love marrege vs arrenge

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Butola said: (Sat, Sep 22, 2012 10:18:54 AM)

Hello my dear friends ! t"in# it is di$%ult to predi%t t"e ideal s"ort of

marria&e Be%ause in lo'e marria&e t"ere e pressure on omen to loo# li#e

a model *"is is t"e %ondition of dis%ord arises in t"e lo'e marria&e %ouple

And e'il of dory, %ast %ontriute mu%" ar&uments a&ainst arran&ed

marria&e So ! t"in# e'ery person try to ma#e "is marria&e is lo'e %um

arran&ed marria&e ! t"in# marria&e is a lessin& &i'en y &od So ma#e it

"appy

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.itin /umar said: (ri, Sep 21, 2012 08:08:28 M)

Hello friends, t"ere are dierent per%eption3s of dierent people, some nd

lo'e marria&e est e%ause t"ey are in a relations"ip "ereas some nd

arran&e marria&e est e%ause t"ey respe%t t"eir family and t"eir %ulture

'eryone is asolutely ri&"t on t"eir part ut e'ery t"in& "as it3s pros n %ons

So it3s 6ust t"e matter of de%idin& t"e ri&"t pat" for you, !3m not fa'orin& any

of t"e marria&e and not %riti%i7in& any marria&e ut ! 6ust puttin& stress on

t"e de%ision3s you ta#e "ile &ettin& indul&ed in a relations"ip

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Ar%"ana said: (ri, Sep 21, 2012 12:00:0 M)

! a&ree it" %"ander !ts totally depends on t"e nature of d person And ! my

opinion lo'e %ome arran&e marria&e is etter in our so%iety Be%ause our

parents &i'e more importan%e to t"eir presti&e of %ourse t"ey &i'e

importan%e to t"eir %"ildren also But some little it

99My ad'i%e is e'ery lo'e irds s"ould marry it" t"eir lo'e done on t"eir

parents a&ree

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Si'a said: (ri, Sep 21, 2012 10:1:04 AM)

o'e marria&e is est one Be%ause, t"ere is a %"an%e for #noin& ea%" ot"er

Some people said t"at arran&e marria&e %ouple "a'e een ne'er &"t ea%"

ot"er *"is is unelie'ale Most of t"e arran&e marria&e %ouple are standin&

in-front of %ourt for di'or%e So t"ere is no aut"ority for arran&e marria&e

o'e is est

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+o"it Butola said: (*"u, Sep 20, 2012 0;:2:08 M)

Hello friends !n my opinion lo'e %um arran&ed marria&e is est e%ause in

t"is type of marria&e ot" you and your family memers "appy ! t"in# t"at

e'ery t"in&s "as some merit or demerit !n t"is type of marria&e you "a'e

ri&"ts to %"oose your partner and your family memers also "appy it" your

%"oi%e

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Anil said: (*"u, Sep 20, 2012 05:55:40 M)

! trust on arran&e marria&e Be%ause e'ery family memer supports it And

%o7 of it maintain t"e relation *"ere must e understandin& eteen ife

and "usand !n s"ort ot" are "appy in married life So arran&e marria&e

'ery ell as %ompare lo'e marria&e

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.e"a said: (*"u, Sep 20, 2012 12:50:05 AM)

! t"in# t"at lo'e marria&e is a etter option e%ause e #no ea%" ot"er li#es

and disli#es o'e is somet"in& "i%" tea%"es us to li'e for our partner May

e all lo'e marria&es are not su%%essful ut as e #no t"at e'ery %oin "as

to side o'e is not "at starts in a ee# a = ends in a fe mont"s, t"ese


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are not"in& ut infatuation in lo'e marria&e our life is our %"oi%e e %an3t

lame our parents for t"at So ! t"in# lo'e marria&e is a etter option

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Hites" said: (>ed, Sep 1?, 2012 0;:5;:20 AM)

!3m fa'orin& arran&e marria&e

Be%ause in arran&e marria&e e ill &et more option @ if e "a'e

understandin& in our relation a mature understandin& orn eteen our

relation

2 !n arran&e marria&e e "a'e se%urity e%ause t"is marria&e %ondu%t y

our so%ial lo @ in so%ial aria e "a'e a dierent identi%ation so %ontinue

sly maintainin& t"is identi%ation e maintain t"is relation

!n present time lo'e is eist ut t"ey lo'ers are not eist "o maintain "is

lo'e

!n present time lo'e is time pass "en e si%# o t"is lo'e e ill ma#in& a

de%ision

*"at e li'e our life dierent-2 @ e ill sear%" a ne partner

>"at is t"is is t"is lo'er life so arran&e marria&e is est

!t is pure @ true relation made y &od

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Ci6ay B/ said: (Sun, Sep 1


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it" !t doesn3t matter if t"ey are &ood and su%%essful *"ey s"ould e

suitale to you !ts li#e

*o pie%es in a pu77le no matter "o &ood t"ey are separately if t"ey don3t

t to&et"er its no use

Eea" t"ey say you %an tal# to ea%" ot"er efore nali7in& t"e marria&e ut in

t"is %ase t"ey may desperately try to a%t &ood and you ill not #no "at

t"e person really is

ots of people a&ree to arran&ed marria&es e%ause t"ey are #id of anis"ed

from family and relati'es for marryin& someone you lo'e

Fne ar&ument elders use t"at di'or%e rate is 'ery lo in arran&ed marria&es

*"ey 6ust try to %ompromise t"emsel'es and try to deal it" it and di'or%e is

li#e a taoo in some so%ieties

So people s"ould start &oin& out and datin& people until you meet ri&"t

person

+ate t"is: 2 -eddin& so ! am &oin& it" arran&e

marria&e e%ause ! l'e my praents a lot and ! ant to ma#e "appy in t"eir

life *"an# you

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.afees said: (Sat, Sep 1, 2012 11:48:41 M)

Arran&ed marria&es are far etter t"an lo'e marria&e e%ause t"e lo'e fades

aay after marria&e and only t"e marria&e remains "i%" &ets dissol'ed or

re%#ed soon .o support from t"e family elders in lo'e marria&es

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Ceeramalar said: (ri, Au& 1, 2012 01:8:2 M)

Hi friends,

As for "at ! %on%ern in t"is dis%ussion is t"at lo'e %ome arran&e marria&e is

t"e est ay !t all depends on our #noled&e >"at am tryin& to say is t"at

durin& t"e de%ision of lo'e e on3t %onsider t"e parents feelin&s 'ery


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prolem "as a &ood solution >e s"ared many t"in& in our life and our

parents &a'e t"e &ood solutions too So not"in& ron& in t"at y s"arin& our

lo'e it" our parents =enitely t"ey ill &i'e &ood solution to your lo'e too

if it is true

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Sandip And Fn#ar said: (*"u, Au& 0, 2012 02:54:55 M)

! t"in# t"at arran&e marria&e is t"e 'ery est ay to start our marria&e life

After arran&e marria&e rstly t"ey dont #no ea%" ot"er properly and day

after day t"aire lo'e start to &ro and it rea%" top of lo'e "ill But in lo'e

marria&e t"ere start is 'ery &ood ut day after day t"ere lo'e start

de%reasin& so many missunderstandin& %omes in t"ere reletion and inser'ey its found t"at 80 of lo'e marria&es resulted into di'or%e so e t"i#

arran&e marria&e is est

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S"rut"i said: (*ue, Au& 28, 2012 12:2;:0? AM)

Hi &uys, ! "ad not %ame "ere for &i'in& su&&estions, ! need su&&estion frome'eryone ! lo'ed a person from sin%e past 8 years >"en "e proposed me "e

told t"at ! don3t ant anyody in t"is orld e%ept you, t"e days ere passed

aay it" our &"tin&s, "appiness and e'eryt"in& >e ot" "ad su%eed it"

our %arrier in edu%ation ! am A &irl, ! "a'e a eautiful family "o lo'es me

it" t"eir "earts But my family is not at all a%%eptin& for my lo'e marria&e,

e%ause lot of prolems li#e %aste, t"e oys nan%ial a%#&round as not

&ood and "is family too *"e oy "o lo'ed me soo mu%" earlier, no "e is

tellin& t"at "as to li'e it" "is family and s"are t"eir prolems, ! am not

ready for t"at, ! ant to li'e alone it" "im-"is family situations as not at all

&ood e%ept "im, "e as &ood only His parents and family e'eryody

a%%epted for t"is lo'e marria&e .o t"e oy as tellin& to t"e &irl t"at e

"ad to li'e to&et"er it" "is family *"e &irls parents is tellin& t"at, if s"e

ants to marry t"at &uy only means, to lea'e t"e "ome t"at to t"in# your

family "as died But ! am not ready to lea'e my family and li'e it" t"at &uys

family and "e ants to li'e to&et"er, ut ! am not ready to sa%ri%e my family

and to li'e it" t"at oys family So ! am unale to ta#e a de%ision in t"is

situations ! am in a dilema, please "elp me it" your su&esstions


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reety said: (Sat, Au& 25, 2012 12:1:4< AM)

Hi e'eryody !n my opinion it doesn3t matter t"at "i%" type of marria&e you%"oose !t totally depends on "at #ind of partner you sele%t eit"er arran&ed

or lo'ed !f you3re "appy it" your partners t"en you are leadin& a su%%essful

marria&e ot"erise not

!f arran&e marria&e "as some prots li#e family supports and respe%t for

partners more t"an lo'e marria&e t"en lo'e marria&e "as also some enets

t"at %ouples understand ea%" ot"er etter efore marria&e *"ey %an3t lame

t"eir parents for unsu%%essful relations

But also a%%ordin& to me lo'e marria&e is etter t"an arran&e e%ause if it

"appens t"en dory %ases, and %asti%ism ill mu%" more less t"an no

'eryone s"ould "a'e freedom to ta#e de%isions of "isG"er life

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.andit"a said: (>ed, Au& 22, 2012 01:28:51 M)

Hey >ell, ot" arran&e marria&es and lo'e marria&es fail ut my point is in

%ase of lo'e marria&e at t"e end of t"e day, e ill e responsile for

"ere'er e are, "oe'er e are Fur parents need not feel &uilty for

sear%"in& ad &uy and e need not lame anyone for our situation, as e ill

e responsiility for it

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Seety said: (*ue, Au& 21, 2012 04:2;:15 M)

! *"in# o'e marria&e is etter t"an arran&e marria&e Be%ause Before

Marria&e Bot" are understand to ea%" ot"er And !n lo'e marria&e t"eir

parents are not support t"em


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*"as"ay Some rolem Kan from "ome side and if Eou are ant to e "appy

alays so %"oose Eour artner Karefully and *ry to under your parents and e

"appy oree'er

And in arran&e marria&e *"ey spend fe days understand to ea%" ot"er and

.o a days no ady "as time for understand any one t"ats"y if Eou ants

to &et arran&e marria&e so rstly you understand ea%" ot"er and after t"at

&et marria&e and e "appy

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=i#s"a said: (*ue, Au& 21, 2012 08:44:0< AM)

Hi, in my 'ie ! t"in# t"at if lo'e is true not a fa#e or li#e timepass t"an it is

&ood e %an marrie ea%"ot"er as ell as e all #no t"at all t"e points "a'e

to aspe%ts t"an arran&ed marrai&e is also &ood in arran&ed marrai&e e &et

family as ell as so%iety support ut in lo'e e marrai&e e %an3t &et it so, if

people %"an&e "is mentality and support lo'e m arrai&e t"an ! t"in# t"in#

t"at ot" marrai&e are &ood Marrai&e is not for one day, ot" partners "a'e

to spend t"eir life to&ot"er and ! t"in# t"at if t"ey ta#e t"is de%eision it" t"e

support of "er family t"an it is &ood !n my 'ie ! li#e ot" marrai&e utarran&ed marrai&e is &ood for me

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isa said: (Sat, Au& 18, 2012 02:04:08 AM)

Arran&e in my opinion is not ort" it e%ause ! "a'e seen it from my parents

*"ey don3t e'en lo'e ea%" ot"er, t"e only reason t"ey are to&et"er is for myrot"er and me So to me arran&e marria&e is a "orrile idea ut it does "a'e

its &ood points li#e its #eeps t"e eddin& tradition &oin&, family is t"ere to

support But it su%#s to not #no t"e &uy so ell and t"at3s "en lo'e

marria&e is a etter %"oi%e At least you #no "at #ind of person you ill e

s"arin& your personal spa%e it" and you ill a understandin& of ea%" ot"er

My %ousin met t"is &uy in &rade 10 and t"ey started &oin& out and no t"ey

are "a'e a son *"ey are li'in& "appily, mu%" etter t"an "at my parents


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"a'e Arran&e marria&e pro'ides you it" a sense of se%urity t"at e'en if !

"a'e to lea'e my family, ! ill still "a'e my elo'ed it" me

!t depends on e'eryone3s 'ie ut ! &uess if my parents "ad a &ood

relations"ip ! ouldn3t oppose to arran&e marria&e

'en if lo'e marria&e doesn3t as lon& as arran&e marria&e as some people

say, t"e time you s"are it" your lo'er in lo'e marria&e is far etter t"en

time you s"are in arran&e marria&e Also, if you are &oin& to li'e it" your

"usand3s family t"en it ill e "arder to ad6ust if you &et arran&e marria&e,

ut it" lo'e marria&e at least you "a'e your room it" your "usand "ere

you are %omfortale Kan you ima&ine one day &oin& to someone3s "ouse and

li'in& t"ere fore'er and on top of t"at "a'in& to s"are a room it" someone

you "ardly #no *"at3s "y ! ould rat"er "a'e a lo'e marria&e

+ate t"is: 1; -"at "i%" matters more is t"e mutual understandin&

eteen t"e to persons >"en e tal# aout lo'e marria&e, t"e to

persons &et to #no more aout ea%" ot"er and t"ey understand ea%" ot"er

'ery ell But t"is is true only "en ot" persons are sin%ere Some people

misunderstand infatuation as true lo'e and end up in rea# ups andsometimes in depression *"is is t"e trend seen in most of t"e teena&ers and

it is not fair So one must e matured enou&" to re%o&ni7e true lo'e and

infatuation

>"en e tal# aout arran&ed marria&e, t"ey on3t e ale to #no ea%"

ot"er 'ery ell efore marria&e (not alays) .o relations"ips ill eist

it"out trust and mutual understandin& But it is our parents "o are

sear%"in& our partners *"ey are more eperien%ed and #no "at is &ood

and "at is ad So t"ey ill e ale to nd a &ood partner for t"eir son ordau&"ter

!n ot" t"e %ases, "at is essential is t"e mutual understandin&, ad6ustment

and trust And t"ey must s"are e'eryt"in& openly

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a#s"mi said: (ri, Au& 10, 2012 11:40:55 AM)

o'e marria&e is t"e only est ay of life and all of you "o say parentsould &uide you t"rou&" only in arran&ed ut not in lo'e marria&e, note t"is-

t"ose are not true lo'in& parents !f your parents really lo'e you more t"an

so%iety and si%# relations, t"ey3ll surely a%%ept your lo'e !f not, 6ust ta#e your

on de%ision e%ause "en parents lo'e so%iety and %aste more t"an you,

you "a'e to lo'e your life partner more t"an your parents

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S"e#ar said: (*"u, Au& ?, 2012 08:45:58 M)

Marria&e is a life lon& pro%ess >e "a'e to %"oose %orre%t %ouple for our life,

so e'eryone ants lo'e it" "erG"is "i%" &i'es %lear understandin& aout

t"e %ouples !n lo'e marria&e t"e %ouples understand t"eir-self easily ut not

in arran&e marria&e e%ause t"ey are meet durin& eddin& in t"e marria&e

"all !n arran&e marria&e parents &i'es 'aluale su&&estions to o'er%ome t"e

prolems ut not in lo'e marria&e +FM *HA*, ME C!S!F. A++A.I

MA++!AI !S BS* F. KFMA+ *HA. FC MA++!AI

+ate t"is: 1? -1"en lo'e start after t"e marria&e it &i'es %ontinuous lo'e,


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%are, ae%tion and e'eryt"in&

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Sa"itya said: (Mon, Au&


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arran&ed marria&e is more !n t"is &eneration lo'e is e%ome an attra%tion

eteen a &irl and oy in "is matured a&e >e %an see rare eamples of

su%%ess e'en t"ou&" some people found su%%ess ut t"ey found t"emsel'es

far aay from t"ere parents after t"e marria&e And fa%e lot of di$%ulty in

rollin& t"e life *"e system of marria&e depends on person !f one "as no

lo'er "at "e s"ould do >"at "e s"ould ait for "is lo'er t"rou&"t "is life And Fne t"in& ! ant to deli'er is t"ose "o elie'e your parents stron&ly

you s"ould also elie'e t"ere %"oi%e Be%ause t"ey are %ompletly dedi%ated

for your ell ein& And t"ose "o "a'e lo'er3s try to %on'in%e your parents

it" lo'e

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unit said: (Sat, Au& 4, 2012 0:4;:24 AM)

!f you ant to re&ular life in lo'e relations K"oose ay to lo'e marria&e or if

you ant to surprises, e%itement, "ope @ fore'er friend t"en t"at friend

%on'erts in your lo'e So you %an %"oose an arran&e marria&e

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Oyoti said: (*ue, Oul 1, 2012 05:2?:48 M)

Marria&e meanin& "as een totally %"an&ed t"ese days

*"ere is neit"er a lo'e marria&e nor an arran&e marria&e

*"ere is only t"in& a Marria&e

!t is 6ust t"e fa%e of understandin& t"at t"e ot" partners "a'e

!f t"at understandin& and "onesty remains t"en marria&e is su%%essful if not

t"en marria&e is unsu%%essful

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Adnan S"a" said: (Sat, Oul 28, 2012 11:52:15 M)

! am not in fa'or of eit"er #ind of marria&es, open relations"ips is "at !

ould %"oose .o promises made and no one &ets "urt, only "en it %omes

to %ommitment and "onesty "i%" if eit"er of t"e partner %an3t fulll, t"e

torment or turmoil in t"e relations"ip e&ins 'eryone "as t"eir 'ies and

t"ou&"ts

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A"i6eet(Cit une) said: (ri, Oul 2;, 2012 12:24:08 AM)

>"at ! t"in# is or "a'in& a lo'e marria&e e s"ould rst fall in lo'e !n "i%"

e fall e'entually it"out e'en #noin& it >e %an3t for%e oursel'es to fall in

lo'e to satisfy our is" of "a'in& a lo'e marria&e !f e do so it may lead to

disastrous %onseJuen%es !f e don3t fall in lo'e till our marria&eale a&e t"en

e don3t "a'e ot"er option t"an arran&ed marria&e .oadays arran&ed

marria&e is also de'elopin& as ot" &ender representati'es are alloed to

tal#, roam, #no it" ot"er *"is ill e t"e time "en e need to de%ide

"et"er t"e &irlGoy is suitale for you

Fne more %ase is Fpposition y parents for lo'e marria&e *"is is ! &uess a

uni'ersal prolem Solution is if you "a'e %oura&e to lo'e t"en you s"ould

also "a'e %oura&e to %on'in%e your parents for it *"is totally depends on to

t"in&s 1 *"eir attitude toards lo'e marria&e 2 And Ho mu%" t"ey lo'e

you L

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+iti said: (*"u, Oul 2


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mostly e%ause of %astisum ut to person lo'e ea%" ot"er, understand ea%"

ot"er t"en no one s"ould oppose t"eir marria&e *oday3s yout" is too mu%"

mature, t"ou&" sometimes lo'e mi&"t e only attra%tion it is our

responsiility to %"e%# it and assure our parents t"at t"ey ill e t"e est

%ouple in t"is orld

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K"ris said: (*"u, Oul 2


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.F*:lease &et married only if you ant to e it" "imG"er for e'er in any

situations

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B+a6es" said: (Sun, Oul 22, 2012 02:2:42 M)

Hi t"ere, !3m +a6es" and in my opinion ot" lo'e and arran&ed marria&es are

ell and &ood ut "en %ompared to arran&ed marria&e lo'e marria&e is

lo&i%ally Juite reasonale e%ause t"e lo'ed partners "ad lot of

understandale stu and most perfe%tly t"ey #no ea%" ot"er freJuently

t"ere on3t e any prolems and if at all any prolems t"ey %an ea%" ot"ersol'e easily dependin& upon t"eir lo'e and in %ase of arran&ed marria&e

understandin& ea%" ot"er ta#es mu%" time e%ause t"ey don3t #no ea%"

ot"er *"e arran&ed %ouples ill lo'e ea%" ot"er after a ee#s or mont"s or

dan&erously years passed y

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Saan said: (*"u, Oul 1?, 2012 08:42:1? M)

Hi friends,

My point of 'ie lo'e marria&e is t"e est for our life e%ause e "ad ell

#non t"e person and e "ad s"ared, tal#ed many t"in&s so t"ey are

understandin& ea%" one after &ettin& marria&e t"ere no %"an%e to &ettin&

prolems and misunderstandin& and all *"e important t"in& for

misunderstandin& is t"ey did not understand ot" t"en t"ey did not nd t"eir

positi'e and ne&ati'e %"ara%ters But t"e lo'e marria&e t"at ill e a'oidt"at t"ey ill ma#e t"eir life it" made for ea%" ot"er

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S"alini *ripat"i said: (*"u, Oul 1?, 2012 0


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Hello friend,

!n my opinion, lo'e marria&e and arran&e marria&e ot" are &ood ut lo'emarria&e is mu%" etter t"an arran&e Be%ause in lo'e marria&e &ood

understandin& eteen to person and no e&o prolem !n lo'e marria&e to

person alays try to ma#e a &ood relations"ip *"ey #no t"eir nature

e"a'ior, and "o ill t"ey rea%t in dierent situation after marria&e e%ause

e'eryody "a'e too mu%" responsiilities *"ey %an easily s"are t"eir

feelin&s, prolems in lo'e marria&e !n arran&e marria&e t"ey feel s"y to

s"are t"eir prolems in startin&

!f ! tal# aout spe%ially for &irls most of t"e time oy3s family doesn3t ale tounderstand &irls feelin& and t"in#in&, so s"e fa%e too mu%" prolems t"ere

o'e marria&e is also &ood for modern so%iety e%ause noody "a'e time to

spend t"eir time to understand ea%" ot"er after marria&e and ad6ustment

But people s"ould alays try to %on'in%e t"eir parents e%ause t"ey are li#e

a Iod, so people s"ould not for&et t"eir parents

+ate t"is: 8 -it"out lo'e t"ere is no liaison Be%ause .o in t"is fast

mo'in& &eneration e'ery one is too fast in t"eir li'es efore marria&e (i mean

! don3t lame e'ery one) ut ! "a'e seen su%" situations !n arran&e edlo%#

e ill understood "isG"er taste after marria&e and in %ase if t"e person

doesn3t li#es t"e taste t"en automati%ally-t"e 6ust lo'e situations %"an&es

into "orror mo'ie But in %ase of lo'e marria&e if ot" of t"e persons fat"omea%" ot"er t"en t"ere is no su%" issues ! %on%ei'e t"at in my Juestin& of a

true partner-t"e ri&"t pat" to &et married is to lo'e a &irl and &et t"at lo'e

into arran&ed

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As"u said: (Sat, Oul ;, 2012 12:5;:0; AM)

Hello,

! t"in& e are dis%uss "i%" one is etter Marria&es are ased on FC and

P.=+S*A.=!.I !f e tal# aout lo'e marria&es oy or &irl #no t"e person

"om "eGs"e ill &oin& to &et married and lo'e is also t"ere and t"ey ant

t"ere lo'e marria&e to e%ome arran&e y t"ere parents ut due to some

so%ial sins as %ast ism prolem it ill not possile and t"e %ouple e%ome

enemy for t"eir parents as ell as relati'es

As far as arran&e marria&es are %on%erned prolem is &irl "a'e to do manyad6ustment for ma#e t"ere in las "appy

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Sumant" said: (ri, Oul


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to t"e nature and sele%tion of our partner ! t"in# lo'e %um arran&ed marria&e

is etter t"an ot" lo'e and arran&ed marria&e indi'idually Be%ause y lo'e

marria&e e %an understand feelin&s of t"e person efore marria&e "ere as

in arran&ed marria&e it %an3t e !n arran&ed marria&e e &et t"e support of

our parents "ere as in lo'e marria&e it %an3t e

!f e lo'e anyody y understandin& t"em etter t"en t"ere is a need t"at

our parents s"ould also a%%ept t"em >"en anyody (&irlGoy) %omes into our

life it is not %orre%t to ne&le%t our parents

So, ! stron&ly %on support lo'e %um arran&ed marria&es in t"e sense t"at e

%an understand our partner etter in lo'e and e %an &et a proper support

from our parients in arran&ed

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S"an#ar said: (ri, Oul


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99Many of o'e marria&es are ma#in& t"e rideGride&room to lost t"eir lo'e

toards t"eir parents and parents lo'e toards t"em arents may insulted in

so%iety in some %ases of lo'e marria&e >e don3t ma#e our parents to insult

>e s"ould ma#e t"em proud in so%iety

99ailures of marria&e system is %ommon in ot" system >it" %ompare ot"

per%enta&es o'e system is more

99!f marria&e system fails t"ere is "ope to &et our parents and &et etter

marria&e net time But if lo'e marria&e is failure already "eGs"e &oin& aay

from parents and "at "eGs"e ill do

99Fur eperien%e is not su$%ient to determine our ri&"t partner .o e may

"appy it" our on de%ision ut in future e don3t #no "at "appen

99.o a days *+P FC is rarely eistin& So e %an3t elie'e t"at lo'e

alays ma#e us "appy in future

99Fur family and relati'es "a'e so many epe%tations on our life By lo'in&

ot"er, e %an3t ma#e t"em to dis%oura&e

99BrideGBride&room opinion also important role in arran&ed marria&e So e

%an3t say alays t"at arran&ed marria&e is distra%ted from "isG"er opinion

99!f t"ere is a true lo'e eistin& eteen lo'ers, t"en it is not prolem it"

lo'e marria&e Ft"erise ! t"in# it is etter to &o it" arran&ed marria&e

99Marria&e is %omin& only on%e in life 'eryody ants to ma#e to e &rand

su%%ess it" e'eryone !t is most suitale in %ase of arran&ed marria&e

99FC A.= A++A.I= MA++!AI !S B**+ *HA. A++A.I= MA++!AI,


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>H!KH !S B**+ *HA. FC MA++!AI, t"at3s "at ! t"in# for my est of

#noled&e

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Iayat"ri said: (ri, Oul


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.o ! am li'in& it" my "usand3s family it" pea%e and ease He pro'ed my

eorts to marry "im ort" He is a lo'in& and %arin& "usand

! "a'e no %omplaints But t"e only re&ret of mine is my parents "o lo'ed me

so mu%" and no "ates me t"e most

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Anonymous said: (*"u, Oul 5, 2012 01:41:04 AM)

Hi &uys, !3m &oin& to spea# from eperien%e ut !3m not &oin& to say "et"era lo'e marria&e is etter or an arran&ed marria&e e%ause ! "a'e learned

t"at it doesn3t matter if it3s lo'e or arran&ed, "at matters is t"e person

you3re marryin& ! &ot married < mont"s a&o to t"e &uy ! lo'ed for to years

!t as a lo'eGarran&ed marria&e e%ause ot" of our families a&reed efore

e ent on and "ad a i& fan%y dream eddin&

>e ere really "appy and in lo'e ut t"ere ere t"in&s aout "im t"at !

alays "ad a feelin& ould e a prolem later in our life su%" as "is an&er

prolem or "is unillin&ness to %ompromise anyt"in& ! i&nored t"em t"in#in&t"in&s ill %"an&e ut no < mont"s later ! %annot tell you "o many times !

%ry in a day ! %an3t tell anyone e%ause t"is as my %"oi%e and it3s not aout

t"e fa%t t"at t"is as a lo'e marria&e, it3s t"e fa%t t"at t"e person is 6ust not

&ood 'en it" an arran&ed marria&e if t"e &irl or &uy is 6ust not a &ood

person it doesn3t or# out *"an# Iod ! "a'e &reat parents "o alays

support me and ! #no !3ll e o#ay ut "onestly, ! re&ret not t"in#in& e'ery

AK*F+ t"rou&" efore sayin& yes to "is proposal

!t doesn3t matter if it3s lo'e or arran&ed, 6ust #no t"e person your marryin&

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+asssu said: (Sun, Oul 1, 2012 0;:45: M)


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! t"in# lo'e or arran&ed marria&e does not matter "at matters is our trust,

sa%ri%e and respe%t for our partner ! t"in# lo'e %um arran&ed marria&e is

&ood ! also support arran&ed marria&es ut a proper spa%e s"ould also e

&i'en to t"e ot" so t"at t"ey %an understand ea%" ot"er mu%" etter e'en

efore &ettin& married to ea%" ot"er *"is ill "elp %reatin& a etter future

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Sumeet said: (Sun, Oul 1, 2012 02:0:0< AM)

>ell, mied opinions to read "ere

irst of all, ! ould li#e to mention t"at e li'e in !ndia "ere t"e asi%

%on%ept of marria&e is Arran&ed and Arran&ed marria&e only So arran&ed

marria&es are 'ieed in a &ood ay alays o'e marria&es are t"ou&"t to

e of poor 'alue As if lo'e is a %rime %ause it doesn3t "a'e any oundaries of

%aste, so%iety et%

!n our so%iety &irls and oys 6ust lea'e t"e entire de%ision on t"eir parents,

it"out ot"erin& to %"oose t"eir life %ompanion t"emsel'es arents ma#e a

%"e%# list and t"e one it" most mar#ed points is pi%#ed up

!f arran&ed marria&es are start of lo'e and lo'e marria&es are end of lo'e, no

lo'e marria&e "a'e eisted in orld !f its not fore'er, its not lo'e

Fur so%iety 6ust lindly opposes lo'e marria&es o'e marria&es need support

from t"e families, ut are denied *"e t"in& to understand aout marria&e is

#noin& relations and responsiilities at t"e same time .o matter if its lo'e

or arran&ed

>e must %"oose our on life %ompanion, %ause e'ery ot"er de%ision in our

life is our on (edu%ation, %areer ), t"en "y not t"is


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! elie'e lo'e marria&es are &ood, e #no one anot"er etter, pros and

%ons or ! elie'e in lo'e and #eepin& it youn& fore'er all in lo'e e'eryday

it" your lo'ed one *"at ma#es it or#

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Fmnis"an said: (Sat, Oun 0, 2012 05:5?:4 M)

Hello friends,

Bot" o'e marria&e and arran&e marria&e are etter e%ause t"ey ma#es our

life easier it" t"e life partner !n ot"er "ands, "i%" one is etter also

depends upon t"e life partner !f ! as reJuested to sele%t one of t"em t"en !

sele%t t"e lo'e marria&e ! t"in# "onesty and elie'e or understandin& is t"e

est poli%y for a etter marria&e life And in lo'e marria&e e "a'e all

#noled&e aout t"e li#es and disli#es of our partner >e #no ea%" ot"er

feelin&s 'ery ell And all t"ese are t"e ase of understandin& >"ereas as in

arran&e marria&e e do not #no aout t"e life partner, t"eir life style and

t"eir past as ell *"ere is also a i& prolem of dory in arran&e marria&e

So li'e your life it" your lo'e

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Mas"ari said: (ri, Oun 2?, 2012 10:41:5; M)

Hi e'eryone no ! am &oin& to tell you my opinion t"at lo'e marria&es are

etter t"en arran&e marria&e e%ause e %an %"ose a future of our nation

after 18t" t"en "y e e %an not %"oose a life partner for our "ole life

t"in# aout it t"at if you are ale for e'eryt"in& after your maturity a&e t"en

"y you %ouldn3t sele%t your life partner

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Aayus"i said: (Mon, Oun 25, 2012 02:52:4 M)


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!t does not matter "et"er it is lo'e marria&e or arran&ed marria&e, "at

matters is t"e maturity and %ommitment t"e to people s"o toards

uildin& and maintainin& t"e relations"ip

+ate t"is: 0 -ed, Oun 1, 2012 08:14: M)

Hi, !f you read my %ommentary on t"is matter please don3t elie'e t"at ! am

from an !slam %ountry or some part of Asia ! am from eru in Sout" Ameri%a

! used to t"in# t"at it is etter to #no and lo'e t"e person you ill married


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someday But after readin& aout lo'e and arran&ed marria&es ! %"an&e my

mind !f e %ompare statisti%s lo'e marria&es "a'e more di'or%es t"an

arran&ed marria&es and not only t"at ut a%%ordin& to an study in order to

measure t"e intensity of lo'e from t"e rst year marria&e and se'eral year

marria&e t"e results ere !n lo'e married %ouples "o ere married for 1

year t"e rate of lo'e as ;0 per%ent out of a possile ?1 ut after 10 years itas 40 per%ent

But %ompare it" arran&e marria&es in t"eir rst year t"ey &ot 58 per%ent

and after 10 years t"ey &ot "at t"ey really mean it" lo'e

is passion, desire or attra%tion t"at in'ol'es se ! #no t"at arran&ed

marria&es "a'e t"eir %ons ut t"ose are in most %ases easy to deal it"

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Arun said: (>ed, Oun 1, 2012 0?:4


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/art"i#a said: (Mon, Oun 11, 2012 0?:20:4 M)

Hai friends,

My point of 'ie lo'e marria&e is t"e est for our life e%ause e "ad ell

#non t"e person and e "ad s"ared, tal#ed many t"in&s so t"ey are

understandin& ea%" one after &ettin& marria&e t"ere no %"an%e to &ettin&

prolems and misunderstandin& and all *"e important t"in& for

misunderstandin& is t"ey did not understand ot" t"en t"ey did not nd t"eir

positi'e and ne&ati'e %"ara%ters But t"e lo'e marria&e t"at ill e a'oid

t"at t"ey ill ma#e t"eir life it" made for ea%" ot"er

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/ulir said: (Sun, Oun 10, 2012 0?:42:; AM)

! t"in# lo'e marria&e is etter e%ause to people %an understand ea%"ot"er

'ery ni%ely *"ey %an ad6ust t"em self in any #ind of situation Moreo'er, in

lo'e marria&e partners %an s"are t"ere prolem, feelin& it"out any

"esitation ut in arran&e marria&e partners rst "a'e to understand ot"er

one and feel s"y to tell t"ere prolem

So in my opinion lo'e marria&e is etter t"an arran&e marria&e

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Sara" said: (*"u, Oun ;, 2012 0:?:< M)

o'e is t"e main feelin& "i%" a "uman s"ould "a'e !t is t"e startin& sta&e

of any relation li#e parents, %ousins, relations or marria&e too lo'e is 'ery

ne%essary o'e marria&e is etter t"an arran&e marria&e

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alit Mo"an +ana said: (>ed, Oun


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Ia'y said: (Sat, Oun 2, 2012 05::4; M)

Hi e'eryone

! ould li#e to spea# aout it, a%%ordin& to me AM is etter e%ause in t"is

marria&e e &et support from our family memers in our prolems "i%" e

"a'e to fa%e in married life li#e &"tin& G ot" on t"e ot"er "and e all

#no e "a'e %"an&in& .A*P+ e ant somet"in& %"an&e in our life if t"ey

already stay it" "im or "er t"ey &et oar and t"ere s"ould e no any

e%itement aout "er partner

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Maduria said: (Sat, Oun 2, 2012 02:1


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Marria&es are made "ea'en %elerated on eart" a%%ordin& to my mind lo'e

marria&es are to etter t"an arran&ed e%ause t"is is not matter one or to

days t"is is t"e t"e matter of life time o'e marria&e ot" t"e partners

#nos aout ea%" ot"er t"e relation %reated y t"is marria&e is more stron&t"an t"e arran&e marria&e

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Sree#ant" S said: (ri, Oun 1, 2012 0


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!n my opinion, lo'e marria&es are ay etter t"an arran&ed marria&es ! don3t

mean elopin& it" your lo'ers "en ! refer to lo'e marria&es, ut a lo'e-%um-

arran&ed marria&e %an ser'e t"e purpose, e%ause mostly in arran&ed

marria&es, t"e "ole life passes aay in understandin& ea%" ot"er and if e

intend to lea'e t"em t"en it ill e too late as e ill e "a'in& #ids y t"en

So ! %on%lude t"at a o'e-Kum-Arran&ed marria&e is t"e est one

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S"ree Sarad"a said: (>ed, May 0, 2012 01:28:22 AM)

o'e marria&e is t"e est %"oi%e for sonsGdau&"ter "ose parents "a'e done

lo'e marria&e But "en e fall in lo'e, e &o sels" it" our parents

t"ou&"ts and t"eir dream of &ettin& our marria&e in &rand ay and to a &oodpla%e and &ood person *"e more e lo'e t"e less you 6ud&e, it is true in

lo'in& a person o'e marria&e is t"e est "en e don3t destroy t"e dreams

of our parents and &et married it" t"eir lessin&s

!ts t"e orst "en e 6ust t"ro our parents and &o e"ind t"e person e

lo'e and li'in& in t"e tears of our parents So if e lo'e %ould %ertainly fa%e

all t"e prolems and "urt ot"ers also t"rou&" our a%tion So, not to "urt

anyody and not to s"ed tears and almost to a'oid all %onfusion, e %an do

arran&e marria&e it" our parents lessin&s Basement of our life is ourparents, e s"ould not for&et t"e sa%ri%e done y t"em for us So, !

%on%lude arran&e marria&e is t"e est

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Sumit *ya&i said: (*ue, May 2?, 2012 05:11:4; M)

! ant to lo'e marria&e ut ! li#e arran&e marria&e e%ause ! elon& todis%ipline family o'e marria&e is unsu%%essful e%ause ot" partner "as to

fa%e more orst situations and "a'in& no support from anyone ut my family

ill not support me for lo'e marria&e Arran&e marria&e alays su%%essful

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As"utos" said: (*ue, May 2?, 2012 04:08:40 M)

Hi friend, in my opinion lo'e marria&e are etter t"en arran&e marria&e

Be%ause in lo'e marria&e %ouple li'e to&et"er in "ole life arents must not

e o6e%tion Be%ause t"is is lo'e of "is sonGdau&"ter

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Sylo said: (*ue, May 2?, 2012 01:20:0 AM)

Ho do you &o aout a arran&ed marria&e

Eou loo# at t"e p"oto sele%t t"e one "o loo#s &ood proaly spea# fet"in&s o'er p"one or in person and all ot"er t"in&s are de%ided y parents

>ell Ho ould you %"oose a %all &irl

*"e same ay

*"e only dieren%e e"ind t"e "i&" non-di'or%e rate in arran&ed marria&e is

e%ause people do not epe%t mu%" from t"eir partners 'en a small le'el ofad6ustment seems to e a &reat display of %"ara%ter

Fn t"e ot"er side o'e marria&e are ased on epe%tations and &uess "at

NUK*A*!F.S KAPSS =!SAF!.*M.*SN

!.A KF.KPS!F.: Io for o'e marria&e =o not pe%t too mu%" from

your partner Ad6ust and S"are Happiness

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*e6a said: (Mon, May 28, 2012 12:14:21 M)


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*"eir are some ad'anta&es of lo'e marria&e li#e you #no t"at person 'ery

ell efore marria&e only, one %an ma#e up t"e mind for t"e t"in&s t"at are

&oin& to %"an&e in on%e life and %an ad6ust easily, lo'e eist from efore

marria&e only and one &ets to %"oose life partner it" t"eir on %"oose

But ao'e all ! t"in# lo'e, understandin&, ad6ustment @ trust are t"e pillar for

marria&e to &et su%%essful "et"er it is lo'e or arran&e marria&e

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