastime?Spend low-key quality time withfriends and family.

What other boards/committees/or activities are you involved inoutside of work?Director of Marketing & Board Member ofthe Agawam Small Business AssistanceCenter. Marketing Committee andMember of the Young Professionals ofGreater Springfield. OutreachCoordinator and member of ReferralPartners BNI Chapter. Volunteer forHuman Resources Unlimited.

Do you have a unique talent?If so, what is it?Sometimes, I can’t stop laughing.

The 3 adjectivesthat best describe you:Entrepreneur, Creative, Laughter.

What accomplishmentsare you most proud of?Starting my first business at age 24 andmy second at 26. I always wanted to ownmy own business, but to own two before30... I am happy where I am at.

The first thing you noticeabout a woman and why?Her eyes. The simplicity and beauty ofthem just get me. It’s like looking at whothe person really is.

What do you appreciatein a significant other?Honesty and trust. I am a very honestand trustworthy person, so I would onlyexpect that from my significant other.

What is a little knownfun fact about you?I’ve been to Italy 16 times.

AlfonsoSantaniello

City, State Agawam, MAHometown Agawam, MAOccupation CEO of Santaniello MediaGroup, Inc. (President of the CreativeStrategy Agency & The BusinewsChannel).

Company/Organization “Developinginnovative digital practices”. Our compa-nies are all about getting the word out foryourself or your business. tCSA offersstrategic marketing, web marketing,mobile marketing and marketing consult-ing. TBC is a business web channel air-ing original business web series in anentertainment format. “Where businessmeets entertainment”.

Title and/or specialty CEO

I am a first generation Italian-American.My parents were born and married in Italyand then moved to America. I am an iden-tical twin but we are very different. I havea younger brother who looks nothing likeus, but character wise is a mix betweenboth of us. I am all about my family andfriends. I am a low key, fun person...and Ilike to think I have a great sense ofhumor... that’s probably why you wouldsee me laughing 95% of the time.

ALFONSO SANTANIELLO

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MICHAEL CARTER

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What do you do?My primary role at Junior Achievement is toplan our largest fundraising events such asour Stock Investing Competition, Bowl-a-thon, Golf Tournament and 5K Race. Theseevents allow us to keep providing our stu-dents with programs that instill the principlesof financial literacy, entrepreneurship, andcareer readiness. I am also working hard ondeveloping a marketing strategy to make ournon-profit organization more visible to thecommunity.

Why you do what you do?I choose this occupation because of the pos-sibility of changing a young person’s life. It isespecially rewarding to work with inner cityyouth, who go to the schools I used toattend. Introducing these young people to theconcept of financial independence, becominga businessman or woman is extremelyrewarding. I wish I had this sort of educationwhen I was younger.

What is your motto in business? Our business motto is “empowering youngpeople to own their economic success.”

What is your motto in life?My motto is “Excellence and nothing less.”

Favorite quoteI arise in the morning torn between a desireto improve the world and a desire to enjoythe world. This makes it hard to plan the day.

What are youpassionate about and why?I am passionate about a lot of things. I thinkthe order has to go something like: God,Family, Education, Food and Music. The firsttwo are kind of obvious and shouldn’t needexplanation (hopefully). The last three mayneed some description. As a kid a hugeemphasis was placed on education, and nowthat I am older and have graduated from col-lege, I understand that my education hashelped me get where I am. I also understandthat it wasn’t for me only, but that it needs tobe spread with others. I LOVE FOOD! Wantto win me over? Make me a meal I cannotrefuse! Music is my life; I can’t get throughthe day without a song or six.

Favorite Pastime?My favorite pastime is somewhere betweeneating a great meal and performing on stage.

What other boards/committees/or activities are you involved inoutside of work?I am on the Advisory Board at TheSpringfield High School of Science andTechnology.

Do you have a unique talent?If so, what is it?I am capable of eating afamily out of a house and home! But I alsoplay the piano and sing.

The 3 adjectivesthat best describe youAmbitious, Humorous and Passionate.

What accomplishmentsare you most proud of?I am proud that I am the first member of myimmediate family to go to and complete a 4year college. That was a very definingmoment in my life.

The first thing you noticeabout a woman and why?I think that’s a toss up between her hair andher smile. There is nothing more captivatingthan a woman with a lovely smile, but whenher hair is equally attractive I’m beyondintrigued!

What do you appreciatein a significant other?I appreciate a beautiful woman who under-stands that the value of her self worth is notonly measured by her beauty; but also by herdrive, her passion, and her determination.ALSO, if she knows how to make fried chick-en and macaroni and cheese I’m sold!

What is a little knownfun fact about you?My birthday is on Halloween but I promiseI’m not a vampire. Also, I know I talk a lotabout food, but I promise I work out as muchas I eat.

MichaelCarter

City, State Springfield, MAHometown Springfield, MAOccupation Education/ FundraisingCompany/OrganizationJunior Achievement of Western Mass

Title and/or specialtySpecial Events and Marketing Manager

Well I am extremely laid back and some-what reserved, but once you get to knowme you’ll be doubled over laughing at mycorny jokes and outrageous comments. Ibelieve my purpose is to help make theworld better and I put my best foot for-ward in that regard. I stand for what Ibelieve in and do my best to stay true tomy values.

MICHAEL CARTER

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JOFFREY SMITH

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JoffreySmith

City, State Worcester, MAHometown Worcester, MAOccupation Financial AdvisorCompany/OrganizationJoffrey Smith Financial Group

Title and/or specialty President

I have been involved in doing some workas an actor over the years. I have beenin a number of movies and commercialsincluding five movies that I filmed in 2011alone. The most notable was a new AdamSandler movie that I worked on this pastsummer which should be out in June of2012 which I was in and also was theBaseball Technical Advisor to the film.

JOFFREY SMITH

What do you do?Work with individuals, families and businessesin the areas of insurance planning, retirementplanning, investments and employee benefits.

Why you do what you do?I have always enjoyed finance and helping peo-ple, so this allows me to do both while havingthe opportunity to run my own business.

What is your motto in business?Always operate with integrity and do the rightthing for clients all the time and you will build along term sustainable business.

What is your motto in life?I believe you have to have balance in lifebetween work and your personal life. I workhard but like to mix in some fun as well.

Favorite quoteThe secret of success for every person whohas ever been successful lies in the fact thatthey formed the habit of doing the things thatfailures aren't willing to do.

What are youpassionate about and why?I am passionate about my work, sports andimproving the community. I have always beena very motivated person and after starting myfinancial services career upon graduatingcollege I decided to get involved with politics. Ihave also been involved in numerous charityevents such as boxing to help raise over$100,000 for the Boys and Girls Club anddancing in a Salsa with Worcester Stars charityevent. I also helped organize and host theKaraoke for a Cure charity event to benefitcancer research.

Favorite Pastime?Playing baseball. I played Division 1 baseballin college and had several major leaguetry-outs.

What other boards/committees/oractivities are you involved inoutside of work?I founded my own charity event, the Joff SmithCelebrity Auction which raised over $50,000 in2 years for local charities. I was appointed byGovernor Patrick and Lt. Gov. Murray to theBoard of Trustees of the State Library of MA. I serve on the Board of WorcesterComprehensive Education and Care, Inc. I’m also on the Board of the Masonic AngelFoundation and the Hourglass Foundation.

Do you have a unique talent?If so, what is it?I am very athletic and have played sports mywhole life including being a three sport athletein high school and playing baseball in college.

The 3 adjectivesthat best describe youSelf motivated, Hard working, Smart.

What accomplishmentsare you most proud of?I was fortunate enough to become theyoungest person ever elected to the WorcesterCity Council at the age of 24. I served 3, two-year terms from January 2006 - January 2012.I enjoyed my time in politics and trying to makethe city a better place.

The first thingyou notice about a woman and why?I notice her overall physical appearance asattraction is very important when first meetingsomeone.

What do you appreciatein a significant other?I want someone that is good looking, intelligent,motivated, kind, fun loving, athletic with a greatpersonality. Is that too much to ask for?

What is a little knownfun fact about you?I still work out often and play in two baseballleagues and a basketball league.

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LEONARD W. UNDERWOOD

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Why you do what you do?In the field of education, I would like tothink that I am making a positive impactin the lives of inner city students. Inphotography, I am immortalizingspecial moments in time.

What is your motto in business?Unofficially, I like to say, Seize everyopportunity and do ordinary thingsextraordinarily well.

What is your motto in life?Work hard, play hard!

Favorite quoteOne of my favorite quotes comes fromthe bible, James 1:2&3 My brethren,count it all joy when you fall into varioustrials, knowing that the testing of yourfaith produces patience.

What are youpassionate about and why?I am passionate about mentoring stu-dents by instilling values, goals, princi-pals and exposing them to positiveopportunities. As Youth Director at St.John’s, one of the exciting aspects to myposition is engaging the youth to presti-gious colleges and universities, lettingthem know that they can do all things!

Favorite Pastime?Working out. Its like recreation to me.I’m actually a certified personalfitness trainer!

What other boards/committees/or activities are you involved inoutside of work?School Centered Decision Making Teamat Deberry Elementary School, YoungProfessionals Society of GreaterSpringfield, The Affiliated Chambers ofCommerce of Greater Springfield, TheBrianna Fund for Children with PhysicalDisabilities.

Do you have a unique talent?If so, what is it?I like walking on my hands. I havedreams of joining the circus one day.

The 3 adjectives that bestdescribe youMotivated, Focused and Upbeat.

What accomplishmentsare you most proud of?Being the first in my family to earn amaster’s degree (completed the programin 12 months at 22!) Being voted promking in high school (the underdog wason top!).

The first thing you noticeabout a woman and why?I think her teeth! Personal hygiene isquite important to me.

What do you appreciatein a significant other?I appreciate natural beauty, sense ofhumor, sense of style and her relation-ship with God.

LeonardW. Underwood

City, State Springfield, MAHometown Springfield, MAOccupation Youth Director at St.John’s Congregational Church,Professional Photographer of UnderwoodPhotography, Substitute Teacher in theSpringfield Public Schools

LEONARD W. UNDERWOOD

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KRIS LUDWIG

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What do you do?When I am in the studio I mostly try to focus onworking toward a series of paintings for exhibitalthough I do some commission work and illus-tration at times as well. At school, I teach thefundamentals of drawing and painting. I workto impart in my students the ability to ‘see’ likean artist at the same time as directing them inthe skills that allow them to effectively expresstheir ideas. The museum work involves a bit ofeverything that goes into putting a museumquality show together- matting, framing, hang-ing, carefully packing and unpacking work,designing displays just to name a few of theregular things. I am working on a project thatinvolves restoring many Victorian frames, whichis probably my favorite thing at the moment.

Why you do what you do?I started off my college career with the aim ofbecoming a computer programmer. It didn’ttake me too long to realize that this wouldnever be fulfilling to me. I was feeling moredrawn to the elective courses in the arts- some-thing that I had always been passionate aboutbut never really thought seriously about as faras an occupation. I jumped in, and have notregretted it for a moment.

What is your motto in business?I don’t really have a motto really- it’s hard tohave one in the arts and not be cheesy. If Icould steal the Boy Scouts motto ‘be prepared’in relation to working at the museum I thinkthat works.

What is your motto in life?Try something new at least once.

Favorite quoteI don’t really have a favorite quote of all time, itsort of changes depending on what I am think-ing about, reading, or working on. It's not whatyou look at that matters, it's what you see.–Thoreau

What are youpassionate about and why?I think it goes without saying that I am passion-ate about painting but also about promoting thearts, art education and appreciation. I believestrongly in the ability of the arts as a means tobetter understand ourselves, relate to eachother, and find something to appreciate aboutmost every aspect of life. This is why it shouldbe more important in education.

Favorite Pastime?Besides all the art related stuff, there is justnothing better than floating on a tube staring atthe summer sky.

What other boards/committees/or activities are you involvedin outside of work? When I’m not working, I try to do fun things thatget me outside. I’ve recently started skiing andhardly fall down as much as I used to. Cycling,kayaking, hiking, restoring a classic car andphotography are a few of the other thingsI enjoy.

Do you have a unique talent?If so, what is it?I do a pretty good impersonation of JimmyStewart, and my Sean Connery isn’t sobad either.

The 3 adjectivesthat best describe youFunny, Kind, Patient.

What accomplishmentsare you most proud of?Accomplishments that I am most proud of arefinishing my graduate degree, sticking with artdespite all the related challenges, and rebuild-ing my car’s engine and having it run

The first thing you noticeabout a woman and why?I notice a smile before anything else. I thinkyou can tell a lot about a person’s character,and what they really think about you.

What do you appreciatein a significant other?A good sense of humor can go a long way inenjoying any number of situations together. Ithelps make the good times even more enjoy-able, find pleasure in the mundane, and helpsyou put life’s struggles in perspective.

What is a little knownfun fact about you?I am a distant relative of King Ludwig II ofBavaria who built Neuschwanstein castle.

KrisLudwig

City, State Holyoke, MAHometown East Longmeadow, MAOccupation Fine Artist / Painter,Teacher, Exhibit PreparatorCompany/Organization I am selfemployed as a visual artist, SpringfieldCollege, and Springfield MuseumsAssociation respectively for thefollowing two.

Title and/or specialty As an artist Iguess you could say I am the owner/soleproprietor- I specialize in painting. AtSpringfield College I am an adjunct facul-ty member and at the SpringfieldMuseums I am the preparator for theMichele and Donald D’Amour Museum ofFine Arts and the George Walter VincentSmith Art Museum.

KRIS LUDWIG

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Why you do what you do?I always had an affinity for fashion and beingcreative, and it was a period of self-reflectionthat led me to discover my innate creativity andmy talent for fashion.

More importantly, it is a means to an end. Ihave nurtured a culture of giving in my life andeverything that I do. My profession affords methe opportunity to help those that are less fortu-nate, particularly underprivileged children.

What is your motto in business?Help others succeed.

What is your motto in life?Live, laugh, and love wholeheartedly.Always give willingly and with a sincere heartand expect nothing in return.

Favorite quoteToo many to name one. But if you can call it aquote, I would have to say all of Psalm 23.

What are youpassionate about and why?God. Finding God and accepting Christ as myLord and Saviour has been the most significantevent in my life to date. Through good or bad,when no one else is there, He is the one con-stant that guides my every thought, word anddeed. Mentoring, tutoring and helping under-privileged and/or disadvantaged children.Volunteering with such children and seeing theirplight has led me to discover and nurture astrong devotion to enriching the lives ofthese children.

The 3 adjectivesthat best describe youGiving, Caring, Passionate.

The first thing you noticeabout a woman?Her face. The way her facial features make upher own unique, distinct beauty.

What do you appreciatein a significant other?Spirituality is important to me, so I appreciatesomeone who nurtures the spirit. No one is per-fect, so essentially someone with a good bal-ance of mind, body and spirit.Mind = IntelligenceBody = Natural beautySpirit = A close relationship with the Most HighAmbitionHealthy lifestyleThe usual suspects – loving, caring, giving, nur-turing, honesty, trustworthiness.

City, State Port of Spain, Trinidadand TobagoHometown ValsaynOccupation Fashion design andmerchandisingCompany/OrganizationJessel Brizan Design Group Ltd.Caribbean Academy of Fashion and Design

Title and/or specialtyBusiness owner and educator

Jessel Brizan

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Why you do what you do?Since I was little I have always loved musicand the idea of creating a sound to call yourown. My passion for music and creating even-tually lead me into the field of audio production.

What is your motto in business?Eclectic Creativity.

What is your motto in life?Love what you do and do what you love.

Favorite quoteDo not go where the path may lead, go insteadwhere there is no path and leave a trail.- Ralph Waldo Emerson

What are youpassionate about and why?I’m passionate about the work I do, because Ibelieve passion breeds success.

The 3 adjectivesthat best describe youAmbitious, Creative and Unique.

The first thing you noticeabout a woman?Eyes.

What do you appreciatein a significant other?I appreciate willingness to explore and goodsense of humor.

City, State Windsor, CTHometown Newark, NJOccupation Audio EngineerCompany/OrganizationIron Bars Productions

Title and/or specialtyCo owner specializing in audio &video production

DJ ReLL

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Why you do what you do?I chose customer service because I love inter-acting with people and helping them out. I havea very outgoing personality that helps me torelate with clients on a personal level.

What is your motto in business?“Success is a journey, not a destination.”–Arthur Ashe

What is your motto in life?Live life to the fullest and stay true to yourself.

Favorite quote“I, not events, have the power to make mehappy or unhappy today. I can choose which itshall be. Yesterday is dead, tomorrow hasn'tarrived yet. I have just one day, today, and I'mgoing to be happy in it.” -Groucho Marx

What are youpassionate about and why?I am very passionate about art. Any aspect,whether its fine art, music, theater, etc. Beingable to use your creative license in a way thatcan move people is really inspiring andadmirable.

The 3 adjectivesthat best describe youFun-loving, Gregarious, Compassionate

The first thing you noticeabout a man?The way he carries himself and his eyes.

What do you appreciatein a significant other?I appreciate ambition. Someone that has thedrive to chase their goals and motivate othersaround them, while staying positive is uplifting.

Why you do what you do?I help in creating new Life Insurance andDisability Insurance products to benefit peoplelater on in life when the unfortunate happens.Knowing that these products will be there whensomeone needs them is comforting.

What is your motto in business?You have to work hard to get where you wantto go.

What is your motto in life?Pay it forward.

Favorite quoteThere are no shortcuts to any place worthgoing.

What are youpassionate about and why?Staying active whether it is through playingsports or working out. It’s a great way to stayhealthy and maintain a competitive edge.

The 3 adjectivesthat best describe youAthletic, Outgoing, Kind

The first thing you noticeabout a woman?Smile and demeanor.

What do you appreciatein a significant other?I really appreciate a willingness for spontaneity.I love random trips, whether they’re day tripsor weekend trips, or depending on schedules,even fitting in a week long vacation out ofthe blue.

City, State Granby, MAHometown Granby, MAOccupation Customer ServiceRepresentativeCompany/OrganizationMassMutual Financial Group

Title and/or specialtyAnnuity Service Center CSR

Scott Sheehan

City, State Chicopee, MAHometown Granby, MAOccupation ComplianceCompany/OrganizationMassMutual Financial Group

Title and/or specialtyCompliance Analyst

Nick Sheehan

NICK SHEEHAN

SCOTT SHEEHAN

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My Perfect Valentine’s DayBy Kristina Chapell

nce the Christmas holiday is overwe often see the Valentine’s decora-tions being put up in the stores,sometimes even before the holiday

even began. For years this signaled the time ofyear when I would stress about how I wouldspend my Valentine’s night but not anymore.Now I look back and think about some of thecrazy times I had while enjoying what I consider“my perfect Valentine’s.”It is safe to say I have never had a “hot date” onValentine’s. Over the years I have spent the nightwith my single girlfriends, dog-sitting, travelingto Florida for vacation, staying home, or goingout with my family. While I have never had adate on this “romantic” night, don’t cry for mejust yet; I have had some very memorableValentine’s.February 14, 2003 was the year my single girl-friends and I decided to be single in style. We

rented a limo, started out at a BYOB restaurantfor dinner and then went into downtownSpringfield for more fun. At stop number twodowntown I ran into someone I used to have acrush on (about 10 years ago when we werekids). He was out with his friends as he didn’thave a hot date either. I was really excited to see him again and heremembered me too. We chatted and chattedbut… all I remember is being left with thebiggest hangover known to mankind the nextday – like ‘couldn’t get off the couch all day’. Not even sure what happened that night myfriends had to fill in the blanks. Apparently I wasnervous and kept ordering drinks. I rememberbeing so frustrated with them because they letme keep drinking. Needless to say I never got hisnumber; which is probably a good thing. Oh, Ido remember buying some guy shots that night;turns out he was the owner of the bar. The year after, 2004, I decided to make less of afool of myself and agreed to dog-sit for a friend.

I spent the weekend at her house with herchocolate lab, Teddy. She loved teddy bears so hewas aptly named Ted E. Bear. After ordering inand opening a bottle of wine, Teddy and I spentthe night on the couch watching movies. In 2005 I decided to fly down to Florida tospend some time with my cousin. Having noValentine’s plans I decided to fly down that after-noon. Low and behold the weather had anotherplan as snow moved in, close to a foot. With noplans and no food in the house I suited up andtraipsed into the snow to my car and drove toFriendly’s for takeout. Nothing says Valentine’sDay like a burger and fries. Luckily, I was able to fly out the next day but theone contingent I was told was I would have a fivehour layover in Atlanta. A five hour layover for aweek of warmth – bring it! While in Atlanta Ispotted someone who looked like someone Iused to work with and low and behold it was.

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He noticed me too and came over. He was on alayover to head back to Springfield so we sat andtalked for close to two hours until his flight left.We parted ways with plans for dinner when I gotback and we kept those plans and continued togo out for one year. We realized though we werebetter as friends and remained friends for overfive years after that day. Today, at 31 I have realized my perfect day is onespent with those I love – family and friends. Myfavorite date I have decided is my dog, Max. Hedoes not buy me flowers – they die, he doesn’t

buy me chocolate – I get fat, but he does followme around and snuggles with me. I can curl upon the couch with a glass, or bottle, of wine andwatch a movie with the fire roaring and he issnuggled right next to me giving me the best giftof all – unconditional love. I can count on himto always be there by my side; the best part - heis excited to spend time with me. Growing up as a young female I felt all me andmy friends wanted was a card, chocolates, flow-ers, and a guy to take us out but I have come torealize it is a bit over-rated. No, I haven’t turned

cynical over the years, I just became smarter. Aholiday shouldn’t be the only time we “expect”or want these special things from someone wholoves us, we should want and get them all yearround. I am not opposed to having a date with a livehuman, preferably a single-male; on Valentine’sDay but if it doesn’t happen I am not going toget upset. There are 364 other days in the yearand I don’t want February 14th to be the onlyday I get dressed up to go out to dinner withsomeone I love.

KRISTINA CHAPELL is a single gal in her thirties making her way in the world.Passionate, savvy, and stylish; Kristina is a social relationship builder. You can often find heron Facebook and Twitter keeping up with the latest news and always supporting causes she ispassionate about such as the Alzheimer’s Association, Link to Libraries, andThe Businews Channel.

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My PerfectValentine’s Day

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By Anne Kreamer

SATURDAY, DECEMBER 18TH, 2010I'm no John Boehner fan. And I'm even less ofa Mitch McConnell fan. But as a person whochokes up at a movie or book or a news storymost days and full-on cried during Toy Story3, as tough as it is for me to admit it, I feel forboth of them right now.

Crying politicians are nothing new. RememberDemocratic Presidential candidate Ed Muskie,who lost the 1972 nomination after he tearedup during a press conference in NewHampshire while defending his wife? AndHillary Clinton, who also famously choked up,in 2008, also while campaigning for Presidentin the New Hampshire primary?

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big boys should cry

I understand the modern default assumptionthat a politician is using emotional displayscynically. (See Clinton, Bill.) And I understandwhy women, especially women who politicallyoppose the un-compassionate conservativesBoehner and McConnell, are tempted to revilethem for tearing up, which SenatorMcConnell did this week delivering a farewellspeech to his friend Judd Gregg (of NewHampshire -- again New Hampshire!)whileBoehner apparently gets weepy on a dailybasis. But I'm made uncomfortable that these apparently authentic emotional displaysby powerful men are fair game for ridicule.

Men completely controlled the workplacewhen women first went into the labor force insignificant numbers during the late 60s and70s, so we females believed that to be success-ful we had to "man up," and emulate theiremotional restraint. For forty years womenhave had to adhere to a poker-faced workplacepersona that denies essential aspects or ouremotional wiring. Nancy Pelosi said ofBoehner in The New York Times magazine,"You know what? He is known to cry. Hecries sometimes when we're having a debate on bills. If I cry, it's about the person-

al loss of a friend or something like that. Butwhen it comes to politics - no - I don't cry."But a hard outer shell of pseudo-invulnerabili-ty comes at a cost to both genders.

Women cry, on average, four times as often asmen - according to neurologist William Frey,an average of 5.3 times per month, comparedwith 1.4 times for men. And this isn't just afunction of cultural training - women generatefar more prolactin, the hormone responsiblefor milk production that also controls the neu-rotransmitter receptors in our tear glands, andwomen's tear ducts are anatomically differentfrom male tear ducts, resulting in a larger vol-ume of tears. In a 2009 survey I conductedwith J. Walter Thompson probing the natureof emotion in the workplace I discovered that*both* women and men divide themselves intotwo large camps: those 25% who cry regular-ly and those 75% who tend not to cry fre-quently. McConnell, Boehner and I are part ofthe 25% of us who are members of the "cryingtribe." We also discovered in our survey thatwhen we do tear up on the job, women can beour own worst enemies - a plurality of womenconsider people who cry at work "unstable,"whereas roughly that same fraction of men see

tears on the job as only "slightly unprofession-al." In other words, women see tears at workas some kind of moral/psychological failure,but men don't.

"We will stop here briefly to contemplate whatwould happen if she [Nancy Pelosi], or anyfemale lawmaker, broke into loud nose-run-ning sobs while discussing Iraq troop fundingor giving a TV interview," Gail Collins wrotein her December 16th New York Times Op-Edcolumn about Boehner. But instead of decry-ing (no pun intended) the operative genderdouble standard, and suggesting that the no-crying rule be enforced equally for male andfemale Speakers of the House, I think it wouldbe much better to allow McConnell's orBoehner's tearfulness to abolish the no-cry rulefor *both* genders. Women (and men) whoare belittling Boehner and McConnell for get-ting emotional are not helping humanity'slarger cause - that all people should feel com-fortable being as authentically themselves aspossible. We can continue to despise their pol-itics and cynical maneuvers but still grantthem their humanity.

ANNE KREAMER has been fortunate to be at the right places at the right times. In the late 70s shewas part of the team that turned Sesame Street into a global brand. A decade later she helped launchSPY magazine. In the 1990s, when her children were little she had the perfect job — WorldwideCreative Director for Nickelodeon and Nick at Nite. She created the monthly “American Treasures” col-umn for Martha Stewart Living. In 2007 she published her first book, Going Gray, What I LearnedAbout Beauty, Sex, Work, Motherhood, Authenticity And Everything Else That Matters, and wrote aYahoo blog, “Going Gray, Getting Real.” It’s Always Personal, a book exploring the new realities ofemotion in the workplace was published April, 2011. Anne lives in Brooklyn with her husband, KurtAndersen, the novelist and host of public radio’s Studio 360, and their two daughters, Kate and Lucy.

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Remembering …

A BlackHistory MonthReflection …

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Mary Church TerrellIn 1898, Mary Church Terrell wrote howAfrican-American women "with ambition andaspiration [are] handicapped on account of theirsex, but they are everywhere baffled and mockedon account of their race." She fought for equal-ity through social and educational reform. Bornon September 23, 1863, in Memphis,Tennessee, Terrell became an educator, politicalactivist, and the first president of the NationalAssociation of Colored Women. Terrell under-stood the value of education.

Susie Baker King TaylorSusie Baker King Taylor was the first AfricanAmerican to teach openly in a school for formerslaves in Georgia. As the author ofReminiscences of My Life in Camp with the33d United States Colored Troops, Late 1st S.C.Volunteers, she was the only African Americanwoman to publish a memoir of her wartimeexperiences. the daughter of slaves, was born inLiberty County on August 6, 1848.

Allensworth, CaliforniaAllensworth is the only California communityto be founded, financed and governed byAfrican-Americans. Created by AllenAllensworth in 1908, the town was built withthe intention of establishing a self-sufficient, all-black city where African-Americans could livetheir lives free of racial discrimination.

Famous AmosWally Amos was born on July 1, 1936, inTallahassee, Florida. He started in the mailroomof the William Morris Agency and in 1962became the first black talent agent in their his-tory. As an agent, he signed Simon andGarfunkel and headed the agency's rock 'n rolldepartment. In 1975 Amos opened the firstFamous Amos store. In 1998, Keebler pur-chased the brand, with Amos as the spokesper-son.

Paul CuffeePaul Cuffee an African-American, philanthro-pist, ship captain, and devout Quaker transport-ed 38 free African-Americans to Sierra Leone,Africa in 1815 in the hopes of establishingWestern Africa. He also founded the first inte-grated school in Massachusetts in 1797.

Garrett MorganWith only a fifth-grade education, GarrettMorgan (born March 4, 1877) began his careeras a sewing-machine mechanic. During theinnovative early days of manufacturing, Morganpatented a sewing machine and a hair-straight-ening process and automated traffic signals.

There have been remarkable individuals

who have left their stamp on

American History. This month, we take

a moment to highlight their

unforgettable contributions.

Remembering

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BLACK HISTORYMONTH SPOTLIGHT

he Board of Directors of the A PRandolph Pullman Porter Museum inChicago has elected David A.Peterson, Jr., as its president. He

replaces the Museum’s Founder and DirectorEmeritus, Dr. Lyn Hughes, who is steppingdown after 17 years at the helm.

The Museum, which is located at 10406 S.Maryland in Chicago’s Historic PullmanDistrict, was founded in 1995 and is dedicatedto promoting, honoring and celebrating thelegacy of A. Philip Randolph and contributionsmade by African-Americans to America's laborhistory. It is the only Museum of its kind world-wide.

The new president’s election and subsequentrise within the organization signals a change ofthe leadership guard as his ascension is beingbilled as a resolve to Preserve, Rebuild andMove Forward, with a fresh mindset. He isunder 30 years old so his youth, passion, back-ground and vision are symbolic of the qualitiesthe Museum needs to go forward with convic-tion and purpose.

Under Dr. Hughes’ leadership, the Museumgained acclaim as one of the leading institutionsfor preserving and celebrating the African-American contribution to the labor movement.Mr. Peterson is expected to build on Dr.Hughes’ success while taking the Museum tothe next level.

In handing over the leadership reins, Dr.Hughes pointed out that Peterson has beeninvolved in many facets of the museum since hewas a child. While in high school, he lived inthe historic north Pullman community, andoften volunteered at the Museum. While hewas in college during the summers, he workedat the Museum. Finally from 2008-2010 hetoured nationally for the museum with Amtrak,as the coordinator for the Museum's travelingexhibit. In that role, part of his job was to workwith union labor in the various cities setting upthe exhibit for display.

Peterson has already made significant strides insafeguarding the Museum’s future by cultivatingthe next generation as he established the youngadult division, MUSEUM 44, in honor of the44th President Barack Obama. This is in recog-nition of his conviction that attracting ayounger demographic is key to the survival andsustainability of the Museum. Peterson has alsobegun the rebuilding process with a completelynew multi-generational board of directors.Among the new directors is Alvis Martin, FieldDirector - Illinois AFL-CIO.

Explained Peterson, "Aside from being a cultur-al institution, we are also a part of rapidly-grow-ing multibillion dollar tourism industry. It isour desire to maximize tourism opportunitiesand attract new audiences.

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One of his first tasks is to preside over theMuseum’s 17th Anniversary ”Gentle WarriorAwards Banquet,” which takes place on Feb. 25at the Historic Marmon Grand 2230 S.Michigan Avenue at 6 p.m.

Peterson credits his mindset and approach to themuseum environment as being honed at DePaulUniversity's School of New Learning where he iscompleting his master's degree in AppliedProfessional Studies. His focus area is in facili-tating the design and development of smallbusiness and entrepreneurial endeavors, in theurban setting. He says this background andentrepreneurial perspective will be beneficial ingrowing the Museum.

Peterson, a Chicago native attended FloridaAgricultural & Mechanical University (FAMU)where he graduated with a BS in PoliticalScience concentrating in Urban Planning andEconomic Development.

The A. Philip Randolph Pullman PorterMuseum was founded in 1995 by Dr. LynHughes and is named after Asa Philip Randolphand Pullman Porters who made up the member-ship of the Brotherhood of Sleeping Car Porters(BSCP) union. Randolph was the chief organiz-er and founder of the BSCP, the first African-American labor union in the country to win acollective bargaining agreement. With the helpof Randolph, the Pullman Porters fought avaliant battle for employment equality with thecorporate giant, the Pullman Rail CarCompany. These pioneering efforts created thefirst bona fide union for the African Americanworker. This victorious struggle in America’searly labor movement was also the doorwaythrough which many civil rights gains weremade. The A. Philip Randolph Museum is local-ly recognized as a historic site and is a uniqueaddition to the tourism sites of the Pullmancommunity of Chicago, Illinois. The Museum isalso nationally recognized as a valuable andunique African-American museum.

Since its founding, thousands have visited theMuseum. Among the highlights of the culturalinstitution are exhibits, artifacts and originalporters memorabilia donated by descendants ofthe labor pioneers.

For more information on the Museum visitwww.aprpullmanportermuseum.org.

BHMS

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“Two are better than one, becausethey have a good return for their labor:

If either of them falls down, one can helpthe other up. But pity anyone who falls

and has no one to help them up.”

Ecclesiastes 4:9-10 NIV

shine on sista!

DODDSKeshawn

By Crystal Senter Brown

FATHER, HUSBAND, WRITER, KAPPA MAN,COMMUNITY ORGANIZER AND FRIEND

hen you’re an artist (writer,singer, etc.) it can be hard tofind someone who will col-laborate with you without

feeling threatened. It can also be hard to findsomeone who will “have your back” throughthick and thin. I believe in order to be success-ful as an artist, we have to form partnershipswith others and I feel blessed to have found awonderful artistic partner in Keshawn Dodds.He’s a writer, husband, father, communityorganizer, Kappa man and all around good guy.Keshawn and I have worked together over thepast few years to bring various arts-based com-munity programs to Springfield residents. Wehave collaborated to present several youth-focused literacy events and most recently we

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MANme and myManaging

By Brenda’s Child

If you are like most girls, you dreamt of having it all one day ... the career,husband, kids, house, car, and a social life. I most certainly did. Halfwaythrough my tenacious attempt to finish college after getting pregnant dur-ing my freshman year, things changed. I had my son August 1st, and wasback at school 4 weeks later. I also worked full time, cooked, cleaned, andtook care of my son’s father. Somewhere in between burning the midnightoil and changing diapers, I began to feel like having it all meant that some-thing had to be sacrificed. Then I came to the realization that what I wassacrificing was myself. Through some real soul searching, (and it know itsounds cliché) I found myself. Shortly thereafter, I found myself single.Once this happened, there was no turning back. I became even more deter-mined to get my degree and land a good paying job. It wasn’t long beforeI was in a position where I was able to work hard, and play hard. I dateddifferent types of men, but found myself unable and unwilling to givethem the commitment I had given in my first relationship. I could beexclusive, but not attentive. I had goals and dreams, but not time. It wasthen that I began to think that I was going to end up the lonely, cold careerwoman. I hypothesized that the reason I had my son so early in life wasbecause I would never meet the man of my dreams and get to have anymore children. It was a sacrifice I had to make and I was totally OK withmy revelation.

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Crystal Senter Brown has been a performance poet for most of her life. Born inMorristown, TN she has performed at thousands of events. Her song "Large and Lovely"was nominated for several music awards including the Billboard Music Song Award,Peacedriven Song Award, ASCAP Music Plus Award and the Urban Music Award. Visitwww.crystalsenterbrown.com

Shine On Sista!

presented the “So you want to get published?”workshops at AIC and the Mason SquareLibrary. We also traveled to the HarlemBookfair last summer to promote our bookstogether. Keshawn allowed me to sit at his tablefree of charge!

Keshawn has written six books, including thepopular Menzuo series, and his newest book is“Who’s on my side? The story of Kalen Brown.”“Who’s on my side?” tells the story of a youngman named Kalen who has been mentally andphysically abused by his alcoholic father,Michael Brown since he was a child. Now that

he’s eighteen years old, he’s filled with manymixed emotions. Luckily, Kalen is blessed withtwo best friends: Jesse and Sharee but Kalen isstill tired of having to deal with the abuse fromhis father. In a recent interview on WGGBKeshawn said he is amazed at the feedback hehas received from readers of the book. “Theyrelate to each one of the characters in the book.So it kind of makes me feel good that I cantouch on something that I’ve been around and Igrew up with. Hopefully something that peoplecan gravitate towards as well,” Keshawn said ina recent interview.I downloaded “Who’s on my side” for my Nook

a few months ago and I couldn’t put it down.The book reads like a movie and I was blownaway by the vivid descriptions of each characterand scene. And now Keshawn has added anoth-er dimension to the book, as “Who’s on myside? The Story of Kalen Brown” will be per-formed as a stageplay on May 12, 2012 atAmerican International College. Tickets areavailable athttp://www.keshawndodds.blogspot.com/. Buy “Who’s on my side?” athttp://www.lulu.com/product/paperback/whos-o n - m y - s i d e - t h e - s t o r y - o f - k a l e n -brown/18755037.

keshawn dodds

WOMEN PROVE THERE’S STRENGTH IN NUMBERS“These women come from all walks of life and different financialbackgrounds,” says founder Karen Dunigan of Jackson, MI. “Asindividuals we felt that it was difficult to make a very largeimpact, but as a group we have the ability to contribute to thegrowth of our community in ways that we never before thoughtpossible.”

Started in November of 2006, 100 + Women Who Care is a bril-liantly simple way to raise money efficiently and quickly for localcharities/non-profits/worthy causes. The group of 100 + women,at their first one-hour meeting, each wrote a check for $100directly to the charity, raising $10,000 to buy 300 new baby cribsfor an organization in their city. Since then, they have grown toover 200 members and chapters are forming all over the country.

Each member commit to donating $100 per meeting ($400 peryear). The donations are given to Detroit Metro charities/non-profit/worthy cause serving the Detroit area only. No nationalcharities are considered. The purpose is for the contribution tostay 100% in the community. Each charity/non-profit/worthycause that is under consideration will be given five minutes tomake a presentation at the meeting by a member of the 100+women who care, not by the charity/non-profit/worthy cause.Three charities/non-profit/worthy causes are presented at eachmeeting. The group then votes by ballot and majority rules.

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STAGEFORTHE

BORN

TASHA TAYLOR

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edigree will tell. In rhythm and soul,it’s bred in the bone. Tasha Taylor,the youngest daughter of pioneeringR&B artist, Johnnie Taylor is hav-

ing a breakout year with the release of her firstsolo CD, TAYLORMADE. And the magic willcontinue, when Tasha makes her Broadwaydebut, creating the role of Margie Hendrix in“Unchain My Heart,” the upcoming new musi-cal based on the life and music of Ray Charles.An entertainment triple threat, Tasha is a multi-talented musician, actor and performer. As amusician she is the complete package, anaccomplished singer, songwriter, musician andnow, producer of TAYLORMADE.

Early R&B artists like Johnnie persevered,though often confronted with financial inequal-ities and social indignities but the rich heritageof their music continues to dominate popularmusic today. One of Stax Records’ major artists,Johnnie Taylor, remained on the road for fourdecades, providing for his family, and keepinghis music alive.

Tasha began traveling with her family on tour asa child and was constantly surrounded by musiclegends. Johnnie, by example, instilled his con-cept of dedication and hard work in pursuit ofhis music career. He never pushed his childrento follow an artistic career…but that decisionwas taken out of his hands when early on Tashadecided to carry on his musical legacy.

“I just remember being on the side of the stage… A LOT!” remembers Tasha. “Watching dadwork shows with great artists … The Jackson 5,Natalie Cole, Sister Sledge, Johnnie GuitarWatson … and so many others over the years.”

Johnnie chose Dallas, Texas, Tasha’s childhoodhome, as home base because it was smack dab inthe path of his winter and summer tours. AndDallas provided the opportunity to spend sometime at home with his family, parking the tourbus in the back driveway. Dallas gave up every-thing it had to offer to an up and coming soul-stress, and subsequently Tasha moved to thenortheast, enrolling in the Theater Departmentat Boston University.

After semesters of polish and Shakespeareantraining, Tasha recommitted herself to followher father’s muse. Was Hollywood or New Yorkgoing to be her new home? A flip of a coin senther west. Within a relatively brief time, sheacquired on the job training, and the accou-trements of an entertainment career, coaches,agents, managers, producers, the gamut of serv-ices available to those who come to town withtalent. She has been busy as a featured guest onacclaimed network fare such as “House,” and“Ugly Betty,” and in indie films, “Dimples” andthe just released, “Heaven Ain’t Hard to Find.”As a composer, her original music has been fea-tured on “Men In Trees” and “Lipstick Jungle.”

Tasha adds, “My dad always told me that it wascalled show business for a reason. It’s 90% busi-ness and 10% show. If you don’t know yourbusiness … you’re in trouble!”

To learn more visit, www.tashataylor.com

Tasha Taylor was born into music, nowshe is charting her own course

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A question of a lifetimeix years ago, I walked into myboss’s office at 10 a.m. for a reg-ular scheduled meeting.Armed with requests, lettersand emails for him to review, Isat down at the familiar squareglass table and admired the

stained glass lamp that sat upon it while I wait-ed for him to finish up a phone call.

He stood up from his desk and casually walkedover to join me at the table. “Hey Kiddo” hesays with a smile. I smile back and ask him howhis day was going so far. He brushes it off casu-ally with an “OK so far” and proceeds to ask“So, what do you want to do?”

I chuckle a bit as it’s quite obvious to me that I’dlike to go through all of the paperwork sittingbetween us – and I say so. He asks the questionagain and again I provide the same answer,although a bit agitated that we have so much togo over and he’s being coy.

He leans in, putting both arms on the table,clasps his hands together and says “No Kiddo –what do you want to do….with your life.”

I stop shuffling my papers and sit back in myseat, taken aback. I open to my mouth to saysomething although I’m unsure what to say so Ishut it again. My eyes look at him quizzically.All I can manage is “What do you mean?”

You see, nobody had ever asked me what Iwanted to do with my life until that verymoment. Sure I was asked, “What do you wantto be when you grow up?” However, this wasmuch more than that. I had never gone to col-lege other than a few basic courses at a localcommunity college. I began working forMassMutual in customer service as my first “biggirl” job and the work continued. I met a man,we got married, we had two wonderful boys.Now here I was, an executive assistant, sitting infront of a man who saw in me what others had-n’t, and what I had yet to see in myself - ambi-tion, potential, passion, desire, heart and a long-

ing for more … a longing to become what Iwanted … whatever that was.

For the next ten minutes I listened as he told meall of this. He told me exactly what he saw in meand how I would not be doing myself a favor bystaying his executive assistant for the rest of mylife. He told me that so much more lied withinand he saw it when we were at communityevents, or in the way I spoke with people. Hesaw me as successful.

He saw me as a leader. In that moment, in that20 minute conversation that man changed mylife in a way I could never have imagined. In themonths that followed I soul-searched and forthe first time in my life I did what I wanted. Iworked toward the businesswoman I wouldbecome, the future I wanted. Along the way thisman believed in me, in what I could do andwhere I could go. He never introduced me as hisassistant but rather a colleague. He trusted in

yeah i did

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Brenda’s Child has made it her life’s mission to inspire people through poetry andstories and through leading by example with courage, confidence, and integrity. Sheemphasizes self-love, worth, and value. She also feels obligated to tell the truth ... even ifit hurts. Visit www.brendaschild.com

Managing Me

It wasn’t until about 10 years later, when myboyfriend of two years and I began to first getserious that I challenged my fate. Somewhere inour journey together, I decided I did want it all.I deserved to have it all. Still the question lin-gered in the back of my mind… How would Ipossibly be able to handle a middle school boy,work, social life, physical fitness, mentoring,homeownership, family…and a relationship?

Something would have to be sacrificed again.This time, what would it be? Fast forward to two years later - now I’m engagedto this man and we have a four month old. Guesswhat? I still don’t have an answer. There are timeswhen the household chores are neglected, othertimes the home projects or my hobbies. What Idiscovered is that it’s okay for me to let go ofsome things temporarily, but it’s pertinent that I

pay attention to the people in my life. Thismeans including them in my many projects attimes, and then dropping everything to givethem my undivided attention other times. Thereare also those days where I drop everything forme (otherwise I couldn’t maintain my sanity).Eventually, I always pick them back up, because Iwanted it all, and now that I have it, I don’t wantto let it go.

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Yeah I did

me and my abilities and I knew I could andwould never let him down.

In less than a year I was chosen to become theDirector of the West of the River Chamber ofCommerce. I never looked back. I make noapologies for not having my degree and I workhard to earn my place in the business world andcommunity. If it weren’t for that day and thatman, I’m not sure I would be where I am.

His name is Steven Bradley, Vice President ofGovernment and Community Relations forBaystate Health. He is a husband, father, active

community supporter, lobbyist and mostimportantly to me - a great friend and mentor.

In the four years I worked for Steven I gainedmore than experience I gained a love of businessand my community. I learned to not judge. Ilearned to be open. I learned to follow myinstincts and do what’s right. I learned thatevery day, no matter what you do, you areaccountable to yourself first and foremost. Ilearned who I was.

To this day, I work hard not only for me but forSteven as well – for the man who believed in

what I could do and gave me the tool to see itthrough – confidence. I could never truly repayhim for this so instead I pay it forward, doingthe best I can to help mentor, teach and lead –hoping to make a difference in someone’s lifethe way Steven did in mine.

So Steven, thank you, from the bottom of myheart for all that you have done for me and forour community. You’ve made more of a differ-ence than you know and I’m honored to knowyou.

Yeah….he did.

Erin Corriveau is the Marketing Manager for Reliable Temps, Inc, a full service staffingfirm founded in 1989 with offices in Agawam, Easthampton and Greenfield, Massachusetts.An avid writer, Erin has primarily worked in community and public relations addingEnvironmental Compliance Services, MassMutual Financial Group and Baystate Healthamong her previous employers. Visit www.reliabletemps.com.

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